Moonmoon

Ok charlotte, but please plan properly before you go and meet this ex.

Get a friend to go with you. Arrange to meet in a public place with many people around like starbucks or something so neither your ex nor you would be too fired up to do anything overboard.

Inform your family members or close friend your whereabouts and update like every hour.

If even after you come to Thailand and your ex still refuses to meet up with you, then please kindly let it go. Because it will kinda make you look bad if you try too hard to contact and meet him.

Thats all i can advise to you. Good luck!

3 hours ago, CharlotteQ said:

Sometimes just the simple truth would be satisfying enough :}

 

And thank you for warning me about the possibility of getting scammed. I truly appreciate it. So you think I should just go ahead and apply for a tourist visa and see what happens? TBH I'm feeling very fragile right now and am very afraid of more bad news.

Its a risk u have to take. Though i honestly think there should be no problems. I overstayed for a few years b4. I paid the fine, sign and acknowledge the warning paper. 

Came back,

No blacklist. I supposed yours is the same, sign some acknowledgement warning and thats all.

1 hour ago, CharlotteQ said:

Thank you again for sharing your heartbreaking story just to help convince me.

 

But is there really no way to pursue justice in Thailand as a foreigner? That when horrible things happen to us, we should just shrug them off no matter how much they hurt you, and how much pain you are STILL going through as  a direct result of their terrible crimes?　

Dear Charlotte, i will not hold the truth from you. The world is really full of unfairness and there are people with worst fate than you. You can read about them on the news in Thaivisa forum everyday.

I want to know too why my ex can cheat me after all i went thru and given to her, but what good can anything come out of it.

If my ex knows that I am successful in life now maybe she want to come n get a piece of it. Think about it, if you go back now, your ex will certainly think of a plan to harm you again. 

Your safety is the utmost priority here.

Lastly can i advice if u like to come Thailand again, and there is no blacklist stamp, u have to just risk it and come then u would really know if u have been banned or not.

Going to the embassy of Thailand in China or asking any embassy agents or legal agents is just giving them an opportunity to scam money off you. They might tell u that "oh yes there is a problem, but dont worry i help u na..." and follow up by "just pay 5000baht and you can come thailand". 

Dont open doors for these people to scam money off you. Dont offer up information when its not needed.

1 hour ago, CharlotteQ said:

Hi Moonmoon,

I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. So happy to know that you are having a lovely fresh start :}

I guess what I really want, is to ask him face to face, "after all that you have done, how do you suppose that I go on living? " Or maybe just a simple apology.

I will look forward to being able to start a new life after finally being able to leave all the horrors behind.

Charlotte, pls do not do that face to face. 

From what you have told us in your posts, this guy is obviously violent and Thais cannot suffer from loss of face.

You were falsely thrown into mental hospital by him n his family becos Thais cannot lose face. The family cannot afford them to have a bad name.

From my last few sentences I hope i can stress it upon you that Thais cannot lose face n if u do what u plan to do, u will only suffer more.

When I was cheated by my ex, she also told her friends n my friends many stories about me, but the truth was after i was dumped n left with nothing, a Thai took pity on me and offered me to work for 200baht a day in his internet cafe n sleep there. 

Even then she found out where I was and still wanted to create trouble for me. 

If what has happened to you is not a bad example enough then take into both our examples into account n let it go.

Just go n have a better life. You want an answer why he can do what he did? He is a bastard n scum. He will never answer truthfully or ask for your forgiveness, if he does, maybe he wants something from you again.

Let time heal your wounds. Sometimes in the heat of the moment it is hard to see, once you give it more time and go have a new life and when you are in the midst of enjoying your new and good life, think back on your ex, then you will see its not that important anymore, why? 

Becos you will have much more important stuff that is making you happy then to go back to your ex again.

3 hours ago, CharlotteQ said:

It's very kind of you to have asked.

TBH after all that had happened, I've received little understanding from people including my own family. So I'm not expecting anyone to understand what I'm going to say in response to your question. But, the truth is, I've been abused to a point that I could no longer carry on my life as a normal human being. I've developed severe heart problems due to the constant abuse from my ex, as well as depression and anxiety disorder. My ex knew that perfectly well. He even wrote me a signed letter promising that he would help me get recovery with his best effort. However all of that turned out to be a lie.

 

After the mental hospital, the police station etc...My condition worsened so much that I felt utterly hopeless. Thus my attempted suicide. My family fail to understand the reason for my suicide. They just want to drug me and quickly "get me back to normal". I feel that I must make things right even if no one else would fight alongside with me. That's why I'm going back to Thailand, the origin of my problems, to confront them whichever way I could find. The consequences no longer worry me, as I have already been to hell and back.

Hi, Charlotte, I would advice you against doing that.

You already know they can bribe the police here and have you thrown in hospital or jail with all kinds of trouble.

I respect you wanting to get resolve, but with even your family not helping you, if you come again, who can you fall back or rely on in times of trouble?

If you want to come back and enjoy a new life, rediscover Thailand and heal yourself, I would please of course please do so.

but please move on from this ex, this hell of a life you fought so hard to break free from.

