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[gaycurioustosaytheleast]

I have a few questions. I live in BKK. I'm bisexual. That is as far as I'm primarily involved with women and find them emotionally and intellectually fulfilling, not to mention sexually but I occasionally like to have a casual encounter with a member of the same sex. Safe, friendly, basic. I'm a younger guy, handsome but not a superstud, not cut. Just a guy. Anyway, how does one go about this in BKK? That is, I'm not interested in Gay Bars, etc. etc. Gay scene...any advice? This may not even be the place for this...any suggestions for another forum, website, etc. ?Thanks.

[Ijustwannateach]

You mean, like a forum that deals with gay sex but not with gays?

Well, here are some ideas:

1. Walk around the city (anywhere) until you catch the eyes of a cute, likely-looking young man. This is especially effective if both of you have passed each other and suddenly look back at the same time. Hint: do this somewhere ELSE besides Silom/Suriwong, where many of the guys likely to do this will be expecting you to be a customer.

2. Bashfully walk back and make contact with him. Use Thai, English, sign language, or anything else to indicate interest.

3. If you haven't seriously crossed signals, you'll be heading towards a friendship and/or a sexual encounter, eventually.

4. If you're not interested in friendship or interpersonal connections, that will make things a bit more specialised. You need to find out where cruising spots are. You might also check out some of the gay (shudder) personals sites, such as gaydar and so forth, where there are plenty of guys who are *only* interested in no-strings-attached sex and will indicate such quite directly.

Good luck, be careful.

"Steven"

[JungleBoy]

Perfect advise from IJWT.

Thais and even most falangs in Thailand (Chiang Mai is great) are very easy to approach. You will find out that Thais have a set litany of questions when being first introduced, name, age, married or not, where do you come from, where do you live, how much money do you make, do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? (These questions come easier when it's one on one). All you need to say is something like, "I'm not interested in a girlfriend." The next thing is of course, boyfriend? Be aware that once one person finds out your desires, the whole country will know. Example: I came back to Chiang Mai from a Mai Sai visa trip late one night. The tuk tuk driver wanted 60baht for what is normally a 40baht trip. At that time, I was really concerned about money (not having it). I decided to walk the 4 kms. The next morning, I went to my favorite restaurant and had breakfast. The young lady who handles the Trekking for the restaurant and I were talking and I happened to tell her about the tuk tuk price and my walking home. She popped up and said, "Oh, you're the falang who walked back from the bus station last night." Gaw!!!! Already the news had spread??!?!?!? So, anything that you do, you will gain notoriety for in a short span of time. This is both good and bad as you will soon attract many sorts. Be careful and be choosey.

You are in Thailand, not your home country. Thailand has it's own wonderful (and not so wonderful) ways, but if you try your own country's ways here, you will be very limited, frustrated and lost. It's not all one way or the other, as I find a mix of my ways and Thai ways to work fine for me. Figuring out what works and what doesn't is a challenge.

What happened to me in my home country was if I looked at another guy, I usually got the look or more likely the comment, "Who are you looking at a$$hole?" That is not what happens in Thailand. LOS LOS LOS. Smile at everyone and they will smile at you. 99.9% of the time. I find it quite easy to look at someone and not be given a F U look back. Thais are very polite and respectful. No need to be afraid. I guess if you are in a seedy place, your red flags should be raised, but then, you should already know what kind of place you are in. Restaurants are wonderful places for looking. Looking at the customers, looking at the walkers by, looking at those that pass by on motorcis/cars. (Apply IJWT's rules at this point)

It's very easy to talk about preferences in Thailand. Those that are straight will tell you so and not look down on you for your own preference. You will still be friends. I have tons and tons of straight guy friends who know of my preference and often ask me if I think someone is handsome or not.

So many men, so little time.

Go for it!

jb

[Guest endure]

If it's simple sex you want you need to go to a sauna. Google "dreadedned" for a list of likely places.

Edited December 27, 2005 by endure

[Ijustwannateach]

It would be interesting to hear back from the OP and see if/how he has put our suggestions into effect....

[The_Moog]

I have a few questions. I live in BKK. I'm bisexual. That is as far as I'm primarily involved with women and find them emotionally and intellectually fulfilling, not to mention sexually but I occasionally like to have a casual encounter with a member of the same sex. Safe, friendly, basic. I'm a younger guy, handsome but not a superstud, not cut. Just a guy. Anyway, how does one go about this in BKK? That is, I'm not interested in Gay Bars, etc. etc. Gay scene...any advice? This may not even be the place for this...any suggestions for another forum, website, etc. ?Thanks.

Babylon

Towel drops

Finger points south

Firm hand on the back of head forcing downwards.

Afterwards, whistle a merry tune and walk away.

What was wrong with that strategy?

Good luck for your Post # 2.

[Guest endure]

I have a few questions. I live in BKK. I'm bisexual. That is as far as I'm primarily involved with women and find them emotionally and intellectually fulfilling, not to mention sexually but I occasionally like to have a casual encounter with a member of the same sex. Safe, friendly, basic. I'm a younger guy, handsome but not a superstud, not cut. Just a guy. Anyway, how does one go about this in BKK? That is, I'm not interested in Gay Bars, etc. etc. Gay scene...any advice? This may not even be the place for this...any suggestions for another forum, website, etc. ?Thanks.

Babylon

Towel drops

Finger points south

Firm hand on the back of head forcing downwards.

Afterwards, whistle a merry tune and walk away.

What was wrong with that strategy?

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It lacks romance - although your recommendation of Babylon rather than Farose is appropriate. If he's only going to be an infrequent visitor there'll be no need to invest in the necessary footwear to remain upright.

[Ijustwannateach]

I didn't include saunas in my advice because OP said he didn't want the "gay scene"; if that doesn't matter, then sure, go to saunas- or gay bars- etc., etc.

"Steven"

[gaycurioustosaytheleast]

Well, that's certainly a start!

If I go to, say, Babylon, will I be able to 'interact' with farangs rather than Thais? I mean that's what I'm interested in.

Thanks for all the advice.

I'll keep you updated on my 'progress'

[Guest endure]

Well, that's certainly a start! 

If I go to, say, Babylon, will I be able to 'interact' with farangs rather than Thais? I mean that's what I'm interested in.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It's possible although you have to bear in mind that lots of farangs are there because they're 'Rice Queens' (they prefer Thais)

[The_Moog]

If I go to, say, Babylon, will I be able to 'interact' with farangs rather than Thais? I mean that's what I'm interested in.

Why would you want to interfrasticate with Farangs?

Unless you're a Thai Gentleman of course.

Wouldn't you be better off in a country with an indigenous Farang population. For example: Poland or Belgium.

[Ijustwannateach]

I'd say in that case you're best off sticking to the websites with profiling, where you can specify what you're looking for very particularly.

Certainly in Thailand foreigners seeking other foreigners will be a minority crowd (though they do exist). You should expect your choices to be limited, and perhaps adjust your expectations accordingly.

I would not typically expect the saunas to be places where you would be very successful- Endure's comment says it all.

"Steven"