Phoenix1312

You say that you had the apartment before you even met him? So how can she say she can take it from you? I'd keep a hold on it, take your friends over and have loud, drunken parties - making sure ex hubby and nungirl hear all about it. Swan around with a new man on your arm etc.

Spit in his eye, like he did to you. Sing "Happy" everyday. I was cheated on by someone i loved very much once upon a time. It is not a nice feeling at all, i even invited the bitch and her child to my home to eat etc, because i had a garden for her kid to play in. Putting up with that brat kicking me and my cats. Not knowing that they were fumbling in the kitchen!!

You do get over it, it takes time and tears and shouting at walls and listening to sad songs. But you get there.

Keep smiling and giving these old bitter men whats for on here, I have for years, in a way they like it....!!! Gives them something to do.

Love it. I listen to Eminem. He thinks because we were together for 8 years he can claim half of what I have or had before I met him. I will sort him and her out. Wild parties. Nice thought haha.

Those bitter old men are a joke. They don't upset me. Morons. They don't realise that there is good and bad in every culture. Just because my skin is white doesn't mean I don't have dignity and class.

Thank you for your post. I will keep smiling. Promise xxx

Who's going to win the first Origin Game this Wednesday?

The Good Guys in Maroon, or the Bad Boys in Blue?

Queenslander

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

Haha. Do you really look like a rats ass??? Only kidding.

On a good day.

Your new name, guessing the 1312 is birthday...13th Decemebr and I'm guessing the year by the photo..say 1989 ?

Clever. Yes 13th December. Year? Im a lady and we never divulge. Lol.

nearly dobbed myself in then I did...

Haha. Do you really look like a rats ass??? Only kidding.

That is a good positive new name

Thank you. I didn't know I could change it. I called myself cheated and that was a sooky mistake.

Yes better to reaffirm "like a phoenix rises from the ashes"

Than be reminded by a forum name what some fools folly caused in your life

Good Luck & remember like U2 said in a song

The ruins to the right of me will soon have lost

sight of me

Thank you. I love U2 and yes that's why I picked the name Phoenix. I will rise from the ashes dust my self off and start all over again. I think that's a song too. Lol

If you didn't leave your husband you would have him and his assets but it's your emotional response that caused this ball to roll down the hill, but as a women I doubt you see it. you're only worried about the assets aren't you? Life is a tussle lady!

Another bitter farang. Mate I'm not after his assets, he's after mine. So you think I shouldn't have left him? Really? You need to look at yourself.

That is a good positive new name

Are you going to move back to Australia?

Already back in Australia

Hey, you were allowed to change your username?

I wasn't allowed to a couple of years back...

Are you going to move back to Australia?

Already back in Australia

I wanted to say thank you for all the lovely posts and pms. I am moving on and I wrote that post as I still have the apartment in Phuket. They want it and are trying everything to get it.

I really wanted advise on her as he has told me recently that it's her country and she has the upper hand with the law. I got scared.

The best advise sometimes is other peoples experiences. Lawyers are no help as I have posted before.

I wasn't whining as some one suggested. I really didn't need the horrible posts. I was just hoping to get an insight of how devious she could be and what I maybe up against. It's hard when you live in Australia.

I am over him and have absolutely no feeling for a man who can treat his wife so cruelly. They will get their karma I'm sure.

I hope I can sort all this out when I return to Thailand next month and leave the nightmare where it belongs in the past.

Again thank you for all your help and words of encouragement. You have given me the strength to fight for what is mine xxx

If you are in fact "over it" I suggest you change your name from "cheated" to something less sad sounding

I didn't know I could change it. Would love to. How do I do it?

I have asked support desk. I wanted to change it ages ago. Thanks for reminding me.

I wanted to say thank you for all the lovely posts and pms. I am moving on and I wrote that post as I still have the apartment in Phuket. They want it and are trying everything to get it.

I really wanted advise on her as he has told me recently that it's her country and she has the upper hand with the law. I got scared.

The best advise sometimes is other peoples experiences. Lawyers are no help as I have posted before.

I wasn't whining as some one suggested. I really didn't need the horrible posts. I was just hoping to get an insight of how devious she could be and what I maybe up against. It's hard when you live in Australia.

I am over him and have absolutely no feeling for a man who can treat his wife so cruelly. They will get their karma I'm sure.

I hope I can sort all this out when I return to Thailand next month and leave the nightmare where it belongs in the past.

