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Yes it is complicated, I mentioned that most of the money was transferred to her gold trading account which is purely on her name and this is the issue, this is why I started this topic.

Sorry if it wasn't clear.

Tell her you want to buy a much bigger house, take her round to see a few.

Then tell her you need the money in her gold account to help buying the new house.

(As you want to have two houses)

She'll soon hand over the cash.

Once you have the cash, any silly excuse to delay buying the new house will do.

So long as it doesn't raise suspicion, my Merkin friend has a good idea.

To win this thing you need to pander to their wants and fears. I used ghosts and superstition at one point.

I thought of telling her to hand over the cash nicely, once I have good evidence (working on it), then I'd just disappear and she can tell her parents whatever she wants and save her face, or else I'd go back and talk to her parents and inform them what sort of woman their daughter is. They may or may not care, I don't know. Her dad and I have a good relationship even though none of us speaks a common language, I think he'd be very disappointed but I don't know if that will make any difference...

What do you think folks?

i think you playing with fire. May end in your death! i say go home!

Yes it is complicated, I mentioned that most of the money was transferred to her gold trading account which is purely on her name and this is the issue, this is why I started this topic.

Sorry if it wasn't clear.

She any good at GOLD TRADING? very few are!

Oh oh, another worthless father, another dead beat dad in the making.

YOU fathered them; you take care of them.

Take wife and kids back to America and your wife, THERE, will either return to loving or will fully hate you. But then you can deal with a decided situation in a country that forces dads to live up to their responsibility, another plus for YOUR children.

Be a man outside the bedroom, also, eh?

Taking Responsibility is not allowed here............................lol.

This marriage section is a goldmine of entertainment. Hope its just man and thai girl and not a lot about innocent children.

Guy still blaming the girl.

Takes no responsibility at all for choosing a woman no decent thai man would touch. If these silly farangs would only follow in the footsteps of these good thai all would be good......................lol.

PS agaian....another thought. What kind of man takes a woman to live with him in another country-thereby the girl is abandoning her pre-teen kids? I know its thai style but why would you want any part of that. Its bargirls style thinking girl you got there................lol.

Many posts here and elsewhere referring to Thai girls sending money home. Wouldn't this typically be for younger, bar working age girls? If I see a 60 year old fat dude with a twnety or thirty something I figure she's probably siphoning money from him. Probably a very fair exchange.

I'm coming to Thailand this week for a month. I've been chatting and skyping with several women that seem to be very solid middle class with grown children. I being 61 am only considering a long term relation with a lady I consider age appropriate and attractive. Say around 50.

So I wonder does the day come when I get hit up for money? Should I expect that? Because from what I know of them now it doesn't seem very likely. But that may be my naivete.

This guy needs his own thread!

I see tons of entertainment value!

Many posts here and elsewhere referring to Thai girls sending money home. Wouldn't this typically be for younger, bar working age girls? If I see a 60 year old fat dude with a twnety or thirty something I figure she's probably siphoning money from him. Probably a very fair exchange.

I'm coming to Thailand this week for a month. I've been chatting and skyping with several women that seem to be very solid middle class with grown children. I being 61 am only considering a long term relation with a lady I consider age appropriate and attractive. Say around 50.

So I wonder does the day come when I get hit up for money? Should I expect that? Because from what I know of them now it doesn't seem very likely. But that may be my naivete.

very funny stuff. age appropriate 50 year old thai girl aint gonna be attractive.

Say you found an attractive thai girl- what do you have to offer?

PS 1.these girls that skype may not work in bars but i bet you all i got they think like bargirls.

2. solid middle class girls arent interested in one month flings with what prolly is a sex tourist..................lol.

I really think i was searched becaus a polit-man wanted to feel me up.

At 1st i thought i was in for a shake-down. Had almost $800 on me and they saw it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Paying money to your wifes family.Why? I have had a Thai girlfriend for 6 years and I have not paid her family one penny. Who makes these rules up? The Thais, and it is just a way to con money out of people.Tell her family to clear off!

