fredwiggy

Guess you've never been there, or used a computer to see that the US is the most advanced country on earth. But prejudice and ignorance betrays such information.

The only way to let others know they are in the wrong is telling them. Honking your horn lets others know, and it doesn't matter that some think Thai's are never wrong. This is why bad behavior continues. Mai pen rai doesn't work all the time like many here think it does. If I see someone going very slow in the lane, hugging the line, I'll pass them and pull over far to the left for awhile, letting them know it's what you do if someone wants to pass safely. Of course, many won't care nor understand what you're doing, but some will, and then it'll be a habit of theirs from then on, to show respect for others on the road. Something millions here don't yet have. If you drive like many do here in the US, you'll pay a lot of money, and that's the best teacher. As far as others having a gun, yes, that happens and people get shot at. If someone pulled a gun out at me while passing and pointed it at me, they're going down, and then to jail, because no court system on earth allows that behavior.

What is true is that a lot of parents , especially here with dads, are missing. A child without a father around grows up with only one for guidance, and a woman can't teach a boy how to be a man. What she can teach, if she's not in Bangkok while the kids are with grandma, is respect for elders, other's property, animals, and other's space. Being very strict doesn't work, nor does being too lenient. There's a fine line between discipline and not caring enough. Locking a child in his room is abuse. It shows them you are out of control, and controlling a bad situation is a parent's job. It's abandonment instead of teaching a lesson. Time out's are always good, if they are a teaching tool and not just top shut them out because you don't want to let them learn what they did is wrong. If a fire happened, not that there would be such bad timing, and they were locked in, it might be a disaster. As far as it being very bad in the US, that's also false. This happens everywhere there is poverty. dads leave, and moms think they have to go elsewhere to work instead of being a parent. leaving the kids with others, many of whom are illiterate, too old, or not caring teaches the child that this is normal behavior. it isn't. If you're going to be a parent, do it. It isn't anyone else's job. Teaching respect for others is priority one, and as we see here, it's not being taught on even a basic level. What they did was wrong from the start. First of all, a scooter can't compete with a car. You always lose. Not wearing helmets and trying to pass on the wrong side is why thousands die each year here. Of course, not enforcement of laws already there is the police not doing their jobs, which leads to more doing the same daily. All that driver had to do was turn slightly to the side and two are on the ground, either very hurt or dead. The stupidity of scooter drivers amazes me. Lastly, the breakdown of the family is the root of all problems worldwide, which is what I agree with in your statement. Not having any kids leaves you totally clueless on the dynamics of raising them, and that's not a putdown. You think it's do this or that, because you saw it growing up, or heard it from others, and it doesn't come close. It's the hardest job on earth, and is why so many fail at it and walk away. Parenting isn't for cowards, and kids having kids, especially here and other poor countries, leaves the next generation in the dark.

All information about the parents is needed in the US. Name, proof of address (2), SS number, marital status, age, dependent info, work place (income), child's birth certificate, immunization history, school transcripts.

Seems like she already got her wish

I lived in America for 62 years, and never came across any Americans that didn't know the difference between the two words. When you say, "I know that you know the difference', who are you talking about? How many Americans do you actually know, so you can pass judgement on what Americans think? As far as the original post, why is it your business to ask what others do or fantasize about with other women? Are you trying to put others into your type of thinking, hoping others will admit to what they actually fantasize about? Isn't sex between two people supposed to be personal business? At least after you pass teenage bragging thinking. Then this statement,."Once you have had your fill here, after several decades, you naturally become somewhat satiated." There are many farangs here I'm sure, and I know quite a few, who are happy with their wives and aren't here for just conquests like many tourists are. I myself came here and got married, to the wrong Thai, but I was willing to stay if she didn't go wrong. A person who looks at women , meaning plural, as something to get your fill of, is a user. No matter how bad a woman treats you, there are others that won't. A lot of women here look at us as money, because they don't know any better and are greedy, both for things, and a life different than one with a local man who either cheats, doesn't help with the kids, contribute to the family or just leaves. Many have had their "fill" of those that look at women as objects, like the farangs that do the same that come here. Everyone thinks about their past loves, and asking if they do is a normal question. What they think about with them and what positions? How old are we? What you assume about others might be right on, but is it your business? Better to send it to Penthouse, where others think the same, and where the answers are as impersonal and true bu**<deleted>.

