fredwiggy

Yes it is. Please refrain from commenting on a subject you know little about. Better yet, read Aaron beck's book, and come back in a couple of months when you're done and you'll understand what he has written. Or maybe you won't. You claim to be a genius but the way you talk, are very far from it. You comment and disregard things you know nothing about, and harp on one person's article on how twins are when they're separated. I mentioned this before. Anyone who separates children at birth, especially twins, isn't normal and if they conduct an experiment on this, instead of putting those children back together, they should be jailed.

You have your opinions and they are valid but again, you're wrong. You never read his book, and I'm thinking you found one topic and decided it encompasses everything about what makes a child do what they do later in life. I've read over 65 books on various areas of psychology, and thousands, yes, I did say thousands, of articles on the same subject. I started back 30 years ago and haven't stopped. You believe in one person's opinion and disregard others, who have published many books. I would bet big money you have not read near what I have in just one area, be it depression, narcissism or interpersonal relationships. In fact, I'm thinking because you keep disregarding what I'm telling you, and this from proven methods since I was born, you , being a "genius", in your own words, are a perfect example of a malignant narcissist, because you do it blatantly, unlike my ex, who is a covert narcissist, if you understand what that means. And by the way , psychiatry is a science. Saying it isn't also shows your lack of knowledge on the subject, and seeing you believe one person's theories and not others who are proven, shows you are gullible. Boy, when you go off on a tangent, nothing gets through. Read more, post less, learn more.

Antiquated? Didn't I mention I've been reading all of this material in the last 30 years? This means up until this time period. What is taught in universities is the same material I've been reading. Human behavior is the same as it's been since time began. The only thing that has changed is the media coverage of what happens. People are the same everywhere, as there are a certain few types of personalities. What you are reading is other's opinions of what is going on. The same as what I'm reading. Try Aaron Beck's book about cognitive therapy. Explains all about how humans act and relate. What I've read all of these years is still what works today. I read all the time, meaning the same kinds of material you are, and it's from this year and the dark ages. One person's study about one particular set of ideas isn't used in every situation. This is psychology we're talking about, and it has many factors. Remember not all what you read is set in stone. That's why I've read so many books and articles. To see if they all are saying the same kinds of things. You're talking about twins and the research about them. I'm talking about the majority of households and what happens to children in them, and it all relates to how they were raised, with some rare cases of some born sociopathic. And there is no cure for dementia yet.

I inherited a couple of dogs when I built the house I'm living in. In six years, the dogs died from being poisoned and others came around. Guess they know who likes them. I lost about 6 dogs in that time to these disturbed individuals. The last one has been here quite awhile and is still alive. I brought cats here from my girlfriends house, as she has a few around that have kittens now and then, but every cat I left outside was killed by roaming dogs. Dogs left and not trained will kill cats as they aren't taught to get along with them. I have two kittens now that stay inside. I don't think I'll let them out as I'm sure they're fate will be the same. The cats around my girlfriend's house numbered about 12 from 3 litters. I took two of them as just before I did, 3 other cats were killed by a dog there, so I didn't want to see these die also. Some of the cats there are afraid of dogs but the kittens don't know or aren't fast enough, and all it takes from a dog is one bite and it's over. Animals here aren't loved or cared for like they are back in the states, at least not to near the degree.

I have had both all of my life, and still laugh when I see what cats do. They aren't as loyal, usually, as dogs are. Some can show affection but most still act aloof at times, unlike a dog, who will always be loyal if you raise them with love. Kittens and puppies all act affectionate, but as they age, the cats do act indifferent at times.

