hankypankee

So, my Thai girlfriend of 7 years suddenly decided she wants to get a boob job. Not sure what triggered it, but now she’s asking for my approval. Here’s the thing: I think she doesn't need it. She is beautiful as is, just the way she was made, and I’ve expressed that clearly to her. But she insists it’s not for the reasons I might think, she says it’s about how it will make her feel inside. According to her, it’s not about making them very big or being flashy. She wants something that is still very natural-looking, but to help make clothes hang better and to boost her confidence. On the one hand, we all have insecurities. So if this will make her feel better about herself, should I be the one to stand in the way? It’s not an issue of cost, but I do wonder about how the change in appearance might affect her socially. Let’s be honest, people can become judgmental in Thailand, especially since she has a foreign boyfriend. So I'm concerned others could make negative assumptions about her. Will it change the way she’s treated in Thai circles and for the worse? There’s also a potential relationship aspect. She says that it’s only for her, and that it's her body, not for me or anyone else, and I guess I can accept that. But at the same time, I still feel a bit confused. Part of me wonders if her wanting my approval is because she’s hoping that this won’t change how I feel about her. Also there is the question of whether this will really give her the confidence she’s looking for. Not sure if surgery will make her feel more comfortable in her own skin, or if it is a case of wanting to chase perfection that might lead to further dissatisfaction down the road. Well, should I support her decision wholeheartedly and let her do whatever makes her happy? Or should I continue expressing my reservations? Have any of you been in a similar situation with your partner? Did the surgery actually deliver the confidence boost that was expected?

So much of a difference of opinions on how I should view things. I am even more confused now.

Thai women often tell me I’m a handsome man. Do you think they really mean it? I don’t go to bars. Most of the women telling me this are just in normal places like shopping malls, 7-11s, and local stores or restaurants. Often it’s just out of nowhere. I’m just an average looking guy. Never considered myself handsome. And I am a bit shy, so I’m not the kind of guy who goes around chatting up a lot of women. So I don’t feel like I’m encouraging them to say this. Do you think they maybe they wanting me to approach them for a romantic relationship when they say this to me? I can’t really tell.

She was probably expecting a long, oval-shaped custard donut. Now she's probably pondering divorce. Can't say I blame her.

There are often news articles, nearly every week in fact, referring to Thailand as being the hub of this or the hub of that. I’m not sure I fully understand what that means, but it seems like they are suggesting that Thailand is the leader or even the most successful in the region at whatever Thailand is being referred to as a hub for. So is Thailand really the hub of so many things in SE Asia or Asia in general? And what things do you feel that Thailand is really a hub for?

Seat backs on airplanes? How? I never saw that before. I fly at least 50 times a year. Those seats can move?

Mrs. Smith is bob's favorite and best go to fictional character. He recycles her for a new post whenever he runs out of ideas for a new made up story on how to bash the local population.

Saw that. Apparently he aims for his own eyes.

What a waste. Should have opened your mouth.

You sound like a typical grifter and a leach. Are you another of those foreigners in Thailand who has no money and is looking for ways to live off the backs of others?!

Thank you for confirming what I already thought. Are you also dealing with a cognitive disability or is that just your heavy alcoholism?

You seem like the kind of dude who shows up at a party and then everyone else suddenly leaves.

Looks like he enjoys his trolling, but seems he's terrible at keeping track of his lies.

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