casualposter

I'd say that a younger man in his mid thirties who on the one hand is swanning around with a complete and utter whore but on the other hand is paying all the household expenses, furnishings, automotives, utilities, covering her business losses, and standing by while she grooms her Thai daughter into the trade just so he can hear his buddies say she is hot . . . . . . I would say that this guy has designed and furnished his own private personal hell on earth.

He'll lose his money, HIS face, his self respect and his hair will fall out in handfuls.

Next he'll start drinking heavily, smoking heavily and neglecting his own appearance.

Interesting.

But what's even more interesting is that you actually care.

If you were a successful politician and married to a Cuban supermodel, would you care?

If you were the CEO of a software giant and married to a Bollywood leading actress, would you care?

If you owned an airline and lived with an Abyssinian aristocrat, would you care?

If you were an English earl and enjoyed the company of an exotic Iberian countess, would you care?

If you were a Wall Street banker and married to a Manhattan socialite, would you care?

What you (and other Lilliputians like you) fail to see is that your comments are more about you than those you denigrate.

PS. For the record, I do NOT care.

Let's upgrade that to, "if you are not giving your gf enough cock or money someone or possibly MANY are."

I work with a guy whose wife (they had a regular Thonglor Wedding Shop wedding) . . . . . his WIFE, and her sisters actually compete to see how much farangagledangle they can service. One close friend of mine actually had a few sessions with her before their wedding and when I kinda scolded him he simply declared, "my Gawd, Donnie, Kevvy isn't gonna MARRY that whore is he?" Another friend warned this hapless hubby that while the wife didn't actually sell it on the street he was marrying into a family of full-on whores. He met her while playing on lower Sukhumvit but he constantly points out that she's never worked in a bar.

Hubby would hear none of it. He was smitten. HE had a hot wife that turned heads. . . . . . a fashion accessory, arm candy. And for this he's willing to pay any price, do all the housework, pay all the bills (including her business shortfalls) and buy her gold.

For years, and at any and every opportunity this coworker will boast to anyone who'll listen that he's found "one of the good ones" when in fact he's married to a woman who will flirt with and then PROUDLY service just about anyone who can give her face or money.

She uses her money-losing rag-trade business in one of the large Pratunam complexes as bait to reel in mall- cruising farangledangle. . . . . anyone will do. . . . . cruisers with holiday money, mid-thirties serial visitors, pilots, other women's hubbies are all subject to his "wife's" carnal ministrations.

He's caught her several times as well with farangledangle mobile numbers on her phone. . . . . Talking with her gig, partying with her gig and rolling home at dawn. It's always the same: they have a row, he ends up kissing her feet and declaring his love.

Either hubby knows she flirts with ANY passing jeans bulge who looks like he has a little money, he's turning a blind eye rather than risking confrontation or he's just stoopid. ANYONE who can pay for a month's rent or some cheap fabric, cover the building maintenance fees gets to play with her. Even the other Thai shopkeepers are shocked when she marches her husband, her gig or some passing airline worker through the complex arm in arm.

Her parents are fully aware of her game as well. She's had the main gig up to the village several times. The family likes him. She and her sisters ALL cut their marital teeth on local Sisaket boys but were actually encouraged by their own keen sisterly rivalry and ridiculously large sinsot to step up to farangledanglers. It's a classic Isaan success story; the women all have foreign husbands with good income and they ALL have had big weddings. And these "husbands" are ALL cuckholds.

Of course the co-worker is just beside himself with pride of ownership of a "hot wife" who does her extra-marital gig regularly IN the house that the cuckold built on over-priced family land a stone's throw from his Upcountry in-laws.

Everybody knows except "hubby."

I'd like anyone to top *that* one.

I could re-write your story with one word: Isaan.

Sorry forgot to say that it is a first date. 3000-4000 is my maximum budget. Ideally I would like to spend less.

Ha! Aim to spend MUCH less.

Blowing large amounts of cash early on sets a precedent you may not be able to sustain.

