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8 hours ago, JimTripper said:

It's not simply translation. There is typically a highly emotional connection and attraction along with the communication barrier. For example, jealousy, hormones, puppy love...

 

That makes any initial problem much harder to work out if you're relying on a translator and can't really express your feelings or get your partner to sit in front of the phone.

 

This is real life, not school.

I've been around the block a few times and don't need advice on how to communicate. I'm enjoying a relationship with a non-English speaker. If that's not your thing, then get yourself an English speaker. If you think a Thai girl cannot express emotions in her own language and make it known in English through a translator, you have a lot to learn. Perhaps you should go to school.

8 hours ago, Will B Good said:

 

 

Presumably you have access to them....why not post your top ten on here?

So many members ask dumb questions on here. Everyone has access to them. Just access YouTube and search to your heart's content.

7 hours ago, Inderpland said:

Biden's gaffes? You mean the sitting president who's not up for reelection? Biden will quietly ride into the sunset after four years of excellent work cleaning up the mess of the Trump administration.

TRump will noisily ride into a jail cell where he will spend the rest of him miserable life, worrying every time he drops the soap in the shower.

I discussed the advantages of watching Sky News and used Biden's constant gaffes as an example of extra thorough coverage. 

25 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

😊 Still clutching at straws? 😊

One of your weakest responses yet, a sure sign of trolling. I don't suppose you know what it means.

7 minutes ago, NowNow said:

But an old man pretending that a young girl wants to have sex with him and pretending that it's a relationship is quite something else.

It's a shame you don't know when a girl is enjoying sex or not. Don't they teach you this in your psychology classes? You should get out and get some experience with some younger girls.

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Y  But we aren't all sex tourists here. Keep that in mind.

 

 

It sounds like you're a person who needs to get involved with some sex tourism. It might be an improvement on frequent discussions about psychology with your old Thai wife. Why are you spending so much time on here talking nonsense?

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Not side tracking, you did it twice, in separate posts. Also tried to make a big deal out of me mentioning Issan.

Old lady? I'm not old myself, wrinkly. 😊

 

So you're not even old, yet you're commenting on a thread that should only concern old guys. When you're old and wrinkly, and your partner is old and wrinkly too, you might be able to impart some knowledge on the subject. 

I stated my age and my partner's age. How about you man up and give us your details?

3 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

It's the other way around. I have less stress in my life, so I can be the voice of reason in stressful situations. She supports me in other ways.

You replied to the same post twice. It would seem your life is not as stress-free as you're making it to be. 

5 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Why would I try to have a serious and honest conversation with someone who tries to dismiss me as a Troll?

 

They buy gifts, they are actually attracted to me, (as I'm not some wrinkly old man pretending that a young woman wants to have sex with him), they can support themselves, we can discuss anything in depth, plan for the future, we support each other in all things...I could go on and on...

This is a standard. 

Others may be happy to buy themselves a woman. Up to them. But don't expect everyone to give you a pat on the back for it. Childish to call someone a Troll because they have a different perspective than yourself.

 

 

 

Now you're sidetracking by going on about the troll comment. 

I explained already I had a 20-year relationship with a lady 30 years my junior and we both came out of it on top, financially. It was profitable. We ran a business together and invested in real estate.

If you're satisfied with an old lady who can discuss psychology regularly, that's good for you.

You have a hard time accepting anything beyond your narrow way of thinking. That's a problem with people who consider themselves to be psychologists.

20 minutes ago, pattayasan said:

A majority of U.S. adults say former President Trump cares more about the needs and problems of wealthy Americans than Vice President Harris, a new survey revealed.

The recent YouGov poll shows that nearly two-thirds of U.S. adults, 63 percent, say Trump cares about the needs of the rich compared to 25 percent who said the same of Harris.

https://thehill.com/homenews/campaign/4967273-donald-trump-kamala-harris-wealthy-americans-survey/

 

Let's have a closer look at this ridiculous poll asking stupid questions of 1,126 respondents.

(yeah, 1126 web-based interviews suggesting "A majority of US adults say....)

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Interviewing Dates October 10 - 14, 2024 Target population U.S. citizens, aged 18 and over.

Sampling method Respondents were selected from YouGov’s opt-in panel to be representative of adult U.S. citizens.

Weighting The sample was weighted according to gender, age, race, education, 2020 election turnout and Presidential vote, baseline party identification, and current voter registration status. Demographic weighting targets come from the 2019 American Community Survey. Baseline party identification is the respondent’s most recent answer given prior to November 1, 2022, and is weighted to the estimated distribution at that time (33% Democratic, 31% Republican). The weights range from 0.052 to 5.208, with a mean of one and a standard deviation of 0.821.

Number of respondents 1126

Margin of error ± 3.8% (adjusted for weighting)

Survey mode Web-based interviews

Questions not reported 98 questions not reported.

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1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

 

Why is it that you scream Troll when someone has a different perspective than yours? A bit weak and pathetic don't you think? Man up!

Now...where were we?

We discuss psychology of people like yourself and her work colleagues. Not boring at all to understand the creatures that roam the earth. 