Again thank you for all your help and words of encouragement. You have given me the strength to fight for what is mine xxx

If you are in fact "over it" I suggest you change your name from "cheated" to something less sad sounding

I didn't know I could change it. Would love to. How do I do it?

The temptations for a married "Man" here in Pattaya are one too many for so many relationships, marriages go down the tubes because most men predictably succumb to the sirens of the streets and bars.

When I married my wife who was previously married for ten years to a German National whether she wanted us to live up in Khon Kaen near her Mum and Dad or in Pattaya where we had a house she said that If I went to live in the village within a short time I would be either an alcoholic or stir crazy.

You see she knew my personality maybe better than I did and after a few visits up to her family which lasted about 10 days on average I realized that it would have been a big mistake for me to try to accept village life.

Her argument for staying in Pattaya is that there is always something to do or somewhere to go.

That there are so many different types of people, societies and even some culture here that if you make the effort you will find a niche for your interests, hobbies or more important intellect.

Personally after ten years of marriage to my lady whom I love completely and who for the last 18 months has been suffering a terrible case of the menopause which has caused rows, fights and some depression on my part, I nearly fell into the trap in looking for some third party sexual relief.

The fact is that I have a conscience.

I made many crafty plans to achieve my objective and even paid for a couple of happy endings at a local massage parlor, Thinking in Clintonesk style that a hand job wasn't really sexual intercourse or in fact an affair.

Of course like Clinton I was wrong and before I went the whole hog I suddenly had a brainstorm and realized what a self center prick I had become.

There is a "Obsession with sex" culture here in Pattaya that is just as devious , dangerous and self destructing as any main line drug.

Those that are embroiled in the culture just like Junkies deny their involvement and obsession.

The sex obsession creeps up on a person with the insidiousness that is not recognized until it is too late.

The bars and sexual sub culture in places like Pattaya breed and stimulate an idea that this type of behavior is the norm, thereby enticing those with little or no conscience or intelligence that whatever they do with a paid for lady is OK and right.

I personally have known many men lose most if not all their wealth, position and maybe even integrity after their genuine lady wives found out about some clandestine affair with another sexual partner from the bars.

Is it surprising that when this happens to any woman in the world that the woman will react in the manner that they do in Thailand in getting rid of the offending husband and causing as much damage as they can, isn't there an old saying about a woman scorned ETC

The OP sounds IMO a great lady, very intelligent and doesn't suffer fools lightly as she has shown with some of her acerbic answers to some of the pricks on here who have deliberately tried to take the thread off topic and have a go at the lady for being nothing more than Western in origin.

You see Cheated, shit really does happen anytime to anybody and you are not unique or alone in that you loved and married someone who was mentally beneath you, in other words you were not equally "Yoked" a grand old Yorkshire saying that makes perfect sense in your situation.

Like I said in my PM and others agree with on here "accept your pain as a stepping stone to somewhere better and move on"

Your wife is a very lucky woman to have you. You are a gem and I hope she cherishes that. Thank you for your post.

Imagine if things were reversed. That on every corner was a massage place offering sexy men for soapy massages for women, entire areas devoted to sexy men on stage with chrome poles, fishbowls of sexy men, internet escort sites a phone call away and everywhere you went, sexy men that smile and flirt with your wife, regardless of age and looks.

I can't imagine it's easy for foreign women in Thailand, knowing that their men will be bombarded by sexy, money-grabbing "women" from the moment they leave the house.

How long would your girl stay faithful?

It's not exactly an even playing field.

But, I guess most women knew the situation the moment they stepped off the plane, and I'm sure most women think "my man loves me, he won't stray", but men are easily seduced. They only have enough blood to operate their brain or their penis at one time....not both.

If I was a girl, I probably would not bring my man to Thailand. Just far too many temptations.

Thank you for that post. You are an amazing guy. The worst part of all this is that after 7 years together, we finally got married. It lasted 10 months. We didn't even make our first wedding anniversary.

I gave up a very successful business in Australia, sold up and took my dogs and cats to move there with my husband. It took him 3 months to cheat on me. I couldn't believe it. As far as I knew we were happy and had a lovely restaurant. He wanted me to stay as we were a great team. Obviously I couldn't. He was sleeping with her at night and picking me up for work in the morning. How can anyone be so cruel? I was shattered.

