The Good Wife Guide

[rollergirl]

This is an actual extract from a Home Economics textbook printed in the

early 60's ........

The Good Wife Guide.

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return from work. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

Gather up school books, toys, papers etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables. During the colder months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Minimise all noise.

At the time of his arrival eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first, remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late home for dinner, or even stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom.

Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange the pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.

Once he has had a chance to have his evening meal clear the dishes and wash up promptly. If your husband should offer to help decline his offer as he may feel obliged to repeat this offer and after a long working day he does not need the extra work.

Encourage your husband to pursue his hobbies and interests and be supportive without seeming to encroach. If you have any little hobbies yourself try not to bore him speaking of these, as women's interests are often rather trivial compared to men's.

At the end of the evening tidy the home ready for the morning and again think ahead to his breakfast needs. Your husband's breakfast is vital if he is to face the outside world in a positive fashion.

Once you have both retired to the bedroom prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed.

Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night. When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it.

In all things be lead by your husband's wishes, do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress then accede humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had. Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent.

It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.

[Mid]

oh , the Good Old Days .........................

[November Rain]

I'm totally lost for words! No wonder so many men resented Women's Lib! Having said that, can't see many men these days being satisfied with a "small moan" to show appreciation of his sexual technique...

[Bredbury Blue]

Ah those were the days...

[Phil Conners]

Anything wrong with that?

[solid]

wow, that's one heck of a list.

A good wife in my book? She should be his inspiration.

[TheWalkingMan]

If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.

I felt my shock when a GF started plucking her underarm hair while watching the telly with me.

TheWalkingMan

[suegha]

I have heard these before but I thought they were from the 50s rather than the 60s - not that that would make that bit a difference except the the womans lib 'thing' started in the 60s.

[Jet Gorgon]

Thanks for the reminder, Rollergirl. One movie wraps that idea up succinctly -- Mona Lisa's Smile (Julia Roberts) as an art prof at Wellesley in the 50s. Yikes.

[rollergirl]

I was thinking more of Stepford wives

[farangsay]

I'm totally lost for words! No wonder so many men resented Women's Lib! Having said that, can't see many men these days being satisfied with a "small moan" to show appreciation of his sexual technique...

Just a personal opinion but that's preferable to the other extreme which , when it exceeds

the volume level of the average trumpeting elephant , can put you right off your stroke.

[MiG16]

all I can say is Im so glad Im in the present age. if men arent happy with it...Ill just look for the next cutest girl on the block ahhh cheers to liberty and freedom

[davidjtayler]

Take note ladies .... I didn't see any mention of a soothing massage after the 'hard days work' ... maybe needs updating ...

By the way I just ran it by my wife and she told me to 'go fark myself' !

[girlx]

i just wonder where the guide to being a good husband is?

[farangsay]

i just wonder where the guide to being a good husband is?

Right here :

The Good Husband's Guide (2006)

1. If your wife has dinner ready, she probably took great care to plan ahead for this meal. This is

her way of letting you know that she has been thinking about you and is concerned about your needs.

If you aren't hungry, at least thank her for preparing a good meal and providing you with a warm welcome.

2. How does she look? If she looks haggard and weary and has spots and stains on her clothes, she has most likely had a very difficult day. If she looks refreshed, it is likely because she rushed to finish her housework and then took a few minutes (or more) to appear refreshed when you arrived. Appreciate

her efforts either way.

3. Speak to her. She's spent her entire day with the dog and children - none of which can conduct an adult conversation. It will help her to feel connected to the world to speak with another adult.

4. Is the house clean? Children play and make messes - that is their job. If the house is clean, appreciate the effort she made to clear away the clutter. If not, understand that other things might have come up and she may not have had time to pick up.

5. If the children are clean and happy to see you, realize that she must have taken an effort to clean them up. (Clean is not a child's natural state.)

6. Greet her with a warm smile, a kiss and ask her how her day was. You don't really have to listen, but at least pretend you are.

