Macthehat

I refused at Manchester airport when they were first introduced ...and was held overnight , missed my onward flight and not compensated ... and not charged . .... so you might want to tread lightly and ask nicely for a pat down .

I prefere freshly ground beans but have settled for Nescafe instant with 1/2 milk 1/2 water and a light dusting of cinnamon ...

I think when you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target.

15 hours ago, pennine said:

as for writing on bills, I went to Western Union th change some Indian rupees. they wouldn't accept a few which had been written on.

I've been changing GBP here for years and I've been knocked back for creased noted as well as pencil marks on them . 

The strange thing is..Notes from Northern Ireland have been refused everywhere I go ( including England ) regardless of their condition .

Usually in 7/11 they display money taken and change to give back on the till display . great system ....but still got to check your change 

Don't waste your money on fancy cameras ..they will only record your murder if indeed it is going to happen ... as kwasaki has said get yourself a mean looking loyal dog ...he will work even when the power is out ..he does not record and does not need electric . 

But certainly will stop any threat coming to your home and provide company if your alone . 

4 hours ago, ubonjoe said:

No problem to get another visa exempt entry. You can do it at the Chong Mek crossing here in Ubon or the Chong Sa Ngam (Phu Sing) crossing in Sisaket.

You would apply for a 60 day extension at immigration to visit your son. You will need their birth certificate plus a copy and copy of their house book registry.

Cheers Joe 

My 30 day visa exempt entry + 30 day extension expires soon . The nice lady at the sisaket immigration office said I could cross at chong mek and when I come back into LOS come to her and I could get a 2 month visa due to the birth or my son (1/2 Thai 1/2 british) if I presented her with all the paperwork required . 

My question/s are

1.can I cross at chong mek and come back same day ? And   2. is it ok to do 2 x30 day visa exempt entries back to back ? 3. What type of visa is this called the nice lady in sisaket refered to ( due to the new baby ).   Hope this make sense .. thanks in advance for any assistance .

On 05/10/2016 at 3:22 AM, Think2Mutt said:

49 minutes ago, llso said:

 

I am by no means suggesting that this is the case of the original poster. I think most people have a pretty good feel whether a child is theirs or not. That having been said in my 7 years of living in Thailand I knew of two instances where a Thai woman had a Thai boyfriend/husband living in the house with a Farang that he built and being passed off as a brother or relative. As this poster suggested everyone knew the truth except the Farang. One way I found out was that I speak and understand Thai very well and overheard the Thais joking about it. In another instance my wife told me.

Kinda hard to ignore all the family photos of him from a young age and meeting his father who showed me more photos and seeing his ID card ... then again there's always photoshop  and forgery.   

 Anyways he's gone after refusing a handout to go look work in Bangkok. And get some help with rehab . Locks all changed and bedroom emptied ... now the place is sheer bliss without the grief and worry .

Thanks for all the advice and the humour along the way ....I think we can put this 1 down as a success story for TVF .

14 hours ago, Think2Mutt said:

I'm sorry to tell you this but the cold,hard truth is that you should start with a DNA test for your baby,it's common for Thai girls to have live in lovers/husbands in their foreign lover/husbands house.This has all the hallmarks of one of those stories I doubt very much if he really is just a nephew or relative at all,you are just another foreigner being played for a fool get the test done a.s.a.p.
(P.S. The 'attitude' that you describe is generally because he is the boyfriend/husband and father of the child not you and of course everybody knows this but you!)

This is turning into a soap opera ... great reading but .... it's ok don't worry the baby has ginger hair and cornflake freckles just like his daddy 555

On 03/10/2016 at 1:37 PM, cyberfarang said:

1 hour ago, Deepinthailand said:

What are you on ya ba 

 

Gotta love this place ... now I've forgotten all my troubles and come here for a laugh 555 

4 hours ago, jgold said:

"" I feel this is not normal for a 21 yr old to be staying rent free food free All Free with his aunt... ""

 

You are forgetting you are also a guest there. How about you putting some money together and buying your own place for you and your new family. After all it looks worse a grown up men to be living in the gf's aunts house than a 21 yr old doesn't it????

I think your a bit confused or maybe reading a different story ...I am not forgetting I'm a guest ..partner Yes..guest not  I am not staying with my GFs aunt ... I have paid for numerous upgrades and renovations and all the bills ... I pay all . Does this make me a guest ? Not sure what your wife/ girlfriend thinks of you but I would like to think mine thought more of me than a guest . Thanks for your concern but please read all I wrote before giving me your masterplan . 

16 hours ago, nottocus said:

Are u sure he is the nephew? Grow some balls and kick him out.

Why would I not be sure who he is ? 

And yes I always had balls so never needed to grow any just to toss a drug addict  on the street . The house is not mine so better the whole family see it wasn't just me who wanted him to go. That's way seemed the better option ... now he's gone everyone's happy except the nephew . Problem solved  

19 hours ago, The Dark Lord said:

4 hours ago, cyberfarang said:

The only way I see it stopping is if he goes or I go.

