Aditi Sharma

23 minutes ago, toyboy said:

because you have to think the difficult this situation can be for a minority of a minority (gay+african).

It sounds rather disingenuous of you to say this, I think, perhaps, unless you meant the world of this forum after you have made your revelation. Two people who love each other in public will always be in a minority, the other couples are hardly noticed, much less hounded. 

37 minutes ago, 007 RED said:

I was always lead to believe that chai-paani means "tea and water" and is Indian slang for going out for a cup of tea or a tasty bite/snack.  When I was working in Maharashtra a good few years ago bribes were always referred to as  rishwat, bahsheesh, ghoos or hafta.

The other words always had a negative connotation for me, brother, and they mean different things as well,  it is always chai paani for me, a little money for tea and sympathy :-)  

12 minutes ago, Wake Up said:

I sympathize with you as you seem a nice person. My grandfather used to say that life throws you curveballs and sometimes you throw them to yourself. Good news is when you throw them to yourself you don’t have to swing the bat —you can drop the bat and walk away. Based on the information you provided I would drop the bat and walk away. Nothing sounds good about your “BF” or his friends. Not a black or white thing but some people are always throwing themselves and their “GF” curve balls and expect  you to clean up their mess. Stay away and find a nice guy that will not disrupt your life this way. Love can be great but if he loved you he would treat you and himself better than this. Good luck with whatever you choose to do but it is ok to drop the bat and walk away and let this adult man figure it out. 

Sir, this is pure speculation but I appreciate it. But what if they loved each other and he was in Thailand for her? You would argue that what I were saying was speculation as well. But we are here to help her and to give him ( and for that matter to her as well with her story) the benefit of the doubt is a polite, equitable, and a civilized thing to do by them. In one place she does say and I quote: " In our opinion, what should I do and in what order?" 

I wonder if the OP will have to check if a deportation order has been issued against him. It is likely it hasn't been, so how much time is that going to take? She is going to be in Thailand for only two weeks, you see. 

I also wonder if she will have to ask him to check the terms if any of his deportation order because if that order has a DO-NOT-ENTER-BY date then, he has to be careful he doesnt violate it otherwise he could be in the slammer for a long haul. 

It would be great if she can already plan on extending her stay until he had flown out of the Kingdom. 

I am curious but I do not want to ask what he had been doing during the overstay period, it is up to her to enlighten us if she so wishes to do. But if she is taking the trouble to get him back, I am sure he deserved it, and she deserves better in Heaven :-(

12 minutes ago, AGareth2 said:

is that what they call a bribe in Mumbai?

If you look carefully, it's not a bribe. A bribe in Mumbai is called chai-paani. 

It is possible that her boyfriend like Obama is not African ( she might have wanted to say he was black!) and not from Africa. He might be a European national like her. At any rate, would she be able pay a gratuity to a kindly soul  in immigration or at the IDC who can inquire about what flight he has been put on etc and email it to her? Is that something she might be able to arrange when she is in Bangkok now that we learn she will not be able to get out with him?

Somebody told her, who?, and they were not clear at all, why?, what "wrong step" does she fear - helping him at all?

"Should I contact the consulate of his country? (as there is no embassy)" she says, does it matter whether there was a consulate or an embassy? 

Can the OP contact a Thai social worker to escort her and assist her with this? Hope she is not coming to Thailand alone. The fact that she has not updated this topic with her comments makes me think this is a genuine case and not a troll for suckers like me. 

Just now, overherebc said:

Forget the sleeping mat and pillow, it's not allowed. Money is also pretty useless, where would they spend it?

All jails have a canteen. Isnt there one in the IDC as well?? I would be truly shocked if there wasnt one!

4 minutes ago, BritTim said:

1. If you are short of money, you could discuss with the consulate whether they can act as an escrow for arranging payment for your bf's air ticket, and miscellaneous costs associated with the escort to the airport and deportation. However, if you have already purchased a return air ticket, I guess you will probably prefer to come here to see if there is something you can do to help on the spot.

 

2. Whether that is worthwhile will depend on how long he will need to stay inside before his deportation.

1. This is a brilliant suggestion. But since it can be safely assumed that the OP and her BF were not of the same nationality, she would have to speak to his consulate, right? Do most consulates consider this kind of arrangement?