Go to a fairly quiet place where you can chat and get to know each other. There are some good Thai restaurants around Petchaburi Road (sois 5-7).

Have a nice time.

Good for you!

Remember that the creeps trying to put you down are just rejects who can't find girls in their own countries. Most of them only ever marry prostitutes or low class women with crappy jobs and no assets.

Once again, sorry to hear about your troubles on the dating site. You'll bounce back. You'll end up much stronger and wiser.

excuse me pal,

i married a poor farmers daughter who had nothing,,,,,, what you think is nothing anyway, money ect,,

but take it from me,, she,s got a heart of gold,,

and do you no what,

im man enough to say it on here, i love her with all my heart, shes a great wife and a wonderfull loving mother,,

life and love isnt just about money,,,,

This thread is not about you.

The thread is about a woman from the Philippines who had a bad experience on a dating site.

If you want to discuss your wife, start a new thread.

dont yopu think your a cleaver <deleted>

Why the need to be rude?

I don't care about you. Why would I?

Stop trolling. Stop being a creep.

Good for you!

Remember that the creeps trying to put you down are just rejects who can't find girls in their own countries. Most of them only ever marry prostitutes or low class women with crappy jobs and no assets.

Once again, sorry to hear about your troubles on the dating site. You'll bounce back. You'll end up much stronger and wiser.

excuse me pal,

i married a poor farmers daughter who had nothing,,,,,, what you think is nothing anyway, money ect,,

but take it from me,, she,s got a heart of gold,,

and do you no what,

im man enough to say it on here, i love her with all my heart, shes a great wife and a wonderfull loving mother,,

life and love isnt just about money,,,,

This thread is not about you.

The thread is about a woman from the Philippines who had a bad experience on a dating site.

If you want to discuss your wife, start a new thread.

its a lack of faith that makes people afraid.

i am sorry for you too.

i wont level down for a guy has a poor mind like you...

so enjoy....

Good for you!

Remember that the creeps trying to put you down are just rejects who can't find girls in their own countries. Most of them only ever marry prostitutes or low class women with crappy jobs and no assets.

Once again, sorry to hear about your troubles on the dating site. You'll bounce back. You'll end up much stronger and wiser.

It's a troll.

Go away -- you social cripple.

you could be saying that about 90% of TV posters, why scare one of the onyl girls away, brave enough to come here?

The OP's not a troll. My reply was directed at the sad creep who replied to her as such.

The perils of dating sites I guess. Full of lying sociopaths and social misfits who can't get any in the normal run of life...but some will tell you there are really some 'quality ' women to be found online.....

As opposed to those getting their gf from bars. (usually girls from bar are bar girls)

Your behind the times mate plenty of good quality woman to be found online. I haven't tried dedicated dating sites yet but other sites sure. Nowadays with line and whats app face-book ect everyone is online. Perhaps you did not figure that one out yet.

Sir. Methinks rose rose coloured spectacles. To be honest I don't think you need being told.

No. Rob isn't wearing rose-colored spectacles. He's got it right.

The overtly negative sentiments directed at online dating sites are coming from very jealous men who are trapped in boring marriages with frumpy, middle-aged runts.

The jealousy on this forum is at times tangible. Think of it this way -- if you were married to a Venezuelan supermodel, would you care about other men's partners and how they met them? You wouldn't.

It's a troll.

Go away -- you social cripple.

not the first time I heard an asian say she didnt like Indians

She said he "sounded" Indian. She didn't meet him.

He was probably African.

Oh God. He sound like and Indian

Oh God not an Indian! Maybe if you stopped judging people based on their race, people won't feel the need to lie about it.

I guess it was Chief Shitting Bull.

He was most likely Nigerian.

I could be right for her, but, as long as the mother has control over her financial decisions, she isnt right for me.

That is not the only reason I left,

but it was up there,

I told her, all of our future problems are clear to see,

she had no choice but to admit, she had no control, and cried real tears, streaming tears, knowing that I was right and thus, powerless to help her, if she wasnt willing to take control back from her mother.

