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13 minutes ago, oldhippy said:

Are you suggesting that for 99,9% of Thai women, masturbation is not a taboo?

Thailand where women want to have sex with their clothes on?

Yes i am, however, you make a good point

There is nothing to substantiate this taboo except reports from 25 years ago

Most Thai kids may have sex later than their western counterparts but just like all cultures kids attitudes are changing in Thailand. Many kids are under pressure now to have intercourse in their early teens the same as the western world

So why would masturbation be any different

If you lived in a village you might have a better understanding

Its just taboo for the media  to report it openly

1 hour ago, jhonnie said:

get bigger ones in my backyard   nearly every summer

don't have many parties or friends round then?

15 minutes ago, GreasyFingers said:

What if you gave her the first orgasm she ever had. Sex, not love yes, but the two are connected.

seriously! I'm sure that 99.9% of woman would of got It the same way as you would of have.

Very deluded is all i can say.

2 hours ago, smotherb said:

Yes, that is if you want a monetary relationship

Unfortunately most people here do not wish to except or realise that is exactly the relationship they are in.

Wake Up! This is Thailand no woman who is more than 20 years younger than you is with you for love. Accept that if your money runs out so will she. Even those of a similar age would of originally been based on how well you could take care of them, but have a good chance of survival.

People have married for money and power throughout time, hence, arranged marriages.

whether you met your lady in a bar or on a website she was/is there to better her life and to pick the best suitor

This could possibly be different if you met at work or environment where you were introduced as a friend etc.

Did you pick your gf for her brains (unlikely) or her looks (likely) this is normal in most relationships but that would not be the reason for her. The reasons for the sustainability of the relationship is far reaching and completely different for you and her.

Having said all that, it can still work but the question is, are you in that monetary bracket without realising it?

out of the pan and into the fire

I was going to say something  but the last 4 replies basically sum it up

On 25/07/2017 at 7:07 PM, OliverKlozerof said:

something like a mini van where you could sleep in the back if necessary.

Some people will do just about anything to save money on short time room

14 hours ago, KittenKong said:

The only fairly cheap alcohol here is that paint thinner lao khao stuff, and I wont be drinking that in this lifetime.

There would'nt be much left of it after drinking it

2 hours ago, tropo said:

hotel management fails to report you, you are still responsible.

Do you have first hand knowledge of this, there have been a number of reports where hoteliers have been fined but not together with the tourist?

1 hour ago, InMyShadow said:

I can rent places here which would cost 3 or 4 times as much in Australia. For me, having a nice place to live is very important. Other people don't mind slumming it and spending their money on girls and booze. Each to their own.

Yes totally correct of which i stated as much in my answer although in a different manner

1 hour ago, tropo said:

No, you're missing the point, which is easy to do with the new forum format where you don't see the original quote that I was replying to.

To a point you are correct because if you had read the previous quote to the one you were referring to you would see that someone had made a totally irrelevant statement on the cost of rent in a very expensive area of Bangkok.

Not wanting to go too in depth, this lead to the hijacking of the original thread (normal procedure).

My point being, when people retire they no longer have the same budget that they had in there originating country and in order to enjoy life in the manner they wish they may have to live in a 32m2 condo, as many do ( I stated much earlier i would tire of that eventually myself)

Your budget is sufficient to enable that luxury but not for many. Be honest to yourself and look at how you worded your answer and how it comes across. my answer was a little tongue-in-cheek to express that as you know(with a little bit of sarcasm) sorry

200m2 is obviously a  large 2 story house, what would you consider not very expensive?

On 22/06/2017 at 9:50 AM, IMA_FARANG said:

You need to think "long term" , and look past the temporary gloom and doom of the so called "experts".

The 'long term' may be too long for some people on here!

8 hours ago, tropo said:

Geez... it is for me. I won't rent anything under 200m2. I think you've lost touch. I expect to live better in Thailand than I can back at home..

Geez..... i think your missing the point

Unlike yourself many expats don't have the financial resources to afford anything over 200m2 ( depending of course where in Thailand they are/want to live)

They stay because it's still a better life than in their own country for whatever reason

i would also  like to live better but have found that the people around me are far more important than your seemingly materialistic lifestyle

If you can afford it that's fantastic, but no need  to knock people that can't or feel it not that important    

46 minutes ago, Pdaz said:

I can easily stay months and months in hotel room, or a small studio condo. Thailand is a jungle, eat local food, live pretty much like locals, and it's far cheaper here than even Eastern Europe.

Great if you are happy with that but i for one and i'm sure many others, would eventually tire of that existence

For many expats Thailand is no longer the cheap place is was 8 years ago (exchange rate) and really must struggle on their  declining government pension (uk) which would, then, of given them a very healthy living.

For some ( as already mentioned by someone) that existence is still better then they would have in their own country

I will be one of the 6 month stayers.Maybe longer later but consider myself very lucky to, always, be able to do that

Expats from the UK are no longer able to retire to Thailand on a present  government pension. Only those with an additional good works pension or other means of financial support

For what it's worth there are few Thai dishes i like and always fill my suitcase with the tastes of home

13 minutes ago, bberrythailand said:

This kind of news show very well the kind of attention that most doctors put here in what they do.

