stuck

Don't be too hard on your self Stuck,

You are a good person to see her side of it and all. But don't forget you did all you could, trying to get her help. You went to see a doctor and got medication for her. She is responsible for taking it, or not. You certainly didn't just walk out on her.

You're wrong. She isn't capable of taking her medicine by herself. I'm going to get her to educate her friends so they can see if she is off her meds and help her get back on.

She cannot think rationally. Period.

So what are your next steps mate?

My wife says she went to a psychiatrist in Nong Khai. They want her to continue on the Depakine and the Prozac. She is sliding toward depression. She wants to go to Bangkok and get a job like she had before. She was doing computer support for Big C for the POS terminals in the stores.

I will ask our doctor in Pattaya to recommend a good hospital and doctor in Bangkok. I will pay the bills directly so I'm sure she sees the doctors.

I do not want to live in the USA. I will likely go to a South American Country with Jonathan and getting her a visa out will not be a problem. It will be nuetral territory not Thailand and he will enter as an American Citizen.

I have to play this by ear but I promised her that she will see her son again, and I meant it. In the meantime we will keep in contact via pictures, movies and video chat. I will not withhold him from her but Thailand is out of the question because of their goofy laws.

So happy for you and your son--also sad for his mother. Best of luck to all of you.

His mother is my wife. In the heat of all this I lost sight of the fact that she is bipolar and wasn't properly medicated. She isn't at fault here, she is a victim. We are all victims of this disease called bipolar disorder.

I will find a way to reunite this family but now I must do my part from here and she must do what she can (with my help) in Thailand. She really doesn't understand what happened, it is as if she has understanding of some things and other things miss her completely.

She asks me "why did you leave me alone" and that says it all. I did and it tears me apart to think about it.

Don't feel horrible Stuck, you did what you had to do and you are still acting in the interest of your child. I can only applaud that.

She's a mess. She's sliding from mania to depression and in the slide she is understanding and realizing the things she did. She still has some things she says that contradict but she understands that what she did caused me to act and she blames herself.

She asked me to forgive her. I did. But I still want to help her and it breaks my heart to have her suffering. She's still my wife and still my boy's mother.

That hasn't changed.

I feel horrible. Yes I did the right thing but I still feel horrible about it.

I'm talking to her and I want to help her. I told her I forgave her for everything, now is the time to get her well. I feel horrible about everything but I had to protect Jonathan.

Stuck - we spoke before about this situation. I'm very happy that things have worked out ok for you and your son. But I would ask that you keep in contact with his mother, perhaps send photos of him so that she can see that he is well looked after etc. I said that you should not meet your wife on Thai soil. It would be good if she could meet you and your son in the future, perhaps in a country near Thailand to which she can freely travel to.

I say all this because - as we discussed - your wife has a mental illness over which she does not have full control, and she is very suggestible to ideas from others etc. Despite all this, she is still the mother of your son and has never harmed him intentionally.

Good luck

Simon

H, I was actually referring to the grandmother, I understand ur wifes problem. I'm just so glad you ended up seeing that message from the tv member that helped you with the phone & also that legend that did the footwork for you up there. I would also luv to know if you ended up bumping into the scumbag farang....someone should blow the whistle on the GRUB

He's quite active up to a few hours ago. I told Grandma to burn in Buddha hel_l. I have some things for the American, he will get all that he deserves. The same talent at the keyboard will be used to make his life a living hel_l.

And that is where he is going.

Yes, Im glad the op took that advice & I'm glad it went so smoothly for him....good effort and now Jonathan & H can start their new life in Cali, stoked for both of you & again it looks live evil has failed, would love to see the look on the old witches face now

I have nothing but pity and sadness for her. You all have to understand that she has a mental illness. I really believe it isn't her fault and as bipolars are so suggestible, I know that the American and her mother have been driving her actions.

You'll understand more when I can put bit to the byte and tell you what happened in Nong Khai.

H, I was actually referring to the grandmother, I understand ur wifes problem. I'm just so glad you ended up seeing that message from the tv member that helped you with the phone & also that legend that did the footwork for you up there. I would also luv to know if you ended up bumping into the scumbag farang....someone should blow the whistle on the GRUB

I knew this a few days ago. What I didn't tell everyone, was that I asked my friends and associates for monetary help and I got it. almost 10k my friends sent me.

I consider it all a loan even though many called it a donation.

I thought I could pay it back and get on my feet again by selling my story.

It's a hel_l of a story with a good and bad ending. Jonathan is not the only victim in this saga.

Wonderful news.

Why not write this story up and send it to Columbia Pictures.

No joking, I think this should be shared with the public, even as a warning to those who are considering getting into relationships in Thailand.

The movie could be titled: Six Days of hel_l in Paradise.

I was a journalist back in the UK for a time and know a winner when I see it.

