seonai

They're both in their late 40's but still enjoy a bit of a party atmosphere

Late 40's and still enjoying themselves..... well, shocking!

Most of the expats living on Phuket are that age and over and thay are what what makes is so special.

Wait until you are 30 something then you'll understand.....

Hi SBK how are you? Thanks for your post. You and I talked a year or so ago about the "island boys" issue.

Well, I'm on an island too. 99.9% Muslim. Very quiet.

Violence - yes there has been several times. But I have to paint a better picture. My husband can be really sweet and loving albeit in HIS way. I have talked to him a lot about compromise and he has compromised a lot too. It's just his temper, I know, as you do, that shouting or being aggressive in my actions doesn't get me anywhere so I really try to be calm, but sometimes, usually when we are in company, something happens and maybe I say something a bit sarcastic to him. Then when we get home he goes nuts. Instead of 'banging' me - his words, he now smashes up stuff in our home. He can't seem to control it. If he feels he's lost face at all, even if it's imagined, he just goes mad.

Recently he's been going to the mosque more often and trying to be more of a family man. But he used to run a bar and be 'guy about town' so to speak..... so when he argues he always brings that up as if his male friends are egging him on. A lot of the men here get married and it's a family thing.... but they secretly resent it and group together to have drinking sessions etc. and get away from their wives and wives families. My husband doesn't drink luckily but he does like to hang out with the mates sometimes. I totally respect that, I don't mind.

The worst thing is, because it's a small place, I like to say "Hi honey, I'm home..... what did you do today...." and he just thinks there is no need to tell me about his day.

What do you think SBK?

Seonai

Thanks to all you guys and girls out there for your support when I most needed it. Really, big thanks. Ice Maiden, you are amazing considering your age !!!!

The world seems like a better place today.......

Seonai

Hi Lovejoy,

Perhaps you could send me a PM if you want to talk about small bars. What did you have in mind? I mean if it's with 'girls' I am not the right person..... if it's just a normal small bar I may be able to help.

Seonai - a fellow Celt

Reading this in the morning, THANKS you guys. It makes me cry to realise that we don't even know each other and yet you can offer such words of wisdom. Thanks Thanks Thanks.

Thanks for being men talking on a woman's area.

Isolated, yes..... small island.

Went to sleep hugging my son last night and he's being a star.

Will check in later tonight.

S

My questions are really simple, "What did you do at work today", "What did so and so say about....blah blah"

But I am not allowed to ask.......

I am not allowed to smile and laugh......

I must tip toe around all the time.....

Scared to speak if he's not in the mood.....

I think I have had enough of this world and it's horrible people. I try too hard to be natural and nice and all the time I meet people who are horrible and who want to hurt or don't care about others.....

I think I am weird

I CARE about other people

Hi Boo, I am having serious cultural probs with my Thai husband. I realise guys are guys and all that but would like to ask your advice and experience as a mate. female to female. Are you up for a couple of questions please?

Seonai - don't mind if it's on open forum or PM

Hi guys, especially to SBK whom I remember from ages ago. How much compromising is necessary for you to live with your Thai partner? And how about communication, I don't mean language, I mean understanding each other's needs?

My marriage is in trouble..... husband says i ask too mant questions, have too many ideas and that he wants me to leave him alone so he can "do his way"....

I love him and we've been together 2 years, I compromise a LOT. I wear Muslim clothing I curb my instincts to speak too much. Live and breath Thai culture........

Any ideas out there ? Not "leave him and get a life" answers please. I am trying to understand this.

S

sorry my keyboard has a prob with letters such as y and t

Okay it was worth a try.... wasn't it ???? If you reallt care about your offspring here. I suspect I am in a forum that consists mainlt of males who don't really give a shit about things like parenthood. I emphasis mainly..... sure some of you out there care but not too many.............

I know they are different coutries, I was trying to open a debate about our rights as parents here in Thailand compared to a superstar being granted immediate rights in Cambodia

so I guess why you are not replying to my post about A. Jolie is because most of you posting have no real tie with Thailand....... ce la vie

No need to say any more

S

So great Angelina Jolie has been granted Cambodian citizenship. How about normal parents to Thai children loving here in Thailand....... we are nothing right??????????????

Seonai

Tots, my son's family are from Roi Et and some of them live in Kalasin

don't know about you guys but I have to hit the sack soon.........

gettting bored bored bored

Love it to bits but can't do mine

khall testing testing

untitled.bmp

yes Tots, know Kalasin well. A tad on the dull side if I may say so.....

???????? why

are you really in Kalasin Tots?

so how does Tots know you're a lady khall ?

don't want Totser on our tail/trail do we ??????

hhhhhmmmmm are we ready to be exposed ????????

still here, got kicked out

re connected dear

xx