Yes, sadly there are many whores here that will take money from one, who are mostly unaware, and have sex with a pathetic loser that will not satisfy her anyway, and be with another the next day. Those same women end up alone on a farm, or with a house that was bought for them, with a sad reputation that even their close "friends" will talk about behind their backs. When the farang dies, if he does before her, she will look for sex from those same kind, who are too busy to bother with a woman that sleeps around, looking down on her after the act because not many men, even players, want whores for very long.

It is, along with research for 50, which I stated there as you can see, and talking to many others along the way. Disagreeing to form your own opinion is never as good as actual research

You're looking for others to give you advice on something you already know the answer to, and no one here feels or understands what you do. If this woman treats you well, and isn't causing your family a lot of money , you have to decide for yourself if this is what you want for the rest of your life together. A lot will tell you to leave because women have hurt them in some way and divorce is the easy way out, especially if you have no children, and the property means little. You do only live once, and if you came here asking others what to do, you're looking in the wrong place for a answer. A person who drinks a lot is either suffering from depression, the drinking has become a habit for a long time, either because of that depression or abuse in their earlier life, or starting out young and drinking with friends to fit in (most of us). Either way, it's a habit for her and she only feels right when she is stoned. Substituting one drug for another can work, as one mentioned about weed, because at least with weed you won't drink drunk,and are usually mellow and in control, but it's still swapping one habit for another. trying to get her into AA here is probably impossible, and if she has friends that she drinks with, you can't get rid of them or she will be mad at you, and that won't stop the drinking anyway. You only can give her an ultimatum, stop or you have to go. I love you, but I can't see you this way, we don't do anything together because you're always wasted, and it's going to kill you eventually, although it can take a long time. Life IS way too short, and she can only help herself. You can give her a push, but she has to do this herself. As far as the divorcing, if by Thai law, meaning you went to the US embassy, them amphur, you registered it, meaning the US will recognize this as a legal marriage, so you wouldn't be able to marry again until you finished this one here. Of course, if you have no intention to marry again, I guess you could just leave, because there isn't any alimony here, and you have no children to pay for. Think of what YOU really NEED, then decide, after talking to her when she is sober, what she will or won't do.

I had 2 dogs and 5 cats here in the country, 250 meters from the road and the nearest house. Some local scumbag poisoned my 2 dogs, a family's dog, others in our village and two others that came after and squatted because I like dogs and they know,so they stuck around, because he (she) thought the dogs were running through their cassava fields and knocking down some plants, a loss of maybe 20 baht. The local dogs, not mine, killed all the cats. I wish I could have cats but they would have to stay indoors and I don't like the smell anymore.

Vodka, gin and tequila have the least calories. I like tequila and drink it when I can, but haven't found it here yet around where I live. I always drank wine, not much, but now it's beer and some whisky, which I normally wouldn't touch. I kept my weight around 80 kilos, ripped, from age 18 to 62. Since I came here, I couldn't find a gym close, 30 kilos away, until recently and it doesn't open until 14:00, so it's kinda inconvenient. You definitely do not need near as many carbs as you age, especially if you aren't training as frequently. I try to keep the beer low because of that, because drinking any calories leads to a surge in blood sugar.

He said he can't have cats because he has 4 dogs. Having a cat is great. They'll eventually catch and kill all vermin, although they'll still come in if there are openings in the house. Back in Texas, my dog caught and killed a few, but I couldn't keep up with them until I fully sealed the house, after killing what was in there.

