Dating Thai Girls (First Trip)

[fletchsmile]

Is that some kind of a joke ? .....as a westerm woman I had to comment!

rule 1 : Relations ships take time to build...same with western women

rule 4 : When you accept a Thai girl in your life, you accept her family and friends.......heuheu same with western women

Rule 5 : learn to speak any language your partner and family speaks...it works everywhere

rule 6 : Don t be greedy.....we, also don t like greedy men! trust me

Rule 7 : Thai girls will tell you exactly what you what you want to hear, and do what you want them to do...and she will only care about you (at least will make you think that), you are so happy since she didn't bother you with her sadness over her grandma s death...how convenient is that, you only had to worry about yourself..... but she cries when you left, that s so nice....crap....This is where thai girls are very smart....she ll let you think you rule...but she does

Rule 8 : men are expected to do the first move..sorry for being old school, but we also like it

and the best is number 9 : do not cheat and or lie....yep yep, it is world famous that western women love to be lied to and cheated

My gosh!! Sometimes I wish I couldn t read!

Enjoyed your post.

quote: "This is where thai girls are very smart....she ll let you think you rule...but she does"

Couldn't help wondering though: was that subtle differentiation to lull us into a false sense of security about western women... or do western women do that too

[fletchsmile]

Forgive ME for being naive, but did op get in her pants? I guess i'm not good at reading between the lines. I know he mentions how he could have nailed all her friends on numerous occasions. But....

[Razzler1973]

I was in Thailand at age 21 and was nowhere near as green as this kid

"no idea how she popped up on my facebook" ... hmmmmm

[snake24]

op is 21 but already has cussed out american girls. Typical that one cannot even get the females from his own country and has to fly thousands of miles to get females from a country whoose culture and language he has a less than rudimentary knowledge of.

[yanyk]

i meet one online the very first day i sign up to skout.com. she insisted we meet very far away from my hotel room at silom area.she wanted us to meet

at victory monument to which i denied because it was night, finally i agreed to meet her, she ended up in my hotel room. but don't mind that she is the best woman i have dated so far and she is 21 , i am 22.like OP said , they are very caring and lovely

[Sayonarax]

i meet one online the very first day i sign up to skout.com. she insisted we meet very far away from my hotel room at silom area.she wanted us to meet

at victory monument to which i denied because it was night, finally i agreed to meet her, she ended up in my hotel room. but don't mind that she is the best woman i have dated so far and she is 21 , i am 22.like OP said , they are very caring and lovely

Rent a movie if your bored, no need to dig up 10month old threads.

[Robininbkk]

In fact I am not speaking by expertise, but rather by the first experience I had in this country and giving points that some travelers might find useful, as well as making comparisons with western women.

your 3rd point is a not quite correct.

many good girls are not escorted, I have also seen very bad girls escorted on dates by their stupid brothers on dates who have no idea their sisters a bar girl.

I have heard of a story where a ''good girl'' was escorted by her proclaimed brother. But in fact was her boyfriend, who was together in the game to scam the farang.

[Kitsune]

wow you've made it: First base in 8days, two weeks of chaperoning, and you think you've made it to real love and have sussed out all the issues with Thai relationships.

It's beautiful to be 21 !

[wym]

Rent a movie if your bored, no need to dig up 10month old threads.

Really.

Promoting the web site I imagine, and most cluelessly.

How do they even FIND these old threads?

I've asked many times here, really want to know but no one's ever answered.

[Metapod]

I'm also in my 20s and unlike the TS, I have spent years in Thailand and met numerous girls from different walks of life.

The guy is 100% clueless and is either going to get hurt, or hurt her.

Here are the red flags..

1) No experience with Thailand, Thai girls, Thai language. Nothing wrong with this however...

2) TS speaks like he knows what he is talking about and is trying to give others advice.... Naivety + False Confidence = Mistakes

3) Nothing wrong with mistakes... If you can learn from them. Hence someone is going to get hurt. You or her. At 21 you are not looking to settle down and have kids and get married. On the chance that you are, do you really want to rush into it with a girl from another country and culture and language who you do not know (I don't care if you spent 3 weeks with her, you don't know someone in 3 weeks). Which brings me to what you will say in response to this and the next red flag.

