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Can't find an app on G Play or google search.  Help please and thank you.

I had thought that I could walk away from a woman I mistakenly married last year but it seems to be not so easy.  I hear that some Thais marry several times in a village ceremony or something.  I have heard that divorce can be as simple as both parties going to the municipal and declaring there desire to be divorced.  But I also hear about people getting taken to the cleaners. I just want a simple solution .

We were married at the municipal in Buriram city properly witnessed etc..  We live 90km north is a small rural village.

Looking for some expert advice and/or comments please to prepare myself with the right questions before the first meeting with the lawyer (whom I already know).

I have a prenuptial and a registered usufruct on the land that I had purchased 8 years ago and gifted to her.  I own all the buildings etc. on the land and I have the right to use the land for my lifetime.  She will get everything (millions) on my death anyway whatever our marital status. 

I have a house and a fully equipped guest house.  My wife has been sleeping next door in the guest house for over a year.  It looks like she has no intention of going anywhere else for the moment; we are in the village of her birth and she lives like a princess (her latest crochet is always ready to go).

She thinks it is ok to look online for a 'New King' but if I simply speak to a woman in a friendly way the roof come down. (I was alerted to the attached by a friend).  I am finding that some women that I have spoken to will not continue even talking as friends after reflecting on my marital status.  'She could sue' is something that I have heard.  Sue who and for what?   

I have helped her and her family over the years to the tune of ponds dug, farm cabins built, wells bored, nieces educated, small fleet of motorbikes bought and a new car for her (off the top of my head).  I also built all these houses/pool etc. that will be hers on my death.  I stopped giving her 5000 baht a month pocket money some time ago when she complained that it was not enough. 

Her family are very nice btw; it is only she who is a lazy, incurious, stupid narcissist. 

Yes, yes; the name is Sucker - not Tucker.  But she has gone too far now and I must escape.

So help me plan to get rid of her please.  I just realized that as I have an usufruct on the land and I own the buildings; I don't have to go (duh) even if she is next door.  But it seems that I do have to divorce her if I want to make any new friends who are female, even if they are in another area far away.  I am 75, btw, do not drink and really would simply like some more friends and a simple life.

Thanks in advance for comments.

I was driving too fast on an empty road in the early hours of the morning, sun was up.  There was a windy bit down south heading north from Phuket and I just took a straight line across the bends, no other cars is sight, and bingo there was one of those radar units overhead.  I am pretty sure I got zapped going much much faster than the 50 km limit through those bends.  

I know I was wrong.  I see on a schedule of 2023/24 fines that speeding gets a fine of up to 4,000 baht.  Is that it?  Can there be of something more severe?

Thanks in advance for any comments 🙏🏼

Thanks northsouthdivide.  will blocking my partner from LINE remove her access to my account?  Could I just block, or something, all but the friends who I know for sure are ok?  There are many who tried to join me, or something, by phone number.  I have unticked that option but there are lots there.  Why do they do that?  Is simply blocking them enough?  I have had my current phone number for 8 or 9 years.  Must I change my number to secure my LINE account.  Little used but very useful when it is.

Thanks again for your helpful comment.🙏🏼

Thanks connda, really interesting.  Have you tried any melatonin products from china?  There are lots of listings on ebay for this supplement, available in various strengths.  The Iherb site I found is UK and prices in GBP.  It is cheaper than Lazada for Doctor's best B12, for example, but the shipping is a killer. (I get it about free shipping with min purchase.  Just a comment about smaller orders.)

The Thai supplier of CBD oil noted by me in earlier post offers their product in different level of strength.  I use the Thai Govt. product that seems only to be available as it is, no stronger versions that I am aware of but it works for me.

Apparently CBD can be extracted from hemp so it has virtually 0% TCH.  I am not an expert, this is just what I have read. 

Thanks exfatriate and connda for reminding me about melatonin and similar supplements.🙏🏼

All the Chinese melatonin   

Thanks Chris Daley.  If I don't use 'chat' how do I message friends please?  I am clearly a novice with all this spy stuff.  Thanks. 🙏🏼

exfatriate, Have you tried CBD oil ?  I know about melatonin and other similar supplements and use the ones appropriate for me.  However, CBD is different.  see attached.  It is available online ( https://optimanatural.com/). 

Depending on your location and circumstance you may be able to source the Thai Govt. version at your local hospital. It is called DTAM GANJA OIL It is about 200B for 10units in a small bottle with a dropper as it is measured by the drop for use.  For me it is 1 drop to calm (not sleepy) and 4 drops at night to help sleep.  Zero THC so no probs driving etc..

