fredwiggy

I came here to be with my ex and daughter. I found foreigners to relate. Westerners can understand other westerners because they lived that life. I see prejudice here between Brits and Americans, which I cannot understand. It's not like it's us against them, because I have no prejudice towards Thais, especially seeing my ex and gf now are Thai, and my daughter is half. I just can't relate as much to them as i can other foreigners. We, especially other Americans, have walked the same ground, fished the same kinds of places,hunted deer in different areas. As far as Europeans, I can talk with them about their countries, because many of them are on my bucket list.

I've had the best of wine from most every country. I used to live next to NYC,and they get everything. Australian Shiraz and Chardonnay are among the best imports, and they were good as I remember, especially the Shiraz, which Australia is known for.

Why, because you live on a mountain in northern Thailand?

Australia is one of the best places to catch a big marlin, the Great Barrier Reef, and although I've had Australian wine, I prefer German, French, Spain and Italian wines, so that's where I will go in Europe, along with Auschwitz, The Scottish highlands, a few pubs in Ireland, sights in England, Italy and Soain.

You do make many disparaging remarks about farangs, even though you are one, so that makes it easier to reply. Just what does a loser look like? You can't say it's because of the clothes they wear, because comfortable is more important than style, except to the high society lowlifes that think they are above others. farangs hang out with other farangs mainly because we can relate to each other, with some exceptions, present company suspected, many of us can't speak fluent Thai, so can't hold a meaningful conversation with locals. Like I mentioned earlier, I know quite a few farangs here, and none are losers as far as what a loser means to most of us. If you talk to others like you talk to us here, I'm very aware why you don't have any friends. There is help for that, with the exception of you possibly being a narcissist, which really has no hope. They act superior but are hiding behind a facade of inferiority. I have been watching your replies for a long time now, and I don't see many which are helpful. Why put down farangs all the time? People are people everywhere. All countries have their share of narcissists, weirdos, empaths, losers, users, abusers, and power hungry officials. There are amongst those many good people, who like the company of others of their own kind. I have no problem hanging out with Thais here, as my girlfriend has quite a few she works with and are neighbors, who we sit with and share a few beers. I don't understand much of what they are saying, but I can see they accept me, and vice versa. The conversations are usually between my gf and them, but she translates when they are asking me questions. With farangs, the conversations can get a lot more involved, which is why we hang out together.

I don't pretend to be an expert on anything. I do understand women, and relationships, and how they work, even if I have had a few that went sour, like most of us. Music I do know, as well as most anyone on earth, because like hunting and fishing, it's a passion. I have over 40,000 cd's, which would explain that to most anyone, and I know the music on them, meaning I only buy or burn music that is good, and don't waste my time listening to soulless pap.

I don't know many farangs, maybe 60 total or so, that I've either worked with, met from here, met in a gym, pizza place, Tesco or others. I really don't spend much time with them but when I do, they all seems to be pretty nice, with a few exceptions. All seem to drink, and spend a lot of time in bars together. Nothing wrong there, just not what I do besides occasionally, and usually when there's food. I don't pry, so I can't assume otherwise, but to me it seems many drink more here than they did before moving here. I actually do also, but it's beer instead of my usual wine, which wasn't much besides sharing a good bottle with friends. I don't know more than what I've seen, but many of them have a good relationship with their wives, all of whom speak okay English, from as far as I can see. One never knows what goes on behind closed doors, but you can tell if they are close, and many seem to be. I really like a few of these farangs, as we have shared interests, and some are from America, which is good because of that. Many are Brits, Irishmen, Scots, German or Aussies, and we speak of their countries, because Europe and Australia are on my bucket list. Europe to see all the old architecture, the food, scenery, wine areas, etc, and Australia to catch a marlin before I die. A few, like I mentioned, are real characters, but harmless, so that's not a problem. I don't see any of them as losers. Some have made a mistake, like me, in coming here, so we can relate.

A lot of people actually. I know music, and from your statement, I can see you don't. Pretty simple.

