fredwiggy

How long was your sentence?

Not a possibility, as I pay my bills first. Lived there, paid for a house 32 years, before moving here. I would have stayed in that house if she moved there, but she wanted to stay in a country where she had no relationship to speak of with anyone in her family. When I go back, I'll rent to own, and then mortgage, just like everyone else does that re locates.

I did read the article, and a few thousand before that, and lived it with many girlfriends and a few wives. If you read my previous reply, I stated more reasons, which included harmony. Harmony means both are in tune, which does mean happiness and having fun also. Couples that laugh together stay together, because of harmony and shared interests. People stay together and say many things, after an affair. A lot stay together, especially the women, because of financial reasons, and have to live with the fact their significant other felt the need to go elsewhere for sex. If you are in tune, and have harmony, and communicate the right way, you won't look elsewhere. People that cheat are unstable, and look at their partners as objects and not as a partner. Narcissistic personality disorder, something not easily cured, is the reason they cheat. Another is drug addiction and impulsivity. Sex addiction from past trauma. People lie about their relationships not to lose face, and saying things are okay when inside they are hurting, is a defense mechanism.

I don't need to tell myself anything. I'm well aware of the dynamics of relationships. I've been in some good, and some bad. I don't think you understand what I wrote, because it's true. Relationships end for those and other reasons. I just mentioned some that are in the front. If you have harmony, that means you are both on the same page, in sex, children, whether to have or not have, financial decisions, where to live, basically future plans. People stay together, if they are both stable mentally, if they are friends and lovers, allowing both to have space, not letting anyone into your personal lives, no abuse, cheating or neglect, and communication. People leave for bull**it reasons all the time, because they were never taught by their parents, either by word or actions, how to relate to the opposite sex. Children learn from day one how people relate to each other, and if they see conflict where one is the victim and another the perpetrator, that's what they think is normal, and their future relationships will suffer. Some are greedy, and money ruins that relationship. Some have addictions not dealt with, and that ruins more.

Sex doesn't keep people together. Harmony does. When it's not there, or there is deception, abuse or infidelity, all relationships end, even if you stay together.

A married woman will have sex with you as long as you listen, attentively, to her. I was married to two western women, and had a long relationship with another, and sex was always there. Not as much as the beginning, as is the case with most relationships, but it was rewarding because I treated them with respect in and out of the bedroom. When you aren't paying for women, they will respond IF you treat them well and they don't have daddy issues, meaning little or no relationship with a good father. Money can buy you sex, but it isn't as satisfying as with someone who actually loves you. Women love sex as much as we do. They just respond to different stimuli beforehand.

You like to ask others personal questions. Bored in your own relationships? Not that it matters, but 6 years. It would have ended a lot sooner had we lived in America, and she would have been behind bars.

You do know, since you use the word freely, what delusional means right? What incontrovertible evidence is there in this man's post that makes anyone who agrees with him delusional? I see his post as it is. Not as a reply to someone else's rants about Thais, but as an experience he had in a store a day ago. It may have been exactly how he stated it was. We weren't there, so can't judge him. You think he made this up just for the hell of it, looking for sympathy? I see it as it probably happened, and I'm far from gullible. If it's not exactly how it happened, it doesn't matter. He asked for a refund from a store that usually does, in 30 days or less, no matter the country. Stores do not usually change policies in other countries unless they are a franchise, then it's up to them. What he asked for isn't unreasonable. It's been called cheap, but that's no one's business how others spend their money. Some have a lot of money, and are of the thinking it's beneath them to return something so small. Oh well, not your deal anyway.

Again you assume what others think about someone you know absolutely nothing about. Now I'm thinking you aren't very old, nor wise. When you get to my age, and are very into the psychological aspect of others behavior, you can judge people a little easier. I know for a fact many locals either don't care much about us or are prejudiced towards us because of their forefathers teachings. Some are welcome to us and they show it by their interest. I have my ex;s relatives that live next door, and see them daily. I let his buffalo eat the grass I'm growing for a lawn. He borrows tools, and I borrow his weedeater. They like me, and have told me they think my ex, their cousin, was wrong in what she did. Her mom said the same not only to me, but to my girlfriend. I don't have a problem with anyone besides the mentally ill and narcissists. I can't relate to them because they aren't right, and their actions show it .

