Probably sounding like a love struck teenager but who cares. Been with my wife (Thai) of course 6 years now, forced apart due to family and working issues not to mention visa refusals, though my wife does have ILR in the UK. Anyway I'm intersted to know if there are other love struck adults who get by on the daily I love you phone call and how you deal with life without your loved one until the next trip that could be months away.

Tell us your story a problem shared and all that lol !

Shhessh heard of Skype............. known my wife 5 years married 4 and yes 6000 miles apart. If youv'e got no trust youv'e got no hope.

forced apart due to family and working issues not to mention visa refusals,

Visa refusals, are they yours in Thailand?

though my wife does have ILR in the UK

I guess you know the time constraints regarding periods out of the UK?

Times apart are now rare, so little to constructively input, except cheap phone lines, skype already mentioned and another plane ticket and as a back up plan, TV comes in handy.

Whilst I feel for you I'm also tempted to say you don't know how lucky you are. Skype, Internet, texting, phone calls @ 1p per minute, return flight prices, 1 or 2 weeks wages for many folk ? Thai Visa, a great source of help and information....when did that come into being ? Less than 15 years ago the internet was restricted to a few enthusiasts, to all practical extent did not exist in Thailand. Phone calls were £3 a minute from the Uk,in LOS how many trips did I have to make over to the GPO by the Shangri -la and wait to book a phone call ? I was lucky, I spoke Thai and could negotiate with unmetered taxi's in pre Skytrain days, likewise the canal system or antique buses.

As difficult as your situation might be now I find it quite unbelievable how much easier the ability to keep in touch has become.

May I suggest you buy yourself a few jigsaw puzzles , they can be entertaining , relieve stress and time passes quicker than you think , long distance love is not an easy thing to cope with , stay away from the booze if you are a drinker , it just adds to a depressed mood . I would get her to be with you as post-haste as possible , no matter what it may cost , lost souls are just that , lost souls .

For myself, I found the daily fone calls too depressing.

If you wait a week, then you really enjoy the contact again, and no need to think of things to say.

As posted above, trust is paramount. Keep busy. Look toward the return, don't think about how long it will be.

As you are 6000 miles from home, enjoy the fact that flights from the UK are less than a third the price of where I live in Northern Canada.

As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

ever heard of internet porn?

1. What is a "mile" ?

2. Google for "GFTOW"

This is a fine topic, but another one would be How Do You Deal with the Lonely Nights when your wife in in Europe - or where ever you come from - and you are "stuck" in Thailand.

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For myself, I found the daily fone calls too depressing.

If you wait a week, then you really enjoy the contact again, and no need to think of things to say.

As posted above, trust is paramount. Keep busy. Look toward the return, don't think about how long it will be.

As you are 6000 miles from home, enjoy the fact that flights from the UK are less than a third the price of where I live in Northern Canada.

As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

Off topic... But Bob Marley NEVER said: "Don't worry - Be Happy"... Bobby Mc Ferrin did!

Why not fly her to England for a while?

She's got a visa right?

Right now I am in Nonthaburi and the wife is in Khon Kaen.

Not complaining, mind.

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As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

I think you'll find that was Bobby McFerrin

Many many years ago ,long before i was married to my wife now i was married to a Thai girl,i found sleeping with her sister very theraputic.

perhaps thats why we still arnt together? what do you think

For myself, I found the daily fone calls too depressing.

If you wait a week, then you really enjoy the contact again, and no need to think of things to say.

As posted above, trust is paramount.  Keep busy. Look toward the return, don't think about how long it will be.

As you are 6000 miles from home, enjoy the fact that flights from the UK are less than a third the price of where I live in Northern Canada.

As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

Off  topic... But Bob Marley NEVER said: "Don't worry - Be Happy"... Bobby Mc Ferrin did!

True but he did sing "I shot the Sheriff - but not the deputy" Appropriate for this thread me thinks. 

I have been married for 12 years and lived in Thailand for 23 years, I travel a lot with my work, and I am generally away for 4/8 weeks at a time. I call my wife without fail 3 times a day and just love the feeling when landing back in Bangkok.

Some great replies, Internet porn just makes you mad, drinking increases the depression for sure, sleeping with her sister is a no no, keep em coming cos they are tickling me for sure...!

I gave up having wives 14 years ago. Now I just have rentals. Of course, I have lots of hobbies and side interests to keep me otherwise occupied: writing, art, photography, sculpture, fishing fly tying,, exploring and the occasional beer with buddies. And, when all that tuckers me out I can always watch the sports or movies on television. Right now it is the World Cup and pretty soon the American and Canadian football will start.

For myself, I found the daily fone calls too depressing.

If you wait a week, then you really enjoy the contact again, and no need to think of things to say.

As posted above, trust is paramount. Keep busy. Look toward the return, don't think about how long it will be.

As you are 6000 miles from home, enjoy the fact that flights from the UK are less than a third the price of where I live in Northern Canada.

As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

Can't wait for weekly calls; I make one before work in the morning and one when I get back; even with the dam_n 7 hours difference. But plenty of e-mails; Skype to mobile calls and text messages make the longing somewhat bearable.

Flights from my home country are ridiculously expensive

Fortunately I have to go Japan in August; then to Thailand to fetch her and bring her here for as long as possible

Dude I think you bought the wrong Marley album

ever heard of internet porn?

I hear blow-up dolls have come on leaps and bounds these days.

I hear blow-up dolls have come on leaps and bounds these days.

Never mind the rabbit stuff, so long as it's you doing the blowing there's a design problem.

I am stuck in the UK and my wife has been refused a tourist visa, so we skype everyday and i wait until midnight uk time which is 6am Thai time and i call her on the phone. Very difficult to be apart for up to 8 weeks at a time, but alas i need to earn cash.

I plan to make the move to Thailand permanently next year so we hyavent got long now!!

Probably sounding like a love struck teenager but who cares.

No, you sound like one of these dememented old fools.

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As Bob Marley said - "Don't worry - Be Happy"

I think you'll find that was Bobby McFerrin

Bob sung "No woman no cry"

Sorry to all - had a Brain Fart there !!!

Too much fun in the Sixties catching up with me ???