Ozybear

OP: Don't know why some posters are giving you grief. From what you have described you have homes in Thailand and Oz and plan to comute between them based on the seasons. From what you're saying you are providing some money from time to time for your local community & can afford the gifts and can afford to walk away - sounds good to me. I agree with some observations regards mutual respect, only your wife will know the reality.

Any relationship can break down at any time for a multitude of reasons & that is self evidenced by the negative comments in this topic. How many women in the West would live with a man long term without any assurance, same applies here in Thailand.

I have been living with my Thai wife for 17 years, both in Australia & Thailand. Our relationship has so far lasted three times longer that any Western woman I have lived with.

Best wishes for your future...

I do look forward to posting replies like yours in Years to come.

Oi oi oi

Classic case of rose tinted spectacles..

totster

Just lucky I guess, met the right one, live in the right places. Au and Nong Han.

Your life is no different from the rest of us that enjoy living here, nothing special with your circumstances. The small negatives that we also all experience haven't made themselves evident to you as yet, once you start spending an appreciable amount of time here they will. Having said that, the negatives are not a problem once you accept that's how it is and they certainly don't affect my outlook with regards to living here. As for the complaining, well there's nothing better than having a good moan about something when having a beer with mates.

totster

We all love moan with our western friends to clear our head from time to time as I also participate in.

Yes I am fresh here and understand that I will always do my head in from time to time from the country way of life but that is my problem and I do accept that after I do the count before I reply

Thanks for the advise and look forward to more.

Big smiles that there are some, what I call normal people here to vent with.

Thanks.

Classic case of rose tinted spectacles..

totster

Jealousy is a curse and as I attempted to put up a good news post, sad sacks try to bring us down. Just shows who's miserable within their own skin. No offence taken by me at all. Their life their choice.

I am happy and are not waiting to fall from guilt as some are just waiting from the choices they have made.

''The blind will never see''. BUT, we here wish you well and

"I spend 4 months a year in nth thai and love it."

your a tourist

Yes I am a tourist with family there at

Kitsune, your the negative type of person that does not understand life. Another miserable person that has an excuse for everything and tries to bring others down to your level, won't work with me sunshine. Keep thinking negative about things in life that you have no power over and keep complaining about them. One day someone will listen, but frankly, you really do sound like you should just keep your head in the sand so we all don't think how much of a jerk you must be, first opinion.

Pride comes before a fall and I'm afraid my friend,to most people on here it sounds like yours could be spectacular!

Just because I was bored and had nothing else better to do, I did a quick count of the posters views. 6 negatives, 7 positives, 4 Neutrals, and a couple of off-topics. Hmmm.....the vocal minority.

If its not on, it's not on. Lol.

Bloody auto correct.

Soz. Lol

Jealousy is a curse and as I attempted to put up a good news post, sad sacks try to bring us down. Just shows who's miserable within their own skin. No offence taken by me at all. Their life their choice.

I am happy and are not waiting to fall from guilt as some are just waiting from the choices they have made.

I have seen it and heard it lots. In my short experience, those that play around usually get burnt , the complain their asses off about being ripped off.

Lesson learnt.

The OP would be very surprised, if he knew, what the village folks really thought of him!

Hope the glasses don't slide of your nose anytime soon.

Respect given, respect recieved. Maybe that's where you went wrong.

You will learn with time.

Why comment if your so sour ?

Not sour chum, just seen and dealt with stuff NOT related to me. Perhaps me as an English guy you do not read my words as they are meant. Some here try to help and you do not understand we are trying to help. But thats OK with me, up to you.

My mistake chap, all taken on board but I am not a negative person and do what I can even before opening my wallet here.

Cherio.

You won't see alcohol at my place as I keep the doors closed. Lol.

I'm confused ...

What doors do you keep closed?

Do you keep the doors closed to hid the alcohol?

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Noooooooooo, he has learned a lesson I learned.

Yep he turned the neon flashing "welcome" sign off.

Not one of them are elders or bibs. They took me for face values, see I spend and looks for products first in the village, look for locals to do the work before I look elsewhere and it was noticed

Works for me.

You should try smiling, your life may improve in this country before being negative hence being shafted as I haven't come close to any bad shit since the first post.

SMILE.

The OP would be very surprised, if he knew, what the village folks really thought of him!

Hope the glasses don't slide of your nose anytime soon.

Respect given, respect recieved. Maybe that's where you went wrong.

You will learn with time.

Why comment if your so sour ?

The OP would be very surprised, if he knew, what the village folks really thought of him!

Hope the glasses don't slide of your nose anytime soon.

Respect given, respect recieved. Maybe that's where you went wrong.