You should have hung around, ran the restaurant and figured a way to screw him back....a restaurant like that must have attracted some well to do foreigners and you could have had countless liaisons in the meantime. ...and watched his relationship slowly unravel with time......keep your enemies close and such....you did the wrong thing leaving, giving in/up etc.

Is it possible to cook up a story to go back and get into things...make a success out of it, turn it around into something positive and that'll really piss him and her off......

Then we can meet up for that sunday evening thing on the couch also...

You are right. I should have stayed and fought for what was mine but in the end I didn't.

Your couch again giggle giggle giggle xxx

The temptations for a married "Man" here in Pattaya are one too many for so many relationships, marriages go down the tubes because most men predictably succumb to the sirens of the streets and bars.

When I married my wife who was previously married for ten years to a German National whether she wanted us to live up in Khon Kaen near her Mum and Dad or in Pattaya where we had a house she said that If I went to live in the village within a short time I would be either an alcoholic or stir crazy.

You see she knew my personality maybe better than I did and after a few visits up to her family which lasted about 10 days on average I realized that it would have been a big mistake for me to try to accept village life.

Her argument for staying in Pattaya is that there is always something to do or somewhere to go.

That there are so many different types of people, societies and even some culture here that if you make the effort you will find a niche for your interests, hobbies or more important intellect.

Personally after ten years of marriage to my lady whom I love completely and who for the last 18 months has been suffering a terrible case of the menopause which has caused rows, fights and some depression on my part, I nearly fell into the trap in looking for some third party sexual relief.

The fact is that I have a conscience.

I made many crafty plans to achieve my objective and even paid for a couple of happy endings at a local massage parlor, Thinking in Clintonesk style that a hand job wasn't really sexual intercourse or in fact an affair.

Of course like Clinton I was wrong and before I went the whole hog I suddenly had a brainstorm and realized what a self center prick I had become.

There is a "Obsession with sex" culture here in Pattaya that is just as devious , dangerous and self destructing as any main line drug.

Those that are embroiled in the culture just like Junkies deny their involvement and obsession.

The sex obsession creeps up on a person with the insidiousness that is not recognized until it is too late.

The bars and sexual sub culture in places like Pattaya breed and stimulate an idea that this type of behavior is the norm, thereby enticing those with little or no conscience or intelligence that whatever they do with a paid for lady is OK and right.

I personally have known many men lose most if not all their wealth, position and maybe even integrity after their genuine lady wives found out about some clandestine affair with another sexual partner from the bars.

Is it surprising that when this happens to any woman in the world that the woman will react in the manner that they do in Thailand in getting rid of the offending husband and causing as much damage as they can, isn't there an old saying about a woman scorned ETC

The OP sounds IMO a great lady, very intelligent and doesn't suffer fools lightly as she has shown with some of her acerbic answers to some of the pricks on here who have deliberately tried to take the thread off topic and have a go at the lady for being nothing more than Western in origin.

You see Cheated, shit really does happen anytime to anybody and you are not unique or alone in that you loved and married someone who was mentally beneath you, in other words you were not equally "Yoked" a grand old Yorkshire saying that makes perfect sense in your situation.

Like I said in my PM and others agree with on here "accept your pain as a stepping stone to somewhere better and move on"

Your wife is a very lucky lady. You are a gem and I hope she knows that. Thank you for your post. You are a very caring man to take the time to write all that.

I am okay now. The reason I asked the questions is I still have the apartment over there and he still texts me and is very threatening. Bottom line they want it and I will fight till the death before they get it from me.

My ex staff are still in contact with me and have kept an eye on things. They are very worried about her and that's why I asked if her story could be true. Is she really that devious? What am I up against? After all it is her country and she has the upper hand I think. Well he has told me that.

I am happy now and really want this to be over. Unfortunately it isn't yet as I need to sell the apartment and put the nightmare behind me.

Some bitter men on this site take my post as whining. I really just wanted some good advice. I am in Australia and it's the only way I can get some help. People's experience is the best advise. I don't need abuse from bitter old men.

Again thank you. Really I am okay and am moving on with my life and I have absolutely no felling for him whatsoever. I believe he will get his Karma and so will I. xxxxx

yes you have been cheated but as far as i can see you are still very far from figuring out by who/what. i doubt if you ever will make the leap to that discovery. your grass isnt always greener on the other side of the fence.

over & out.

I have figured it out. Now I have to decide what to do about it.

