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On 19/07/2017 at 1:04 AM, giddyup said:

Wondering how long will the Transport Dept accept that letter before it becomes invalid?

Not exactly related but i went to get a new letter of residence from immigration where they stated 'why didn't you use old one'? I did not answer that it was no longer valid because he was talking to my GF while i sat like a vegetable. He then printed out a piece of paper, nothing like the original, and told her this was very important, don't lose it (no cost). I can only assume he thought i had lost the original

I was still using it over a year later as my letter of residence without any problem

I would love to know what it is if anyone has any ideas what it is. i cannot show it on here as its in Thailand and i am not there

4 hours ago, faraday said:

Btw, anyone seen the rates charged on 'pay day loans'?

1000/4000% APR + in the uk

Should be laws against it

Anyway the title is no different to the rest of the world

3 hours ago, stubuzz said:

Do you need to buy an international roaming package?

AS some of the others have already mentioned i also have my  (AIS) Thai sim (pay as you go)in another phone that is constantly on, and  i pay no roaming costs in the UK

3 hours ago, Been there done that said:

Seems to me that your gf is not a sincere woman who has good intentions with, and/or loves, you. If she would be she would never accept this and stay with you. She plays along with you, waiting and waiting for ?

Thank god we all can't be as pessimistic as yourself or we would all be jumping off of balconies.

Sounds to me that you have been burnt once too often if that is your conclusion

What is there not to accept? stay with you?

It was an insight into what the Thai family think and say,  what would you have her do disown them?

waiting and waiting for what? As stated there is nothing to wait for as everything will be in my sons name as she already knows

Yes when i'm dead and gone she will be financially OK but that's certainly not going to be for a long time  I HOPE

If the relationship were to end tomorrow i'd have no regrets, i have a wonderful son (no more because i had the snip after this one) and more than happy with all her family who i get on very well with.

She will often spend money on other children in the village because she states she had nothing when she was young an endearing quality to me

New years we took 10 children in the village to the cinema. did it cost a lot, no. You get out of life what you put in.

1 hour ago, Ryder88 said:

A Thai woman married to a farang can find herself between a rock and a hard place. Put your self in her shoes. On the one hand she loves you and wants to do the right thing by you. On the other hand, her family is always at her wanting this and wanting that.

Regardless of what some other op has said this can be true

My GF (with whom i have a child) has often said to me she is under constant pressure from all relatives.

Not in the fact they ask for money but they are always questioning her about why she does not have this and have that.( I should mention that i support her and my son very well but as yet have refused to buy material things like a house, land and a car)

I have lent money to her close family and always been paid back ( very happy because allowed them to earn substantially more money)

The problem lies in that however much money you give your wife/Gf  (they will always spend it and then want more ( i have seen this many times in other peoples relationships and its a Thai trait) as this is how they have always lived due to the inbuilt expectation to support their family.

All Thais believe you have a bottomless pit of money

I will buy land and a house at some point but it will be placed in my sons name and car in mine.

My GF knows i will not give her any more money unless it it really important (hospital for my son etc) and she knows when i say no it means no, to the extent we can laugh about it together

Foreigners need to understand this and protect themselves from it to a certain extent. I still find it hard to believe that so many people are still losing their  lifes savings when having so much access to this information , Love is blind as they say.

Maybe i am just lucky but i believe it's just down to being prudent and talking to your partner so they understand

4 minutes ago, jeab1980 said:

As for the DD and repossession stuff talk about going off at a tangent.

Maybe but trying to emphasis that people do not take the consequences of their actions in to consideration,  even if they know them.

I've had to bail out too many friends for things that just did not need to happen until finally you say enough is enough

Yes, its not the crime of the century but the price he may have to pay could be a high one for him

1 hour ago, jeab1980 said:

But the best laid plans can often melt away when a crisis happens. All who would overstay would know the consequences of there actions.

So do people that drink and drive but they still do it until they run some one over. people get into financial crisis without seeking help and get homes repossessed the list could go on and on. Not all but in most cases naivety and stupidity. I wish the op all the best in his endevours 

1 hour ago, jeab1980 said:

3 to 4 posts offering help and the rest offering nothing. 

