How Much How Little?

[thaibebop]

First let me say that this is not meant to be a dirty post and I am not looking dirty secrets here. I am just curious as I have never really heard a woman's opinion on this. I know for everyone and every couple it will be different. So, I am really more interested in a female opinion rather than personnal information.

How much sex is too much and what is too little?

When if ever does it get in the way?

What would you consider healthy?

If too vague let me know, but I didn't want to be too specific, like I said I am tryingt to keep this clean.

Thank you very much ladies.

[britmaveric]

2-3x a day is satisfactory.

[thaibebop]

2-3x a day is satisfactory.

What is that, like 3 square meals a day, or all at once?

[sbk]

heh, heh, read the title and thought this might be another one of those "does size matter?" questions.

[thaibebop]

heh, heh, read the title and thought this might be another one of those "does size matter?" questions.

No, I don't want that question answered.

I am serious though. So, care to offer an opinion, SBK?

[sbk]

Ok, I'll bite

too much is when it starts to hurt (friction rubs!)

too little is when you forget what it's like

Sounds like I am joking but these are serious concerns for women.

But, I think alot of it depends on how long you have been in a relationship, (assuming you are in one) and how old you are as well.

[Boo]

Depending on the time of the month depends on how often women want or need sex (yes, need )

[seonai]

I have a very cool thing with Thai hubby. Sex is sex.... it's not all that Western stuff where you have to worry about foreplay. If we are unstressed about work - every day - if we have work... one or two times a month !!!! Shocked anyone?

[khall64au]

I have a very cool thing with Thai hubby. Sex is sex.... it's not all that Western stuff where you have to worry about foreplay. If we are unstressed about work - every day - if we have work... one or two times a month !!!! Shocked anyone?

YES!!!!! I happen to be very fond of all that Western foreplay stuff, thankyou very much! For me, if with a regular partner 1-2 times a day is great or if tired 4-5 times a week will suffice. If not with a partner, well.......

[TRIPxCORE]

I have a very cool thing with Thai hubby. Sex is sex.... it's not all that Western stuff where you have to worry about foreplay. If we are unstressed about work - every day - if we have work... one or two times a month !!!! Shocked anyone?

Are you saying you don't want or don't like foreplay???? You're a woman! Are you sure you wrote that right??? That would go against everything I have learned in my life about how to please a woman. A man just can't jump into her and go to town. The woman needs to be warmed up first and get her juices flowing.

[kayo]

sometimes the woman may be "warm with juices flowing" already though, or not...?

I´d say, on behalf of all the woman I´ve been with, that when they are with me, 3 to 10 times a day.

When they are without me.... My wrist hurts.

Edited April 5, 2006 by kayo

[khall64au]

sometimes the woman may be "warm with juices flowing" already though, or not...?

I´d say, on behalf of all the woman I´ve been with, that when they are with me, 3 to 10 times a day.

When they are without me.... My wrist hurts.

[kayo]

MISS YA TOO DARLIN´!!!

[suegha]

A serious reply - it's what suits the couple! Obviously when new to a relationship, 'at it like rabbits' and all those sayings apply. As a relationship settles down, you find an equilibrium, a balance. A happy relationship is where it's not about how often or how seldom, but the right balance that suits both individuals.

Having said that, most couples feel that life and work gets in the way! That's why (for example) when on vacation couples find their libido rockets! And then when back at home...

[kayo]

A serious reply -...........snip.............. 'at it like rabbits' Hehehehehehehe!!!!

Having said that, most couples feel that life and work gets in the way! That's why (for example) when on vacation couples find their libido rockets! And then when back at home...

They get divorced.... It´s true though... vacation brings out somehting.... As was posted by somebody elsewhere, when NOT under stress, often, when job(life) gets stressful maybe only once or twice a month... (actually I think it was your royal tigerness that said it)

Hello pátsy.... lurking again? How´s the melons...?

Edited April 5, 2006 by kayo

[thaibebop]

Ok, I'll bite

too much is when it starts to hurt (friction rubs!)

too little is when you forget what it's like

Sounds like I am joking but these are serious concerns for women.

