hankypankee

About a week ago, I posted about my Thai girlfriend wanting breast implants. I wasn’t thrilled about the idea at first, but after all the responses I got on my post and some discussion with her (including her reassuring me she’d go for a modest size), I reluctantly agreed. I wanted to support her confidence, and I figured it would be a one-and-done situation. Well, I was wrong. Now, she’s suddenly intent on getting a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) all done at the same time. She says it’ll balance her new proportions and make her feel more confident. But honestly, this whole situation is starting to heavily stress me out. I’m beginning to feel overwhelmed trying to understand her brazen desire for these risky procedures without considering the dangers, and I’m worried about where this might all lead. The BBL isn’t a small thing. It’s invasive, carries significant risks, and comes with a tough recovery process. I’ve seen enough reports about complications—even with experienced surgeons—which makes me even more uneasy. I find myself lying awake at times wondering: What if something goes seriously wrong? And what if this newly formed obsession with modifying her body never stops? I’m not even sure this is really about her happiness anymore. Is she chasing some impossible ideal she saw on social media, or is there something deeper going on that no amount of surgery can fix? And then there’s the issue of where to get this done. Thailand is well-known for cosmetic surgery, but BBLs aren’t nearly as common here compared to breast implants or other procedures. That makes me even more nervous. Do we risk going to a less experienced surgeon in Thailand, or do we consider the added expense, travel, and stress of getting it done abroad? And even then, what if the results aren’t what she expects, or worse—what if there are long-term complications? On top of all that, her enthusiasm is wearing me down. She spends hours glued to her phone, scrolling through Instagram or watching influencers talk about their “BBL journeys.” She’s researched Bangkok clinics nonstop and talks about this procedure like it’s already decided. It feels like she’s rushing headfirst into something dangerous, and I’m the only one wanting to tap the brakes. I’m also starting to feel like this could change our relationship in ways I don’t fully understand. This isn’t just about money for me—though the costs are significant—it’s about what all of this means for us as a couple. These enhancement desires are coming so quickly, and I’m scared that no matter how much she modifies herself, it won’t be enough for her. And what happens to us as a couple if this new obsession spirals out of control? I want to support her, but I can’t shake this growing anxiety. Am I wrong, though? Should I just let her do what she feels will make her happy? Or should I draw a hard line and say, “Enough is enough”?

So, my Thai girlfriend of 7 years suddenly decided she wants to get a boob job. Not sure what triggered it, but now she’s asking for my approval. Here’s the thing: I think she doesn't need it. She is beautiful as is, just the way she was made, and I’ve expressed that clearly to her. But she insists it’s not for the reasons I might think, she says it’s about how it will make her feel inside. According to her, it’s not about making them very big or being flashy. She wants something that is still very natural-looking, but to help make clothes hang better and to boost her confidence. On the one hand, we all have insecurities. So if this will make her feel better about herself, should I be the one to stand in the way? It’s not an issue of cost, but I do wonder about how the change in appearance might affect her socially. Let’s be honest, people can become judgmental in Thailand, especially since she has a foreign boyfriend. So I'm concerned others could make negative assumptions about her. Will it change the way she’s treated in Thai circles and for the worse? There’s also a potential relationship aspect. She says that it’s only for her, and that it's her body, not for me or anyone else, and I guess I can accept that. But at the same time, I still feel a bit confused. Part of me wonders if her wanting my approval is because she’s hoping that this won’t change how I feel about her. Also there is the question of whether this will really give her the confidence she’s looking for. Not sure if surgery will make her feel more comfortable in her own skin, or if it is a case of wanting to chase perfection that might lead to further dissatisfaction down the road. Well, should I support her decision wholeheartedly and let her do whatever makes her happy? Or should I continue expressing my reservations? Have any of you been in a similar situation with your partner? Did the surgery actually deliver the confidence boost that was expected?

So much of a difference of opinions on how I should view things. I am even more confused now.

Thai women often tell me I’m a handsome man. Do you think they really mean it? I don’t go to bars. Most of the women telling me this are just in normal places like shopping malls, 7-11s, and local stores or restaurants. Often it’s just out of nowhere. I’m just an average looking guy. Never considered myself handsome. And I am a bit shy, so I’m not the kind of guy who goes around chatting up a lot of women. So I don’t feel like I’m encouraging them to say this. Do you think they maybe they wanting me to approach them for a romantic relationship when they say this to me? I can’t really tell.

She was probably expecting a long, oval-shaped custard donut. Now she's probably pondering divorce. Can't say I blame her.

There are often news articles, nearly every week in fact, referring to Thailand as being the hub of this or the hub of that. I’m not sure I fully understand what that means, but it seems like they are suggesting that Thailand is the leader or even the most successful in the region at whatever Thailand is being referred to as a hub for. So is Thailand really the hub of so many things in SE Asia or Asia in general? And what things do you feel that Thailand is really a hub for?

Seat backs on airplanes? How? I never saw that before. I fly at least 50 times a year. Those seats can move?

Mrs. Smith is bob's favorite and best go to fictional character. He recycles her for a new post whenever he runs out of ideas for a new made up story on how to bash the local population.

Saw that. Apparently he aims for his own eyes.

What a waste. Should have opened your mouth.

You sound like a typical grifter and a leach. Are you another of those foreigners in Thailand who has no money and is looking for ways to live off the backs of others?!

Thank you for confirming what I already thought. Are you also dealing with a cognitive disability or is that just your heavy alcoholism?

You seem like the kind of dude who shows up at a party and then everyone else suddenly leaves.

Looks like he enjoys his trolling, but seems he's terrible at keeping track of his lies.

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