The Dark Lord

11 hours ago, George FmplesdaCosteedback said:

Indeed, he has some words of wisdom.

After 17 years, something I have never done, I am trying to understand the guilt you are feeling, it must be crushing.

You need to consider the quid pro quo of all those years.

Do you really owe her anything?

 

Anyway,

One of my all time favourite bands said it pretty well, though not entirely the same situation:

 

 

On the other subject, Ody maybe needs some "down time" from everything Thai.

In his own time I trust we will get the story.

 

Best wishes,

How's the beer?

G

 

 

Oh Georgio, 

Would it be be fair to list out the names of what must be a two meter stretch of the local bar?

Haven't partaken in all - YET! But it is deffo on the "to do" list. 

However in response to your query; outstanding! Thanks. 

I pray you are right with old Ody, he has the mental strength of a mating rhinoceros ( which apparently is very strong) and I have nothing but total admiration for his outlook on life and the man himself. 

Another sunny dawn dawn and other than my sibil's ( sis and BiL) cleaner, it is so peaceful you could not believe. Even the two spoiled Persian cats cannot be bothered to move much...... 

As for the music, did they not also produce the classic ( the song that likely got us all in the mess we find ourselves) can't get enough of your love?

6 hours ago, owl sees all said:

Good to have you on board TW.

 

Some 15 years ago a friend of mine was recruiting Thai ladies to work in the north west of Eng' as labour on organic vegetable farms.

 

One chap, who had married one of the Thai girls, had a similar prob as yourself with the "domestic violence avenue, with false accusations". She was a gambler, had run up debts and was forever phoning him and threatening him. My pal advised him to record everything she said. In one such phone call she really put her foot in it saying she would say this and say that when it got to court. I don't know the end details except that it worked out OK for him.

 

I just want to offer my hope to you. Try to gather evidence of false accusations. She is not likely to lie in emails or txts but could drop her guard on the phone. Once they think they are on top their egos take over. Save everything!!

Can do a hell of a lot worse than listen to Wise Owls advice. 

2 hours ago, rhodie said:

Good to hear things are going well TDL. Really happy that your sister sounds like a peach. Really lucky to have her and always helps that she is not judgemental. Keep strumming away. 

Really fear for Ody. Really think he would have made contact by now if all was good. Just hope that he was not social media savvy and has not got around to getting onto the internet.

I too am very concerned about our chum Ody. 

I continue to pray he he is watching the sunrises and sunsets  as we do as well as enjoying his life and recovery. 

Please Ody send us a sign. 

TDL

7 hours ago, two words said:

Did anyone hear or do they know if Ody made it to the airport? There is plenty of free wifi in clubs, fast food outlets, Sydney airport etc here in oz and if he were here he could easily give us an update? Fingers crossed he is okay.

I live at Belmont NSW not far from Ody's  possible destination. I like many others  hope he is home safe . 

To TDL.. glad you made it back to your sisters safe. You and many others have kept me amused and saddened with your stories.

I am going through separation with Thai wife who is using the domestic violence avenue, with false accusations, to get permanent visa. 

Stay strong. The heart hurts but time will heal.

Keep up with the updates and stories everyone.

Take care

Hi TW and welcome, glad that by sharing our experiences, warts and all, that we have in some small way helped ease both your pain and your journey through those troubled waters. 

I was also accused, the day I came out of hospital in the uk for a heart issue, of beating the wife ( completely unfounded and wrong)  which ended up with plod traipsing around my house and finally me having to cough up around £80 for her fine for scurrilous use of the emergency services. 

Amazing that those on whom we lay  so lay so much love affection and emotion are capable of plumbing such depths of hatred in order to try and hurt us. Why do they do it?

Hate leaving the one that I have spent 17 years with alone and financially much worse off than she was with me and the very comfortable life I gave her and still feel very sad and guilty about it. However I could only do that if I was safe happy and motivated to do so.

their ability to self destruct is beyond my capability to comprehend. Only when the cold harsh truth not of what they have done but what the effects are going to be,hits is there any sign of remorse. 

Not even sure remorse is shown, more like just a pathetic pleading for money due to the realisation of their very recent change in circumstances and barely credible claims of eternal love, inability to sleep etc etc etc. 

My my heart is starting to harden as a glimmer of common sense starts to show through. 

37 minutes ago, owl sees all said:

Now that sounds great. Thinking back I've never been to a concert that I was comfortable with. I've often come out with my head thumping and ears ringing.