No, I don't believe that your girlfriend is attracted to you. How's that? You've been here long enough that you don't need to fool yourself. It's about the money.

I'm pretty sure that you have funded all of your relationships, one way or another. 

Apologies for suggesting your girl was from Issan, nothing bad about being from that region. Shame that you took it as an insult.

 

You are trolling, but never mind. Let's hear about your relationship. How old is she? How long have you been together discussing psychology? How do you know she likes you? Personally, I detest psychologists, thinking they can work out how other people think.

The shame is on you, openly showing that you think girls from 1/3 of Thailand are inferior.

1 hour ago, RSD1 said:

I can't even imagine what that's like. I speak fluent Thai and most of the time I still find meaningful conversation and anything more than superficial dialogue a challenge because of social and cultural differences. And that's coming from somebody who has lived in the country possibly even longer than your new native girlfriend has. But you've been together a month and you think you've already got it all worked out. Hopium. That's great. 
 

Two people trying to conduct a meaningful romantic relationship when neither speaks each other's language is like both people being bound to a wheelchair or a set of crutches. Thus, it will get old very quickly when the initial newness and allure of it all wears off. Having to reach for a smartphone and to type something out every time I want to talk to with my girlfriend would be torture, but that's just me.
 

To be honest, I'm not trying to be judgmental or critical of your relationship. I hope it works out the way that you are hoping and that it proves to be happy and fruitful for both of you. But I'm just being realistic. And from an outsiders perspective looking in, your longer term expectations seem unrealistic and clouded by a self fulfilling prophecy, unless either of you is going to make the effort necessary to become fluent in each other's language, which is at least a 3 to 4 year learning commitment. 
 

I assume you're going to think that I'm all wrong, that I don't know you or your girlfriend, and so there's no way that I could possibly understand. That's fine. I'll accept that criticism, knowing that there is objective truth to what I'm saying.

I'm quite ok with your criticism. No advice is necessary. That's why I like living in Thailand - the options are endless.

I've never had to use the translator during sex, with this lady or any others that couldn't speak English. Nearly all of the ladies I've been dating for the last several months didn't speak any English. I'm fine with it. I prefer to date women who haven't worked in a bar.

I'm old now. I live day to day.

59 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

People like me? I have a real partner who speaks two languages fluently and is educated to Masters level and beyond. We discuss psychology and much more on a regular basis. How about you? What do you discuss via Google Translate with your girl from Issan?

Ok, good! Your girl is well-educated. I don't need a girl to discuss psychology regularly, which sounds quite boring. Surprisingly, you continue to troll and stalk on here when you have a "Real Partner" to discuss more interesting topics with. My ex-Filipino wife spoke 3 languages fluently.

Your problem is you're fixated on the idea that a young lady can't enjoy the company of an older guy without payment. I could prove that over and over again as being incorrect as I've lived in SE Asia (Philippines and Thailand) for over 25 years full-time and had many relationships that didn't require payment. Truth be told, if I'm after a casual engagement, I prefer to pay so I don't get caught up in emotional dramas. You probably don't have much experience with younger women, but many of them have feelings about things other than money. I suggest you stay away from bar girls.

You're also sarcastically suggesting that all girls (of lower class) in Thailand are from the Isaan region. That's a discusting attitude of looking down on 1/3 of Thailand's population as being inferior. My gf is not from Isaan, but that's irrelevant. You probably should spend a bit more time studying and discussing psychology.

1 minute ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I never had a problem even if I didn't particularly like the person I was doing it with.

I'm not getting into why I might be with someone I didn't particularly like. Too complicated and not relevant anyway.

Well, aren't you the stud?

You don't have to like a girl to get aroused, I get that.

17 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

At least one of you spoke the other's language. So yours was a very different situation to the one I was referring to. Didn't you catch that?
 

"Romantic relationship" is just a polite generic term often used online to refer to any relationship between a man and a woman that involves sex. I wasn't referring to romance based on your interpretation of the word. Meanwhile, do people still really buy women flowers? The most I ever show up with is a bag of fresh fruit or maybe a bar of chocolate if I want to appear really chivalrous. 

The most romantic thing my girlfriend said to me was "I'm a teenager - I'm always ready" when I explained to her that I needed to prepare for sex (taking my drugs at the right time). LOL Her multiple orgasms speak louder than words.

41 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm not that bothered about conversations with women, as long as she can understand "get me a sandwich and a cold beer" it's all good.

 

But wasn't this thread about impotence?

Well, the quality of your relationship with a woman has a huge impact on your performance. With the wrong partner, I'm going to be impotent even if I'm not LOL

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

There's a huge difference.

For people like you who are satisfied with superficial conversation, there might be a big difference, but it doesn't take long to teach a lady English to your required level. Most girls manage that on YouTube.

4 hours ago, JimTripper said:

Unlikely. Usually the communication barrier is unsurmountable.

Unless you find a lady who has a high education with exceptional English skills, there's not much difference between a girl who knows conversational English and none at all. Using the translator will enable you to get deeper.

It's up to the patience of both partners.