fredwiggy

Kids always take sides in a divorce, and that's what hurts them. Your child didn't betray you. We don't know what you did with your wife but again, if you didn't do harm to your children, they will still want a relationship with you eventually. Some take quite awhile to get over the anger a divorce causes, and sometimes they take the side they most relate to, and that in turn hurts them also. I don't understand what you mean when you say "soft lads". I'm guessing it means we forgive too easily. If you don't forgive, you keep the hurt in you. The other party you hate has no idea nor care what you're thinking. People don't forget what others do to them. You just deal with it and move on, because they can't hurt you anymore. No matter what the other side says about you, unless that child is so close minded she can't act, she will still want to know the other side's story. If you hurt their mom, I understand why they might not want to talk with you, but anyone can apologize and admit wrong. Then you can have a relationship with them. Why bring kids into this world if you don't want a relationship with them? Better to use a condom or birth control.

How do you know what I've found? Besides that, do you not know that finding a good partner is not only the most important thing a person can do, but also the hardest? Most women will never find a good, loyal, faithful, trustworthy, kind, considerate and non abusive man. Having a relationship end is not always a failure. It can be that they had different future goals in life, so needed to split before things got too involved. It's also not a failure if the other partner cheated on you or was abusive or money hungry. That's a failure in their lives, and it's not worth staying with that kind, as it only brings you down.

Low self esteem, anger, a desire for conquests to feed ego. Sexual needs not fulfilled, sometimes because they weren't treating their partners with love and respect, sometimes because their wives only married because of his money, sometimes because they are damaged goods. Immaturity and the need for variety, thinking they somehow deserve it.

Some can't have children. That means they themselves are the family. many people have very satisfying lives without the responsibility of children. All of who have had kids know the sacrifices and work they take to raise to adulthood. Some just want the relationship between themselves. Nothing wrong with that. They can do anything they want, including traveling, without having to worry about small children.

Women cheat because they were not brought up right by parents, and didn't have a good relationship with their fathers. They also cheat because they have been with too many men, as is the case with many bar girls, and they don't look at men as anything besides cash. Statistically, about 25% of married women cheat. hardly all.

You assume a lot, meaning you aren't very bright. We all have seen what you've said about your kids and wife. Maybe you were the reason she left and didn't want you to contact them, although she can't stop that anyway unless you did them harm. Don't try and BS someone who knows. Plenty of women are satisfied if they aren't damaged by other men or their parents while young. Plenty of women aren't greedy and need big houses to show off to people who really aren't their friends. Plenty of women respond to their partner actually listening to them and stay because they are moral thinkers that believe in a commitment. All wives aren't whores. Only women who sell their bodies are. All women are not transactions. That's your thinking because you purchase yours and maybe didn't treat your Christian wife right. What you said that was true, which is a small part of your replies to myself and others, is that mentally ill women are never satisfied, as depression and narcissism wreaks havoc on the human brain, and they find it hard, or impossible, to interact with others in personal relationships. As far as invisible friends, I have no idea how someone who has never met someone else can make such a moronic statement. I have hundreds of friends in 3 countries and all over the US. I treat them right also, and they return in kind. With your background, you really have no reason to get involved with others here, as they know the real you, shown from what you've been saying for years. I gave you advice about your kids, that you should contact them, but before that you said you didn't want to have a relationship with them. That's normal thinking? And you can comment on someone else who loves all of his children and talks to them weekly? I don't fantasize my life. I just take it as it comes.

Have you read what other informed people have been saying? It doesn't matter how long I've lived here, but it's 6 years so you know. What matters is that the so called bouncers over reacted to a situation that could have been stopped with knowing how to subdue rowdy people. It happens daily in every other country, and a real bouncer knows what to do to de escalate the problem. they don't go about kicking people on the ground because they would be fired, and the bar might be sued. of course that doesn't happen here, as enforcement of rules is non existant and a lot of officials are corrupt. Queensberry rules don't apply to fighting outside of a tournament. This wasn't a tournament. This is a bar where people were hired to stop trouble. They hired the wrong people. Anyone who kicks someone on the ground is a coward, period. The man went down on the first hit. That's when he should have been picked up and escorted away. Sticking up for locals who act this way is a form of brown nosing. Just because you live here doesn't mean you have to tolerate bad behavior by anyone. As you can see by the many who also disagree here. I worry when others think this behavior is somehow right, that this is the kind of thinking that promotes violence on the streets.