The revenue from the film would pay for the childs education and future prosperity.

In the meantime, good luck to you Sir and I can assure you that all ThaiVisa members are on your side.

Yes, Im glad the op took that advice & I'm glad it went so smoothly for him....good effort and now Jonathan & H can start their new life in Cali, stoked for both of you & again it looks live evil has failed, would love to see the look on the old witches face now

I have nothing but pity and sadness for her. You all have to understand that she has a mental illness. I really believe it isn't her fault and as bipolars are so suggestible, I know that the American and her mother have been driving her actions.

You'll understand more when I can put bit to the byte and tell you what happened in Nong Khai.

I should add, the police in Chonburi were 100 percent behind me. I went there with two policeman and we had one in Nong Khai.

The story is like something out of Serpico or the French Connection. It had all the elements except murder and that won't happen now as we are both safe in the USA.

The Thai Police were wonderful, and not because I paid them. Both were fathers and one of them shed a few tears when I got him. I had support from the highest levels of the government in Chonburi. I was relentless. Jonathan was gone for 6 days. He was holding his grandma's hand on the porch of her brothel with pandemonium around her.

***unnecessary details removed--sbk***

There is psychological damage to Jonathan - I see it already - scared of the dark - scared of women, and he won't let me leave the room without following me.

The "taking" happened as quick as lightning - it was well planned and a surprise.

Gotta go, we are both going to get something to eat at Denny's.

More later.

I don't have a lot of time to explain what happened but I will let everyone know. Make no mistake, it was the people who helped me from Thaivisa that made it happen.

One man kept track of everyone's mobile so I knew where they were.

One man went to Nong Khai, took pictures, surveyed the area and even sent his brother in law inside for sexual services looking for Jonathan. If he wants public recognition he will let me know. He was probably the most instrumental in finding the location and finding the nickname of the street.

Everything and everyone worked together. I played detective behind this keyboard for hours and hours everyday and that paid off as well. Some idiot admonished me here about being on the computer, it was these skills and the help from others that allow Jonathan to bitch at me for not paying attention to him while I write this.

He's bitching at me from a hotel room in Los Angeles USA.

Enough said - more later.

Thank you everyone.

H

I remember the last time I simmered in the water at Jomtien. I remember it distinctly because it was well over a year ago and it was the last time I went in the water.

While simmering in the water I noticed a few sanitary napkins float past.

It was the last time. These scumbags who take care of the ocean and this so called "resort" town purposely pollute the waters for financial gain.

The OP is looking for a penis extension LOL !

And you are looking for attention. LOL. Are you a troll?

It is called the Ravi Market.

I would not be in a great hurry to get to that store.

I was in there last week and they had practically no stock. It was nothing like it had been a couple of years ago.

They did have Australian ghee in a tin and I might stop by again to buy some as haven't seen it before. Between Friendship and Foodland, you an get a surprising amount of spices and tinned/bottled sauces.

Got to have a real Indian restraunt around though for take-out naan.

I found it, and you're right I drove by slowly and could see nothing but empty shelves and what I did see looked like junk food. At least I know where it is and it is further down the road from the perpendicular street that goes to Tukcom.

Let's hope the ship wasn't taken by Somali a$$holes. I'm getting used to eating Indian food every day.

If you go to 2nd rd to where Soi Diamond is cross the rd and go up soi 17 and the shop is up on the right hand side.

How far up the road?

Mods can close this if they like. Thanks to Naam, I now have a wonderful nanny looking after my son.

I'm told there is an Indian Market in Pattaya near some Sikh Temple. Does anyone know where it is and would you post directions on how to get there from Sukhumvit Road.

Good luck and don't forget to get the paperwork getting full custody if not already done.

TheWalkingMan

This is all one step at a time. I need my time back and it has to happen quickly. If I were rich I think I'd like taking care 24/7 but I don't have that luxury.

This father has been caring 24/7 for his toddler while his bipolar wife nuts around Thailand telling everyone how horrible her "FARANG" is because he cut off all monies.

Wife is moving out (Thank you) and leaving baby with me. The income stream has stopped completely and if Daddy doesn't get some time it won't ever start again.

We live in a house in Pattaya off Sukhumvhit and need someone fast. Ideas?

Maybe she already has a diagnosis?

Don't jump to a conclusion like that so quickly. It maight be useful if the OP gives a location as well. As mentioned, there are several places that offer Psychiatrists, I'd recommend seeing a Psychiatrist that has had some training in the west.

As for treatment, depending on the medication, it is very tricky working out doseage, and a lot of this needs careful monitoring, so not a silly question.

I looked up the disease on WebMD and a few other websites. I took the assessment as an observer and my wife took it as well. It points to bipolar disorder. The shrink put her on Depakine so he must have agreed. Actually he did agree.

My wife is bipolar and needs a good psychiatrist who specialises in this disorder. Please advise.