We become what we are because our parents taught us to be that way, or we inherited it from our family. It's still our choices, as you can see how kids in the same family end up differently. There are a lot of things that go into what we become as adults, but our trust in our parents decides most of it, whatever way they raised us. If a child was raised on an island with no peers, they would act like their parents do in many ways, because children copy behaviors they see, especially at that 0-5 age. If their parents beat on their pets, the child would think it's normal behavior, unless they were taught otherwise by someone they trusted, that showed them their parents were wrong. I see this daily here, as well as all my life growing up. I see my ex, and her mother, mistreat animals, although they like them around. I taught my daughter to care for animals, but I've seen her hit at them and toss them down because she has seen my girlfriends nephew do the same, along with her grandma., my ex's mother. When a child sees two parents act differently, they are confused, until you show them respect for life. If that child sees both her parents mistreating animals, and people, because they go together, they will again think it's normal until they are taught otherwise. My parents raised me to be a Catholic, and I got away from Catholic thinking because they put too much emphasis on praying to people, saints, and only Jesus and God is worthy, plus the money thing, so I became born again because I had a girlfriend that was very into it, and I loved her so I followed suit easily, because of my background as a Catholic. It wasn't my genes. It was my parents bringing me to church, and enrolling me into a Catholic school for 1-8 grades. I was saved because I chose to be, because we all will meet Jesus, and God, and I want to be ready. As far as people turning to crime, it again starts at home, where parents are supposed to teach respect for life and property. If they aren't, or are absent, no one's there besides their peers, who might also have the same background, and they do what their friends do, which sometimes is hitting people with sticks, robbing them, stealing their Jackfruit, poisoning animals or raping the girl around the block. We are all good and bad as humans. What we do is our choice. As one child can become a policeman and they're brother a drug dealer, it was who they hung out with after their parents taught them right from wrong that led them astray, unless again one of their parents was a narcissist, and chose a golden child that couldn't do wrong, and that child grew up thinking the world owed them, while the other child might have been disciplined by the other parent and loved right, and knew what bad choices brought. There are many factors that make a grown adult act a certain way, but most are from age 0-5 and how they were raised. Like I mentioned, some are born to be a sociopath, but it's rare.

I'm doubtful twins are separated much, but if they are, how would these studies come into play? You would think if they knew that these twins were supposed to be together, someone would make that happen, instead of going through with an experiment to see how they end up from being raised in two different environments. I did see the Jean Claude Van Damme movie, where he was a set of twins ending up quite different, but that's a movie.

It doesn't matter if you agree with me or not. I'm not making an hypothesis about this but going by what's been written and what I have personally seen, which is the same. I happen to be right on regarding what I said about the ages 0-5 being the most important in a child's life. This is when they learn most everything about life, regarding trust, care, love, kindness, responsibility, sharing, or the lack of those in an abusive or neglective environment. The breakdown of the family is the reason for all of the world's problems, as it all starts at home. Either you're brought up respecting life, or shown abusing it. Much of this also comes from pet ownership. People who are taught that it's okay to abuse animals will see humans are targets also. I have studied human psychology for the last 30 plus years, reading many books and thousands of articles on narcissism, depression, marriage, children, relationships and how men and women relate. In my life, through my own bad choices in a few mates, I have seen this firsthand how a woman ends up in her relationships after being abused and or neglected as a child, and I have seen where it came from in many instances, meaning her parents behavior still. It has been proven time and again through many writers , who have interviewed millions of people and couples, where they learned their behaviors. People learn about the world through their parents, by watching them. Of course two children can come from a very loving home and one can go astray while the other succeeds. This doesn't mean that child is bad. It can be from getting involved with bad peers. It can be because one parent, or both, favored one child over the other. It's hard to treat each child as anything besides individuals, and sometimes you favor one you can relate to better. This doesn't mean neglect the other but making a conscience effort to keep things as equal as possible, so they both know love. Kids understand who loves them more, but if they're still loved, they get past little things. Sibling rivalry is part from how a parent shows love to each. Jealousy happens, so it's best to treat each one as equally as possible. Twins are a little different, as each works off the other, and they share a lot of traits, but the learning process from 0-5 is still the same regarding how they go into the world. Again, a child can be treated with much love and care, and still go into the world and make huge mistakes, and who they regard as their peers is responsible for much of this. The child knows what they should or shouldn't do, as the parents taught them, but rebelliousness, as all children must do, sometimes comes with severe consequences. If your friends are into drugs and these are friends you like and respect, you're immature brain sometimes makes bad decisions, and you go along with those friends because you want to fit in. If you are abused as a child, and or neglected, you go into the world hating or not trusting everyone, using them to get what you have missed, because no one ever taught you otherwise. This is how a narcissist is created, and the reason most relationships fail, the reason many get a power trip and think they have to control others, and the reason most go into politics. This is the alpha males some look at as a good thing, when they are the real reason things go wrong here. The betas raise the children, treat their women right, and work for the family's best interests. The alphas become the players, who look at women as objects to use, and other people to take from. World out of balance, and again, it all starts at home.

This was in the 80's. People don't hitchhike much these days, and a woman would be stupid to.

You don't need stacks of money if they're the right one. if you're the right one, meaning you know how to treat a woman well, there are quite a few in the world that would suit you, IF you treat them well, if you both have the same future plans, have some things in common, and are faithful and loyal to each other, because you are the only two that count in your relationship. No one else matters, nor does the amount of money you have.