I never make opinions. They don't carry weight. People can acquire guns anywhere on earth. There are thousands of illegal guns everywhere. There isn't a problem with farangs shooting Thais here. There is a problem with Thais shooting Thais. Gun violence here is extremely high. Besides that point, I said basically if a person wants to seek revenge because he was kicked while down, there are ways they can do it.

Yes, and I answered his question earlier.

I don't know what you're asking of me. I didn't make any derogatory statements about being bald. Nothing wrong with it. Some even choose it in lieu of having a full head of hair. Their choice. Most of us lose hair when we age anyway.I just asked him to not lump me in with what many think all farangs here are, meaning they think being bald is bad. I didn't mean it that way, although you might assume I did. Nothing wrong with being fat, old or lazy either. It's just how some look at us.

If a person can enjoy a glass of wine or beer a day, it's not an addiction, and can actually be beneficial to health. Over one drink it can start to be a problem. Weekend drinking, a few glasses, isn't an addiction in any way. People have been drinkers and lived to 100, as long as they drink moderately, eat healthy, exercise and get enough sleep.

Like Keanu Reeves said in Parenthood. You need a license to buy a dog, drive a car, even to catch a fish, but they'll let any butt reamin a**hole to be a father.

Disagree with what? These are facts from studies. Animals follow instinct to survive. We can be food to them if we allow ourselves to enter their environment. They aren't evil, but acting on the instincts created for them. There are predators and prey. Animals use a social hierarchy also, and that includes attacking other animals of their kind. They don't have a conscience like humans. They attack to eat or protect young, or their area from other predators.

Everyone has the right to post Jim. Just ignore their ignorance and hate. Some hate Brits and are the quickest to point out that all Brits act a certain way. Some are afraid of living here and feel the need to stick up for locals even if they are acting wrong, especially against other farangs. Some hate their own kind because it reminds them of a bad life back in their home country. Some are sadists, and like to see anyone get hurt. Anyone who sticks up for anyone else kicking a person when they are on the ground, unless they were protecting their own family and feared violence against them, is disturbed.

Bullies are usually bullied at home. Neglected emotionally by non caring or absent parents, or abused by them. That anger goes outward, many times starting with helpless animals, where they're repeating what happened to them, then onto siblings, then peers, especially the ones they perceive to be weaker than them. People hurt others because they aren't happy themselves. Low self esteem, narcissism ,learned from being hurt and or neglected by parents or caretakers, and sometimes depression turned outward. No one is born to hurt others. They are trained. A child sees people being hit, or are hit themselves, they think it's normal behavior. Whenever I saw any of my children hitting another, I stopped it an explained why. I rarely ever hit any of my 6 kids, except a slap on the butt if they were doing something hurtful. My children do not hit others, including their own children, with the same exception. I see my girlfriends nephew being hit by his mom since he was a year old. Yelled at all the time, expecting the boy to understand like a 10 year old would. This happens almost every time I visit my girlfriend, who lives next door to them. That little boy is always trying to hit others for almost anything or nothing, just because he's mad at something. He picks up cats by the tail and throws them aside, sits on them and smacks them,even the kittens that live around. I try myself to calm him down, but he doesn't understand English. He does understand my tone though, and he knows I'm trying to get him to stop. That boy will grow up thinking it's okay to hit, and that may follow with his girlfriends and wife. This is being learned at home and is but one example of millions daily. Humans either like or dislike other humans, because of the reasons explained .People are still little kids grown up, trying to act like adults but carrying what they've learned since childhood all their lives. 0-5 is the most important time of a child's life. Here they learn trust, kept promises, security, protection, fear,love, care, respect for animals and others and their property, among other things. Their brain develops at that time more, and faster, than any other time in their lives. No one knows how others feel about others just by seeing them in public. People have fears, phobias, prejudices and anxieties. This, along with the possibility of catching a disease, has people (some) not wanting to sit next to others. Then you have people who will sit next to a stranger and not think anything wrong, and start a conversation. Some are hiding something and don't want to get close to others. Some hate everyone and even they don't know why. That's learned behavior. Humans are meant to be with other humans. No one is happy alone. If they say they are, its fear from being close because someone hurt them they trusted before. People can be evil, and that's mostly because they were taught to be, not because they were born that way., with the exceptions of psychopaths, who are sometimes genetically predisposed to hurt others. Some of them are that way because of the environmental conditions in which they were raised.

