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You don't understand that you are burying yourself deeper with every assumption. If you think I didn't know that a gaseous atmosphere is unlivable, you're a dolt. That the earth is exactly the right distance from the sun wasn't good luck, it was planned, sorry you can't understand such a simple concept. How do you know if I follow the Bible? I myself disagree with some of what's in it, because it was written by man, who can be mistaken in what they heard or seen. Prophecies are coming true, if you haven't noticed, and like I said, time will tell. Your statement beginning with "Don't forget cancer........I know and have known for 66 years what goes on here and everywhere on earth, and yes, I question why God doesn't intervene against evil. he gave us free will, and I'm guessing you know what that means? He gave us his laws, which all make sense, to protect us and others from harm. We choose to disobey because of that free will, and <deleted> happens. Children dying of cancer at two years old pisses me off of course, but those children will be in heaven when they die, especially before the age of reason. People who have been taught the difference between good and bad have a chance to choose what they do, and suffer the consequences eventually. God's thinking is so far above ours that we can only have faith, that an entity that can make such a beautiful place as earth and the universe, and all the good things it offers before some of man has destroyed it, can also ensure us a peaceful place after we die, because we stuck by him while our world fell down. That's called faith, something you lost along the way. Like I said, what made you stop believing yourself? Was it taught by a parent that hated God for his own reasons, did you lose a friend or family member you loved and questioned why they died young or from some <deleted> disease, or some other reason? God has his reasons and I can't fully understand why things happen as they do. I just go by faith that no matter how bad anyone has it, if they believe, the pain will end in time. People can be evil, as most of the worlds leaders have proven, and the rich raping the worlds resources for profit isn't God's way. Don't assume when you don't know for certain. I don't have to google things I already know about, and I do when I want to learn more. I've been reading daily since high school, and never against learning new things, as I have an open mind. Fairytales to me is thinking all of this happened by chance. That's not possible. And I haven't been brainwashed. I'm a free thinker, and only believe what I choose to believe because it makes sense to me. Read clivesheps post. He understands.

They don't actually bite, but pinch, and my friend and school owner found that out recently when one pinched his hand. It blew up twice the size, when he was on the road, and had to stop in a hospital and stay overnight for a course of antibiotics. Took three days to get the swelling down. When I lived at my ex's mom's house, before our house was built, one over 10 inches long walked over my arm while we were in bed. My ex woke to my yelling, and we both pinned it down. I give her credit, she took it out fast. I fed it to the chickens in the morning. Earlier , I was stung by my first scorpion, a huge one a half a foot long. It made my lips numb, and I was at first worried, until I remembered this was a symptom and it's almost like a wasp sting, as long as you aren't allergic. Pain went away 30 minutes after I applied Afterbite. One reason I hate living here is the bugs, which make Texas' look harmless.

Actually, a zealot is the opposite of what I am. I'm neither uncompromising or fanatical. I believe in the truth, not opinions. I'm not trying to make anyone do anything. I could care less what they think, especially if they're wrong. It's my duty as a Christian to spread the word. People have their opinions, and they've shown them here. Some have been right in what they've said, and he was wrong, simple as that. Him assuming he knows anything about me or how much I know is ignorance. I haven't been making opinions but statements which make sense to others who believe in God. Choosing not to will get you into a place you won't like. Back to why. I stated that it doesn't make sense, not just to me but to all other believers, that the universe just happened by itself. That it had to have a creator, which makes sense. If I'm wrong, I'd like to see proof otherwise. If they're right, I'd like to see proof also. In this case, no one can prove the other wrong, so it'll just take time to see the outcome.

As Britman mentioned, you both have custody and can leave anytime you want with your son, as long as you don't leave Thailand. My ex did it 4 times, and I had to file for a divorce to get my child back here. It's wrong, and is basically parental kidnapping, and if it was done in the US, you would go to jail and lose custody. Here they don't have the same justice system, and its prejudiced more towards women. In America, I fought for custody and won.

