You and your Partner

[bangkokjulia]

A while back I was given a bleak outlook with regard to my future. My health was ordinary at best, and the easiest of tasks became extremely difficult to complete.

Then I met someone who has turned my life around. My health has improved, and I am happier than I have been in a long time.

My question to you all is-What has your partner done to improve your life?

[jacksam]

Was it booze?

[bangkokjulia]

No Jacksam

[Gonsalviz]

I got a little doll that is actually supporting through my illness. I am ready to go back to work and she won't hear of it.

[bangkokjulia]

Very sorry to hear about your illness Gonsalviz. It is great that you have some support to help you through this difficult time. Only you can decide if you are ready to go back to work. Best of luck and get well soon.

[catman20]

time will tell,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it normally dose and later may turn your life upside down

Edited December 6, 2014 by catman20

[Costas2008]

OP, I'm glad you found Mr Right for you and I wish you a happy and healthy life together.

As about my wife, she's done many things to improve my life and I don't want to repeat myself as I have spoken so many times before about my relationship with her.

But one of the many things is that she has managed to calm me down.

Being of Mediterranean origin I have sometimes a bad temper.

When that happens she never contradicts me or show any sign of anger.

She keeps quite and comes near me and with a cuddle and a kiss tries to calm me down.

When this tantrum finishes, it's a different story.

She gives me quite a bollocking and makes me understand why I was wrong..........and usually I'm wrong.............

So that helped me a lot to think before I open my mouth and also raise my blood pressure.

[Daniel Boon]

I read and re-read Thai Visa negative stories ... I found myself on side of doubt, suspicion and unhappiness

But now that my Wife is with me; I have a new zest for life and future to look forward to ... marrying my Thai Wife has polarized my family; reconnecting with siblings who I hadn't seen for 12 and another 26 years and we are all meeting up tomorrow ... would never have happened otherwise ...

[chrisinth]

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I got a little doll that is actually supporting through my illness. I am ready to go back to work and she won't hear of it.

My wife gave me a little doll and said I had nothing to fear about illness if I did what I was told.

She kept the packet of pins that came with it though..........................

[chrisinth]

^^^^^

In all seriousness though, the only reason I am still here today is because of the changes that were made when we committed ourselves to each other.

All voluntary.

The little lady really did save my life. Married now for 15 of the 26 years since we first met......................

Edit: She has never used the pin cushion (that I'm aware off) in all that time. Ups & downs of a normal long term partnership, as its meant to be.................

Edited December 6, 2014 by chrisinth

[davidmann]

made my bank account lighter

[asdecas]

You mean apart from disappearing?

[dotpoom]

My life improved instantaneously the minute she paid back the money she owed me.

Seriously, it's great to hear tales of relationships that benefit both parties. A good relationship is a blessing. I would not have lived on in Thailand if "she who must be obeyed". was not in my life.

[laislica]

You ask: "What has your partner done to improve your life? "

Everything she possibly can!

She takes care of everything Thailand related.

I take care of everything Spain related.

We spend about half our time in Thailand and the rest in Spain.

We share everything and have total trust in each other, we are very lucky to have found each other!

I come from a very small family, she comes from a huge family and now I am part of that family and it is wonderful.

Like Costas said,she is wonderful at helping me down.

Although she is still young (52) and would like to work, I asked her to retire so we can travel and "Live a Life".

I am 72 so I want freedom from ties like work, pets, gardens etc.

Since we met, we both look younger now, both happier and relaxed.

Her Mum died a few months after we met but I was lucky that Mum had some time to get to know me and she gave her nod of approval.

Her youngest son was murdered in Bangkok earlier this year in one of the many interpolytechnic gang rivalries.

My support and trust in her has helped her to accept and release her grief.

I started to learn Thai before we got married, but now I am lazy and not dedicating any time to study.

I help to teach her Spanish and she helps me with my Thai.

Share, share.....

One piece of advice I would offer to someone considering a long term relationship with a Thai:
Read Thailand Fever a few times to learn something about Eastern and Western culture.

Also get a good Thai/English talking dictionary.

I have the Word in the hand by Paiboon and it has helped us from many potential misunderstandings.

Thanks for starting this thread and giving us the opportunity to tell nice stories and I must say that I am impressed at the way you answered the first post to your thread.

x

[Expat1]

We moved to Malaysia back when for my business. So she left. Best life improvement I could have ever hoped for. Opened up a whole world of possibilities that I have since taken advantage of. In fact, never heard of her again. Excellent gift. Quite happy now overall. May you have as good fortune.

[off road pat]

Meeting my Thai wife is the best thing that ever happened to me....I fully trust her with my bank cards....and she saved my life 7 months ago.....

My wife is my other half !!!......I would never be complete without her.....this is my feeling !!

Like Costas's Wife, she calms me down when I get upset.....Chai Yen Yen....

Sins I met her +/- 14 Years ago...I could never imagine my life without her....she's my best friend....and she has a great sense of humour.

we communicate in half words, because we are on the same wavelength....she already knows what I am going to say before I say it....

I learned a lot from her and vice versa....

And tanks to my wife I think I'm a better man....still working on it...!!!