But, I think alot of it depends on how long you have been in a relationship, (assuming you are in one) and how old you are as well.

Sorry, I wasn't clear enough.

I was looking at some of the threads here that contained sexual content. I was wondered what the mods thought about always looking over the same subject different material threads. I then thought of the female mods who went through the same threads. Where did this thought take me?

Think about how often everybody is bombed with images of sex. Think about when and where and how those images show up. I think it's safe to say that most of these images (sound, sight, text, whatever) are male driven. So, women are being, what, forced to watch, listen, read etc, male sexual desires.

Well, women it seems are rarely the demander when it comes to sex. We have all heard the jokes about the wife who doesn't want it or is bored with it. The husband always complaining that the wife doesn't put out anymore.

So, here is the idea. Unlike men, women's sexual drive might be affected by the amount of material that they have to take in and the amount of demand from their partners. So, maybe a woman isn't as sexual as she would like to be, or as comfortable with sex as she would like to be, because it is just another image in a long string of images, or it's just another demand from an already demanding world. Kind of takes the fun out it, eh?

So, do you ladies agree or disagree?

[LaoPo]

Ladies....Gentlemen...sorry to interrupt.

Here are some Global facts....enjoy yourselves

Foreplay/min--------------------------Global/#/year

source:

http://www.durex.com/cm/gss2005results.asp

ps: I'm not sure if I put the figures of 2004; the link above is 2005.

LaoPo

Edited April 5, 2006 by LaoPo

[thaibebop]

Okay, interesting, but what point are you trying make? I don't want to assume anything. Also, times isn't clear. Is that times a day, week, month or year?

[LaoPo]

Okay, interesting, but what point are you trying make? I don't want to assume anything. Also, times isn't clear. Is that times a day, week, month or year?

I have edited my post (above+below) with a better link. There's a lot you can find, most likely including a survey in your own country

Thought it might be of interest to the viewers of this topic.

http://www.durex.com/cm/gss2005results.asp

LaoPo

Edited April 5, 2006 by LaoPo

[thaibebop]

Okay, interesting, but what point are you trying make? I don't want to assume anything. Also, times isn't clear. Is that times a day, week, month or year?

I have edited my post (above+below) with a better link. There's a lot you can find, most likely including a survey in your own country

Thought it might be of interest to the viewers of this topic.

http://www.durex.com/cm/gss2005results.asp

LaoPo

Okay, cool. Do you have anything to say to my post (#16). I would be curiuos to here your opinion.

[LaoPo]

Okay, cool. Do you have anything to say to my post (#16). I would be curiuos to here your opinion.

Well, first of all I'm a male too so I'm not able to judge from the view of a/the Lady(ies).

Fact is that most 'sex' which is published, whatever the form or

content, is made/created by men, with women 'acting' as an object of lust.

It's interesting that lately some governments in Europe want to limit the 'sex' videoclips on Television (with a lot of -agressive looking- rappers in there) where the songs/raps are promoted as if rape and violent sex is normal these days.

I agree to that, especially since the very young kids (from 10 yrs onwards) watch these clips day in day out and it's like a brainwave...they begin to think it's normal behaviour.

**edit**

On the other hand I think that husband/wife/partner in general don't talk enough about their mutual sexual desires and fantasies and therefore 'don't open-up' to each other.

I don't know why that is; many men always complain that their wives don't understand their feelings/behaviour/fantasies...but if they would talk more they would be surprised about the fantasies of their own wives....and: their marriage would be a lot more fun and healthy.

They would become more like 'partners in naughty crimes' with secrets they only share between themselves ...and not with their 'buddies' in the bar on friday-night with a lot of b_ll stories.

Just my (own) 2 satang though.

LaoPo

[thaibebop]

Okay, cool. Do you have anything to say to my post (#16). I would be curiuos to here your opinion.

Well, first of all I'm a male too so I'm not able to judge from the view of a/the Lady(ies). Well, thats okay, I am sure the ladies will get around here sooner or later.