Best thing you could do is talk to her about letting you live elsewhere, not far away from her, with your son. Asking for the divorce and custody of your son and maybe offering her a counter offer if she's hesitant like a one time cash offer. She has to sign custody to you for that. Or just go to court and get a mutually agreed on divorce with joint custody is she doesn't want to sign over the child. You will have your own life, get to see your son, and keep documenting anything in case she still goes off. The police will not help you unless they are there and see something happening. Making a report that will be buried won't help until you go to court. If there isn't a fight for the divorce or custody you don't have a problem. The judge will decide everything if there is any fight. The woman will get main custody unless it is proven she is hurting the child or doing drugs with him there. Cheating is very hard to prove and to a judge it doesn't make her a bad mom. You will get visitation of every weekend at least or whatever you can negotiate if you want more. As a foreigner you will be asked for child support. Since you like it here, this isn't a major problem. I wanted custody of my daughter but my ex wasn't doing anything illegal as far as I knew so the judge gave her primary custody. I talked with 5 attorneys, including a farang, and they all said the same things. If you can settle this without an attorney, all the better. If you are not retired age, you will have to get a visa for a dependent, which you will because you have proof of being his parent. If you were retired, you could get a retirement visa to stay.

Still here, until I can resettle back home. No hunting, Bass or Pike fishing. Mostly pay and fish besides big reservoirs I haven't tried yet here, and not the species I'm into, although I did catch some huge carp and catfish here in Phuket. Isaan most boring place I've ever seen regarding what I like, so as soon as I can, going back.

Hunting, fishing, music, gym,movies.

Like I mentioned. Common sense

Sad but true

Men haven't become more alpha like. They, some, have always been like this. Narcissism has been there since time began, and all those in power are narcissistic. Some politicians start out with the idea to help people, but soon see the power they have and change for the worse. Being masculine isn't being an alpha. Being a man means you protect others weaker around you, your family and children. That is what some call beta males. Beta males encompass the higher percentage of males and they are the ones who take care of the families, while the alphas use women and power to their advantage. Coach Corey Wayne, a full blown narcissist himself, has a book out, 3% man. He often talks about how weak beta males are, and some women are stupid enough to believe in him, mainly because he wrote a book, and is rich, which of course sells to a lot of women. This man doesn't realize there are millions of men capable of beating him down that are betas, and emotionally strong means you can cry as a male also. He sees it as a weakness. It shows you have empathy, that you have a conscience and care. His book has a section stolen from other books, many I have read, that tell how to treat a woman after you've won her over. That was included because if it wasn't, the book would only show how to win a girl for sex. He's been married once, unsuccessfully, and hasn't had any other successful relationships that lasted. His feeling is conquer, then leave, as his actions show. Most of us fail at relationships, but some of us are trying to have one that lasts, even though we either make mistakes that hurt it, or we pick the wrong person for us.

That's why we as believers know there is something better after this life. If not, yes, it would be meaningless, besides the good times we have while alive. Some never have good times, and we believe that they will have peace and no pain when they enter heaven. We believe God knows all, that he listens to all prayers, and sometimes doesn't answer them right away, or not if he believes they will hurt us. Believe me, I get mad at God for many reasons. Things I think he should fix or change, but he knows the big picture. We don't see it as we only look out for what we can get while we're here. As far as a big bang, if it happened, my thinking is God made it happen. I do think there are other life forms in the universe. Why did we need Jesus and they not? Who knows. Are they way more advanced than we are, so aren't making the stupid mistakes we do? That means they aren't humans, because humans are given free will, and with that comes bad choices and destruction from greed, jealousy and racism.

We all have to live with ourselves and our decisions. When children are involved, it's our duty as parents to do what's best for them. We make mistakes based on what we saw and heard growing up, and should correct them when we see it isn't working. Some people don't care and only live for themselves and their pleasure. When you get old, that pleasure isn't as important and we look back and wonder if we did the right things as far as others are concerned. Some live and die with no conscience, and others worry all the time about how we affect others. Even if you don't believe in God and an afterlife, what makes you a man is how you treat others around you. It's not a game of points. Taking your child to school is a good thing. It shows you care for their safety. I do it daily here now that I'm taking care of my daughter while her mom works elsewhere. I never miss a visitation when she's with her mom more of the time, because my daughter needs to see her dad loves her. That's the most important lesson she can see, besides her seeing me treat other women well, including my girlfriend.

Well, at least you take care of them while they're there. They do need you after they've left sometimes. A father and son or daughter relationship should last forever. A lot of "men" don't do anything with the kids while they are living with them.

If she was married, she wasn't the right one. You saw something in them you liked, but they were off limits. And all women are the same, as far as basic traits, no matter where they were born. There are only a few different personality types, and that's worldwide.