I give 3k a month to my aunt, when she isn't living with me.

Nothing when she does live with me, but she eats for free.

She did sign her farm over to me though, so not exactly money for nothing.

They don't get much in the way of pensions over here, only fair to help out a bit, if you can afford it.

(15k a month seemed a bit excessive though)

If you got a farm that isn't that bad of a deal. Its one thing to take care of family when you get a farm out of the deal.

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How much English did this Isaan Girl speak?

the avg thai family farm aint worth s h i t!

Sorryfarquar- im not a bleeding heart liberal. These guys are idiots- nothing more nothing less. They are what they are.

A typical failure of many Farangs in Thailand that ignore common sense and now you blame your lady. Let me guess you don't speak Thai or Isaan.

Good on you. I always BlaMe the man in these situations. Signs are ignored-yet they still go through. And then blame the girl and the greedy family(usually mother)

Thanks for that Risky11. Yes she has abused me financially and emotionally unfortunately. I just have to deal with it and move on, there is no other option.

You abused yourself. Get a clue MAN!

Bit unfair there CC, almost any man can become a victim of an unscrupulous woman.

I'm the first to admit I had a house, pension and 4 children taken off me.

im being kind. did you marry an issarn girl with 2 kids? an issan girl who is breadwinner for a poor family?

marrying villagers is not the same as hooking up with girls from your own country.

The fact that you pointed out the flight was "At my expense" kind of indicates that you believe that your money is all yours to dish out as you see fit... That is not what marriage is about and perhaps your "crackpot" felt caged by you

Being a crackpot is one thing

Being a cheap charlie is another!

Oh c'mon! Really? Cheap Charlie because she has no respect for him and the effort it took him to EARN that money? I'm sorry, sir. You are just wrong on this one... marriage is all about BOTH parties loving, honoring and cherishing each other. The rest of the posters understand the dynamic here. She is USING him, he is TRYING to love her, but she is breaking down every boundary of decency. If she really loved and cared for him, she would never ABUSE him financially like that. Furthermore, she would take the initiative and FIGHT her greedy family on behalf of her beloved husband. Put HIM first. I know - what a concept!

He will do well to say goodbye to her and cut off all communications. As we all know, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. This one is "a total crackpot." He deserves better. I hope the OP respects himself enough to cut her and her moocher family off. Don't worry about them though. She will find another sucker - like YOU perhaps - in the near future. Captain Save-a-Hoe!

Thanks for that Risky11. Yes she has abused me financially and emotionally unfortunately. I just have to deal with it and move on, there is no other option.

You abused yourself. Get a clue MAN!

Western countries tend to have that effect on normal people, especially when living on a budget - they come to Western countries expecting total bliss, but they see the reality is that everything is either forbidden or too expensive and shops offer no service in addition of being closed most of the time...

I wish it had been that simple Manarak, but really she had ample of everything, without necessarily spending a lot of money, including sending money home every month which was not far from double what she made from her job before she came here.... albeit sent to a family who got rid of money faster than you and I could on a roulette wheel. Whilst there were numerous factors involved, one which didn't help at all was them telling her almost daily down the phone they've no money. With hindsight I would disconnect my cheap Skype phone package so these type of calls couldn't be made except maybe once a week. The sensible thing for them to do would have been to lay off her and give her 6 months to find a job to reduce the pressure on her, but firstly they appeared to have zero common sense to think past tomorrow and secondly their budgeting skills were on a par with a chimpanzee with learning difficulties. Example: when we left Thailand to come to UK in March, I gave them 12,000 thinking that will at least keep them out her face to give her 2 or 3 weeks to settle in the UK. Outcome? Day 7 after our plane landed.......NO MONEY. I explained to her that 12k is £250 and that people here where everything costs about double or more than what it does in Issan could eat and pay minimum bills off that for longer than they managed. She didn't seem able to explain why they shipped money like a casino gambler apart from repaying debt to other people, but it stressed her out and she'd been here only 1 week.