Not sure what point your trying to make, it would be nice if we all could offer advice, However you are one of the rest offering nothing

4 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

anyway there is the sound of two impacts

Yes i was looking at the back of the pick up to see if it had been hit from behind but couldn't see any damage so maybe 2 cars behind the dash cam car

I went crazy and told my gf she must have lessons after she stated she didn't need a licence as she could pay the police 400 baht if stopped and would not have an accident as she would drive very carefully. 

This is likely the result of that same mentality

25 minutes ago, colinneil said:

Corruption here has cost me dearly.

 A very sad story. You have every right to be angry.

This story more than any, gives people an insight into why the corruption needs to be weeded out

And unfortunately even though it can be advantageous to both Thai people and foreigners ( in many circumstances) it has to be stopped at every level

18 hours ago, maxcorrigan said:

I think EU expats get the increases, but there seems to be no consistency i don't think Aussie expats get the increases, but US expats do, someone put me right if i am wrong!

I believe they get it in Australia but not New Zealand (read not so long ago)

4 hours ago, faraday said:

Perhaps you don't remember how 'orrible the weather is.

Strangely enough that used to be the one thing i hated, never 2 days went by without it raining 

However the last 3 or 4 years have been amazing, with fantastic summers and very mild winters.

3 hours ago, cliveshep said:

Thanks to all of you who offer advice. I copied it all to my friend whose wife has "decreed" (his word) that they go to the UK for a year. Quite where they'll live or indeed how they will live is up to them - you cannot help some people!

I don't believe in my wildest dreams he will get a visa for his wife

As you have mentioned he is living on his savings and obviously waiting for his old age pension,  5 years away

He would need to show an income of £18600 for UK immigration to except her application for a visa of any sort or £65000 in savings (but that's as a sponsor for a tourist visa). 

He has no UK residence (another big criteria) and as you have mentioned is unwell and possibly unable to work

He could overcome some things but it would take time, that he does not have, and help from friends in the UK

What was he intending to do in 8 months time? As he would still be in the same position then.

The UK is NOT a viable option in my opinion now or ever in the future. Which both he and his wife need to realise

6 hours ago, giddyup said:

That's why they come to Thailand, because for a little money they can live out their fantasy for a while. The ugly guys with beautiful women in my own country are those well-heeled enough to afford them.

I hope your happy now,  having crushed the beliefs and thoughts of nearly all farangs.

What are they going to do now that they know that there wife/wives were not with them for there good looks and personality.

I suppose just continue to live in their fantasy world.

3 hours ago, billd766 said:

I agree with you up to a point but if the council houses were not sold off then there would still be people living in them and they still would not be available.

Yes,  you are correct nothing would change in that respect

The bone of contention that people often refer to to is that there would be more affordable (being the operative word) housing for the masses.

Most councils later went into partnership with housing associations to provide new housing but this has increased rents. Not to that great a deal, i may add,  but an increase all the same.

However this would not detract from the increase in population (thus longer waiting lists) and the lack of viable land for new build.

No idea about up north but in the south it is becoming impossible for councils to meet there so called quotas to meet demand. (especially 2 or 3 bedroom houses as apposed to one bedroom flats which were practically the only thing being built in my city over the last 10 years)

5 minutes ago, whatawonderfulday said:

<deleted> ? still stealing from the ordinary taxpayer even after she is dead ?

millions of ordinary tax payers who were  council tenants might disagree with you on that one. 

Is there a particular reason you don't wish people to advance in life/status. 

Selling off council houses has always been a bone of contention in regards to housing no longer being affordable to some, i agree, but not everything can be perfect.

Getting your name on a council waiting list is a good example due to lack of housing but in general it is and was a very good act for millions

18 minutes ago, whatawonderfulday said:

She sold off the council houses by the thousands only to those that could afford it or else had been tenants for a decade or more

The plans she put in place are still in use now,  someone i know has just recently purchased their council house with a 60 or 70% discount. Her legacy lives on

3 minutes ago, possum1931 said:

making it possible for the working class to become home owners.

I worked in a factory employing 4,000 people where 30% purchased their council houses at a reduced cost and enjoyed a far better life (would still be in them now),  later moving out into brand new properties courtesy of Margret Thatcher.

I can clearly remember the same people slagging her off with such hatred before voting her out over the poll tax       (not one of her best ideas) , with no regard as to how well the UK economy was doing

How soon the memory fades !