Hi SR, thanks for the info,actually have six guitars stashed at my sisters. They cam out of a four year hibernationand every single one was still perfectly in tune. Two of them I picked up in France years ago and they have been customised with Seymour Duncan pickups and (as yet) undefined bridges and switches. Having knocked out a few barely recognisable tunes this morning they are a delight to play, more so than the US strat and jazz bass . 

Not clear on future plans but but should I come back to LoS then will certainly spend some time in your area and will live to experience some good live music.

hope the aches and pains are receding.

cheers for now

TDL

11 hours ago, George FmplesdaCosteedback said:

Precious tranquility, good coffee and good family to console you is a good start. I am sure everyone is just relived you have made it safe and sound.

 

If you start to miss the earache just tune in to a UK TV soap and it will remind you not to rush back!

Relax and enjoy for now, but please keep us informed.

Nice pictures by the way.

Please pass on our thanks and best wishes to you sister, you need a bit of pampering and sisterly love right now.

I'm hoping we hear from Ody soon too.

G.

 

Hi Georgio and friends, 

yup the sister (7 yrs younger) being one of those city banker types can be as hard as nails however she has a heart as big as anything when needed. She has demonstrated  the softer side many times in the past  but none so much as now. She has also demonstrated her no nonsense, kick up the butt common sense and advice none so much as right now..

Yesterday whilst driving up to .Mothers ( big surprise for Mum) and then on up to my aunt, whose husband is fading away, little sis and I had a very practical and down to earth talk. Basic questions which perhaps we should keep in our armoury for occasions such as this;

If it were me ( sister) being treated like you (by husband), what would your advice be?

Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?

I know she is sending messages promising to change etc  but do you think she will or can?

What effect do you think this abuse that you are receiving is having on a) Your persona  and  Your loved ones; Mother, sisters, children etc. .

Are you really happy where where you are right now?

Do you feel physically safe out there with her?

Well she certainly knows which ones to ask and  then caps it off with "Only you can decide the way forward but whatever you decide you know we are all here for as long as you need us. Take as much time as you like to get your head right, but please get it right"

We all know the answers, and I know in my heart of hearts what is right. 

Whomever coined the phrase "The onlooker sees most of the game" was a very gifted individual. 

and so , once more sitting in the garden listening to the birds singing and the barely audible distant roar of planes  at Heathrow and the M25, peace has descended giving me the chance to sort out my head.

the path is clear.....

looking forward to hearing from Ody whose absence is sorely missed and to all your words of wisdom, kindness and selfless support and witty humour as we move into a new day!

indescribable gratitude

TDL

1 hour ago, marko kok prong said:

Good luck mate,you have had the balls to do it,i wish you all the best ,please stay in touch and let us know how you getting on,i for one am feeling for you Bro,if you need some inspiration,i suggest Kipling's "IF" i know few of us could live up to it,and it maybe somewhat dated but it has helped me through some of the darker times,once again good luck.

Hi Georgio, Marco, Sandrabbit,  Rhodie, Ody, Bevvy, Owl , Andy, Trans & friends,

I am sitting here in my sisters conservatory watching the sun rise slowly over the hedge. It is quiet except for the gentle sound of the wood pigeons cooing in the trees and a few Morning birds singing their hearts out. If you strain your ears you can hear the faint roar if the M25 traffic. 

A fox insolently scampers at the foot of the garden

One of her spoiled and extremely hairy  cats, Ziggy has jumped up in the patio balcony to sit with me whilst I have my Morning nicotine fix whilst the grass twinkles with droplets from the overnight rain.

Behind me I hear my sister brewing up the coffee and I have not felt as free and as peace with the world as I do now.

Etihad flew me back here in one of their new super big air busses. First leg hurt my bum, the second rectified it. 

Immigration at swampy could not have been nicer on granting the reentry stamp ( for my extension of stay 90 day reporting pause) and the immigration queues whilst long, moved fast. 

In in the U.K., immigration was long but again, the new system was working very well and soon I was lounging in the baggage hall interminably for my bag. 

I have arrived back in the UK thanks in no small part to the huge support and concern of some of the most kind and caring people I have ever known but will likely never meet.

if there is a heaven, then I am sure that the kindness shown by each and every one of you will be a huge plus for St Peter when he looks at your "application to enter form" a long way in the future. 

There is more, a lot more but for now I do not want to dilute this moment. 

I am genuinely humbled , eternally thankful and seriously overawed by you guys. It helped me choose between the "hands behind the back" self termination option of Koh Tao and the unshackled peace and tranquility in which my mental and emotional recovery may now start. 

Thanks seems to be an ineffective word to express my feelings but right now I cannot find anything more appropriate. 

Cheers to you all 

TDL