96tehtarp

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Wow, what a day, after my last post I brought her to her parents home with the baby and kept my 2 year old with me, we went to a playground and had some fun and then went home.

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Now I know this is probably not(but I hope it is) going to be the last time she is going to try to divorce and take the kids, I'm going to try to cement myself into this country by trying to find a job etc. so I can stay here even if we aren't married and so that I can take care my kids or at least be able to keep an eye on their living situation.

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@96tehtarp, thanks I will look into those things especially now she is in the home now. I'll just copy all her papers when she isn't home. Making her signature them will be a problem though, she is keen when it comes to these things and she will know I'm up to something.

Someone will correct me if I'm wrong but I believe all those unsigned copies are useless without her signature on them. Having copies is still better than no copies.

If (when) your visa situation in Thailand goes nusto you will need to get a new Non-O visa in a neighbouring country. I don't believe Turkish nationals are restricted from doing this but I believe FX. Egyptians can only get visas in Egypt. Check your situation.

If you don't have a Thai driver's licence, apply for one. Have her sign 4 copies of everything and then you have extra copies. Do this or think of anything to get signed copies. You'll need them when applying for for your visa. Another way to get her to sign is registering your infant at the Turkish embassy, get her to sign 5 or more copies, preferably just prior to your handing over some cash.

Your post this morning reads like a textbook. Your wife had a meeting with her parents and other Thai people in her circle, the police came. She wanted money. You gave it. She settled down... until next time. It looks like it's all about the money. It is all about the money.

Good luck.

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Thanks for your replies, I've asked her to come with me to see a doctor, but she denies having a depression and I can't talk her into doing anything.

Bringing her to court is an option, but it's not a guarantee they will see that as enough proof of abuse. Perhaps the judges will think it was a one time happening or something. Too bad I didn't take more voice records before and now she knows I record it so she acts very sweet to my daughter.

About taking the kids to Turkey, that's kind of impossible because the baby isn't registered with the embassy yet, and I can't do that without bringing her there. My other daughter has a Passport though and I've even thought about only bringing her, because I didn't see my wife has a problem with the small baby, but then again I don't know what would happen at the border because the mother isn't with me. Also I don't really want to leave the small baby to her fate like that.

I honestly don't see things getting better from here as I hear the things she says, her family is also not supportive in this matter, they're completely ignoring me and not trying to do any counseling or something.

I read on another post on the forum that the extension wont be canceled until the divorce is completed and that they will tell her that it is a civil matter? Also, in case I would accept to divorce with her, I can probably still get an extension based on taking care of my child?

"Bringing her to court is an option, but it's not a guarantee they will see that as enough proof of abuse. Perhaps the judges will think it was a one time happening or something. Too bad I didn't take more voice records before and now she knows I record it so she acts very sweet to my daughter."

Try purchasing some IP cameras an an IT mall either in Turkey or here in Thailand. Then leave them on when you are out. I doubt a few clips of her abusing the children will be enough to help in a custody battle as courts usually favour the mother in custody battles.

I really think you may want to contact and talk with a divorce lawyer here in Thailand well in advance of the divorce and without your wife's knowledge. You can plan exactly what you want before going to the amphur to register your divorce. The lawyer can write the agreement beforehand.

Start collecting documentation in a secure place. Birth certificates, copies of her Tabian bahn, ID card, marriage certificate, etc and find a way to get her to sign copies. That way you will have necessary copies of what you will need if you must get a 90 day non-O visa's in a neighbouring country eg. Savanakhet Laos. - if your extension of stay should fall apart.

Double check with your embassy to make sure you cannot register the infant without your wife being present.

Good luck.

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Recently I had a family member of an acquaintance from Europe pass through town. He'd be best described as a punk complete with Mohawk haircut. The security guards went wild in Tesco lotus. They were all over us like flies on honey, peeping around corners, talking to each other on walkie talkies together and monitoring our every move. There were more than half a dozen plain-clothed security guards watching us closely. The punk was oblivious. I wasn't. It was a real eye opener.

Fink I would avoid your family member. Anyone who wants to look like that wants attention, he got it...No problem...

It was a family member of an acquaintance. It's funny as he had a normal haircut before coming to Thailand. He probably thought it would be cool to sport that Mohawk hairdo while gallivanting around Khao San Rd. I've only been there once in 20+ years.

Thanks everybody for your help and advice

She went for the interview last Monday - they didn't want to see the suitcase full of supporting documents (slight exageration) she had.They asked a couple of questions about her trips to Europe and me.

She didn't think to ask (being Thai) if she had a visa or not then and there so we had to wait till Friday when the passport came back with her 10 year USA visa - more than mine on a Visa waiver (2 years).

Stressful but painless.

Thanks again

Congratulations!

Udoth yours is not a happy situation. Hang in there and don't do anything rash you might regret later. My second ex Thai wife was a nutter, fortunately I found out about this before we had a chance to make any babies together. We had none.

Good Luck to you and your family.

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I rarely give the store security guards much of a second look. I don't steal so I don't need to. I always check my cart before going through the checkout in order to make sure there are no "misunderstandings" over pre-weighed items etc. as mentioned in the OP.

Recently I had a family member of an acquaintance from Europe pass through town. He'd be best described as a punk complete with Mohawk haircut. The security guards went wild in Tesco lotus. They were all over us like flies on honey, peeping around corners, talking to each other on walkie talkies together and monitoring our every move. There were more than half a dozen plain-clothed security guards watching us closely. The punk was oblivious. I wasn't. It was a real eye opener.

I always check my pockets before going through the checkout, just in case something ended up in there that shouldn't be there.

However, I don't agree with the part about wearing a "NO CODE" tag and I doubt many doctors wear one. There are simply too many circumstances where it might make sense to get out the paddles. Too many cases where what ails you is very treatable and you'll totally recover. This is where the Living Will would come into play. When you have a Living Will, you specify under what conditions you want "NO CODE" or really, the proper term is "No Life Support" and this would rule out tube feeding, intubation, and other extraordinary forms of life support. You would simply be kept comfortable, clean and free of pain.