14 minutes ago, PeCeDe said:

. I don't like predicting bad things, maybe I've had too many years on this earth, (soon to be fixed) :-)

I hope you don't live on a high condo floor

3 hours ago, Laza 45 said:

Borrowing for things that grow the GDP and create employment is good investment for future prosperity.. especially in the current low interest environment..  The UK's borrowings are quite large at the moment (1.7 Trillion..)  but don't put the country in the basket case group

Although  logically you are correct, in reality that has not happened,  in the last 2 labour governments in power  they have squandered all the money they have borrowed to implement the terms of their manifesto having taken over from a very stable economy, on both occasions

Tory's on the other hand have taken over from a failed/faltering economy and returned it to a stable one on each occasion, having been replaced on the basis of the fickle voting public of the UK, being promised agendas, we as a country, cannot afford.

Leaving the EU was not a good idea, but we could not sustain the continued migration, it was a time bomb waiting to happen, Better to weather the storm now then try to bail out a sinking ship later. (people only see the present and fail to see the future impact)

Once again labour has placed a nail in our coffin by offering the fickle UK public something they cannot afford to offer. Even Gordon brown has had to admit his mistakes on so many points in the past

What do you think would of happened if Labour had won. I dread to think 

This is a simple analogy of what i have seen in my life time

19 hours ago, Mitkof Island said:

Since March it has been dropping like a rock. Any ideas, news, predictions?

your asking a question that no one can really answer

£ has dropped 20% since brexit

But has now steadied to a certain extent 

Due to the present circumstances,  the £ is volatile on numerous fronts,  whether economic. political or media attention just to name a few

Exanples  we go to the polls on 8th June.  In the eyes of the world a conservative victory will mean stability thus a increase in the value of the £ and the opposite if a labour win occurs. If no clear winner also a decrease

The German PM Merkel made a statement recently that the US and UK were not to be trusted in the EU. Bearing in mind we need to create a trade deal with these countries it had an immediate effect on the strength of the £

If a manufacturing plant relocates for financial reasons (manufacturing has been declining for 20 + years),  the media may well blame it on brexit.

Untrue but the  effect and damage on the £ is already done

Hopefully as trade deals are met maybe the £ will increase sufficiently enough

I just wish the controlling political  parties in the UK would stop trying to undermine each other to the point of pulling the country down,  in their attempts to get into power

12 minutes ago, snowgard said:

But that is the problem they dont stop all at checkpoints in CM they let thais without helmets ride past, I

I can assure you this does not happen in Surin

i would say the biggest earner is 200 baht for no helmet

My experience is that the police have always been fair here i have been stopped but never had to pay.In fact they normally will let me through because they can see that my bike is highly unlikely to be a money earner.

The problem lies with the thai mentality

When i told my gf that she needed to get a thai driving licence to drive the car ( so the insurance would be valid in case of an accident) she simply stated 'no problem' i will just pay the police 400 baht if stropped and drive carefully so i don't have an accident. 

I have to admit the system works here ( if thai's are stupid enough not to wear a helmet, their choice) but for major  offences , drink driving, no insurance,no licence (not exactly hard to pass) etc, a bribe should not be on the table.

Police are low paid and to a certain extent i have some sympathy with them. Be polite and courteous and more often ( not always it seems) it can be a pleasant experience.

21 hours ago, JamJar said:

If you think that it is ok for them to be driving drunk, then nothing more needs to be said.

At no time did i say that or gave that impression

No doubt you are a virtue of innocence and have never done a single  thing wrong in your many years

Unlike yourself i am not without my flaws and have made a general observation in relation to how people are in general (this does not make them the dregs of society)

Unlike yourself, maybe i won't be going to heaven after all

1 hour ago, tropo said:

Who's the scum? He was a cool as a cucumber - respect

Yes i agree. he gave a token resistance to the arrest but was careful not to push it too far. He tried to stop his woman getting charged with drink driving. Something many people would of done here if in the same position

I am not a lover of  Russian attitudes/mentality but you cannot judge every book by it's cover as its said

I am sure with hindsight he will regret resisting the small amount that he did and excepted his fate

Bad people of all nationalities  but he certainly does not strike me as one of them

5 hours ago, PETERTHEEATER said:

I was hoping to see my Reliant Robin on the list.....

Whats your name Del boy ?