If you aren't comfortable where you are, you move. If you have no wife or kids, it's easier to relocate. I'm only biding my time until I can leave with my daughter to go back to the US. If I could leave today, I would. many people say they like where they are, but rarely leave the house because it's too hot, too cold, too wet, dangerous on the roads, fear of violence. I came from Texas, where it's hotter on average than here, but where I lived there was lower humidity . This besides the hundred more reasons i belong back there. Being trapped indoors because of some reason much of the time makes you a hermit, and that's not enjoying life. remember what you enjoy, and go where you will enjoy it. Thailand is okay for some people, but with all the complaints, and many warranted, some belong elsewhere. Pros and cons everywhere, so weigh the positives against the negatives, then decide what's keeping you in a place you aren't comfortable.

You're not being a chump if you help anyone, especially women, out when they are in need. Looking to get something in return isn't helping but looking for something as payment in return. I've changed probably over 20 tires for people, mostly women, on the road and just walked away when they said thanks, and many of these were good looking women. I didn't expect anything besides a thank you for helping them when they didn't have anyone else around. If you are always nice to people, including women, you will get noticed. I once gave a girl, very pretty, a ride when she was hitchhiking in New Jersey. You could tell she was very wary the whole ride to her house,, but when we arrived there, she gave me her phone number without asking. I'm sure there was attraction but she didn't trust me at first, thinking I could be a weirdo. I will still always help anyone I can that needs it. It's just common courtesy, and you might save a life if you get to them before some predator comes along. That's always been my thinking. As far as what a woman has to offer, with your bad two experiences you shouldn't get so jaded. The next one could be the right one. I have been burned a few times, especially with women I had children with, but I'll never give up because I know there are good women out there. What does a woman have to offer? A good one offers a companion to grow old with, to share good times with, someone to love and care for you, especially when you're sick. Someone to laugh with, to make love to, have a family with and share those times. Someone that knows your thinking before you do. This is why I'm still hopeful, because they are out there, but if you think they're all bad, you'll never let the right one in when she comes around.

In public isn't the best location for the chance of young children seeing it, but a possible 10 year sentence for having sex in public and a man gets a 2 year sentence for setting up the murder of a policeman? More good news the world will now see.

Just a few words over the recommended length and all the same subject, so I left it like that.

Tell that to the 100. Long term,? I left the majority of them because our plans didn't match, they were trashy, liars or just good women who weren't right for me. Simple. I've worked out for over 50 years and kept a Rambo type body from teenage to around 55. Now I lost muscle because of not working out as much, but still look much younger. I'm responsible, caring, loving, faithful, loyal, a good provider, caring lover and father. What wouldn't they want? A woman that doesn't want that, who is attracted to me, as no one attracts everyone , is a narcissist, has major depression and can't give what's needed, is holding major baggage from childhood, is overly greedy or has unrealistic expectations of marriage. This of course describes many women, so you should understand why I'm not married to all 100. There are countless women who would want me and others like me, but the world has taught many people they deserve more than they get, and I can't be more then one place at a time. I don't want serial relationships, preferring one long term at a time want to be married, to the right one, and many women are afraid of men, so they won\t take a chance with one until they get to know him, which takes both being single in the right place at the right time. Normal women want what I offer, but normal women aren't easy to find. Why say that all my relationships failed when most others are the same, including yourself? Aren't many people that get married to the first person they meet and last forever.

In the west, as here , I've always treated women with respect, kindness and love, along with the generosity I could afford. Of course mutual attraction is usually always the first thing, but then it's what can he do for me later? Sex always happened in every relationship Ive had, including the marriages. It was the lack of communication and abuse in some that ended it for me. It's true what you've said that many men are invisible to some women, but many women, although some having high intelligence, do not get men at all. They think the bad boy is a catch because he isn't as easy to obtain as the nice guys who are pursuing them with kindness. The dark side is somehow attractive to them, and this isn't a smart thing in any event, as sometimes that's all they'll get. There are millions of men who treat their women nice, and are animals in bed, but the women don't see this because they aren't going after them. A woman, and there are many, that comes from a home with turmoil, beatings ,neglect, indifference or absent fathers will always be looking for the perfect man that dad wasn't. And she will be actually looking at men just like dad, although of course this is a huge mistake, because what she needs is the opposite. Stability. Many women who pursue scumbags for one reason or another regret it but it takes them awhile to realize they deserve better. Low self esteem from a bad home life tells women they aren't good enough, and this follows into a normal relationship they might have later, and hurts or ruins it for them. They have been treated badly for so long, they can't understand how a man can treat them good all the time. It has to end, it's impossible that he really loves me. If God picked your partners, knowing you better than you do yourself, we would all succeed. The <deleted> would be with the trash, and the good with the good. Doesn't happen that way. We make mistakes picking partners or some just look to use because they are damaged themselves. This is what I meant when I said that two that look to each other for comfort, safety, an alliance, future mutual plans, friendship and trust will always succeed. When one does all the work, it will usually fail, or you'll live a life of misery.

