Is 'polyamory' Existing In Thailand ?

[LaoPo]

Polyamory* (from poly=multiple + amor=love) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamorous perspectives differ from monogamous perspectives, in that they respect a partner's wish to have second or further meaningful relationships and to accommodate these alongside their existing relationships.

Polyamory is not to be regarded the same as Polygamy**

I know that 'having a Mia Noi' is widely accepted in Thailand amongst the better- or well-to-do, but it seems that there is a worldwide 'interest' to live a different relationship-lifestyle, other than the normal marriage/relationship, amongst some people, called Polyamory.

It's known that quite a few men in Thailand, also amongst some High-So people, are married, more or less officially, to more than one spouse, which in fact is Polygamy.

Polyamory* however is something different, as explained above.

How is that in Thailand ?

Do you know people who live with more than one loved-one, with the full consent of the other(s) ?

*Polyamory: from Wikipedia

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

** The term polygamy (many marriages in late Greek) is used in related ways in social anthropology, sociobiology, and sociology. Polygamy can be defined as any "form of marriage in which a person [has] more than one spouse."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy

LaoPo

[jumnien]

Have a Thai friend with 3 wives of different ages. They run a roadside steakhouse. they all live together. Two sleep with him in his bedroom. The third stays with the newborn. They all seem to get along great. They work together all day and smile a lot!

[LaoPo]

Have a Thai friend with 3 wives of different ages. They run a roadside steakhouse. they all live together. Two sleep with him in his bedroom. The third stays with the newborn. They all seem to get along great. They work together all day and smile a lot!

So, Polyamory is possible..OR, if they're married* is it Polygamy ?

* according to Muslim laws.

LaoPo

[lazeeboy]

Have a Thai friend with 3 wives of different ages. They run a roadside steakhouse. they all live together. Two sleep with him in his bedroom. The third stays with the newborn. They all seem to get along great. They work together all day and smile a lot!

the thai's are glutton for punishment ,i have 1 ,and she drives me up the wall ,3 and i'd top myself for sure

[luckyluke]

[LaoPo]

Bump!

Is 'polyamory' Existing In Thailand ?, Poly=Multiple + Amor = Love

Or, in other words:

Love between 3 or more people, living together.

I'm surprised this topic didn't receive more answers; but maybe Polyamory doesn't exist, on a wider scale, in LOS ?

LaoPo

[wileycoyote]

Bump!

Love between 3 or more people, living together.

I'm surprised this topic didn't receive more answers; but maybe Polyamory doesn't exist, on a wider scale, in LOS ?

LaoPo

Perhaps they are all to busy to join the Forum !

[adjan jb]

I'm surprised this topic didn't receive more answers;

This topic didn't receive more answers because there are not enough French posters.

[Khutan]

Perhaps they are all to busy to join the Forum !

LMAO

[farangsay]

From the way LP posted this and then bumped I think he might be seeking persuasive words for when he discusses the issue with her indoors.

I can't help much. No real experience. Just a serial monogamist me.

Come on guys , help a mate out !

[ratchabuild]

I was talking about it to a taxi driver in cairo and he explained that poor as he was he had to maintain two households because his two wives would kill each other on sight. Polyamory exists all over the world so has to be in Thailand too, whether or not they call it by that name. Of course polyamory isn't restricted to man and two women, it can be any combination of any sexes though I believe the trio is a popular one, often with two men and one woman.

[LaoPo]

From the way LP posted this and then bumped I think he might be seeking persuasive words for when he discusses the issue with her indoors.

I can't help much. No real experience. Just a serial monogamist me.

Come on guys , help a mate out !

..I know....I know....you're just curious, aren't you ?

But, I'm afraid I can't speak of experience...that's why I'm curious as well but surprised at the same time with the non-attention to the topic.

Maybe the topic should have been called: : "does your MIA NOI love your wife too ?" or maybe people aren't familiar enough with the expression 'Polyamory'...hmmm...

LaoPo

[ratchabuild]

From the way LP posted this and then bumped I think he might be seeking persuasive words for when he discusses the issue with her indoors.

I can't help much. No real experience. Just a serial monogamist me.

Come on guys , help a mate out !

..I know....I know....you're just curious, aren't you ?

But, I'm afraid I can't speak of experience...that's why I'm curious as well but surprised at the same time with the non-attention to the topic.

Maybe the topic should have been called: : "does your MIA NOI love your wife too ?" or maybe people aren't familiar enough with the expression 'Polyamory'...hmmm...

LaoPo

The word you are searching for is threesome and has nothing to do with polyamory

[Patsycat]

From a female point of view -

I would marry for love and respect but i would never be able to share my husband with another woman. The jealosy factor would come into it in a big way, he is mine and nobody others.

[AlexLah]

Patsy,

You cannot 'own' a person.

Jealous means that you are afraid to loose or perhaps scared that you are not good enough.