Actually, if you're a tough person, you don't need to resort to kicking someone in the back, after stomping on them. A tough person would think nothing of a little slap and just escort the person out, especially if they are supposed to be a bouncer, which is what a real bouncer does. If it was a punch and not a slap, then you punch back, hard enough to wake the person up. Like has been mentioned many times on this forum, locals need to resort to ganging up 4 or 5 against 1, all the same size, and hit with sticks and kicking. Not referring to Muay Thai fighters, who can handle themselves, and don't need to pick fights, The average local here does what we see daily, and I've not only noticed this for 6 years, but heard it many years before I ever moved here, both by foreigners and Thais back in the US. I've known a few Brits, and they weren't weak men. Just average in build. Hard to judge a whole nation from a few retirees. Each case is individual. A small man that's fast can beat a large man who's slow. A large man that puts his weight behind his punches can deck a small man very easily. Being tough isn't having to kick. Kicking, unless you're in a stand up fight, isn't something a tough person does, but a coward. And kicking isn't stomping on someone's back. There are specific kicks you learn training. Not kicking wildly as I see on TV almost everyday. That's for those that can't hurt with their fists.

Psychopaths are genetically started and environmental also. Can't be diagnosed until about age 18 or so. Sociopaths are mainly made, from abuse, neglect or extreme spoiling, when with parents from birth. Like narcissism, which is a learned behavior.

They do all the time. Rice should not be left out more than 2 hours. Refrigerated it will last a few days, or frozen if need be. Raw chicken sold here at stores will get bacteria very quickly, especially Salmonella. It should be stored at 40 degrees, like it is in the US, and wrapped in plastic. Cooking here, using hot oil and boiling, does reduce or eliminate a lot of bacteria, but the chicken should be cut into small pieces. I've gotten the runs here way more than back home in America, and I'm sure leaving food out, as I've seen in many homes, is the culprit. Koi Pla, raw fish with spices, kills many in Thailand every year, up to 20,000 it's said. I know personally of two farangs wives who died from liver disease from eating it. People don't usually discuss their bathroom habits with anyone besides their doctor and maybe a close relative, so no one has any idea how many suffer from food borne illnesses.

People learn almost everything about life in the first 5 years. Then they learn from their peers, who also learned the same way. Bad absent and evil parenting doesn't help a child grow into a normal adult.

Not knowing anything besides he may have had depression you can't assume what was going on in that house. Depressed people sometimes take anger from depression out on others, but usually it's turned inwards. There might have been abuse going on, which put him over the edge. Children aren't born evil. It's learned from birth on, from abuse, neglect or spoiling. Some are around other bad children, who don\t respect life, and think they have to do something violent to fit in with the other lunatic friends.

When a person has an addiction, it involves everyone around them, most importantly, their family. It affects every day of their life, and brings down those who love them. Posting it here is a way of release in a positive way.. Although pride isn't usually a good thing, it's a way of saying to the world, I did it, so can you, which does reach others, just like an AA meeting. There are alcoholics on this forum , statistically speaking, and some of them might be hurting also. Why belittle their pain, their knowing others are just like them, or their want to get rid of it?

Speaking English doesn't matter. You grab them, with help if need be, and bring them outside and release them. In this case, bring them away from the bar front. No posses needed if you want revenge. People get shot everyday from revenge, here, there and everywhere. Acquiring a gun is possible anywhere if you have money. Staking out the bar, then following the bouncer home, then he strikes. Not saying he should do this, as he was at fault also. Just what people do. He deserved to be hit back. That's all. He was hit, he hit the ground, then was stomped and kicked. That's taking it too far. That first punch had him hit the floor. That would have stopped most people from trying more. There is no excuse for kicking someone when they are down, unless they hurt your family in some way. Besides that, it's always a cowardly act.

Yes it was, besides of course bullets and death from drinking too much anyway.

They feel good about themselves, which is the most important thing in love. Self love first. A person who's become addicted has a hard time getting rid of that addiction, as any cigarette smoker can attest. I think it's great that they want to better themselves. Drinking isn't a problem until it becomes an addiction, and the damage it can cause. Some have to stay away from it and it's very hard. Give them credit because you don't understand it if you're not going through it. Just like having depression. If you don't want to add constructive comments, you don't have to reply. Easy.

Because smiles sell, as per politicians, salesmen, and those wanting to get something from others. They also hide how a person is really feeling, because of the former.