Been there done that

6 hours ago, thatland 2018 paul said:

54 but I get taken for 42-45 and she is 38



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But looks like 55 probably.....????

1 hour ago, Elkski said:

I think it is a good thing that children support their parents.  I do wonder when this tradition began? Perhaps with children moving away from the farms and making so much more money in big cities?  Perhaps with the media exposure where advertising  can brainwash everyone so that what is a good life now includes a phone, aircon, car, etc.   I wonder how many of these parents supported their parents?   What bothers me is when its not even support from all siblings,  1 of 4 children are the main supporter and they have a very poor life as a result while other siblings drink and gamble but dont have money to support mom.  

 

Thats when the farang comes in the picture. We always hook up with the most caring daughter in the family. ????

On 4/17/2018 at 9:22 AM, sanemax said:

Its Thai law that the Children MUST support their Parents

????????????????????

People do not seem to understand that one is not able to reason with people who do this to their own child(ren). 

Low selfesteem and some money can go a long way in the village.

On 1/4/2019 at 3:47 PM, FritsSikkink said:

Make friends with your partner, because according to Thai law it isn't your child (yet). Then start the process to legalize you as the father.

Unbelievable comment.

11 hours ago, Spidey said:

Do you know me, do you know my wife? Don't take it out on me because you can't get a decent woman.

"I am generous and trusting to my wife but access to my bank cards/bank account, Whooa! "

Thats trust for you. A load of claptrap !

5 hours ago, Spidey said:

I am generous and trusting to my wife but access to my bank cards/bank account, Whooa!

 

How did she get the keys to the 2 cars? Whose name are they in?

 

My advice, liquidate as much as you can, get as far away as you can with your son. Preferably your own country. You have no choice but to forget your wife and stepdaughter and start a new life.

 

Hope that you have better luck in your new life.

Generous and TRUSTING.....what a load of claptrap !

26 minutes ago, sanemax said:

You need to always look after yourself first , yes, help other people , but dont give them everything that you got  

Like crayons ????????????????????

23 minutes ago, AlexRich said:

Interesting, and no less true for being so. Dark humour is part of the culture. I frequently see people on here getting upset about a comment that is obviously a joke. 

There is a distinctive difference between dark humour and coldheartedness, would you not say ? 

Just now, AlexRich said:

 

I think you fail to understand the black humour of people from Great Britain, it’s pretty much a tradition, to find humour in the worst of situations ... and if you are from the USA it might just go straight over your head. You may be applying a literal interpretation to something which is essentially a joke?

Ohhh to present oneself as a coldhearted person is in fact ...a joke ????????

Interesting.

11 minutes ago, Hummin said:

You might ask the op?

 

Have a great holiday ????

Ohhhhh ????

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

Do we really do anything, if therr is nothing in it for us? Seriously? You need to wake up, because the mirror effect will slam you hard one day.

Define....in it for us.

Thanks.

5 hours ago, Enoon said:

 

"Choosing" to "switch on/off" empathy is the mark of the sociopath.

 

In fact they choose to temporarily display the qualities of empathy for their own satisfaction/purposes.

 

Usually to convince others (but sometimes themselves) of their own "decency".

 

And nothing to do with what empathy actually is.

 

 

 

 

 

A bully always gets in defensemode mode when questioned. 

3 hours ago, BritManToo said:

We didn't conquer the world by being kind or nice.

But how did you lose it all, hence the coldheartedness perhaps.

56 minutes ago, Katia said:

I'm still not sure why everyone is painting this as his fault.  He wasn't the child's caretaker, merely a friend of the family who observed the interaction from afar.  What is he supposed to do, go charging up to everyone who speaks to the kid within his line of sight and demand to know who they are, how they know the kid, their intentions, driver's license proof of insurance proof of residence and business card plus mother's maiden name and three references?  I bet you're a blast to be around whenever there's a child within a ten-mile radius.

Yes i am. Thank you for noticing it. You must be an empath.

8 minutes ago, damascase said:

Empath??

https://drjudithorloff.com/quizzes/empath-self-assessment-test/

You learned something today.

Is it possible here ?

If yes, how ?

If no, why ?

Thanks for all your wise and experienced comments.

Reading all comments, i conclude that OP must stay away from little children as he is not able to look after them on a proper way.

Not the first but certainly not the last. 

1 hour ago, Rc2702 said:

Toys for a 3 year old maybe.

Good to read that you see the ridiculousness of your own topicquestion. There is hope.

Jeeezzz if you already need advise for this, what's next ?

On 12/11/2018 at 1:29 PM, Hummin said:

I wonder how thats possible? Would you like to fill in more details, to understand how it is possible to experience 4 violent relationships? 

S and M probably.

2 hours ago, dickjones2018 said:

all the advise here, even from the more medical professional one, I have to say most of you don't have any experience with this kind of person... do this, do that...

move out of your condo (specially if he owns it), move jobs...

 

easy words and hope you never have to deal with a devious person like this, but you did not, you have no experience how they lie & cheat & manipulate.

 

they can have a job and appear to be the model worker, for their family & friends, they might be the wonderful person/daughter/son/friend.

 

but they don't have to deal with the real person, who is a master at manipulation, even making you feel bad for everybody else (gaslighting, bad mouthing, etc...)

 

in this case, as the OP said, she tried to take his hand and hit her (mine went to hit her head to the door / the floor) ...  they want police involved, they want you to be guilty about her childish demon games

 

bi-polar or not .... mine is a toxic narcissist

 

the run away, hit her ...  yeah, that will make you the biggest loser

 

but in OP's case, no children involved... so more options for future sanity, maybe running is not such a bad option, but than to his home country as if he stays in Thailand, who knows what can happen, life is cheap, full of crazy bastards, enough proof that thai people seem to be able to commit crimes/murder with a lack of conscience (psychopath's)

 

the lack of self control, the abuse of power the have, you (me) being a foreigner with let's be clear, no rights ... where even YOUR LAWYER can screw you/be corrupted just for a few bucks , and let's not forget ... THAI RAK THAI ...  it is in their national anthem

 

a thai in your country have the same rights after marriage in your home country, get citizenship, can buy land, own your house, start a business without all the hastle

 

you living here 1, 5, 10, 20 years, makes no different, you long stay tourist NON THAI

 

going to see an MD to check her head, well, she probably thinks YOU are the one with a mental problem, as this is the case with all nut cases and does not want to admit any wrong doing

 

these people don't change nor ever will

 

Good post and seems correct to me. It is too easy to judge when one has not been in it.

6 hours ago, sanemax said:

Its become quite apparent as to why you sons mother wants nothing to do with you 

Why does the mother of your kid(s) does not want anything to do with you ? As you claimed to be in a similar situation.