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Again, i say it's impossible for you, or anyone else alive here, to not know "about", to clarify what I meant all along, any irresponsible local men. I hang, and have always hanged out with, like I said, good people, no narcissists, people who denigrate women, treat them badly and hurt children. Basically toxic people. I've known thousands of people in my life from all over the places I've been, and I've personally seen, as has anyone else who leaves the house, men who act irresponsibly around women and children. No one I asked about this says different. Everyone I know has known men that are bad to women and children. This doesn't mean they are our friends or in our social circles. This means we see what they do, or others have told us the same. People we trust not to exaggerate greatly. I know many people aren't social and many rarely leave the house, listen or watch the news, have any friends, so that would explain someone who hasn't seen or heard about men who act badly. Many years before I even thought about moving here I knew how they act. Thais have told me, others who visited or lived here told me, and still do. A man a year ahead of me in high school used to live here, and after we re connected on FB, we talked about life here, and it's exactly like I mention. After I moved here, I saw this for myself. Again, I don't show a disdain for Thai men. I show disdain for bad men who act like I said. Certain nationalities are worse around children and women, and I mentioned these earlier. This is so, and not my opinion. I lived next to San Antonio for 32 years, and knew (know) many Mexicans. I know personally a few that are very good to their families, and I also know quite a few that I've seen treat women and kids harsh. This I heard about before I moved there, and I saw for myself afterwards. This again doesn't mean all but a majority. Most everyone knows about how certain Middle Eastern countries treat and look at their women. This again is truth. In those countries, I'm sure there are men that are good to their women but a culture raises you a certain way, and like here, where Buddhism looks at women as inferior, it is in their thinking, and will only change when other cultures are mixed for many years. I ask you again, you do not know any men here that are harsh to their women and children? Only those that are good? You've only heard stories? Then okay, you aren't associated with anywhere near the amount of people I am, because in all of my life, around and in many big and smaller cities and the country, I have friends and family who aren't the greatest dads or husbands, and everyone alive can say this, unless they are anti social and never leave the house. I have run across, known, and heard about many who are as I say, and none were my friends nor in my circles. Friends of friends, friends of family, co workers of same etc etc. Seeing that the average person associates with around 80,000 people in their lifetime, it's hard to think you only have heard about some of these., and none personally or through close family and friends.

Foreigners standing by foreigners only helps us. If a foreigner does wrong, no normal foreigner wants to see this because it makes us all look bad, to some narrow minded prejudiced types that only see us as a whole. The more we feed them, the more they think about it. I hate to see foreigners do anything wrong just for this reason.

It actually does apply to most men, in all countries, but again, I didn't say all men. It happens more here than most other countries because of the lack of enforcement of child support here. Men who think they can make babies all over and not pay for them lets them believe they can bed as many as they want and not pay the piper. Not just here but here, like I said, more children are raised by grandparents than any other country worldwide, and there's a good reason for that that I mentioned. You had said you lived here over 25 years and didn't see things like I mentioned. That to me was impossible because of course you see this happening. It's just that you don't associate with those types. neither do I, so our communication went sideways. No problem.

People are products of their childhood. Bad or absent parents lets children go into the world thinking no one loves them, or abuse is the way problems are solved. They use knives, sticks and machetes here more than most any other country because of the lack of good fathers teaching them respect for life itself. This also happens in Middle Eastern countries and Africa, as well as a few others. Of course drugs exacerbate their anger.

You still aren't getting it. How old are you? Do you just not understand that trashing foreigners and being one is ignorance, and it bleeds out into the local network. We are trying to stay here, and a lot of them don't want us, because of the actions of a few. And my blood pressure is 115-54 so no.

Corruption here far outweighs that in the US. Many cops in the US are power hungry narcissists that shouldn't be in their positions, just like all over, but corruption there is punished by internal affairs, because it gives police a bad name. Here they seem to not care, because even high ranking officials are involved, as we've seen for many years. Human trafficking gets away with it because officials are paid to look the other way. This isn't happening in the states because if it was, they would be penalized with extreme prejudice.

