Gilltom

8 hours ago, Just Weird said:

You've just done it!

Thanks didnt scroll down far enough ????

18 hours ago, Bang Bang said:

What a terrible situation. Choices seem to be:

(1) Trick or force him back to the UK where he'll be locked up in an old home in a country which he hasn't lived in for 15 years and away from the one which he chose to make his home apparently as soon as he could (like most of the rest of us).

(2) Leave him be here to enjoy the few passages of clarity he has as he slides toward the inevitable.

 

I know which I would prefer.

 

Have you thought of finding him a full or part time caregiver? I am guessing 5-10k b. a month would get you one. If the person is trustworthy you could let them handle finances. Might be the best compromise. You love your dad but part of that might be letting go.

Whats he supposed to do.trust a stranger.think not

7 hours ago, Just Weird said:

100% trolling nonsense.

Yes that i can believe .to many ex pats here for them to deal with i think

34 minutes ago, Skallywag said:

So are you sending him more money every month? 

If you are, you are enabling him.  He may actually be hoarding money if he cannot remember

If you have access to his online banking you could force him to sign a power of attorney or else stop his next monthly payment?  Cruel and unusual but maybe necessary?  

 

You say friend mention "he has cash on him all the time.  But he has no idea what he is spending it on" ?

Has he been paying his cell phone bill to call you overseas?  Paying his electric bill at his condo? Paying for daily meals,  getting his laundry done, etc... ?   

 

 

 

 

 

Think is visa should be looked at as well.did u say is passport said may. If so he is on overstay .have to do immigration every 90 days depending what visa he is on. 

1 minute ago, Gilltom said:

There are care homes here my friend as just ad to put her husband in 1.but unless he agrees to this i can.t see how u can do it .you are in a cery difficult situation being as u are not here.don.t want to say ti much on here pm on messenger.gillian thompson 

What do u want the agencies to do for your dad.?

1 hour ago, Williams9 said:

Thank you for all your responses. It's taken me a while to read through them all.

 

I'll try and answer a few points, questions & address some of the harsh critisism.

 

• Girlfriend - There seems to be one around and I have discussed this with my father and he says he doesn't pay her a lot, but I have my suspicions regarding her as she soon disappeared when I arrived in March and all of a sudden she didn't understand any engilish when I tried to talk to her on her own briefly. The local police liaison officer has had a word with her and told her they are watching her. I don't know if she is still around.
• Finances - He was having over £2,500 going into his account every month. Over the last few months he would be on the phone the day after that had gone in saying he needed more as he's used it. Managed to get access to his online banking and could see that once it went in he was taking it out in cash. Some of his friends can remember seeing him with a lot of cash on him all the time. But he has no idea what he's been spending it on.
• Friends - He has few friends but the circle is getting smaller due to their age some have moved back to the UK some have passed away. Also some have been pushed away as he can become aggressive when questioned about certain things when they are trying to help him.
• Care Homes & Dementia - I'm offended by the talk of the percieved image of care homes in the UK. Our family business is a Care Home based in Wales and this is what we do. I'm fully aware of the progression of dementia and how it affects people. We have been a family run care home for the last 25 years with a very high standard of care reflected in our annual reports by our inspection body.
• Coming to Thailand - I have been out in March but as mentioned he is very adamant that he will not come back to the UK and gets very cross and aggressive when it's mentioned. He will also not move from where he is living at the moment.
• Condo - He owns his own Condo in Pattaya 

 

If anyone could PM me useful contacts/agencies in BKK or Pattaya or Embassy that would great.

 

The thing that is that we want to do our best for him and leaving him out in Thailand the situation is only going to get worse.

 

Many thanks again

There are care homes here my friend as just ad to put her husband in 1.but unless he agrees to this i can.t see how u can do it .you are in a cery difficult situation being as u are not here.don.t want to say ti much on here pm on messenger.gillian thompson 

Sorry to say this but think it would be much better if u could come here.to sort it out unless u have a very reliable person u know well to sort out at this end. My friend as just been through this here with her hubby but was very difficult at the beginning cos he kept denying there was anything wrong. Had to wait till he was very bad before she could put him in a homr here 

18 hours ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

The problem with "getting him deported" here is that a person who finds themselves in that position is likely going to end up getting tossed in a rather unpleasant Thai prison/jail called the Immigration Detention Center in Bangkok, and held there until overpriced travel arrangements are made for his airplane ticket home.

 

There's no "nice" or polite way of getting deported out of Thailand, AFAIK... There's only the very unpleasant, miserable way, especially for an elderly person who may not have his wits about him, and be likely unable to navigate matters very well on his own.

 

Can.t get this thing to work. Private mess me on messenger .gillian thompson 

17 hours ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

The problem with "getting him deported" here is that a person who finds themselves in that position is likely going to end up getting tossed in a rather unpleasant Thai prison/jail called the Immigration Detention Center in Bangkok, and held there until overpriced travel arrangements are made for his airplane ticket home.

 

There's no "nice" or polite way of getting deported out of Thailand, AFAIK... There's only the very unpleasant, miserable way, especially for an elderly person who may not have his wits about him, and be likely unable to navigate matters very well on his own.

 

Can.t get this thing to work. Private mess me on messenger .gillian thompson 

18 hours ago, Jingthing said:

You don't want to get him deported. That process could kill him.

Sent from my Lenovo A7020a48 using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app
 

How do i reply to this i put text in but could not find send button. New to thai visa ????

Think its british embassy u need to contact. But will be very surprised if they can help.my friend as been there here husband as alzimers and she couldn.t care for him herself so put him in acare home here. Where does your dad live is it pattaya area