Again, you assume. I'm as far from delusional as you are from having a clue. I've been right on in all I post. I don't make opinions. I look at things how they are, then reply.

And so have I, and some are fluent and are teachers here. Not speaking Thai isn't a problem if you can communicate other ways. Everyone in my village thinks my ex is a nutcase, and know, from here and her family, that I was good to her all along. They are fine with me.

How do you know if sex isn't exciting for anyone besides yourself? Assuming again. Sex is great as far as I'm concerned. Looking at your partner as a partner and not an object might improve things for you. You're aging also, and it comes fast after you're 40, so be prepared. I've been a weight trainer over 50 years, and I've been humbled since age 47, when I was in the best shape of my life and as strong as anyone, all things considered, in the gyms I went to , without steroids. Overworked my joints, and now am paying, but still very strong for 67. Everyone gets health problems, no matter if you eat healthily all your life, not smoke, drink too much, train weekly and get enough sleep. Can't assume how old you are, although your comments lead me to believe late teens to early twenties.

You assume on almost every reply. How do you know how much Thai anyone I know can speak? You don't, so don't assume. I've been to Ubon a hundred times, Udon Thani, Nong Khai, Khon Kaen, Buriram, Bueng Kan, Surin, and everything in between, and again, they are all about the same.

My relationship failed. I live in the house as long as I want. When I leave, she can have it, if I let it stand. Yes, it's boring in Isaan. That's what I said earlier.

Speak for yourself. I've been weight lifting since age 17, kept lean all those years, and sex is always there. Relationships are for those that look at women as partners. Indiscriminate sex is for those that don't.

I've been to those cities and more.Phuket on my honeymoon, looked okay if you loked towards the ocean, but trashy when you turned around. Bangkok looks like a bigger NYC with smaller buildings and worse traffic and drivers. Went to Mukdahan when I used to cross the river for my visa. Looks just like all other cities, including Sisaket, where I've been many times, and Roi Et. The beaches are pretty and one thing I like, because I fish, and love all saltwater fishing. I'm talking about cities and villages in Isaan anyway, which are all alike. I did say I would like to see Chiang Mai before I leave, meaning the old town and hill tribes. I have nothing against Thailand. I just said it's boring in Isaan, and every farang I know here says the same thing, and all go to bars almost daily to converse with other farangs.

And?

Good for you. And they all look alike and have the same things. I did ask what others do, and traveling isn't a bad choice, but when everything is the same all around Isaan, there's not much to do besides what you already have done.

I'm not boring anyone. You do know you can choose not to comment, but there's a reason behind it, and I for one know what it is Keep your comments to yourself, because they aren't entertaining anyone besides other narcissists, and aren't useful..

Again, he assumes what others do here. For all we know, you could be another one who purchases women and doesn't look at them as anything but an object. Easy to judge with no conscience. You might stay in the house all day and never travel. I don't assume to know you other than your snide comments that are usually against farangs. Nothing positive ever to say.

Bad choices in partners inhibit growth in life, at least temporarily.

You bash foreigners daily, Go away.Saying Thailand isn't for me isn't bashing. Just hasn't been a good fit. Not alone in this thinking either.

It isn't whining. Just telling it how it is here. And why would it bother you? Easier just to go to another topic you can make negative comments on. I will be going home, as will many others who figure out this isn't home for them also.

Have many, most of which can't be done here. And what do others do here to stay busy? I know a lot of foreigners, and most of them go to bars almost daily. That isn't my thing. Temple visiting ended the first year, when you've seen many, especially the bigger ones, you've seen them all. Only one I'd like to see is Angkor Wat in Cambodia, someday before I leave here. If the beaches were closer, I'd be fishing there, but since I'm in Isaan, there isn't much to do here. Seeing the Hill Tribes around Chiang Mai are on the list before I leave, but that's just one more thing. Watching the rice grow isn't too inspiring, so what more is there here? Most Isaan cities all look the same. Same villages, same shops, same food.

Were you there? No, so you can't assume he was shouting. Act the part of an adult and give the man the benefit of the doubt. Read what he wrote and comprehend it. Don't pick it apart and assume. If you aren't sure, don't comment. The girl walked away saying okay, obviously she understood what he said, as many teenagers know some English here, much more than adults do. Insisting they do something which is reasonable isn't wrong. Complaining is how things are fixed, from a 7-11 return to the UN negotiating over policies and laws.