I'm not paranoid. I see things as they are. I abide by the laws, treated my ex right, and also my girlfriend now, and spend most of my money here, so they should be glad I and others like me are here. Talk is damaging, sometimes more than actions, and your, and others, continuous trashing of farangs isn't falling on deaf ears. This is a public forum, and only a moron would laugh at what you say, because it affects all of us. They have a hard enough time knowing what to do with farangs that break the laws, but letting that anger pass to the innocents is wrong. Every time someone trashes a Russian, Brit, American, Aussie or whatever, it looks bad for all of us. They don't separate one from another, besides the Chinese who are their buddies because of money. What they don't realize is they are shooting themselves in the foot by concentrating on foreigners when most of the crime is by locals.

True except for the fact that they weren't born monsters. Very rarely are sociopaths born with violent tendencies. They are usually taught this by their moms, dads or both. I'm sorry for the way you were treated, as it happens all over in many homes. Good you got away from it, as many women for mostly financial reasons aren't willing to leave. My daughter had a couple boyfriends that hit her, and she hit them back, but wouldn't tell me because she knew I would have gone ballistic on them.

Defending yourself doesn't mean breaking her arm. You can block, and if she continues, walk away. It will never look good if you hit a woman back, no matter the reason besides defending a child against an assault. Then grabbing her and pushing her away, then taking the child out of that is what's done. My ex came at me three times with a knife. All I did was warn her to put it down, as she knows how strong I am. If she still came, I would back off and call police.

Guessing both were drunk, and decided together it's best to come back tomorrow when sober, saying it was just a normal accident so no charges filed. Insurance covers man in front who was hit from behind.

Think for awhile how many trash foreigners here. Thais read this forum. Then they tell others, who tell others, who might have connections to officials. They themselves see that farangs trash each other, so they must all be no good. I'm surprised this is getting by someone who's most likely at least in their 50's. It's bad enough they have someone like this who is prejudiced against foreigners, and doesn't realize the foreigners he hates, who live and visit here, have thousands of friends and relatives who might be thinking about visiting here, AND spending tourist money, that they will now slowly be losing. The more word is spread around how we are treated here, the more they lose, and the more Thais are targeted in those countries.

Saharai explained that on March 31, she unknowingly accepted nearly 10 counterfeit 1,000-baht notes...................Saharai, still in shock, recalled that she could not identify the person who gave her the counterfeit money, as she regularly receives several 1,000-baht notes daily............. .Surely she didn't receive 10 bogus bills from 10 different people.. I'm surprised should couldn't recall who gave her up to 10- 1000 baht bills. Regularly receiving 100 baht bills is normal, but over the course of a day with many people. Any CCTV in her shop? Back in the US, almost all shops had, and used the little pen to check, which is an easy deterrent. Bills get passed around all day long, and most of the people who receive them are innocents who received a bogus bill from someone and just passed it down the line.

Obviously you don't get it.

I've mentioned this before, and I guess it hasn't sunk in. Every time you downgrade foreigners, even in jest, it makes all of us look bad, although most of us aren't, abide by the laws, treat their women well, and spend a lot of money here. You're an expat I believe, and your comments are ignorant. Thais read this forum, and when a farang trashes another farang, they think, "see, even farangs think farangs are no good". Think!

No, it's made available a drug that calms people, helps with some ailments, makes money for people and the government, just like it has back in America. People don't travel to Thailand to get high. If they like to party, weed is available everywhere. Just don't transport it between countries. A junkie is usually referred to someone using needles for drugs like heroin. Those that use weed are called potheads.

And still let in the many drunks that are the problem. Easy solution. Fine all those driving drunk, including locals, and those without licenses Take the bikes until a license is provided. It's called enforcement, and if done correctly, will cut down on all the road deaths we see everyday. There are many, many criminals that have no record. Most of these are the rich ones that pay their way past the judges.