7. She may have a dozen important things to tell you and understands that the moment of your arrival is not the time. You may not think she could have anything important to say, but take some time between your daily dump and hockey playoffs to listen to what she has to say.

8. Try to understand that her world has its own strains and pressures and she needs quiet time just as much as you do. (If you doubt this, try doing her job for a day.)

9. Her goal is to try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility. If it isn't, understand that she had to spend the whole day in it - you got to be away from it.

10. Don't greet her with complaints and problems.

11. Don't complain if she's late in preparing dinner or even if she asks you to pick up take-out on the way home. Count this as minor compared to what she might have gone through that day.

12. Allow her to be comfortable. Let her lean back in a comfortable chair or lie down in the bedroom while you spend some time with your children. She could use the break and they can always use your attention.

13. Don't yell. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

14. Don't ask her questions about her actions or question her judgment or integrity. Remember, she is tasked with managing the entire household, maintaining the house and grounds, budgeting, paying bills, shopping, cooking, cleaning and caring for your children. It is a very serious job to her and she will always carry out her duties with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question her.

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15. A good husband always realizes how lucky he is to have a wife that takes care of him, his castle and his little princes and/or princesses.

http://www.families.com/cocotbo/journal/th...s-guide-2006,51

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[chanchao]

> i just wonder where the guide to being a good husband is?

No need, it comes naturally to all men.

[Wolfie]

i just wonder where the guide to being a good husband is?

Right here :

The Good Husband's Guide (2006)

1. If your wife has dinner ready, she probably took great care to plan ahead for this meal. This is

her way of letting you know that she has been thinking about you and is concerned about your needs.

If you aren't hungry, at least thank her for preparing a good meal and providing you with a warm welcome.

2. How does she look? If she looks haggard and weary and has spots and stains on her clothes, she has most likely had a very difficult day. If she looks refreshed, it is likely because she rushed to finish her housework and then took a few minutes (or more) to appear refreshed when you arrived. Appreciate

her efforts either way.

3. Speak to her. She's spent her entire day with the dog and children - none of which can conduct an adult conversation. It will help her to feel connected to the world to speak with another adult.

4. Is the house clean? Children play and make messes - that is their job. If the house is clean, appreciate the effort she made to clear away the clutter. If not, understand that other things might have come up and she may not have had time to pick up.

5. If the children are clean and happy to see you, realize that she must have taken an effort to clean them up. (Clean is not a child's natural state.)

6. Greet her with a warm smile, a kiss and ask her how her day was. You don't really have to listen, but at least pretend you are.

7. She may have a dozen important things to tell you and understands that the moment of your arrival is not the time. You may not think she could have anything important to say, but take some time between your daily dump and hockey playoffs to listen to what she has to say.

8. Try to understand that her world has its own strains and pressures and she needs quiet time just as much as you do. (If you doubt this, try doing her job for a day.)

9. Her goal is to try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility. If it isn't, understand that she had to spend the whole day in it - you got to be away from it.

10. Don't greet her with complaints and problems.

11. Don't complain if she's late in preparing dinner or even if she asks you to pick up take-out on the way home. Count this as minor compared to what she might have gone through that day.

12. Allow her to be comfortable. Let her lean back in a comfortable chair or lie down in the bedroom while you spend some time with your children. She could use the break and they can always use your attention.

13. Don't yell. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

14. Don't ask her questions about her actions or question her judgment or integrity. Remember, she is tasked with managing the entire household, maintaining the house and grounds, budgeting, paying bills, shopping, cooking, cleaning and caring for your children. It is a very serious job to her and she will always carry out her duties with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question her.

Sponsors (article continues below)

15. A good husband always realizes how lucky he is to have a wife that takes care of him, his castle and his little princes and/or princesses.

http://www.families.com/cocotbo/journal/th...s-guide-2006,51

POTWU !

What a load of codswollop! (I did quote the right post, didnt i? )