Farang coming get the hand out.

[Banshee]

Recently me and the missus and our two children landed in Thailand.

As expected a relative, not a particularly close one, quite old to, offered to pick us up and drive us to our location for 2000bht.

I had anticipated this and politely told him I will pass and pay a taxi driver as where I come from family would take you for free expecting perhaps petrol only, this response pissed a few people off and I know this is Thailand and not Australia but hey, I have a choice regardless of where I am.

My wife and her direct relatives such as her mother agree and don't give a damn, mums always been cool, I'm not tight, but I would prefer to pay the hard working cab driver.

Sure not all are like this but many seem to be looking for opportunities when the farang arrives for a visit, keep your wallet in your pants and they hit the toe awfully quick, I have paid for things in the past but the locals are not quick to do the same, looking for you to do it again always.

Sticking to my wife's direct family, etc mother and siblings, the indirect ones except for one are to much, cannot blame them to be honest, I'm nothing to them so why not try.

Only takes a day or two to see who gives a damn and who does not, then I don't mind being a bit more free with the cash.

[farang000999]

How much younger is your wife than yourself?

[benalibina]

2.000 bth.....to go where....location.... if you wanna be negative about the thais ...at least give sufficient info....

[Banshee]

How much younger is your wife than yourself?

3 years.

[Banshee]

Should point out that I have met friends of hers from the bank she worked in years ago who were pretty cool when we went out, never expected anything.

Don't get me wrong this is not a thai bashing thread, but don't deny many don't do it, please for the love of god don't say they don't do it, they are renown for it.

As for the location, it's not an issue, I heard he took two relatives another time, charged both two thousand each, why not a thousand each, greed that's why, he is not struggling at all.

He was taking one anyway, rather then tell one to split the difference he adds another two thousand bht for the new relative that decided she had to go to.

Sure they never had to pay, their choice, but shitty non the less.

[Tmymaimee]

I've seen this so many times. Go to visit my girlfriend's family and everyone just expects you to buy the beer because of your skin colour. Its quite funny to see how quick the moochers disappear when the beer runs out. And they never offer to buy for me. Seems to be more an Issaan thing as my ex wife's family from Phayao would always buy for me.

Another reason why I prefer the more educated and wealthier Thais to associate with. They tend to have better manners and be much less of the freeloader mentality.

[Banshee]

I've seen this so many times. Go to visit my girlfriend's family and everyone just expects you to buy the beer because of your skin colour. Its quite funny to see how quick the moochers disappear when the beer runs out. And they never offer to buy for me. Seems to be more an Issaan thing as my ex wife's family from Phayao would always buy for me.

Another reason why I prefer the more educated and wealthier Thais to associate with. They tend to have better manners and be much less of the freeloader mentality.

Exactly, I have had them share the tabs even in isaan, however it's as rare as hens teeth.

They to often look to us, and to often come out in droves when you arrive, but p off quick when not getting a free hand out every minute.

Those that stick around prove their there for the right reasons other then whiskey and a feed.

[Banshee]

When their good their damn good though, it's ashame about those who ruin it.

[mrtoad]

Troll or loser central, can't make up my mind.

[apiwan]

Been there with my ex wife. It really is all about who you mix with.

Example when the plane lands in udon there's at least 10 members of family for 1 fallang .

Now I came back to my friends I used to mix with in London / BKk things are different.

Like this . If you date a slapper from a council estate in Liverpool. Why do you expect her family to be ok. They will be the same has any deprived family round the world .

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[Som wat]

I've never experienced anything like that.

They all work and study hard, own there own houses, cars and businesses. Never asked for anything.

Edited April 29, 2014 by Som wat

[Tmymaimee]

Troll or loser central, can't make up my mind.

Ha, ha...loser central. Mind made up for you. And Mr. Toad, there is a feature that is called the ignore function? Have you heard of it? It allows you to ignore all my posts. Perhaps try it sometime.... This way you can get on with your life instead of researching my post history.

Was it the Isaan dig that got to you? I always throw it out there just to please people like you. However, in this case, sorry but its true. So many Issaan people are freeloaders because they are poor. They choose to not study hard so as a consequence they miss out on scholarship opportunities. Seen it so many times.

[arthurwait]

Another one that worked in a bank.

[Songhua]

Know the problem OP. Having just retired, we also returned to Thailand to live a couple of months ago and they came out of the woodwork. Three different members of my wife's family (not parents or siblings - they don't ask), two of whom she hasn't even had contact with in over fifteen years, miraculously appeared at our door on the scrounge in our first four days here. They left empty-handed and haven't been sighted since.

Then, two days ago one of her nieces arrived (with layabout boyfriend attached) from Surin with a sob story about not having enough to get by on or to even eat! (LOL - she weighs about seventy kilo). Could they have twenty thousand, they asked.

Auntie Songhua: 'How did you get here?'

The Niece: 'By bus'.

Auntie Songhua: 'Here's four hundred for a feed and your bus ticket back'.

[apiwan]

That's not entirely true.

People are quick to run down the issan people . But it's the country and the system here that has made them what they are.

Admittedly some are lazy. But most ate like you and me. They have desires and wants.

It's just they know it's nigh

on impossible to get.

Let's have it right in London does a stripper in a go go bar really want to do a dance for an old bald pot bellied pig for a score ?

People chasing money all over the world this way.

Believe me there's loads in London its just not that prominent

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[Tmymaimee]

That's not entirely true.

People are quick to run down the issan people . But it's the country and the system here that has made them what they are.

Admittedly some are lazy. But most ate like you and me. They have desires and wants.

It's just they know it's nigh

on impossible to get.

Let's have it right in London does a stripper in a go go bar really want to do a dance for an old bald pot bellied pig for a score ?