 

You (the OP) are only there 3 or 6 months of the year that means you have no rights to dictate the terms to your girlfriend as she probably wants her nephew living in the house because most of the time there is not a man around and having him there makes her feel safer. Also you made a baby with her, so not only are you a part time partner but also a part time father, which means for most of the year she is left to cope with bringing up your baby on her own.

 

Does it mean when you say; either he goes or you go, that you`ll stop all support for her? Maybe if she does have a choice between you and her nephew, the nephew is the better option.

Good point ... and I agree with some of what your saying .. but just because I'm not there everytime surely doesn't mean I have no say who stays in the same home with my son while I work to support . After all we are talking about a drugged up thief who not only doesn't contribute in any way but now feels he is entitled to take money from whoever he wants when he wants . 

Regardless of whatever was to happen I would always support my son financially but if the nephew was given a free hand in the home I would without a doubt leave and would considerably pay a lot less than I am at the moment . After all why should I pay for an adult to lounge about my girlfriends home ... grazing like a cow , just so she feels safe ? As someone posted here before if I wouldn't do it in farrang land why should I put up with it here . Before the nephew started stealing and before I found out he was taking drugs , him staying didn't annoy me too much ... I wasn't completely happy but it was ok as it was supposed to be temporary . Now its a different ball game . My GF accepted I wouldn't be home everytime and was happy to raise our son when I worked away sometimes... after all this is normal in Thai society as well as western society . So to think it's ok and acceptable to have a sponging thief in our home to make her feel safe is something I wouldn't accept  and never will .

4 minutes ago, KarenBravo said:

Glad you sorted it all out.

Getting an uncle in robes to do the dirty work was an inspiration.

Divine intervention 

1 hour ago, NanLaew said:

Unusual that it's the nephew. Typically it's the "brother".

It's her brothers son , and apparently he was much the same .. probably the reason he left home and his son behind for the family to take care of . This is all new to me as I've been asking loads of questions as to why he is here in the first place.  ..... history seemed to be repeating itself ....

4 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Go live in a house that you bought or rent with your girlfriend. Then tell the guy he can't come in your house until he kicks his habit.

Junkies can kick the habit but thieves , especially taking from your own family is a no no to me and is not easy to forgive and forget .. as far as I'm concerned he has burned his bridges ... it's off to work he must go and if he every returns it won't be under the same roof as me . Now he needs to work to eat and feed his habit if he feels the need 

Got another chat with the GF and explained there's only 2 options ... he go or I go ....I explained I can no longer live with a thief . He needs to go get a job . So she asked her father the monk to come tell him to go . 

He came 30 minutes ago and the nephew got his marching orders from the monk to go to bkk . So hopefully he now realises his free meal ticket has expired ....... now time will tell 

2 hours ago, lopburi3 said:

Your OP indicated GF had done nothing - now you say she has talked with him twice and monk has become involved and she supports tighter money control?  This all in the space of 1 hour?

I did say she had asked him to go to bkk for work on numerous occasions but to no avail 

She asked him after the first 500b went missing from her purse ... and just today again about the 1000b ... and her father has just got involved with the magic water solution... sorry for the misunderstanding in my original post 

4 minutes ago, Toknarok said:

    This bloke is an adult, why are you continuing to let him sponge off and steal from you? Are you sure he's doing drugs? A quick visit to the local police station, a word in a 'friendly' coppers ear and one piss test later your problems will be solved (at least temporarily)

I agree he's an adult and need to sort himself out .... as far as going to police .... if I could do discreetly I would but this is impossible as I can't speak Thai and would need my GF to help out ... she wouldn't even think of it 

1 minute ago, chuang said:

Tell your g/f either he moves out or you move out...

I already have and this has her in tears ... she has even asked me did I need a holiday alone while she took care of our son , hoping I would feel better ...obviously this is not a solution to anything 

12 minutes ago, lopburi3 said:

Thai GF for 4 years with your son and her family member with known issues has access to remove money?  You might have more standing if married and you both need to take better security control of money access.  Yes it is complex as open house is a general Thai way of life for family members.   And he may not even think anything about borrowing the money if it is openly available.

 

She should ask him about the missing money - at least it puts him on notice that it has been noticed.  And it might solve matter.  But keeping close track of cash should be a priority even if you have to buy an inexpensive digital safe.

He has been asked on 2 occasions about missing money and both times he's denied it ..... both occasions he has been the only 1 with access so I'm no detective but I'm 100% sure it was him . But without actual evidence my claims are useless...Ive spoke with my GF and she thinks a safe or camera or both is the answer. Maybe I'm old fashioned but a swift kick in the nuts and eviction would be my solution. 

Thanks for all the advise guys.. my GFs father (a monk ) has spoke today with him and give him a bollocking and asked him come drink water from the temple to prove if he stole or not .... apparently if he stole the water will kill him ... can't see this happening unless I get to the water first 555 

Ps. I'll try to give up the smokes :)

17 minutes ago, KarenBravo said:

Sorry, you handed your leash to your wife a long time ago.

There is nothing you can do about this except move out.

Your wife is the only one that can settle this problem...........and she won't.

I agree that it can only be my GF who can settle this but to say I handed her my leash is a bit strong .... I am more than helpful to all her family .....to throw it all away over some crack head seems crazy .