AdamRich

See plenty of foreign guys around during the day dressed like they're on holiday, except they're with a local girl (and for some reason almost always holding hands with her - I think I refused to hold hands with a girl as soon as I reached 16).
 
This thread has been thoroughly entertaining anyway, linked from the thaivisa email as a hot topic no less. Great value.
 
Also this is the first time I've heard the word 'freelancer'. Has this word become commonplace because users want to delude themselves that it's not just plain old prostitution?

I'm with you on the holding hands deal. Of course a freelancer is a hooker, but a hooker that you don't have to pay a barfine for. To me it is stupid to pay a third party upwards of 1500 baht just so some girl can leave with you. I would not even give THE GIRL 1500 baht for all night. And many guys pay a barfine for the same girl over and over. That really makes me like a deer in headlights.

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

Wow, who invited you to be judge and jury?  This guy is asking a serious question and deserves a serious response.  If you don't have anything helpful to offer, then please stay off this forum!  I suppose you are in a position to cast the first stone, yes?
 

You have to laugh at all the self-righteous folk on here. I bet they all came to Thailand to see the temples and never thought about the opportunities for easy sex. The guy just fancied a bit on the side like most blokes do. He'll get out of it , just tell her to sod off and if the long termer complains get shut of her too. In Thailand it's best to just use the women for sex and don't fall for the ridiculous thought these women actually love you. They love your money and security it brings them , nothing else and if you believe different then you're just another self deluded mug.

 

Guys bring it on themselves. If you open that can of worms by giving money then you don't know. But if you have never given the person money in the first place and they stick around then you know it is not for the money and security. In the OP's case the girl was a hooker, so of course she was there for the money originally, but there is always that .001% that it developed into something else. Poor odds, but the chance still exists. Don't try to turn a hooker into a housewife. You wouldn't go trying to use a wrench to do a screwdriver's job.

Apart from Thai, the nationality with the most inmates in jail is Nigeria.

 
BS, the USA has the largest prison population of any nation on earth... Where you getting your stats, the barstool? 

Correct. 1% of us Americans are in jail mainly because of our drug war and secondly because they now serve in place of the mental institutions that we used to have.

Thailand, and for that matter, most other countries need to be more careful who they allow into their country. Makes you wonder where they get the money to come here. 

Seriously? Nigeria has oil, which means money. You better belive a vast number of Nigerians have money. I have been to Nigeria but will never be going back. I could not even find anything to eat in that place for less than $10. And that was a kebab at $11.

Why is it that whenever I tell one of my Thai lady friends that I have a girlfriend, their next question is when are you getting married? (My reply is always "never" by the way.) How do they see me having a girlfriend as me getting married?

Haters!

Auctions can have a reserve price, if not met, then goods not sold

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Well we are talking about cars here which are n most of the world a depreciating asset. Maybe they will sell it next year at the price they want along with all the deteriorating rice.

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I don't know if depreciating is the right term.

In 1981 I bought a 2 year old Ferrari 512BB kept it for a few months and sold it as it was the worst car I have ever owned.

If I would like to buy back that same car today, I would have to pay tenfold the price I paid for it then.

It's Italian. What do you expect? Same with me and an Alfa Romeo I bought freshman year at the university.

Auctions can have a reserve price, if not met, then goods not sold

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Well we are talking about cars here which are n most of the world a depreciating asset. Maybe they will sell it next year at the price they want along with all the deteriorating rice.

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I don't know if depreciating is the right term.

In 1981 I bought a 2 year old Ferrari 512BB kept it for a few months and sold it as it was the worst car I have ever owned.

If I would like to buy back that same car today, I would have to pay tenfold the price I paid for it then.

It's Italian. What do you expect? Same with me and an Alfa Romeo I bought freshman year at the university.

If I was going to buy a car for the value PLUS taxes, then I damn sure wouldn't buy it at a car auction. Those are usually As-Is deals where I am from.

Brainless too.

I see the point about making sure it's not a pic of someone else's visa stamp. I hadn't thought of that. But, my local friends are only warning me about not carrying my passport because of the possibility that it is taken and I need to pay money to get it back. That's all they say on that. I don't understand it.

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I think the part they want to see is the white paper with your name on it that has the visa stamp, not the page in Your passport that has the stamp. At least that white paper is always what hotels copy.

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Presumably the foreigners without ID/passports were mostly Lao, Cambodian or from Myanmar? If they were tourists or expats and were taken to the police station, once their passport was produced they were on their way. Inconvenient but hardly the end of the world.

Never met any Cambodian or women from Myanmar there, but the women I know from Laos always have their passporta with them and ao do many of the Thai women who have passports.

Flexx is not usually pretty empty. It just doesn't get started until after 3am.

no...it's an addiction...you know, like heroin or crack...

if you don't believe it just google "nicotine rehab centers" and see just how many have been built since the 80's when everyone suddenly realized that cigs are same same crack...

It's not the substance, It's the person. Some people have addictive traits/personalities. I smoke every blue moon, but I am in no way addicted to it. My cousin used crack and was addicted to it, while I know others who were occasional users who were not addicted to it. Some people are addicted to food. Some people are addicted to sex. Is that the same as crack and cigarettes? We all have our thing and sometimes people tend to overdo whatever their thing is. There are been many prisons built since the 80s; does that mean people are addicted to crime?

This one sounds strange. Firstly the man is a Canadian. Secondly he is married and lives with his Thai wife - so I will wait out the result on this one.

. No American would be caught dead in a Canada shirt...

Now that is the truth. A friend who lives in Canada brought me a t-shirt and ball cap that say Canada about 4 years ago and they are still in the closet with the tags on.

1. Sounds like you need to teach your kids better if you are afraid they will play with and rub shit into their own eyes.

2. An animal is not a stray if it has a known owner, as you say it does.

3. I don't like animals, but I'm sure as hell not about to go out poisoning them. But I'm sure it will get easier each time, because that is probably not going to be the last animal ever to come in your yard.

4. If you don't want someone going into your house or car then you lock the doors; you don't set booby traps instead. Do like everyone else says and put up a fence/barrier.

Hustlers are supposed to hustle. There will always be more suckers and always be more hustlers. Your cousin is right. Let it go. Hopefully experience was his teacher.

I guess she didn't need it bad enough to work for it.

You live and work in Thailand. There is no record of your marriage in Thailand. Your wife from 100 years back lives overseas with no plan to go to Thailand. Why even worry about it unless you plan on taking your new wife to Europe. Why get married in the first place? You didn't learn the first time?

So you are thinking about remarrying your ex-wife and you want us to HELP stop you from making the same mistake twice?

They will run the meter if you make them. Or either they will tell you no and put you out.

I think you need a Flux Capacitor.

You beat me to it!

Two schools of thought on this one:

Be superman and save a damsel in distress who is probably used to having her behind beat and/or will get it even worse after you are out of the picture again. In this scenario you risk getting your ass shot off if the guy has a gun or getting your behind beat as well if the guy is a better fighter than you or if, like someone else said, the girl turns on you and starts helping her boyfriend.

Next school of thought is to go about like nothing is happening because it is not your business.

Who can say what is right? Maybe one will be right today, but in the same situation tomorrow it may not be so right. I would choose to mind my own damn business because it was not my battle to fight and I don't want to get drug into something that I was not a part of in the first place. I like living happily ever after.

"Dating" hookers? Isn't that an oxymoron?

Not at all. Many prostitutes have boyfriends or are trying to find boyfriends. They can keep their work separate.

True, but once you start out as a trick/customer then that is forever what you will be.