4) "but we talked for 6months on the internet" Guess what? Girls talk to A LOT of guys on the internet. I can bet you everything I own she is chatting to a minimum of 5 different guys just like you. Girls like to have options. They only discard options when you are "locked in" and you haven't made that commitment. You don't even live in the same side of the world or speak the same language, and you haven't broached the topic of marriage.

5) Where did you meet her online? You said she just appeared on your fb list? Sounds like nonsense to me. Either you talk to so many thai girls you forget where you met them (meaning making the move with a girl like this for long term relationship is a bad move), or maybe you met her somewhere you do not want to disclose here. I'm going to guess you met her on a thai dating website. Something like thafriendly, dia, tagged, thaicupid, etc etc. List goes on.

I'm speaking purely out of experience here too. I was in Thailand when I was 21 too. I made similar mistakes. I've met girls and their family off the internet. I didn't speak Thai well back then. I didn't know Thailand well. I THOUGHT i knew more than I actually did. I'm still in my 20s and I have taken that experience and learned from it. The best thing you can do now is 2 things.

1) Forget that you know anything and spend a lot more time reading forums, books, whatever, and take it all in with an open mind and outlook on life.

2) Forget any feelings you have for this girl and objectively consider these questions for 1min. "Do I want to get married and started a family?" and "Where do I see myself in 5 years, 10 years, and 20 years time?" and "What do I want out of life"

Now think about that girl and if marrying her fits into your life goals and plans.

[Metapod]

I didn't even cover the very real possibility of this girl and family playing you like the sucker you are (which after reading your initial post again, sounds EXTREMELY likely).

[wym]

zombie thread!

[Bantex]

also you state relationships take time to build, 9 days was it. bahahaha

No muythai2013, the relationship was built online - the nine days was just to cement it.

Possible, but then I read this...

After 6 months (skyping 1 time per month), we agreed to meet in Bangkok airport.

Perhaps each monthly skype lasted for 30 days at a time !!!

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[kannot]

you know what OP. ALL girls are different, met my Wife online , first day of meeting jumped into bed the next day too and 8 years later still jumping in....same bed same Wife!!

[steven100]

ahhhh ... such a lovely fairytale story ........ now get back up on that stage girl and get swinging on that pole !

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[Scarpolo]

In fact I am not speaking by expertise, but rather by the first experience I had in this country and giving points that some travelers might find useful, as well as making comparisons with western women.

your 3rd point is a not quite correct.

many good girls are not escorted, I have also seen very bad girls escorted on dates by their stupid brothers on dates who have no idea their sisters a bar girl.

No idea their sisters are bar girls?

Wow, for a moment from the OP, I thought Bob Guccione himself was resurrected and this was surely going to end in the bushes with the mother and the friend,

how on earth has this topic gotten 7 pages of replies?

[Scarpolo]

My dear friend

Take advise from an old asian.

If youre willing to nod yes to everything your thai gal says then go ahead.Thai women are never wrong they always want there own way and when they dont get it you will get tantrums galore.

Ive never found a rich respectable thai girl with a farang unless they met in university.

A wise German told me that for the thai women

1st is her father and mother

2nd is her brother sister and relatives

3rd are her neighbours and friends

4th is her dog

and 5th is her farang husband.

Loads of good women where u stay so dont waste your time here.

Also questions which rise eyebrows how many like you has she found on facebook??

Where and when did she go to usa as an exchange student ask to see her passport.

Who paid for her trip some western poor sod like you???

Tread carefully my friend youre young and have the world at your feet.

I was able to get past 1,2, the neighbors, the dog,

still havent met any friends,

only the best friend and the mother, knows there is a farange in her life,

none of them know, I am living with her, including the friends.

love my thai girl

[Scarpolo]

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If you are referring to post no 53 I couldn't agree more .

My wife holds husband and kid WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY over anybody else, including her sister and 2 brothers.

My wife canceled the wedding party up North as she could hear on me that I was not interested, so she said fxxk them (well not like that, but you get the meaning, lol), you and me are the most important.