I am familiar with meletonin and like it but this is a different thing altogether.  

CharlieH:   Has a comment been moved or have you moved my post please?  Where was whatever it is moved to please?  What is the correct forum where I can look for post and/or comments please? Thank you.

Thanks Nemises.  The person I am intent on leaving (when I figure out how and when) has, in the past, gone on a sex holiday with an Australian met on line and has, more recently, been looking for a 'New King' on a Thai dating site. Both forgiven in the mistaken effort for harmony and continuation of a life heavily invested in; emotionally and financially. I have got millions invested in my home and contents built on land that I paid for (500M B land only) and supposedly protected by an USUFRUCT contract.  She is a narcissist who is also lazy and (no disrespect intended-description only) is incurious and stupid.  Boring to the nth degree.  

So, still looking for comments on how to protect my privacy please and thank you.🙏🏼

My wonderful wife has managed to hack my LINE and seems to know details of my chats.  I have just changed my password and have blocked her using the app option.  Will this be enough?  I am not really experienced dealing with this sort of thing and do not know what to do to stop her.  YT has a post stating that there are leaks in the LINE app but these instances seem to be a bit complicated to access so may not apply to my (soon to be x) partner. 

I do not have a huge list of contacts on LINE so a new account and notifying those on my LINE contacts could be ok if I don't inadvertently open the new door for my x. 

Also, is there a way to know if a person has been blocked by a LINE user?  As in, will my x be able to see that she is blocked?  Can I determine if I have been blocked by another?  Any comments will be gratefully received with thanks.   🙏🏼

Thank you sateuk,  'nakon air chai bus' has great reviews.  Multiple depots (departures?) noted on name google map search.  Thanks again.🙏🏼

9 hours ago, Toby1947 said:

Another Cheap Charlie, working his vehicle fuel consumption out to the inch. 555

Hey Toby!  I am old enough to remember the days of 427 Chevys and  big Dodge Hemies offering 5 or 6 miles to the gallon so watching the needle stick on 'F' km after km gives me much pleasure.  6L / 100 is at speed(ish) btw. 4 or 5 / could be had with eco set and a light foot.555 yourself🙂🙏🏼

Thanks NanLaew, for an expanded review of Denim's suggestion.  I have found the reference on a FB post from 2019 reference, thank you Denim, the price has changed a bit but what a great idea.  I have searched  https://www.airbnb.com/ and there are many options within minutes of the AP from 11,000 baht for 30 days (parking, pool, and all usual amenities included). That gives more options to consider as AP parking is 7500 in the garage.  I know that there are issues with airbnb regards housing shortages in the west but feel ok about it here in Thailand.  Not same problems. Thanks a lot for these ideas.🙏🏼🙂

Thanks Ben and Denim.  I have done the drive/hotel/fly option during covid and it is ok but not needing the room for more than a night makes the whole process of arrive, check in and out almost as bad as the connecting flight process.  For this domestic travel I am going to try driving down.

My car is a Toyota hybrid and I use 6L/100km so 300km is 3L x 6 @35B = 630 THB minus 3Lx1 @ 35B = 105 THB. so 630 minus 105 is 525 fuel cost difference.  I know this is silly and does not reflect the true cost of driving but you did ask.  555

Thanks very much for your interest 🙏🏼

Well Crossy, do you have a shady corner in your yard that you might want to rent for a month?  Taxi to DMK ok?🙏🏼

Thank you for the link Crossy.  Is it 250 B a day minimum whatever parking area used?  Are there any off site park and transfer to AP services available? Any of the parking offered recommended please?

Fly down option is more costly (4600 vs 2000) and is much longer (6++ hours connecting vs 1.5 hrs from DMK to Surat direct).  Fly down arrives in the late afternoon in Surat with ferry ride ahead = very late arrival in KP.  Drive+fly arrives Surat in the morning = normal ferry connection and afternoon arrival in KP. If I leave home at midnight (or later) I should easily be at the AP for a 0700 flight having driven 300 km on empty(ish) roads.  I would have had to drive/taxi about 100km to get to any local AP anyway as we are pretty far from any of these facilities.  Thanks again for comments.🙏🏼

Thank you Olav, I'll check it out.  The drive down or bus down option is because flights from Buriram or Kong Kean are 2000+ baht more costly and can be a 10 hr flight (due to connecting flight at BKK) more than flying from DMK to URT (Surat Thani).  Also, all the connecting flights arrive at URT in the late afternoon.  That means taking the ferry to Koh Phangan the next day.  Direct flights from DMK arrive in the morning so normal day transfer to KP will enable same day travel and hotel check in on the island.  Flying into Koh Samui is more than 10,000 baht more expensive with same flight time, btw.  Shorter ferry ride but is it worth it?  Thanks again for any comments.🙏🏼