He's paying to stay there, and I'm thinking he had the dogs before he moved in, so she already knew. You do not forget rats. They cause innumerable problems and spread disease. They are not supposed to be in homes, along with bugs. Homes are for people, and clean, domestic animals.

I think he meant baht lol If it cost 12-15,000 dollars I would make pets from the rats and teach them tricks.

That's why I suggested sealing up every crack. They will never stop coming in until this is done.

Had this problem when I lived back in Texas. Tried everything as far as traps and poison. I used glue traps but couldn't kill them myself afterwards, and I'm a deer hunter, so I let them go in a field across the street. Mistake. They just come back. Why? Because when they live in your house, they're smell from pee and feces attracts other vermin. Poison works for some, but some aren't killed by it, and those are strong animals that breed. A contract for a year sounds right, because they do return, UNLESS, you seal the house from them being able to get in AFTER you kill what's there. A cat is good, but they learn to avoid, and those rats get bigger. Plus, not sealing your home lets them return anyway. It took be quite awhile to find any ways they can get in, and they can squeeze through a spot a lot smaller than you'd think. 20 mm for a rat, 6 mm for a mouse. I finally got the house sealed, after killing the rats with poison and spring traps. The contractor gave me tips after he tried himself with traps, and it was mainly the sealing which worked.

He's not far off as far as Asian treatment of women, meaning Japan, Thailand, Vietnam,China, Laos, Myanmar and Cambodia. This is a fact, and can be researched widely. From what I've seen myself in 6 years here, it's pretty much right on. Discrimination is ,and has been inbred for centuries here. This is one good read to understand what actually goes on in SE Asia..................................https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1525125/

Might want to reconsider if it's a problem. No alcohol problem and "Sometimes I stop in the middle of the 20th or whatever drink because I know now it's time to stop" ??? And "maybe a few days or a week later"?? I drink on the weekend, and have always until recently been a wine drinker, and occasional beer, but wine being expensive here I usually just have a beer or two. When I move back to the US, it will be wine and occasional "good" beer again. Check this link out from a reputable source....................https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/onlinemedia/infographics/excessive-alcohol-use.html

He was mistaken. Tofu does have all the essential amino acids our body can't make on it's own, making it a complete protein, which can repair and build cells.

I had mentioned earlier, my ex wife's family, 11 kids, dad and mom, were (are) all above average in height to tall, and they have been living in rural Isaan all their lives. Remember, a lot of Thais have Cambodian, Laos, Myanmar and especially Chinese relatives. Relatives who might have bigger and taller genetics. Better nutrition, along with the genetics, has seen healthier offspring from all races. Back in the early middle ages, people were taller than in the 17th and 18 centuries, about as tall as modern day people. Climate change, with communicable diseases, and changes in agriculture ,led to worsened health conditions, and when people aren't eating healthy, their size will decrease. Better living entering the 20th century had people increasing in size and height. Kids here have been eating well for a long time now, and their height increase seems to have been disputed by this doctor. Which brings us back to, milk or the lack of it, isn't the cause for height loss among children here. And your stepdaughter would be the same if you were never in the picture, unless she would have been basically starved during her 2-18 years, which is the growth period for most.

You stopped reading a small paragraph because you couldn't comprehend it, as most literate people could, so passed it by and assumed because I didn't use spacing for those like yourself, it didn't contain true information. I don't have to learn anything about spacing. It's a choice. Genetics are most of what you turn out to be, along with eating healthy, but eating healthy doesn't guarantee taller, stronger of faster. That comes from exercise. There are people who compete in athletics that smoke, eat junk food and do drugs. (all professional bodybuilders) Diet is the most important thing regarding what you look like as far as being lean,that along with genetics also. This post is about kids drinking milk. The doctor wrongly assumed that kids are losing out on height because of a lack of milk drinking. You can go all your life without drinking milk because it's not necessary. Kids here get enough nutrition from the average Thai diet to ensure health, and better health along with genetics has a population increase in size. Thai diets have gotten better, and worse, with the introduction of other nationalities foods. Milk can be a good addition to anyone's diet, IF they aren't lactose intolerant. Lactose free milk is okay, but still not necessary. there are many substitutes for the nutrients in milk. Also, if you choose to drink milk, it's better to use skim or 1%, because the fat from whole milk is saturated, which can contribute to heart disease and CVD, which can lead to strokes. People have been using milk for thousands of years, and some are hurt by it's use. Again, milk is okay for the reasons mentioned. If you didn't choose to read this, oh well.