Okay, did I spell naiveté with a small "n"?

Oooops.

Well, guess as long as you pass the cash and offer up big ticket gifts, you certainly deserve to be happy.

As did all the other posters who years ago posted similar stuff on ThaiVisa and, despite being deliriously happy and successful in Thailand, somehow stopped posting. ***

If your posts are accurate representations of you experiences, you're very likely in for a rude surprise due to naiveté.

Nonetheless, I wish you continued happiness.

***You can, you know, go back many years to TV's inception, and research this as I did, because, as it says below my posts, I'm bored.

The difference is I don't have anything to lose. A gifts a gift. It's there's to do as they please.

Maybe if one has a lot and in the position to give the mother of my wife a gift, nothing to lose but a lot to gain.

The OP would be very surprised, if he knew, what the village folks really thought of him!

Hope the glasses don't slide of your nose anytime soon.

Respect given, respect recieved. Maybe that's where you went wrong.

Welcome to TV. Just keep your wits about you and you'll do well. Thailand is a great place and ignore all the naysayers a la the post above this one (but keep half an ear open because some of them do have valid points but they express them in such a polarised manner), live your life and make the most of it.

And always have a get of Dodge plan as well......as regards the naysaying...are you inferring what I was talking has never happened in Thailand or even Isaan to farang ?

Dont you think its better getting into something knowing the possible pit falls, than having the rosey spectacles on at all times ?

The key point being...dont leave your common sense head at the airport on the way in and always use the head on your shoulders to think, not the one in your trousers...

Nuh, I was implying nothing of the sort. In fact I find myself in agreement with many of your points of view in this thread and many others. My advice to the OP was to keep his wits about him and to ignore naysayers, while half listening to them because they do have valid points and advice about life and living in Thailand.

If I was implying anything at all, it's be wary of anybody that has overly polarised views about any subject because there view is often skewed by an overly negative or an overly positive experience, or outlook. The two personality extremes could be cynical and gullible. Somebody with a balanced view is able to take the good from the bad, the bad from the good and offer a balanced critique or advice, highlighting the pitfalls and benefits.

Just to further agree with you - here's my very own personal polarised view that applies in every country in the world and every conceivable personal relationship, be they son, daughter, wife, brother or sister. The key thing being ANY COUNTRY IN THE WORLD. I will never buy a house or car or motorbike for anybody. And if I ever did build a house, buy a car for my loved one and it all goes pear shaped, you have no reason to complain unless they put a gun to your head and forced you to build it or buy it in the first place. You weren't robbed, you gave money to somebody to buy an asset in their name. The rights of complaint were lost the minute you put your hand in your pocket, extracted the cash and handed it over, regardless of the relationship.

So true. They never asked for anything but I did gave to build a squater in the bungalow for mummzy no western loo for her. Lol.

You won't see alcohol at my place as I keep the doors closed. Lol.

I'm confused ...

What doors do you keep closed?

Do you keep the doors closed to hid the alcohol?

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Noooooooooo, he has learned a lesson I learned.

Yep he turned the neon flashing "welcome" sign off.

Cpifc

Looks like we are in the same boat bloke. Happy. No expectations just their to embrace and be included live it, love it.

As mention, I met my wife in aus. I met the family on my first visit. Totally genuine family and built the house a week later. Present for them for raising such a nice daughter, no dad he passed many years ago, we have been in aus together the whole time together. Return for visits and welcomed by all, family and villagers. No rip offs no asking, just gifts with genuine thanks. Perfect. Wholesome family with magnificent values, even though I am the only farang in the family they don't expect anything except looking after wifey. Years later same deal. No sinsot asked as they had the house already. Pure issaan people's. they do exist.

You won't see alcohol at my place as I keep the doors closed. Lol.

My wife taught me the value of the $. So not as many toys and can feed the village if need be. We don't go without

nor do I waste money anymore. Work hard, play a little, share a bit more. To easy bro

Haha. The house was finished 4 Years ago and no dramas or money given out since. They love it when I arrive. We all sit down for day 1 feed bibs and elders and I only see them when I need something. I must be in a rare village or they got the hint early. If my bike needs anything fixed, I pay locals price, at the hardware shop I never pay price advertised, I get a cash discount, loyalty program, return business. Yes haggler tight ass but if they can, they lower prices for me. Goes around comes back for more. I like it like that.

No I don't bribe, I just use my $$ wisely.

Care to share as my box is now empty. ?

Thank you muchly Krispy Life is like a box of chocolates. Magnificent in issaan as they don't eat chocolate and I get them all. Lol.

Thanks rene. Will do. Life's great.