I mentioned previously, one of the big red flags for me, was when her mother sent her a Power of Attorney form, for the house she lives in, right after we visited her, and I told her, there was no way she should do it, and it sat there for weeks, unsigned, while the mother called for it repeatedly, and even had it sent by an overnight courier.

I am suggesting she sell all of her properties in the north, other than the mothers home, to secure her BKK home.

This is just good sound financial advice.

She has been home for the holidays for two weeks, and has kept me up to date with pictures and I have stayed supportive to her emotionally. This for now, is the only role I am willing to continue until she restructures herself.

She might, but, I wouldnt wager

One thing is certain,

5 months with an American, she is not the same person she was last time her mother saw her; which was with me.

I treated her with honor and took very good care of her, better than she did, of me. Funny how the very pretty one's, no matter their origin, are all the freakin same!

The mother is aware, that I am not a fan, and will not tolerate her as her last thai boyfriend did,

who by the way, contributed to her home building in the north, then got tossed for disrespecting guess who.

the mother

if the power of attorney got signed over the holidays, that will be my answer

I could be right for her, but, as long as the mother has control over her financial decisions, she isnt right for me.

What you've written is quite interesting. I can now see what's going on. Your GF is Chinese-Thai and her mother is horribly controlling. This is a big problem and very hard to overcome.

You'll probably see plenty of schoolkids (or trolls) on this forum claiming to have married into Chinese-Thai families. No. It very seldom happens. When it does happen, it's because the family is poor and their ethnicity is purely academic.

I only know one farang who's married into a wealthy Chinese-Thai family. They treat him like dirt. He's viewed as the errand boy.

one of the big red flags for me, was when her mother sent her a Power of Attorney form, for the house she lives in

That sounds bad. What did your GF do?

I treated her with honor and took very good care of her, better than she did, of me

Good for you.

The mother is aware, that I am not a fan

You're gonna have problems. I was with my ex for ten years. After about five years, though, we had a sort of trial separation. At that point I met a rich Chinese-Thai girl and asked her out for a date.

She wrote back. I'll never forget her email. She said she'd had a meeting with her family (all eighteen of them!) to discuss "my proposition". The answer was no.

I tried to squeeze between her and her mother, but it didn't work. If the Chinese mother is wealthy, controlling and against you, you're in for a rough ride.

I can see staying in contact with her but why oh lord why us?

That's a bit cruel.

I figure the guy's at a low ebb in his life. I figure he's been through divorce or redundancy or bereavement.

He came to BKK to escape; he met his Soapie Princess; he had his holiday romance; he had a great time.

He needs time to bounce back.

I reckon ScarTroll is a good guy.

thats a pretty good read,

its all of the above, including a young wife with cancer, in our third year of marriage, at age 44

She lost her mind from the drugs, long before the disease finally finishes her, which is soon

Hey bro -- I'm sorry to hear your troubles.

You take care of yourself.

I can see staying in contact with her but why oh lord why us?

That's a bit cruel.

I figure the guy's at a low ebb in his life. I figure he's been through divorce or redundancy or bereavement.

He came to BKK to escape; he met his Soapie Princess; he had his holiday romance; he had a great time.

He needs time to bounce back.

I reckon ScarTroll is a good guy.

thats just plain crazy,

but I guess it happens.

Yep, it happens.

But it's no less crazy than middle-aged Americans falling in love with Soapie Queens.

middle ages are the 30's

and, she's the one in love,

or, whatever love can be for a girl in her unfortunate position

Do you still keep in contact with her?

thats just plain crazy,

but I guess it happens.

Yep, it happens.

But it's no less crazy than middle-aged Americans falling in love with Soapie Queens.

I have to agree with this. I think the issue with ThaiVisa "scammees" is that they've neglected to meet the girl in person.

It's an unfortunate oversight and one which often leads to heartbreak and a compromised bank balance.

I personally didn't do this. I decided to meet the girls I was chatting to. I guess I thought it might be kinda cool to see what they were really like.

I agree. I know a guy who works on a boat and he is an accident waiting to happen. Big money; small brains.