Edited December 6, 2014 by off road pat

[sattahipchris]

18 years in February. In my previously relationship (farlang wife) I was merely a sperm donor and provider I had a miserable life and was moody and complained about everything. When my wife and I got together people I worked with and my work was one in which I worked with many different groups of staff they were commenting regards the change that had come over me. If she decided she'd had enough of me and walked away from me tomorrow I could look back at our relationship and say "well I've had more than 17 years of hapiness with her." I wouldn't change her or her family that came with her for the world."

Incidently I had always stated emphatically after hearing so many horror stories that I would never marry or have a serious relationship with a Thai.

[smotherb]

Sorry guys, no tales of woe associated with any of my wives, just support and loving care--hmmm, must be something, perhaps I am too easily pleased . . .

[Cypress Hill]

Not to dismiss the value of the positive effect that a good partner can have on one's life but it seems foolish to base one's happiness on the presence of another person.

Better to find happiness/contentment within.

[blazes]

What did the Romans ever do for us? (John Cleese in Life of Brian)

[laislica]

Not to dismiss the value of the positive effect that a good partner can have on one's life but it seems foolish to base one's happiness on the presence of another person.

Better to find happiness/contentment within.

Quite right of course that one is "Better to find happiness/contentment within."

​In this wonderful relationship, the stress of previous existence has evaporated and I have found peace within.

I would miss her too mut if she should depart before me but since I'm 20 years older and male, the odds are that she will outlive me.

Thinking about this means that I must be sure she has a source of funds to support her after I am gone.

We are making projects to ensure that she will be taken care of and that makes us both very happy.

Share,share!

Knowing this forum, I could expect those comments about being worth more dead than alive LOL.

Such comments have no meaning to me.

We live for the moment.

May others be as lucky as us.

[nithisa78]

We allow each other the time and space to be who we are. To appropriately express ourselves.

[David48]

Humm ... You and your Partner.

I'm no Aristotle but sometimes, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Together, as a couple or Family unit, you can achieve more then as an Individual.

[EmptyHead]

So many things i don't know where to start.

[Si Thea01]

My wife of 22 years passed away in 2000 and I suffered from depression for a few years. Got so bad that I resorted to drinking to drown my sorrows. Then I met this beautiful, energetic women, a number of years younger than me, and we just clicked. No more alcohol problems

She has given me back what I had lost, my life. We became friends and contact was maintained until we both decided that we were both getting older and needed someone to grow old together with. It was a big step for me being so far away and although I had been to Thailand many times before, I was really scared.

I had to decide, after working and building my businesses of 40 years, having a home and everything that goes with it, to sell up and move over 8000 kilometres to start all over again. I was financially well off, just a unsure because of everything that I had heard had happened to many expats.

At no time during our courtship did she ever ask me for money, and as time passed I became more confident that we could make a go of it. I then put into action my plan and the businesses, home and it's contents were sold, as was my cars, and within 6 months I bought a ticket to Thailand. I told her that I was coming over to see her again, never told her that I would not be returning and within three months of arriving we were married.

She was a widow and had been for 9 years, had a grown up son, who I got on really well with and still do and when I did not leave after 6 months she became curious and asked me why I was still here. I had not told her earlier, I suppose I wanted to see how our relationship was progressing so after I felt secure I told her that I had severed all my ties with my home country and that Thailand was now my home and we were now husband and wife until one of us passed. I cannot describe the look on her face but I will never forget it.

I have been completely open with her, and she with me and the relationship is getting stronger and stronger as time goes on. We do most things together but she does give me some space and I, her. We have become the best of friends, great companions and lovers and always share the household tasks. My wife still works whilst I am now retired and the time we share together when she is home is pure gold. I have a few health problems, nothing major but she has accepted this and does many things for me without question or complaint.

Thanks to this wonderful women my life in Thailand has become Sabai, Sabai, so what more could one ask for?

[ozyjon]

What has your partner done to improve your life?

Spent my money, made me poor so i wouldn't leave

or so she thought, now we have no one else but each other.

[sfbandung]

My little Isaan wife is the love of my life. These have been the best years of my life.

[Gecko123]

My wife managed to make me feel that I was accepted for who I was.

This was an enormous comfort to me as I had never felt this before.

Once I began to realize that she saw me in a way similar to how I saw myself and still accepted me for who I was, this helped my self-confidence grow that I was a good person. This in turn has served as a foundation for ongoing personal growth.

In a word, my wife helped me to find myself.

For that, I will always be grateful to her.

[smotherb]

Not to dismiss the value of the positive effect that a good partner can have on one's life but it seems foolish to base one's happiness on the presence of another person.

Better to find happiness/contentment within.

Sounds like someone who has never found a true love

[WhamBam]

Not a wife but a lady I lived with for 2 years. She potentially saved my life 3 times.

Woke 3 times in the night unable to breathe. Choking. Unable to talk. Unable to walk with no air coming in to my lungs. Ready to collapse in a matter of seconds. Each time that wonderful woman stepped in and saved me.

We may not be together now due to circumstances, but she is one wonderful woman I will never forget and I'll be grateful to her for a long, long time.