With that thinking, it's better for the kids if you didn't have any, because children always need both sides. Why have kids if you really don't want them? There are many women out there that don't want nor have children. That would be a much better choice for you and them.

And arrogant, narcissistic alpha males are the reason our planet has been going south for generations. A woman can have a high IQ, be worldly intelligent, and still not understand men. They continue to pick these idiots, thinking that their genetics will make them superior children. I have seen too many times to count, may children born with disabilities coming from two "beautiful" people. I've read 65 books and countless articles, trying to understand the other side, children and how to raise them, mental illnesses and the damage they do to some, and still fall victim to attraction. This reading has made me understand more how a woman thinks, and what mental illnesses do to relationships, but when you're living it, your love and attraction to someone overcomes common sense, at least for awhile. Women sometimes want what they think is good, all the time knowing a "beta" male is a better pick for a partner and father for the children, yet after generations, they still fall into the same trap. Especially here, where men aren't held accountable for the children they make, you would think after being told by moms, dads and friends that bad men aren't a good choice, they would pick better partners. They don't. You see fatherless children by the thousands. Kids growing up without a dad's protection and guidance, and teaching them how to relate to men when they are older. The best example a child can see is how her dad treats her mom. This has been lost to many here and everywhere else.

There you go again, assuming you know what I know. It makes you look very arrogant, ignorant, and incapable of seeing the truth. You don't know what I know, nor what I research and spend my time on. My mind is always open to finding out the truth about things I am interested in, and until it's proven beyond a reasonable doubt, I'm skeptical. How do you know what I do or don't understand? Are you that ignorant to think you actually know anyone on this forum or what knowledge they have on a particular subject from just a few words, opinions or saying I was good at science in high school? Do you not realize I can google things like you have to learn more about present science? Do you actually think everything some scientists say is factual? Please explain what you are trying to prove. Was the universe not created and just happened, and what proof is there? Theories of expansion are theories. Who is capable of understanding the reality of existence? Where is their proof? What don't I accept that has been proven as fact? You believe what others have said, without any proof. That's being gullible. I believe when something has been proven as factual. Basically, what you are saying is that there is no creator, that the universe was made from an explosion , and that all matter what made out of nothing? Do you know that some scientists believe in God? That one poll of scientists said there was a 67% possibility God existed. Wouldn't that disprove a lot of their theories, at least to some? Most mathematicians believe there is a heaven. Where would this heaven come from if there wasn't a God. Lastly, why do YOU not believe in God. There are reasons like I explained earlier. You can follow others opinions like many do. I go by faith and common sense. You will see when you die who was right. God won't be happy with what you believe in, and he'll tell you so right then and there. Until that time comes, don't assume anymore. makes you look ignorant.

Kids can surely be brainwashed, as mine did for awhile, against the other parent by a vindictive, angry, inconsiderate jerk, but if the kids have contact, no matter how little, and when they get older, they can hear the other side, and more of the truth, and then realize they were duped, they can have a relationship with you, because that is what they want, unless they are so bitter by what they were told, they can't turn their thinking around and open their heart to what's real.

I've been searching all of my adult life for the right one, and kept falling in love with the wrong ones. I have a nice, honest, faithful girlfriend now, who was hurt by family and her husband and she's taken quite awhile to realize I'm in this to stay. She stayed with a man that did almost nothing as far as being a husband, father or provider until he passed away.Trust doesn't come easy to those damaged by fools. My ex was very pretty and did the wife things, as far as intimacy, cooking, cleaning around the house and helping at her mom's farm, very well, but communication wasn't there well because of her lack of English understanding., her being a covert narcissist, coming from an abusive and neglectful childhood, and depression. It led to misunderstandings and her actually kidnapping our child 4 times before I'd had enough of the nonsense and filed, to get my daughter back home, where I now have joint custody (living with me now while mom works elsewhere),until it's time for us to leave back to my real home, where my daughter will do much better. She wants to come back, but I don't return to someone I don't trust. She has a boyfriend now that's a local that abuses her, so I guess karma hit.

To the contrary, I understand science very well, and always aced on it in school, and am always open to learning new things about space and our planet, but that doesn't mean I'll ever accept a concept that the universe just happened and there wasn't a creator. You, like a couple of others here, are assuming you know what others know by just a few typed words and opinions. You don't. And there are many extremely intelligent "ordinary" people on this earth, and all scientists aren't geniuses., and always right. An hypothesis is a educated guess, an assumption, just like other assumptions, some of which aren't educated.