My wife is currently fighting in court with her sister/brother in law, they build a house on my wife's land behind her house and she wants them OUT.

When/if she wins the case, she wants to sell her farm and invest the money here in the Pattaya area somewhere (buying land most likely, don't know, her money, up to her).

No I didn't meet my wife in Pattaya but Bangkok, just to let you know before the grumpy old men here on TV gets started

what judge is going to evict a party who builds a house, with permission, and then, the land owner says, sorry?

dont think so, they own the house, you own the land, not an expert here, but, this is easy

[Scarpolo]

Is that some kind of a joke ? .....as a westerm woman I had to comment!

rule 1 : Relations ships take time to build...same with western women

rule 4 : When you accept a Thai girl in your life, you accept her family and friends.......heuheu same with western women

Rule 5 : learn to speak any language your partner and family speaks...it works everywhere

rule 6 : Don t be greedy.....we, also don t like greedy men! trust me

Rule 7 : Thai girls will tell you exactly what you what you want to hear, and do what you want them to do...and she will only care about you (at least will make you think that), you are so happy since she didn't bother you with her sadness over her grandma s death...how convenient is that, you only had to worry about yourself..... but she cries when you left, that s so nice....crap....This is where thai girls are very smart....she ll let you think you rule...but she does

Rule 8 : men are expected to do the first move..sorry for being old school, but we also like it

and the best is number 9 : do not cheat and or lie....yep yep, it is world famous that western women love to be lied to and cheated

My gosh!! Sometimes I wish I couldn t read!

you have agreed with every point as far as I can see. So what is the point you are making?

Have I missed something from a previous post?

Mr Mudcrab....Are you sure I need to make my point? or you were too tired too understand?...Read again this morning, you should get it.

I am just excited that there is a "western woman" on TV....there is hope........

[Scarpolo]

my ex had four hour tantrums on the floor, once in the supermarket near the express lane on the floor.-The first sign of this kind of behaviour IMO has to be a complete and total dealbreaker, out the door they go.If they come crawling back then the first thing to make very clear is that won't be tolerated at all.As soon as you let them use emotional blackmail to try to control you the game's over.But the key is you do have to be 100% willing to walk away, bluffing doesn't work.

One of the best lesson I ever learned was to have the exact same policy as above. The wonderful bonus was to discover that once I ruled out - no matter how beautiful, smart, affectionate, or sexually skilled - having any kind of relationship with girls who threw tantrums and/ or were prone to unjustified and exaggerated jealousy, there were still beautiful, smart, affectionate and sexually skilled women to choose from. 2 fairly long term commitments and one 20 year marriage later, all with women that were as desirable in every way as the most tempermental of women I have known - not one tantrum or irrational bouts of jealousy.

A tantrum, on the "floor", in a store?

And, you admitted you know her?

WHAT?????????????????????/

[Scarpolo]

One of the best lesson I ever learned was to have the exact same policy as above. The wonderful bonus was to discover that once I ruled out - no matter how beautiful, smart, affectionate, or sexually skilled - having any kind of relationship with girls who threw tantrums and/ or were prone to unjustified and exaggerated jealousy, there were still beautiful, smart, affectionate and sexually skilled women to choose from. 2 fairly long term commitments and one 20 year marriage later, all with women that were as desirable in every way as the most tempermental of women I have known - not one tantrum or irrational bouts of jealousy.-Also helps weed out the true mental cases, which unfortunately are disproportionately represented among mia farang.

Also? For me girls who throw tantrums or have jealousy issues ARE mental cases. (Though trust me, I know that there are degrees and some people are genuinely ill). And yes, once I imposed that standard, I found I was able to spend time with some really great women without drama and strife that I had previously seen as an inevitable part of the whole "dating" thing...

Disproportionately represented? Probably. I vaguely remember a previous posit from you along those lines and largely agreeing with the argument supporting it.

Having said that, it's not as if Thai guys don't deal with any of those issues (and al lot of the Thai guys I've know put up with stuff I never would - but even more Farangs do).