About parking options and costs for 1 month accessible 24/7.  Sorry, I have written to various parking options shown on G maps but no reply so far.  I plan to drive down from Isaan during the night to catch an early morning flight to Surat Thani and so will want to park at 0500 or so in the morning.  Best options please and thank you for any comments.🙏🏼

  Taxi, minibus service from Buriram city to Bangkok (DMA) airport.  Traveling to Koh Phangan all the flights from this area, including from Kong Kean and Korat stop in Bangkok and can be pricy (to Koh Samui).  Are there any overnight buses that get to DMK in time for a 0700 flight to Surat Thani please?  I have just made the drive down to Phuket and do not want to repeat if other options are available.  This is a lazy way to search for travel options and I thank you in advance for your indulgence and comments.🙏🏼

Posted this a while ago but still have not found a yoga group although I see there is a pilates and yoga open near the hospital now.  I am 90km north of Buriram city and would like to find a group to join on a regular basis.

Anyone aware of yoga groups and/or instruction near to Buriram city or within striking distance of there. I attended Yoga classes with AGAMA in Kho Phangan for some time and would like to continue.  I am a novice and also too lazy to do on my own just now.  Thanks in advance for any comments.

Thanks MJCM.  I know Bob and will give him a call.🙏🏼

Thanks for your comments.  I have had a little bit of experience with wood boring beetles and with those we had some success soaking the infested wood with a nasty chemical product and also injected it by drilling small holes and using hypodermic needle.  That fixed up local infestations but I wouldn't know how to start on a whole house.  

This house is in Satuek, Surin area.  Can anyone suggest a company to help with this problem please?

Thank you🙏🏼

A friend has some sort of insects eating the wood of her home.  In other countries there are strong insecticides to spray onto or inject into wood that can cure the problem. I have done this work myself with varying levels of success (some to none).  There are also companies that come and do the work to eradicate the problem.

Any comments and/or suggestions for products, anti bug companies etc. here in Thailand will be very welcome.  Thank you🙏🏼

If you are going for a 90 day then no need to leave the country.  To extend a non 'o' retirement visa for another year (the best as no med insurance currently req'd) then no need to leave the country.

You MUST get a letter from immigration giving permission to exit and come back if you choose to go.  Failure to do so will cancel your current visa on exit and you must re apply from the start again.  

I do not understand why muranp feels leaving the country is a feature of visa renewal.

The cost of a SB coffee vs min wage prompts this question about pay etc. in Thailand.  Up here in rural Isaan there are lots of numbers thrown out ranging from say, 300 baht/day for casual labor, to 10,000 baht/month for 7-11 staff.  How much do staff at banks or municipal positions earn?  I have heard that payments (bribes) to higher  management are required to secure better paying jobs with police, banks, government etc..  Are all jobs of the 6 day/week variety?  How much to workers earn on the big highway projects that we see everywhere these days?  How much do the uniformed factory workers seen in their hundreds entering various places of employment earn?   What should a person pay for casual labor only help in the garden (no tools or equipment supplied)?  'Pay me what you think it is worth' comment soon comes apart if less than the imagined amount is offered.  Is there a legal or guideline minimum wage in Thailand?

What difference does a diploma make?  Or extra abilities such as multiple languages skills, for example. (I understand a little bit about nursing having just put my niece through the process in Nakhon Ratchasima; but apparently even they must 'pay thousands' for their diploma celebration).

There are plenty of big Mercedes and Beamers around even up here so some people are big earners even if the root cleaners on the hwys are not.

I tip delivery persons 20 baht (~50 cents euro) which is not much but it is almost 1/2 the hourly wage at 300 baht/day.  Also, if everyone gave 20 baht the delivery persons might wind up with a living wage.  Anybody know what a Kerry person gets per delivery btw?  

Retail prices online vs shops are also confusing as they relate to pay.  'Mc denim shorts' are for sale online for <300 baht but in the shop there are seemingly identical items on sale for 1500 baht.  It would take nearly 4 days earnings for a low paid worker to acquire these shorts from the shop. A 50% discount offered on Crocks costing ~2000 baht (not 200 baht online) is not much of a good deal from where I sit.  Who are these young Thais shopping in the big centers and what work do they do to afford the high prices?   

I have asked these same questions for a long time and the variety of replies equals the number of times this question has been posed. 

Thanks for any comments.🙏🏼