Fact is that most 'sex' which is published, whatever the form or content, is made/created by men, with women 'acting' as an object of lust.

It's interesting that lately some governments in Europe want to limit the 'sex' videoclips on Television (with a lot of -agressive looking- rappers in there) where the songs/raps are promoted as if rape and violent sex is normal these days.

I agree to that, especially since the very young kids (from 10 yrs onwards) watch these clips day in day out and it's like a brainwave...they begin to think it's normal behaviour.

** edit**

On the other hand I think that husband/wife/partner in general don't talk enough about their mutual sexual desires and fantasies and therefore 'don't open-up' to each other.

I don't know why that is; many men always complain that their wives don't understand their feelings/behaviour/fantasies...but if they would talk more they would be surprised about the fantasies of their own wives....and: their marriage would be a lot more fun and healthy.

They would become more like 'partners in naughty crimes' with secrets they only share between themselves ...and not with their 'buddies' in the bar on friday-night with a lot of b_ll stories.

Just my (own) 2 satang though.

LaoPo

Good reponse, LaoPo, as always.

[LaoPo]

You make me shy (almost)

LaoPo

[Donz]

who knows.

[glassdude007]

whenever we are in the mood ... and not get caught by the kids...

[Donz]

Drunken sex is the best

[girlx]

when i am drunk i feel more inclined to have sex, but the actual sex is never as good as when i am sober... usually the guy's fault because drunk guys are often impotent.

as for how often... totally depends... if i am with someone new i am really attracted to it might be a few times a day. i was with a guy for 8 years and near the end it might have been once a month. ce la vie!

Edited April 6, 2006 by girlx

[thaibebop]

Sorry, I wasn't clear enough.

I was looking at some of the threads here that contained sexual content. I was wondered what the mods thought about always looking over the same subject different material threads. I then thought of the female mods who went through the same threads. Where did this thought take me?

Think about how often everybody is bombed with images of sex. Think about when and where and how those images show up. I think it's safe to say that most of these images (sound, sight, text, whatever) are male driven. So, women are being, what, forced to watch, listen, read etc, male sexual desires.

Well, women it seems are rarely the demander when it comes to sex. We have all heard the jokes about the wife who doesn't want it or is bored with it. The husband always complaining that the wife doesn't put out anymore.

So, here is the idea. Unlike men, women's sexual drive might be affected by the amount of material that they have to take in and the amount of demand from their partners. So, maybe a woman isn't as sexual as she would like to be, or as comfortable with sex as she would like to be, because it is just another image in a long string of images, or it's just another demand from an already demanding world. Kind of takes the fun out it, eh?

So, do you ladies agree or disagree?

Is anyone going to read this? This is what the thread is about.

[donna]

girlx, i dont think its fair to blame only the man for bad sex when drunk. im certainly no candidate for a porn star rating when I am drunk, so i think its very unfair to blame only the man.

Give me sober sex any day.

when i am drunk i feel more inclined to have sex, but the actual sex is never as good as when i am sober... usually the guy's fault because drunk guys are often impotent.

as for how often... totally depends... if i am with someone new i am really attracted to it might be a few times a day. i was with a guy for 8 years and near the end it might have been once a month. ce la vie!

Edited April 6, 2006 by donna

[seonai]

Bebop, still not clear to me, sorry. I see the point about the images etc, I studied that at Uni - but if you start thinking about that too much it puts you off sex cos it seems such a male world. I don't understand why there are so many sex-related ads etc in the world. Aren't men sexually aroused enough as it is? Anyway that's off topic.

Regards sexual desire, I feel it comes from loving your partner and still being able to laugh and have fun with him - that's sexy! As Glass pointed out it's also quite fun in Thailand when you have kids as you always have to think of moments you can 'steal' for sex!!!! I say Thailand because of the 'open door' policy here in the countryside!!!!

My husband and I often 'make an appointment' almost - like, "okay later tonight for sure", or "tomorrow morning"..... sounds silly but it works.