Thailand is a primitive country in many ways; about 100 years behind the West. Women are far more tribal than techno.

Not saying the women are bad but they are capable of becoming pirates.

Some true stories.

When I used ThaiFriendly I came across one or two incredibly beautiful women. I wrote to them. They were decent. But when I told them I was in BKK, they went cold. I then figured they were fake accounts managed by scammers (possibly westerners). I figured they were targeting the Lonely Hearts Club in the US or UK.

I came across other women who ignored me because I was in Thailand. They were real. I figured they were "greed mongers" in search of quick cash or a green card. I think these are often the women who ThaiVisa scammees encounter and complain about

I eventually met a "greed monger" who lived in Bangkok. She was just disgusting: she was convinced she was beautiful; she was convinced the world owed her a living.

if they do not make any grammatical mistakes, they are probably nigerians

thai girls always have issues w english on type sites

if they do not make any grammatical mistakes, they are probably nigerians

Not necessarily. A few years back a South African girl was busted in Thong Lo (BKK) for managing a string of dating site accounts that targeted westerners in Europe.

The girl claimed to be Thai.

It was the standard story. She fell in love with the westerner; the westerner sent cash so she could come and visit; the girl got held up at the airport; the girl needed cash to clear immigration; then she needed more cash; and then more.

And morons sent the cash.

EDIT: this story dates back to about 2002/3.

I have to agree with this. I think the issue with ThaiVisa "scammees" is that they've neglected to meet the girl in person.

It's an unfortunate oversight and one which often leads to heartbreak and a compromised bank balance.

I personally didn't do this. I decided to meet the girls I was chatting to. I guess I thought it might be kinda cool to see what they were really like.

I agree. I know a guy who works on a boat and he is an accident waiting to happen. Big money; small brains.

Thailand is a primitive country in many ways; about 100 years behind the West. Women are far more tribal than techno.

Not saying the women are bad but they are capable of becoming pirates.

Some true stories.

When I used ThaiFriendly I came across one or two incredibly beautiful women. I wrote to them. They were decent. But when I told them I was in BKK, they went cold. I then figured they were fake accounts managed by scammers (possibly westerners). I figured they were targeting the Lonely Hearts Club in the US or UK.

I came across other women who ignored me because I was in Thailand. They were real. I figured they were "greed mongers" in search of quick cash or a green card. I think these are often the women who ThaiVisa scammees encounter and complain about

I eventually met a "greed monger" who lived in Bangkok. She was just disgusting: she was convinced she was beautiful; she was convinced the world owed her a living.

There is no way to get to know a woman on line.

This is why you progress from online "chatting" to real world meetings.

That would be a good idea. But what really happens is the relationship stays in virtual reality and the male is scammed in real time. In other words and electronic scre*. Then the scammees come on Thai Visa and tell us all their tale of woe like it was real.

I have to agree with this. I think the issue with ThaiVisa "scammees" is that they've neglected to meet the girl in person.

It's an unfortunate oversight and one which often leads to heartbreak and a compromised bank balance.

I personally didn't do this. I decided to meet the girls I was chatting to. I guess I thought it might be kinda cool to see what they were really like.

There is no way to get to know a woman on line.

This is why you progress from online "chatting" to real world meetings.

you get to know only the surface in "meetings"

you know the real woman, when you are in her bed in the morning, many mornings,

and no, not your bed, hers

And? So? This is what dating's all about.

You meet; you date; you get to know each other; you consummate the relationship; you become an item; she moves in with you or you with her; babies follow. Blah blah blah.

Any fool knows that the initial contact -- whether on a dating site or at a disco -- is just the acorn from which an oak tree may or may not grow.

I'm really at a loss, though, to understand the negativity directed at dating sites.

There is no way to get to know a woman on line.

This is why you progress from online "chatting" to real world meetings.

if she starts to date a man, should she then delete her profile, until she is sure?

Yep -- that's the correct protocol.

Once the two of you become an "item", you should both delete your accounts.