My Brazilian wife threw something I call the "reverse tantrum" aka, the silent treatment,

she was truly insane, always accusing me of cheating, accusing, accusing, until finally I said.

no way I am being sentenced for a crime i didnt commit, so, keep calling me a cheater, and I will earn that title, proudly,

that shut her up, for a while, but eventually, it got worse and I started to feel ill,

that was the end for me

[LaraC]

many comments prove without a shadow of a doubt that some people mix with the lowest of the low in thai girls.

thats why they have such negative views on thai woman.

And when others have a half decent women, they call BS and refuse to believe it because they have never seen a good woman whilst patrolling the minge pits of pattays.

I know I should read the thread and find out for myself but would you mind citing an example or two of these comments?

Although, the last line in your post does indeed reflect a common phenomena. You can be sure you aren't the only one to have been confronted with that.

I guess my main point is that people fail to see Thai woman as individuals, they are all different yet are all judged in general by the actions of a few lowly girls who are mostly the only ones many farang see due to the fact they frequent the same clunge clubs.

from the way some people here view woman, not all men here but some, it's clear they have not yet met a woman or friends that would give them a positive view of thai woman.

you know what i mean steeljoe, not all thais are sniffers.

I found your post ironic, because you could easily replace the word Thai woman with Western woman and you have the average thaivisa forum members attitudes to a t.

[wym]

Do you guys realize you're chatting with ghosts here, replying to year-old posts?

If so then

Edited February 18, 2014 by wym

[Scarpolo]

wow you've made it: First base in 8days, two weeks of chaperoning, and you think you've made it to real love and have sussed out all the issues with Thai relationships.

It's beautiful to be 21 !

No offense, but,

at 21, not just her,

but all her friends would have had

"happy endings"

sounds like a fag, writing for high school play, and seeking input because his porn channels go one way only

[zeichen]

Mods can we lock this dead thread. We have one spam poster, scarpolo, that posts 5 in a row commenting to people that posted 1 year ago. The OP is long gone and no where around to defend himself.

[willyumiii]

Thailand is truly amazing!

It only requires one month of vacation time in Thailand and you consider yourself knowledgeable enough to to give advice to others and even compose a 10 point list!

You haven't even scratched your rose colored glasses yet young man.

When you do scratch them up a bit, I will expect a retraction.

Choke dee!

[Sayonarax]

zombie thread!

The walking thread!

[wym]

Move to spiritualist forum

[Scarpolo]

My dear friend

Take advise from an old asian.

If youre willing to nod yes to everything your thai gal says then go ahead.Thai women are never wrong they always want there own way and when they dont get it you will get tantrums galore.

Ive never found a rich respectable thai girl with a farang unless they met in university.

A wise German told me that for the thai women

1st is her father and mother

2nd is her brother sister and relatives

3rd are her neighbours and friends

4th is her dog

and 5th is her farang husband.

Loads of good women where u stay so dont waste your time here.

Also questions which rise eyebrows how many like you has she found on facebook??

Where and when did she go to usa as an exchange student ask to see her passport.

Who paid for her trip some western poor sod like you???

Tread carefully my friend youre young and have the world at your feet.

I was able to get past 1,2, the neighbors, the dog,

still havent met any friends,

only the best friend and the mother, knows there is a farange in her life,

none of them know, I am living with her, including the friends.

love my thai girl

Looks like I posted in haste,

last night, after replying her,

I was downstairs having a cocktail with my g/f, and I mentioned this list in an appropriately timed manner as I weaved it into our conversation, and what I learned was,

Sometimes, her dog, comes first!

I thought I was ahead of the dog, until last night,

but on the lighter side,

I have also told her that, men are like dogs, is many ways,

I named a few, such as, we like the way girls smell, (ever watch a dog say hello to a female?)

we don't care usually about any mess we leave,

we tend to track things all over the house

and then, she lovingly added, not bathing....

which was another way of saying, go shower or you aint gettin any,

so, as a dog, I still have a shot at being number 1.,

but as a man in her life;

clearly, dead last!

love her honesty,

try finding that in the west@

Edited February 19, 2014 by Scarpolo

[wym]

Scar baby, check the date on the post you think you're replying to.

Wandering around in the dark, rambling on muttering to yourself, you are.