I certainly blame them partly for what happened, unfortunately I think there were more problems inside her head as well as these ridiculous money demands. I've been to her home and village 3 times, nobody was sitting on wooden boxes in threadbare clothes with nothing to eat . One local guy around 40 who was lying in a hammock told me he didn't bother working apart from helping out on a farm 1 or 2 days a week, because the city was too far from the village . It's actually about 40 minutes away and 30 baht each way on the bus. It takes me more than 40 minutes to get to work in the UK some days. It's laughable.

Obvious she only married you for you GENEROSITY(show her the munney AND BY GOLLY you did.. wake up MAN!'

Theres a RumoUr in the AIR that 1000s if not 10s of 1000s hi so thai chines women are looking for kind farangs to marry. Why you pick an old lady from issan with 2 almost teenagers in tow?

I read the whole thread and i must conclude this is a troll. Sends 15,000 a month to family coz they need it................lol.

The CrAcKpoT is the op. Who marries a thai girl after knowung her 3 months and then takes her out of her environment?

This is teechable momento for those who care to learn.

My reading slills are a bit off. the time frame may not apply.

But rarely do people change overnight. I bet op just didnt want to notice the red flaggs. Common problem with those foreign men.

44 year old 'girl' ?

you never heard of 65 year old thai bargirls................lol.

Must be them ladyboys again.

Dont JuMp to conclusions. Although i wouldnt mind if some guy did a RAY RICE on one of those ladyboys hanging near NANA BTS. It bad enough where after 10 pm i go to other side of street to get to BTS. A crowded walk through moderate MuSlIM territory must i add................lol.

So, just to clarify your Ray Rice comment, you hope that transsexuals meet with violent physical abuse.

YES! those that grab the wallet!

no offense to the deceased but i bet the farang frequent flyer would be in deep ShIT also in his own country. So many mens are here who would be beaten anywhere they settle.

Lets get real- well adjusted sex tourist dont jump from high floors or are getting beaten up by thais.

I need to defend NANA. It isnt really that bad if you mind your own business and dont engage it stoopit s h i t . If you want to ogle bikini clad girls clinging to a pole of chrome doing their thing and then want to go all the way and barfine one noone will beat you up....................lol.

Must be them ladyboys again.

Dont JuMp to conclusions. Although i wouldnt mind if some guy did a RAY RICE on one of those ladyboys hanging near NANA BTS. It bad enough where after 10 pm i go to other side of street to get to BTS. A crowded walk through moderate MuSlIM territory must i add................lol.

I've never had the pleasure of being around the Nana area of Bangkok, only heard things from people. Is it really that bad?

Yes. My fear is what if i push one away and they fall down. Would i be @ fault and have a whole gaggle of ugly ladyboys beatting my face to oblivion?

Certainly something rather bizarre going on. As someone mentioned, it's possible that he was mickey finned. All very strange.

Did the article not say he was beaten?????????

Must be them ladyboys again.

Dont JuMp to conclusions. Although i wouldnt mind if some guy did a RAY RICE on one of those ladyboys hanging near NANA BTS. It bad enough where after 10 pm i go to other side of street to get to BTS. A crowded walk through moderate MuSlIM territory must i add................lol.

If i were op's bargirls mother i would advise my daughter "YOU can do BETTER".............................................hahahahaha! A broke penniless boy from europa!

I really would like to hear what the girls of the bar say about the customers they meet!!!!!!!!!!!!!

any links?

when you were granted your extension of stay....why didn't you ask what was needed to be done for your 90 day reporting,,,,,,seems a logical request.......who ties your shoe laces in the morning ??? or are you a slip on shoe person or flip flop kind of guy...........get a grip an sort yourself out........its not rocket science its a simple 90 day reporting....

Ive been here awhile. Its really hard to understand what thai are saying. For some reason their english is hard to understand.