 

I once carried $200000 cash and I cannot imagine forgetting here anywhere. But maybe this is why I am not a doctor, I am too smart.

too smart for me. I have not got a clue what your on about

No offence intended

19 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

why don't you get your money to a shared account over here now?

Then she can spend it before you die!

Could end up being a recipe for disaster

Unlike a pet, a wife is not always for life, however much you think it will be at this moment

The saddest part of this story is who the hell grassed them up. Obviously a very old sore loser

4 minutes ago, moe666 said:

No Thais do not get a pass on gambling

Every year in the village its always a funny topic of conversation over who managed to get away and who got caught when raided. (normally playing HI/LO however someone last month was grabbed with a piece of paper with a list of lottery numbers from the local village lottery) I was told the head of the village did not pay his usual contribution (2000 baht fine at the station)

The local police travel around the villages in an unmarked police car and look for houses with lots of bikes parked outside

To me he's extremely  irritating and obnoxious but appeals to a very young generation, not a reason to deport him.

Add a few more words, Irritating, obnoxious, old miserable, grumpy and you would be deporting 40% of the posters on TV but then it wouldn't make for such entertaining reading

On 19/07/2017 at 1:04 AM, giddyup said:

Wondering how long will the Transport Dept accept that letter before it becomes invalid?

Not exactly related but i went to get a new letter of residence from immigration where they stated 'why didn't you use old one'? I did not answer that it was no longer valid because he was talking to my GF while i sat like a vegetable. He then printed out a piece of paper, nothing like the original, and told her this was very important, don't lose it (no cost). I can only assume he thought i had lost the original

I was still using it over a year later as my letter of residence without any problem

I would love to know what it is if anyone has any ideas what it is. i cannot show it on here as its in Thailand and i am not there

4 hours ago, faraday said:

Btw, anyone seen the rates charged on 'pay day loans'?

1000/4000% APR + in the uk

Should be laws against it

Anyway the title is no different to the rest of the world

3 hours ago, stubuzz said:

Do you need to buy an international roaming package?

AS some of the others have already mentioned i also have my  (AIS) Thai sim (pay as you go)in another phone that is constantly on, and  i pay no roaming costs in the UK

3 hours ago, Been there done that said:

Seems to me that your gf is not a sincere woman who has good intentions with, and/or loves, you. If she would be she would never accept this and stay with you. She plays along with you, waiting and waiting for ?

Thank god we all can't be as pessimistic as yourself or we would all be jumping off of balconies.

Sounds to me that you have been burnt once too often if that is your conclusion

What is there not to accept? stay with you?

It was an insight into what the Thai family think and say,  what would you have her do disown them?

waiting and waiting for what? As stated there is nothing to wait for as everything will be in my sons name as she already knows

Yes when i'm dead and gone she will be financially OK but that's certainly not going to be for a long time  I HOPE

If the relationship were to end tomorrow i'd have no regrets, i have a wonderful son (no more because i had the snip after this one) and more than happy with all her family who i get on very well with.

She will often spend money on other children in the village because she states she had nothing when she was young an endearing quality to me

New years we took 10 children in the village to the cinema. did it cost a lot, no. You get out of life what you put in.

1 hour ago, Ryder88 said:

A Thai woman married to a farang can find herself between a rock and a hard place. Put your self in her shoes. On the one hand she loves you and wants to do the right thing by you. On the other hand, her family is always at her wanting this and wanting that.

Regardless of what some other op has said this can be true

My GF (with whom i have a child) has often said to me she is under constant pressure from all relatives.

Not in the fact they ask for money but they are always questioning her about why she does not have this and have that.( I should mention that i support her and my son very well but as yet have refused to buy material things like a house, land and a car)

I have lent money to her close family and always been paid back ( very happy because allowed them to earn substantially more money)

The problem lies in that however much money you give your wife/Gf  (they will always spend it and then want more ( i have seen this many times in other peoples relationships and its a Thai trait) as this is how they have always lived due to the inbuilt expectation to support their family.

All Thais believe you have a bottomless pit of money

I will buy land and a house at some point but it will be placed in my sons name and car in mine.

My GF knows i will not give her any more money unless it it really important (hospital for my son etc) and she knows when i say no it means no, to the extent we can laugh about it together

Foreigners need to understand this and protect themselves from it to a certain extent. I still find it hard to believe that so many people are still losing their  lifes savings when having so much access to this information , Love is blind as they say.

Maybe i am just lucky but i believe it's just down to being prudent and talking to your partner so they understand

4 minutes ago, jeab1980 said:

As for the DD and repossession stuff talk about going off at a tangent.

Maybe but trying to emphasis that people do not take the consequences of their actions in to consideration,  even if they know them.

I've had to bail out too many friends for things that just did not need to happen until finally you say enough is enough

Yes, its not the crime of the century but the price he may have to pay could be a high one for him

1 hour ago, jeab1980 said:

But the best laid plans can often melt away when a crisis happens. All who would overstay would know the consequences of there actions.

So do people that drink and drive but they still do it until they run some one over. people get into financial crisis without seeking help and get homes repossessed the list could go on and on. Not all but in most cases naivety and stupidity. I wish the op all the best in his endevours 

1 hour ago, jeab1980 said:

3 to 4 posts offering help and the rest offering nothing. 

Not sure what point your trying to make, it would be nice if we all could offer advice, However you are one of the rest offering nothing