2. How long do you reckon it can get at a guess?

2 minutes ago, overherebc said:

Generally if looks like a duck, walks and quacks like a duck.

It would be a nightmare to live next to the IDC complex and hear them

44 minutes ago, tubby johnson said:

You're new to Thailand? Born yesterday? Everyone's aware of the African scams and it's strongly advisable that the the OP enlightens himself about them before embarking on any expensive misadventure in Thailand.

I agree. But are you sure those scams which you are aware of are the very same ones operating in the Kingdom? It is a wild extrapolation that the OP's boyfriend is involved in one to which I totally disagree with all due respect to those who would disagree with me.   

Are there nude beaches in Thailand?

Shirtless farangs are so on doctor's advice.

Brexit is stupid, not Trump. 

Just now, Aussieroaming said:

Her sex is material in as much as once she becomes a he you should refer to her as sir

Thats clever.

4 minutes ago, 007 RED said:

You will be asked to fill out an admission form which will ask for the name and IDC number of the detainee.  The form will also ask for your details and address whilst in Thailand.

as reporter, lawyer or human rights activist. 

What if she hasn't got the IDC number? 

What if a reporter, lawyer or a human rights activist wants to meet a detainee? What is the process, pls?

5 minutes ago, jenny2017 said:

What part of my post do you not understand? 

You have quoted my post, my dear. I thought you were suggesting that, and that you were privy to, quite a few scams going on in the Kingdom putatively in which Africans were involved. I wish to know if you could share them for the benefit of those who arent aware of them. Thats all. 

9 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

I doubt it was only overstaying. If you are here for years, don't have money for a ticket, how did you survive those years?

Yeah, but he just needs enough money to get him out of the Kingdom. I wonder what his friends are going to think? How many girls would follow up on their boyfriends these days? Look at the mess Weinstein finds himself in today. So it certainly shows what a sterling character the OP is, God bless her!

11 minutes ago, jenny2017 said:

My BF is African and overstayed in Thailand for some years, and I'm European and actually in my country.
Some weeks ago I had a video call from him,  he was inside a cell, and he didn't know the name of the prison. 

After the call stopped, I never had contact with him again, his friends, that are also overstaying longtime in Bangkok, are helpless, 
I even had to find by myself what is the IDC.

 

   Op, please make sure that your friend is really at the IDC. There are too many scams going on and if he doesn't even know the name of the place, I'd be more than careful. 

Hi Jenny2017, for a moment I thought your story was similar to the OP then I realised you had quoted her, LOL. What scams you mean? I would like to know more. You dont mean the 419s, do you? He was caught with friends. They operated like a mafia albeit in a crime called overstaying. You are right to suspect there is something up. 

11 minutes ago, Hiro357 said:

No, I'm not going to come here that frequently. I just wish to go home before my tourist visa runs out. Then apply for another one within few weeks or a month.

It seems the immigration are able to see how many times you have visited in 6 months or a year even as you might get a new passport that shows no visits. And when your visits have been of the order of as Nat would agree 4 times in 6 months, they begin to get suspicious and will naturally ask questions before stamping you out. There is that distinct possibility, you see. 

If you apply for a tourist visa to the Royal Thai consulate in Penang, I see they dont ask for a bank statement. They just ask you to have 20k in Thai baht, 40k per family. Guess you have to show funds that can buy that Thai exchange in your bank account, I get it :-))

12 minutes ago, Hiro357 said:

Sorry I meant to ask if Indonesia's a county I could enter to renew my tourist visa, as I have friends in that country.

Sir, I was thinking talking about Indonesia on the lines of a border-run. I just learned that it was called "shortout" in India. I dont think you will be able to visit Indonesia expressly in order to renew your visa. 

I think  natway09 was suggesting that you could be potentially harassed by immigration if you visited more than 4 times in 6 months. Depending upon the time of the day or night, either of you is going to find it hard going. But my question is are immigration officials penalized for NOT harassing such visitors?

12 minutes ago, Hiro357 said:

What about Indonesia?

What about it? Food sucks. And no change. And the permanent bias against the white skin. Even in my case. And my room service call in Jakarta was answered without talking, geddit? 

And I just looked at the map, they are certainly not represented in the neighbourhood of the Kingdom, Hirosan.