I have no need to look at anything besides what I already have known. I'm not closed minded, but this has been done many times before, and the facts are there. Studies have been done about sugar for years. Table, refined, corn syrup, brown, all of them, are empty calories and should be eaten sparingly, and in the case of having diabetes, not at all. There are other sweeteners that don't cause problems.

Gecko gave the best advice so far here, and you shouldn't get involved, because it can get you killed, hurt, or ruin the relationship between you and her, but after I read this, I felt it had to be addressed. This woman, who you think is pretty, is taking on a man that just has to have other women, which, in case you aren't realizing it, is hurting her every day. She sees something in you I don't understand, because there are many other farangs that would kill to be in your shoes. You're in your 40's, and like everyone else, is getting older daily. She doesn't like what you're doing, but allows it because of maybe you are helping her with money and such. She is, and has been, jealous of what you're doing, and this won't change. You should make a choice, either stay and be faithful to her, because she is a good woman, has taken care of you when you're sick, travels with you, cooks, cleans in your country, and is I'm guessing, faithful, while you aren't. You got closer during Covid, which shows she means something to you and vice versa. Best friends sleeping together is the best you can have, but I'm thinking you missed that somehow. The other choice you have is letting her go, because she would make someone a great wife, and she's still young enough to attract another farang, because a local doesn't want a local with kids anyway, except to use. You wanting a threesome is you wanting another woman, along with your best friend, just to show you "care". She isn't only depressed because her son is there. Men do this shiit all the time, and this is another reason they learn to hate men, and then can't relate when a good man comes along. If you aren't willing to give her your all, let her go, because she's a keeper, although this obviously doesn't mean as much to you as it would to me.

I was born in NE New Jersey and lived there 30 years. I moved to Texas to stay in 1985, a large reason being I hated the long winters. Living in Texas 32 years, I really liked it, although it did get very hot in the summers, and no rain for a few months wasn't good. But I will move back there as soon as I can because it did have what I needed. It did have seasons, but not near as dramatic as Jersey did. It got pretty cold some days and even snowed once in awhile. I'm a hunter so liked those days when it got colder because it was better hunting then. I miss October and May in New Jersey because the weather was as good as it gets. Cool for bow hunting and fishing in October and perfect in may for fishing and everything else. The summer in New Jersey was okay until August, when it got oppressive. Here in Thailand there's two seasons, and both are hot. One has way too much rain, although it does cool down during the rain, and one is dry and hot, which isn't comfortable either. Texas had better weather for me because it didn't get too cold too long. You wait a few days or so, and it's back to warm. The only things you could do in winter in New Jersey was ice fishing or skiing, which wasn't all the time. I can fish every day of the year in Texas which I liked. It's all about being able to enjoy your hobbies, mine being outside. Here you can fish, but it isn't good unless it's a private lake or the sea, which is 8 hours away from me. Texas had longer days, meaning more sun, during much of the year, which was always better.

Yes they are. The only difference, besides one having water, is in the binding of molecules in sugar. Been into this for 50 years, and knew this since the beginning. This is why I've stayed lean all these years. I know what to eat and what not to............https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/high-fructose-corn-syrup-vs-sugar#regular-sugar

Saying something like that, were it's said in various forms daily, doesn't look like sarcasm, and you don't know if a person is humorless unless you spend time with them. This is an impersonal forum, where lies are told all the time, and people may not be what you think they are.

It makes me laugh when people say music is crap now, because, being an avid music lover of all genres, I see and listen to good music coming out all the time. I can name many relatively new artists that have made very good music the past 2 decades, especially in the progressive rock, folk rock, southern rock, blues and others. I came from the 50's, and listened all through the decades until now, so I've heard it all.

Gold diggers and leeches make up a large percentage of available women. Women that will love a man for what he really is and not because of his wealth, good looks or status are hard to find, but definitely around. You working with them tells you almost nothing about them. Unless you have spent time with them on an intimate level, they wouldn't tell you much about how they really are, because that comes with trust. Trust takes time before you reveal yourself to others. If you were around thousands of women and didn't want them in a romantic way, then you are holding way too high a bar with unrealistic expectations. Out of thousands of women, there are many that are attractive enough for any man alive. You aren't going to know much about them unless you date a woman you don't have to pay for, because those are a completely different breed. Unless of course you\re okay with marrying one of them, but from what you've said, you want a decent woman , yet can't find one.