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Ok, you've never ran into or heard of any local men who abuse, cheat on or leave their women here after childbirth., besides gossip I'm guessing? I don't assume, I just watch a lot of TV, news worldwide, read a few forums, listen attentively to everyone, remember what they say, and have a lot of people,like I mentioned a few times, that have told me, for many years before I moved here, and then I found out firsthand, how it is here. Granted, some people live in a small village and don't know what goes on outside of that paradise, or don't have anyone who tells them what happened to their or others they know lives. You said you heard gossip. You do know some gossip is true and some is just complaining to be heard. That means you probably did hear that men here have been bad to someone, but I guess chose to not believe it because its hearsay. Again, you assume I say this about all Thai men. I didn't. Just like men from all countries, most are bad in some ways regarding women and children. This isn't hearsay. I, and everyone I know has experienced this. And again, I don't associate with those types because toxic people bring you down. This is something I've been teaching my GF here, not to listen to those that think you are no good, that men are superior to women, that people in power are good, that the rich are good. She sees I'm much different than any men she's been associated with, and tells me so. She tells me everything about her past life, how she was treated by her dad, husband and a few farangs here. Also tells me how men she works with are, and others she knows. These aren't people we associate with besides tesaban government things, because it's her work, so she has to go, and I sometimes go also. I'm sorry you misunderstood me when I said anything about locals. I didn't mean all. Just as it is about all men in general. I've listened to women complain all my life what their men have done, and I don't believe all of it, because sometimes it takes two. When I said Thai men don't marry a woman that's been around, meaning married before, bar girl, had a kid or three, that's mostly true. Thai women themselves in both countries have told me the same thing. They're considered tainted. I know of only one that married another Thai, and she knew him all her life, as it's my ex's cousin (the woman). I know many people denigrate the locals, as I hear it daily, both here and in person, and I've heard it for many years, and after seeing it here, and hearing others for the last 30 years say the same things, including the Thais themselves, you see there's a lot of truth in it. There are Thai men who are good family men. I've seen a few, and heard of more.Their reputation has always been there for as long as I can remember, and with Buddhism being how it is, I don't see it changing, along with how the courts turn a blind eye to giving them responsibility after a kid is born. This is a fact and can't be disputed. Look around and see how many single moms are here, how many also leave their kids to work and leave them with grandma (over 35%, highest worldwide), because they have no other support system besides their parents . There's a reason for this. I'm neither arrogant or ignorant but a realist that researches, reads daily all my life, and listens. And you don't have to associate with certain people to know they exist. Look at he worlds problems and understand most of them are from the breakdown of the family, mostly due to absent fathers.

What's rare? Theft? Theft of phones by children? This kid obviously had someone waiting for him, and who could that be? Kids steal my fruit all the time. Theft of anything, especially from a person, is something that should be taught as soon as they understand the language. This made the news but the other hundreds of thefts don't because they only have room enough for so much on TV daily. Most crime doesn't get news.

This mirrors the kids taught by terrorists to hate, by dictators to hate, that everyone is a target according to their teachers, that Americans are all infidels, that anyone defying their leaders are fair game. Parents here use their children because they know the laws are not enforceable for minors. In this case, the parents should always be made responsible until a certain age.