People chasing money all over the world this way.

Believe me there's loads in London its just not that prominent

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Sorry, but have to disagree. Everyone has to take personal responsibility for themselves. No one ever did anything for me and I was willing to live in complete isolation at -40C on Baffin Island for 2 years, perpetual darkness for 6 months, zero trees and high winds to achieve my goals. How many poor Thais would be willing to subject themselves to this environment to achieve their goals?

How many Thais will study 12 hours a day for 6 years at university with no job guarantee waiting upon graduation? How many Thais will volunteer in order to gain job experience? Poverty and freeloading is downright laziness. How come my ex girlfriend's family in Chayapun can't find any field workers to cut sugar cane at 300 baht/day? I worked on a farm for zero pay everyday from 10 years old just to help my family.

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

[mrtoad]

Know the problem OP. Having just retired, we also returned to Thailand to live a couple of months ago and they came out of the woodwork. Three different members of my wife's family (not parents or siblings - they don't ask), two of whom she hasn't even had contact with in over fifteen years, miraculously appeared at our door on the scrounge in our first four days here. They left empty-handed and haven't been sighted since.

Then, two days ago one of her nieces arrived (with layabout boyfriend attached) from Surin with a sob story about not having enough to get by on or to even eat! (LOL - she weighs about seventy kilo). Could they have twenty thousand, they asked.

Auntie Songhua: 'How did you get here?'

The Niece: 'By bus'.

Auntie Songhua: 'Here's four hundred for a feed and your bus ticket back'.

Scroungers everywhere, and often those from a certain generation as opposed to a location.

[hotrod4098]

i found buirlam surin sisaket the bunch of freeloaders...

[mrtoad]

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

And that statement sums up why you are a joke.

[Tmymaimee]

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

And that statement sums up why you are a joke.

Yes, but a fit, hardworking, honest, and educated joke.

I respect people that work hard, take care of their children and are responsible. Sorry, freeloaders don't fit into that category. They are not willing to do what I put myself through in order to become financially successful.

Its like saying you should feel sorry for fat people because they are unwilling to hit the gym or say no to ice cream. I'm feeling something I said really rubbed you the wrong way. Perhaps the truth is not too pleasant for you?

[losworld]

skip

Edited April 29, 2014 by losworld

[bangsaenguy]

2.000 bth.....to go where....location.... if you wanna be negative about the thais ...at least give sufficient info....

Negative about Thais? Stupid post

[HardenedSoul]

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

And that statement sums up why you are a joke.

Yes, but a fit, hardworking, honest, and educated joke.

I respect people that work hard, take care of their children and are responsible. Sorry, freeloaders don't fit into that category. They are not willing to do what I put myself through in order to become financially successful.

Its like saying you should feel sorry for fat people because they are unwilling to hit the gym or say no to ice cream. I'm feeling something I said really rubbed you the wrong way. Perhaps the truth is not too pleasant for you?

You do realise it's the height of bad taste to make continual reference to your financial means especially when you're engaged in slagging off the people of an entire region as poor, workshy and freeloading.

You may have money but you're completely bereft of class.

[vtjforyou]

I've seen this so many times. Go to visit my girlfriend's family and everyone just expects you to buy the beer because of your skin colour. Its quite funny to see how quick the moochers disappear when the beer runs out. And they never offer to buy for me. Seems to be more an Issaan thing as my ex wife's family from Phayao would always buy for me.

Another reason why I prefer the more educated and wealthier Thais to associate with. They tend to have better manners and be much less of the freeloader mentality.

EXACTLY !

And I don't even understand how some farangs can live with the BAANORK people...

[geronimo]

It is a big melting pot so expect all kinds.

[Banshee]

Another one that worked in a bank.

Hard to believe when your slumming yourself isn't it.

[Banshee]

Laugh how everyone says it never happens to them, and you don't run with those sorts of people.

One that's bs if your a farang, two good families have relatives that are unsavoury to, and their friends who come out when they here the farang is about.

Anyone that says it does not happen is full of it.

[pinkpanther99]

Yes, this thing does seem to happen in Thailand and I have experienced a similar kind of thing at first hand pretty much every time I stay up country! (don't get me started on the father in law!!)

But I've also met plenty of Thais who would never ask for a single satang from me.

This kind of thing isn't exclusive to Thailand either. In the UK for example, we seem to have a whole generation of people who are perfectly happy to live on hand outs, the only difference being that these hand outs come from the state.

Same same but different.

[Tchooptip]

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

And that statement sums up why you are a joke.

I would add his sentence is simply disgusting

[krisb]

That's not entirely true.

People are quick to run down the issan people . But it's the country and the system here that has made them what they are.

Admittedly some are lazy. But most ate like you and me. They have desires and wants.

It's just they know it's nigh

on impossible to get.

Let's have it right in London does a stripper in a go go bar really want to do a dance for an old bald pot bellied pig for a score ?

People chasing money all over the world this way.

Believe me there's loads in London its just not that prominent

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Sorry, but have to disagree. Everyone has to take personal responsibility for themselves. No one ever did anything for me and I was willing to live in complete isolation at -40C on Baffin Island for 2 years, perpetual darkness for 6 months, zero trees and high winds to achieve my goals. How many poor Thais would be willing to subject themselves to this environment to achieve their goals?

How many Thais will study 12 hours a day for 6 years at university with no job guarantee waiting upon graduation? How many Thais will volunteer in order to gain job experience? Poverty and freeloading is downright laziness. How come my ex girlfriend's family in Chayapun can't find any field workers to cut sugar cane at 300 baht/day? I worked on a farm for zero pay everyday from 10 years old just to help my family.

That's why I have zero respect for poor people and especially from Issan.

I agree 100%.