Most relationships end that way, or continue although they have failed. A successful relationship continues because of exactly what I said. There isn't any argument over this. Millions of people stay in miserable relationships for one reason or another. Usually children or financial, but fear of the unknown is another. I had children with a few of these women so that's not a failure, even though our relationship didn't work. People part for many reasons, and if two can't see a future together, it wasn't a failure if it ends but necessary so they can go on and find one better suited for each. You can spend a lot of good time with someone but need to part because of many reasons. This doesn't mean it failed but just ended for positive reasons. I had almost 100 girlfriends and we all parted ways because our future plans weren't the same. Failure or success? Every relationship you've ever had failed if you look at it that way.Are you better off now than before? If yes, then those relationships you had led to this one, and if this one is a success, you've succeeded, at least for now.

If you are both close, from past history of treating each other as equal partners, being faithful and having laughs together, meaning good communication, sex will happen because when you're that close, you look to each other as someone to want to be close with, trust only them 100%, and be open to intimacy. When communication stops, sex stops, or is done begrudgingly, which isn't having fun.

There, it seems, are many foreigners that know very little of what really goes on here because they either don't listen to others who do know, don't watch TV news much, or don't have the use of a computer which has Google, daily news worldwide and actual statistics of crime instead of just the main happenings. Word of mouth here, gossip, paints a very skewed picture of reality, and many believe in it. This is why I rely on stats, facts, books and literature printed by those who do also, and not just make opinions.

Unknown to some, in Thailand there is extreme jealousy among females. The are always gossiping, talking behind each other's backs, and not many real friends. One foreigner , who has a lot of money by whatever means he obtained it, gives his woman everything she wants. Big house, cars, scooters, gold, cash to burn. All the other "friends" she has, seeing this, are jealous. They like to show off what they have, not caring what their friends think, as long as they have more. Most foreigners here aren't very wealthy, having more then the average local, and doing well, but to the locals we all are, and this started the ball rolling with them thinking, "if this one has all these things, I want them too". This is why they all think we have money to burn, and it makes us look like walking ATM's, and they all want one of those. I've explained to my girlfriend, and tried to to my ex here, that there are thousands of homeless people, families, in America, that most people are just getting by, that there is people who go without daily food, have no money for medical expenses, are on welfare , food stamps and WIC. Yes, they have bigger houses but pay for them for up to 30 years, and don't own them outright after building like it is here. The jealousy here has women trying to take away what others have, by lying and spreading false rumors. They look for things like you mentioned so they can see you lose your wife, because you have more then she has with either her local boyfriend, husband or neither. You talking to another woman in a bar is okay, of course if that's all that was happening, and it isn't that woman in the store's business, but she jumped at the chance top see you fall, and your wife to lose her breadwinner. I've heard for years by Thais in America, some here, people posting on Stickman's forum, and others the jealousy that happens here, and it seems to be a lot like the lakorns they watch, without the male heroes.

It isn't rarely. It happens all the time. More of course with locals because they outnumber us. Even though it's about foreigners, not all crimes against us are reported on the news. It's usually in Bangkok or beach areas that get the most news. Tourists are killed here every year, and that's not rare either.

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Not exactly a nonsense here. The UK does have a lot of knife crime, but I'm willing to bet Thailand rivals it. You will never get the amount of crime coverage here as you do in the UK. This is a tourist spot, and a lot of what goes on is swept under the table. You can look it up because crimes are reported ................https://www.nationmaster.com/country-info/compare/Thailand/United-Kingdom/Crime

I don't understand how things like this just go off topic and get into arguments. Everyone that lives here has seen thousands of Thai girls on scooters with Thai boys, many being picked up at all types of locations. This is about people looking for Thai girls at places other than bars, where somewhat normal Thai girls work. Again, most Thai women want Thai men. Not because they have more money, are better looking or are great prospects as husbands or fathers. We all know the endgame of most Thai women that live here. They want other Thais because they can relate to them in language and culture much easier than with a foreigner. Women are attracted to men for all their own reasons, the same exact way they are in all other countries. This being a very poor country, they are also attracted to men for their money. This also happens everywhere else, but many countries have women who are more independent than here, which means they use physical attraction more than cash attraction. Gold diggers are everywhere, and they are another breed