I understand your situation completely. I had been a victim of a similar circumstances before, my money all taken from me by an ex Thai girlfriend, and got into some trouble.

I had no one other than myself to blame for being too trusting.

But I left that behind, met another Thai woman who is a business woman,  not from the nightlife kind of woman and am happily married and am having a good and fulfilled life now.

So I hope I can encourage you to come back to Thailand but not back to your ex.

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2 minutes ago, electric said:

To the OP .... I applaud you for your extraordinary 100% grasp of the English language.

 

Sentence formation, grammar, punctuation, American spelling .... all 100% correct. Perhaps many Chinese nationals have this ability. I just found it a bit surprising. Well done.

 

An interpreter-translation career awaits you. Move on from your unpleasant Thailand experience.

I can speak and write Mandarin ( and 3 different dialects of Chinese), English, Thai, some Bahasa Melayu. 

May I get some suggestions for my career options? hehehe

Sorry to hear you went thru all these. Hope your next trip to LOS brings you better luck and fortune. :)

Some of you here have the misguided concept that we r trying tell the OP to be rude and refuse to cooperate with the immigration, police or whatever relevant authorities that are in Thailand. 

What some of us are trying to tell him is to protect himself from possible scams in a polite and firm way and cooperate in the best way he can if they are genuine.

From my experience, if u come across any immigration officers or police here and u speak to them nicely and request them for ID, they will not refuse u.

10 hours ago, BlindMagician said:

Record the conversation.

Ask them why?

Ask for their ID first, and copy the info plus take photos.

Tell them you will follow up by checking with their station.

Then show them your ID.

 

Maybe they want to stop somewhere along this process.

 

If they are legit, they won't object.

 

Now that I remember, the neighbour whom acted as my witness when the immigration officers came to my house for interview; took their all their photos and photos of their IDs and all documents that she had to sign. The immigration officers were ok with it.

It was just to protect herself. when in rome do as the romans do. When in Thailand do as the Thais do. 

Even if their IDs are fake, let's say 1 fine day the police officers suspect you of something related to your ID, at least you took pics of their IDs and photos of them (nevermind the fake names cos at least u got their pictures) as proof of this encounter that your ID and photo was taken on for questioning by some immigration officers.

Nevermind what the others say its a waste of time cos they might have fake IDs. If u have to go to the police station, go in your own or the transport of your choice. let them follow.save the number of the police station of your neighbourhood in your hp. Waste of time, nevermind.. better than getting yourself into real trouble and waste even more time behind bars or getting kidnapped. I don't mind doing something or going the extra mile to keep myself and my family safe. YOu can never be too careful or confident even in your own country.  I am not asking you to be paranoid.

Just take care of yourself.

anyways the Arab looking guy might actually be born in Thailand and grew up as a Thai guy who received an english education (which explains why he spoke english) and a Thai one as well to give him the benefit of the doubt. 

I know quite a few South Asian Thais, Middle Eastern Thais, Caucasian Thais, Chinese Thais and probably quite a few other mix as well. You don't have to be South East Asian or Thai Thai to have a Thai Nationality. 

But yeah try to ask for their IDs next time.

The staff at Thai embassy in Singapore mostly being Singaporeans adhere to rules and regulations strictly.

You must have all the proper paperwork required.

If you got extensions too many times for Thai tourist visa you will be flat out refused with advice to stay away from Thailand for 3 month or 4 months.

But if you got all proper paperwork and am not someone who is doing visa runs. I don't see why you will be refused a visa.

These are all my observations from all the times I have been to the Thai Embassy in Singapore.

its is very important to go the local immigration office to obtain the full set of documents needed. I learnt that from 1st hand experience. depending on your situation there might be additional documents needed. Bring your Thai wife down to ask for the list of documents needed. Go through all of list thoroughly and in detail. Do not be afraid to ask in detail even if they seem busy. U do not want to assume u know anything cos if u went home and came back without 1 document u will be sent back to prepare again and if u said u dont know, u will be replied simply, it is your responsibility to know or to ask. 

Yup 90 days report for my marriage visa n extend for another days. Thanks.

I have got my marriage visa at samut prakan immigration. My 90 days is almost up. 

What documents do i have to prepared to get my 90 days extension again?

Thanks 

Cash only. 

Ya thats the much easier way. If not theres alot of paper work n can get pretty confusing the 1st time. The only downside is going out n in every 90 days, but look at it this way u can a break from the missus every 90 days lol

Its definitely cheaper where i come from. Unless u r talking about starbucks n macdonalds, the prices r almost the same as back home, which is crazy cos thai wages r 5 to 6 times lesser but fast food prices r equipvalent n yet alot of thais can still afford it.

http://www.samutprakanimmigration.go.th/warning-of-overstay-in-thailand/

20k THB fine. More than 90 days overstay and if u surrender to the immigration at the airport banned for 1 year.

I was also told to get a witness.

I just went to samut prakan yesterday n another officer tells me its 2 months not 3 months for 1st timer. Different officers have diff info. Grrrr. But ok i m going down again by friday to change my visa to a marriage extension visa.