And it doesn't mean we are wrong either. And if an ordinary person who knew nothing of God or science was asked how all this came to be, common sense would say it was created by someone, meaning an entity that had the ability to create, and didn't just happen, because matter, which comprises everything in the universe, cannot just happen from nothing. Simple terms yes, but always a better explanation. Most people that are non believers have suffered a loss in their lives, and told themselves, if there was a God, he wouldn't let this happen. Or maybe a family member that abused them pushed religion down their throats until they turned against it. Or maybe a Catholic priest molested them, and they said, A God would not allow such things to happen. A few reasons to turn away, and millions of daily wonders to believe. Freedom to choose is what he gives us. I've known quite a few atheists in my lifetime, and all of them had doubts, and most suffered a loss they just knew couldn't happen if there was a God

Amazing how ignorant you are, again assuming, which is a huge sign of ignorance if you didn't already know. Gravity is a theory and a law, for your sake to maybe learn instead of posting your opinions. You again, are going by what some scientists have said, which is gullible. Having some evidence means they have a clue, having proof means proven. Having a gaseous atmosphere doesn't mean it can support life, and I assume you knew this? You can choose to not to believe in God, although we as believers have faith. His proof is in what we see daily. If you think all of the universe's and world's wonders, the different species, how the earth is exactly the right distance from the sun for life to exist, the human brain and body and the bodies of animals, and how they work, regarding food, air and water, and somehow think this all happened by itself, that's a lack of common sense. There are sadly many like you out there, that can't think for themselves and have to be followers of other humans. You, and the rest of the non believers, that have maybe been hurt by someone in their childhoods, who pushed religion on you in an abusive way, or maybe lost a friend or family member and said no way a God would allow this, will all find out when you pass, and then it might be too late to understand where you went wrong. And by the way it's spelled illiterate. And laughing to yourself doesn't help your cause.

We , meaning for your sake, the over 2 billion believers

Big Bang is a theory. One that hasn't been proven. I didn't say no scientists claimed there was nothing before this Big Bang, which may or may not have happened. I said matter has to come from something. This from one place.................. Today, the consensus among scientists, astronomers and cosmologists is that the Universe as we know it was created in a massive explosion that not only created the majority of matter, but the physical laws that govern our ever-expanding cosmos.............................. My theory is one of common sense, that matter was created, and since there are a few billion who believe in God, they, along with I, believe that God created everything, which makes more sense than a Big Bang that just happened to create our universe. How did this Big Bang happen, if it wasn't from God? There are more theories about the universes creation. We as believers think that God created the heavens and the earth, meaning the universe also. Or did God create some things and the rest just happened?Try not to assume what others you've never met know. You are being naive if you believe in a scientist or two that made guesses. Yes, many scientists know quite a lot about space, and what is out there. But no one knows anything about why or how it happened beyond just assuming. Some assume there is the possibility of life on planets outside of our solar system. This without seeing the planets or knowing if they have an atmosphere. Some believe these scientists because they have been right on other things. Some of us are skeptical, and for good reason. If you believed in God, you would understand his power.

I had three marriages that didn't work. Other girlfriends we parted company amicably, future plans weren't the same, as many do when things don't seem to be going in the same direction. You failed once, and you say your kids don't want to talk to you because your wife didn't allow this. We know different don't we? My children talk to me weekly, with the exception of one, who went to live with my first wife and has not done well in her relationships with men, and doesn't talk much to any of us because my ex is a very disturbed individual, and when you stay long enough with that kind, your thinking is skewed. When a relationship that isn't meant to last ends, it isn't a failure. It brings a chance for a better one the next time. Staying with the wrong person for any reason doesn't help anyone, including the children. Getting to know someone for many months is a lot better way of knowing if you're compatible. I didn't do that in a few relationships and it didn't work out because of that. You said you only failed once. Was your ex wife your only relationship with a woman? If not, how did the others end? And bringing God into this because in other posts I have told of my belief? God is always on your side, unless you turn your back on him. Then you have nothing, because most things in life end, and of course your life ends eventually. If you don't have God when that happens, you will see what happens, because we all talk to God eventually.