They are basically the same

Then you could read on your phone. I can make paragraphs if I choose to. As I do at times. If a person can't read a long paragraph and comprehend, then they need more schooling. Young man.

7-11's have reading glasses, but just don't try and return them the next day.

It's very easy if you have retention. It was just a little longer paragraph. You are free to not read things if you can't retain a longer paragraph.

It's a great country that has people in it that don't belong. Some of them are in high places and need to be removed permanently, just like here. The country is for the people, not the rich who rape it for profit. The only way a country will survive is to rid it of the ones that don't belong there in the first place. Laws are necessary because a lot think they can do whatever they want with no repercussions. Sadly, many of these are rich and with that money have power. Power corrupts, but power can be destroyed.

I've been a relationship reader for 30 years. Relationships fail , like mine did, because attraction, not being a choice, traps men with women that aren't good for them. I've had many relationships that were good,but future plans were not the same, so we went separate ways. That's not a failure. The one's I've had children with were the ones that hurt, because I'm a responsible dad that want's to be with his kids, and i picked women that were totally wrong, not only for me, but for the children we made together. Damaged women ruin every relationship, no matter how well you treat them, because they are carrying baggage to heavy to handle. Many counselors, who give great advice, are divorced themselves, for the same reasons. hen you are attracted to someone, you can be blind. When you get to know someone over time, which I didn't for my wives, you see the red flags. If you read everything I write, it all works. It's all sound advice that comes from many books and thousands of articles I've read since my last Marriage in the states. I came here and fell in love too fast with a pretty Thai, and paid for it. So I didn't listen to my own advice and fell too fast. I've been with my girlfriend now for almost three years, and she,s also one who has been hurt , both by her parents and her deceased husband. She's a very nice, affectionate woman that I would love to take back with me, but her past has done a number on her so I'm taking my time to let her see what she can handle. I live here and I dislike it for many reasons, most of which are that I can't live the life I had back home. That's why I will return asap. And my advice , again, is sound. It comes from people who have written books, gained from interviews with thousands of couples, and what helped them in their relationships. One bit of advice that's in all of them. Take your time. Hard to follow when you see a beautiful face and body, but those attributes can ruin your life quick. And I'm happy. Just don't like living here.

It's not all about money, especially for a smart, independent woman. Of course you should be making a living, but most people, including most Americans, are just getting by, and everyone there knows it. Taking care of your family is a man's job, but that doesn't mean you have to be wealthy. Stay away from gold diggers and leeches, and you'll find a decent one. Looking at a married woman as anything but a friend is a major mistake. If she's married and flirting, she isn't good. If she's good, she wouldn't be bothering with a single man in the first place. Paying for it will get you sex, at least until she gets bored also, and looks for greener pastures. I attract women who are damaged for some reason. I don't mind depression, as I understand it well, and they also need someone that loves them. I've attracted narcissists because I'm a person who cares, and that's what they want. Someone to control, who will take their <deleted> , at least for awhile. I won't go there anymore, no matter what she looks like, because attraction gets you into trouble quick. It isn't a choice, so you have to be careful and get to know her for quite awhile. i didn't do that a few times, including my ex here, and i got burnt bad. There are good women out there that want a good man. Some have to get burned themselves with the bad men before they also learn, and when they find a good one, they'd be stupid to let him go.

There's one truth about women who use, abuse or take advantage of a good man. They will always end up with losers, or all alone. Women don't get many second chances with a good man. Most actually never find true love with one. There are plenty of men who will pay a good looking girls way, but someday those looks will fade, and they'll be out of the pool. That's when they'll regret their bad decisions.

I was kidding, and just talking about the freedoms there.

Another one who guesses or goes by others ignorance that have never been there.