Westerners are taller on average because of genetics. It has nothing to do with what you eat. If you are unhealthy starting out as a child, your growth may be stunted. People here, although the diet is limited in comparison to western culture, still get enough protein, carbs and fats for normal growth. Too much rice eating is always a problem, especially if you are diabetic prone. Milk again, is not necessary for humans. You can get all the nutrition milk gives with a varied ,healthy diet.Milk doesn't cause problems with everyone, but when it does, it hurts. Whole milk isn't as healthy because of the fat content, otherwise it's the same as skim or 2%. Any race can be stronger with weight training. A lot do it here, though not near Americans. As far as smarter, the proof stands that Thais are lower on average in IQ than most westerners, ranking around 63'rd. Japan and other Asian countries lead the list, followed by European. The US is ranked 28th. Facts are, it's not a good idea to get your calories from fluids. They go into the bloodstream faster and cause a rapid rise in blood sugar levels and insulin resistance, which increases the chance of diabetes. It doesn't matter what others have said, milk is not necessary and soy and almond compare favorably with cows milk in protein with unsweetened almond having fewer calories. Saturated fat has always been a link to heart disease, so lower fat milks are always a better choice.

It IS because of the western food that's been introduced here over the years. You can eat white rice, chicken, fish, pork, buffalo and bugs all day and not get fat. But diabetes, if it's in your genetic history, comes out a lot because of eating too much white rice. You can be small, like my ex's mom, who doesn't weigh 45 kilos, and has been taking insulin for as long as I've known her, over 6 years. There are thousands like her here, small, light and diabetic, because of it. Eating more western junk makes Thais fatter every year.

Most animals don't live long enough to where teeth maintenance matters, although a bad diet for domestic animals does hurt their chances of longevity. Deer, for example, eat a lot of food that's hard, and their teeth wear down and they die a lot of the time because they can no longer eat. On sharing sticky rice, think about it. You put your hands in that rice, then into your mouth, then repeat, as well as all others sharing it with you. You are eating saliva from them,and I'm sure Covid has taken quite a few because of this, along with getting sick from any and all other transferable diseases.

I'm talking about how milk isn't necessary for humans, and that soy isn't a problem, unless for some it's consumed in large amounts. The diet here isn't all healthy. Thai's eat rice almost every meal. White rice, which converts to sugar quickly, lending to many developing diabetes. Pork isn't the healthiest meat, but lean pork is okay if eaten moderately. Chicken is lean, but too much of it can cause problems for some. Fish is about the healthiest, leanest protein from animals you can eat, but too much of some is high in mercury, which isn't a good thing. All in moderation is what you're supposed to do anyway. The local stores here have drinks, up to 95%, which are loaded with sugar. That, along with daily rice, other snacks high in fats, is a ticking time bomb for children. Of course, the obese rate in Thailand is low compared to the US and other countries, but it's steadily increasing yearly because of their diets. Kids all usually start out thin, with some exceptions where they are given too much junk from toddler age, as I see here a lot, and some kids are very fat entering the first grade, but worldwide, most children are lean until they reach teenage or young adult years. It's then when what their parents taught them backfires, as it's the parents fault for not teaching them proper nutrition, and giving them too much junk just to appease them works against them, as they'll never know what right to eat unless their expanding waistlines tells them it's time for a change, and they look for advice from others who know.