I'm not wrong, unless you don't have a TV, internet, or people you understand. All you have to do is look at any and all forums on Thailand. Talk to any and all women here. My circles are actually some farang friends, who have wives, who all agree on this. This includes quite a few men and women Thais in the states who were born here. All professionals, happy with their wives, and have lived here for years, along with my girlfriend, who works for a tesaban, who was married to a Thai who treated her badly. Who has many Thai women friends, who say the same things. Some, like I said, have good decent husbands, who don't cheat or abuse (that they've said), and they have also mentioned how bad the locals are here. These are Thais talking. I have heard stories from my GF for over 3 years on the men she works with and around. Half are cheaters, the other half she thinks are somewhat okay, but she only sees from the outside. People here gossip, and much of it it about their men. If you haven't heard this, you are not listening. Point is, I go by what I see, and hear, and have heard for many years. I don't denigrate all local men, as that would be wrong. Just like men from every country, where up to 70% cheat, many abuse and many more neglect their women. It's the same here, but more, as in a few other countries that look at women as inferior, African and Middle eastern come to mind, plus others. I have friends in a few different countries, and hundreds in the states. All good, decent, non prejudiced people like myself, who are realists. We aren't blind. I have friends from all walks of life, from very well off to poor, and everything in between. Women and men. I for one do not associate with people who are haters, narcissists, men who treat women bad, women who do the same to men, or those who rape the earth for profit, among other lowlifes. It always pays to read a person's whole post, so as not to nitpick some of it, leaving out the gist of all of it.

I don't hold a low view of anyone besides those that deserve it. I have a half Thai child and a Thai girlfriend. I'm not prejudiced against any race or nationality. I know how locals are generally as do most others, including them and the ladies that live both here and in the US. I know quite a few that are farmers that are always home with their wives and family and from what I see, they treat them well. They have a reputation that's deserved that I knew about many years before I even considered moving here. I had friends that own restaurants in Texas that I talked to a lot, and they said the same things. Living here for over 25 years and not knowing any players, abusers or worse is impossible. I lived in the US and knew many men who treated women bad, as did everyone else I knew. There is a large majority of men who treat women bad. In Asia, and elsewhere, Buddhism looks at women as inferior. . They look and hope that a woman comes back as a man. That's disrespect that shows in how they look at women here, and other Asian countries, and including India. I see more single moms here than I've ever seen in my life anywhere, and heard about it long before I moved here, by Thais. Thai men aren't held responsible for the children they make like westerners are, and they know this. Every Thai woman I've talked to says the same. I know many that work with the school I help at, and almost all of them are single moms, with no dads in the picture. The school where my daughter goes has many kids without dads. The supervisor told me this. This has nothing to do with me or how I feel and everything to do with the culture.

One thing I do know is that many judges will go beyond the law and give women things they don't deserve, and get away with it. They are usually biased towards women and a man has to fight just to get treated fair. Something which is changing slowly. More and more men are wanting a relationship than before, and the women aren't getting away with screwing men over as much anymore. My ex tried to get my house, and she did get primary custody of the kids, at least for awhile. I bought the house a week before we were married, in my name, so she didn't have a prayer.

I'm guessing you don't realize that many of us "dumb" foreigners are here on this site, and I'm also guessing from your type of reply, we are all smarter than you are.Thai men won't pay a sin sod because most of the time they won't marry a woman who's had children and or has been married already. It's not about a requirement because it's always something that is negotiated. Many of us pay because we are okay with it and can afford it, and some times we will get it back anyway. Thai men don't laugh. They just don't marry a woman that's been around. Usually. They'd rather keep on using them and leaving when kids are born. We laugh at what sad "men" they are, running from responsibility. It's usually the ones who call others dumb that shirk responsibility and are hiding a warped personality.

Actually it's exactly the same in many countries. In America, where I was married and divorced two times, as was many friends who also divorced, everything was split 50/50. Sometimes , if kids are involved, the wife would get the house, if she is given custody, as wives aren't always given custody, as in my case. This was in 6 states where friends live. Sometimes the house had to be sold, sometimes it was kept by one and the other bought them out. I have never heard of nor seen anywhere where the wife got anything not hers before the marriage. that would be plain stupid and no one would agree on that. As far as women screwing men over, it also goes the other way. A lot more men cheat on their wives than the other way around. Abuse happens more to women than from them, although it happened to me twice. Men are still more likely to leave the kids, although I fought for them because my ex was a nutcase.