[Capantha]

can of worms me thinks

[chavy]

Being married to more than one person & living with them has me scratching my head...why would anybody want to go through all that is beyond me...although personally I have never married so maybe difficult for me to understand..perhaps these people like the wedding receptions

One wife (or husband from the female point of view) seems to me to be more than enough...then have a secret bit on the side by all means !

[chinthee]

LaoPo you old devil. You are fishing for swingers on this forum aren't you? You should know there are better places to do that for...ahem, group activities.

[Jimjim]

I think Thais are much more into this polyamory than most farangs, so I think you'd get more response on a Thai language forum for men. Don't know of one, though. I have met at least one girl that described her father and his setup with his two wives. As long as one doesn't up and go crazy and knife the other wife or the husband, I suppose it's ok. My girlfriend surely would never put up with that, as she is too proud. Good or bad? Ha ha, I think good.

[LaoPo]

LaoPo you old devil. You are fishing for swingers on this forum aren't you? You should know there are better places to do that for...ahem, group activities.

No, swinging is not my piece of cake but Polyamory fascinates me and it's more and more in the Western press.

Personally I think it's a 'difficult to achieve' kind of lifestyle as it asks a lot of all lovers involved:

"Polyamory (from poly=multiple + amor=love) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamorous perspectives differ from monogamous perspectives, in that they respect a partner's wish to have second or further meaningful relationships and to accommodate these alongside their existing relationships.

The term polyamory is sometimes abbreviated to poly, especially as a form of self-description, and is sometimes described as consensual and/or responsible non-monogamy. Polyamory is usually taken as a description of a lifestyle or relational choice and philosophy, rather than of individuals' actual relationship status at a given moment. There is a certain fluidity in its definition, to accommodate the different shades of meaning which might be covered. Polyamorous relationships are themselves varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals concerned.

Polyamory is distinct from polygamy, being closer to a personal outlook than a predefined bonding system. It is grounded in such concepts as choice, trust, equality of freewill, and the more novel idea of compersion, rather than in cultural or religious tradition."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

Also, I haven't seen such a relationship for a long, long time.

The first-and-only I knew of was a personal friend of mine who married for the first time and took both his wife and their mutual lady-lover on honeymoon...

btw: he's divorced now and re-married

LaoPo

[chinthee]

I've known of these types of relationships, but won't discuss them on this public forum. Sorry.

[toptuan]

I've known of these types of relationships, but won't discuss them on this public forum. Sorry.

Oh you Teaser, you!

[toptuan]

That New Yorker cover:

Utah plates on that buggy?

Edited August 31, 2007 by toptuan

[lannarebirth]

I have my theiry. People that are incapable of loving even one person, are often capaple of not loving more than one.

[chinthee]

Utah plates on that buggy?

you have no idea.

[LaoPo]

Utah plates on that buggy?

you have no idea.

Now, WHO is calling WHO an 'old devil' ?

I'm almost sure your lady-lovers forbid you to answer or you have to sleep in the guest room....

LaoPo

[chinthee]

Utah plates on that buggy?

you have no idea.

Now, WHO is calling WHO an 'old devil' ?

I'm almost sure your lady-lovers forbid you to answer or you have to sleep in the guest room....

LaoPo

I refuse to answer on the grounds it may tend to incriminate me.

[ratchabuild]

From a female point of view -

I would marry for love and respect but i would never be able to share my husband with another woman. The jealosy factor would come into it in a big way, he is mine and nobody others.

Its your view and thats what counts if you are a part of a relationship. Jealousy is the most corrosive of emotions and no good ever comes out of it. It makes people crazy and destroys lives. Obviously the potential for jealousy in any situation has to be dealt with. Perhaps you should think of polyamory as less to do with sex and lore to do with the multi faceted nature of relationships. A mother has no problem loving all three of her children, we are raised and have no problem loving our two parents, we can love our siblings and yes in lots of cass that love is uneven and one is a favourite but we have to deal with it and allow for it and work around it. I think polyamory people are less hung up on sex than others and perhaps se it as more recreational than spiritual ie they love their partners in everything they do and share and sex is just one aspect of that. All the people on the thread who see it as an excuse to snigger and joke are good examples of the sort of people who should never consider a polyamory lifestyle, you on the hand are precisely the sort of thoughtful, insightful woman in touch with her feelings who could consider such a lifestyle. You know yourrself and thats rare. Someone like you would has the capacity to explore themselves and their feelings.

DISCLAIMER

Nothing herein or implied shall be construed as an offer to "Patsycat" to participate in or explore a polyamorous relationship with the poster.

Edited August 31, 2007 by ratchabuild

[tijnebijn]

Its common under the chinese and thai molims .

I know a couple of them who have.

[LaoPo]

Its common under the chinese and thai molims .

I know a couple of them who have.

Are you sure you're referring to Polyamory, rather than Polygamy/Polygyny or even Polyandry ?

Polyamory: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory Polyamory: "is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved."

Polygamy/Polygyny: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy Polygany/Polygyny:"One man married to more than one spouse"

Polyandry: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyandry "Polyandry, one woman having more than one husband"

LaoPo