Imagine if things were reversed. That on every corner was a massage place offering sexy men for soapy massages for women, entire areas devoted to sexy men on stage with chrome poles, fishbowls of sexy men, internet escort sites a phone call away and everywhere you went, sexy men that smile and flirt with your wife, regardless of age and looks.

I can't imagine it's easy for foreign women in Thailand, knowing that their men will be bombarded by sexy, money-grabbing "women" from the moment they leave the house.

How long would your girl stay faithful?

It's not exactly an even playing field.

But, I guess most women knew the situation the moment they stepped off the plane, and I'm sure most women think "my man loves me, he won't stray", but men are easily seduced. They only have enough blood to operate their brain or their penis at one time....not both.

If I was a girl, I probably would not bring my man to Thailand. Just far too many temptations.

Thank you for that post. You are an amazing guy. The worst part of all this is that after 7 years together, we finally got married. It lasted 10 months. We didn't even make our first wedding anniversary.

I gave up a very successful business in Australia, sold up and took my dogs and cats to move there with my husband. It took him 3 months to cheat on me. I couldn't believe it. As far as I knew we were happy and had a lovely restaurant. He wanted me to stay as we were a great team. Obviously I couldn't. He was sleeping with her at night and picking me up for work in the morning. How can anyone be so cruel? I was shattered.

Cheated ,why not try a lesbian fling,you may find it helps you get over this,just an idea.

Good idea. Haha

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

hey skuzee me! there is a queue. your after the fat geeza with the tan way back there.

and no definitely not, find out where the Wat is yourself, were not giving you a heads up at all

shheesh the cheek of some ppl.

Hey you are funny. I like your post.

Er,sorry to say,but,i think he is taking the piss out of you,not very well mind you.

Yeah I knew that. I was trying to be funny too. He's another clown.

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

hey skuzee me! there is a queue. your after the fat geeza with the tan way back there.

and no definitely not, find out where the Wat is yourself, were not giving you a heads up at all

shheesh the cheek of some ppl.

so welcome to tv,if this is really your first post.one would suggest it can only get better from here on in,i doubt it though.

You always get clowns on this forum.

Sometimes it's better to suck it up and say nothing. I learned that very quickly in Thailand. You get no where with losing you temper. It just makes you angrier and frustrated. You handled them well my friend

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

hey skuzee me! there is a queue. your after the fat geeza with the tan way back there.

and no definitely not, find out where the Wat is yourself, were not giving you a heads up at all

shheesh the cheek of some ppl.

Hey you are funny. I like your post.

The comment directed towards Cheated are pretty unfair. She is not the first, and certainly won't be the last to lose out to a Thai temptress.

I think most people will agree that some Thai women can be manipulative and seduce a foreign man without too much difficulty. Some of them have the chat, the physical assets and they know what a man wants to hear. It's a seduction. For the weak minded, it can be intoxicating.

Her husband took the bait. We all know it will end badly with the Thai hooker - it always does. I bet most of us have heard this story before. I know I have. I see 50 years old guys wearing a wedding ring with young things on their arm of less than half their age - the dance begins.

But whatever Cheated did or didn't do, I can understand her anger and questions.

Living well is the best revenge.

Agree. Some of the comments here are really mean-spirited. It's not enough that this poor woman lost the love of her life, she has to get dumped on with a bunch of innuendos and plain obscene remarks. TV at its finest!

It's not that all married western men get mesmerized by Thai women, only the susceptible ones. And these are guys who would have messed around back home if the opportunity was available. Thailand just offers many more opportunities. And some of these older guys are just not used to getting the attention of younger women. It can be rather powerful....if the man is susceptible.

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

Haven't you noticed the losers with 4000 or so posts always insult every one who posts or asks a question. They are the most pathetic people I have ever come across. They seem to just wait for a post to rubbish the op. They don't have a life and are poor and sorry old decrepit men. They should be banned from this forum. They make me sick. There are 3 of them that constantly do it.

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

hey skuzee me! there is a queue. your after the fat geeza with the tan way back there.

Who ? I missed him.

Cheated, just a question. I may have missed it, but is your ex still with this woman, or has she dumped him already?

hey skuzee me! there is a queue. your after the fat geeza with the tan way back there.

Yes as far as I know she is. She is living the life being in charge of the restaurant. He has just put it in her name so I guess she will enjoy it for a while. Interesting times ahead.

What fat geeza with a tan. Did I miss something lol. Sorry didn't mean to.