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Its kind of a long story (i started a topic about it a while ago), but i suffered severe insomnia in 2022 due to anxiety that landed me in the ER several times. I got through it with medications and just educating myself about the topic. I havent taken any medicine about 6 months but i follow quite good sleep hygiene everyday and i sleep about 6-7 hours. I dont even remember the last time i slept 8+ hours, but i just accept it, it is what it is. I feel perfectly fine if the 6 hours sleep is in a row without waking up in the middle. - dont browse phone before you go to bed at least 1 hour before sleep - try to go to bed and wake up same time everyday - bed is only for sleeping, dont lay there randomly - dont eat big meals near bed time - i have limited my alcohol consumption, i feel it has positive impact (when i had insomnia i sometimes abused it to get sleepy, but it only helps falling asleep but the sleep quality is really bad)

Any more recent experiences? Some say if she made the visa on her own, mentioning staying with me is a bad idea. Other say the opposite, who is right? Best bet is to just book hotel for entire stay and have cash ready to show? Thx.

Thank you for the long answer. She already has a visa and made it via VFS on her own, she got her passport back within 48 hours with a visa. She specifically wants to come here as we been talking about it for years, she wants to see the rough weather that you cant see in Thailand, not some beach holiday. Also to meet my family. Staying in a hotel 3-4 days is out of the question as where i live we dont even have hotels and plan to stay in the capital just 1-2 days. How long before arriving can you cancel agoda? I guess can book a real stay which we will do and then a longer stay what can cancel. I seem to get very different info. Some say its easy at the border. Some say can mention me as its a pluss even when she made visa on her own. Now you say she might need to provide a lot details about me on the border if she mentions staying with me? Never heard of immigation asking for bank records etc at the border. Lil confused.

For sure yes, i mean the truth is simple. We been together almost 8 years and i need to stay in EU for some period and she is visiting me for 2 weeks and then goes back.

Ty makes sense yes. I was just asking because she made the Type-C short-term tourist visa on her own without my invite letter. Just asking if she can still tell she is staying with bf.

Yes, bank statements and proof of employement were asked but hotel bookings etc were not asked. Just asking if need to show some kind of proof of funds at the border too. I believe there is an official rule how much euros per day you need to have.

Hi, my So is visiting me and i wonder what are the typical questions asked at the border. Apart from the usual questions, is she asked proof of funds, hotel bookings? I mean she stays with me so no hotel needed, but can she say that at the border when asked? I ask because she made the visa on her own (Type-C short term) and not the "invite letter" way. Thanks!

Well, that escalated quickly ???? I obviously prefer everything to be correct, that why i made this topic.

That is a very fair point! Just keeping a low profile in a non pet condo seems like a good idea reading that. I mean, the worse that can happen is you lose your deposit. Our cat is very chill and quiet too, only thing he likes to destory is curtains ????

Always yes ???? He loves the balcony, but we never let him stay alone there. He is rather afraid of even looking over the edge, but loves to look ongoing traffic from a near expressway.

Yeah, ive done it before. Just sometimes feel shady when need to take him somewhere and hide. Or just carry cat related stuff around condo building, like big bag of toilet stuff, foods etc. Feel want to go legit ????

Tyvm but Sukhumvit too far far from my SOs work. She works near Bang Rak, so prefer around there. I know rama 4 is far from there too, but its sometimes only 10 minutes depends on traffic. Sukhumvit is different story. Anywhere from 20min to 1 hour. Yea i keep an eye on the usual sites, fb groups etc. Just thought will ask from here too.

I been to local friends condo before where the rent was exactly 5k. Brand new 5 story complex, 25m2 simple but clean room with a balcony and AC. It was like 2 stations from BTS Chong Nonsi, but honestly i dont remember which way lol. But its certainly possible to find a decent place in a nice area if you search enough.

Hi, as the title says im looking for a cat friendly apt/condo in the Silom, Sathorn, Rama 3 or the surrounding area. Prefer the budget be max 20k/mo+utilities. Can recommend both long term condos and short term (monthly deals) serviced apartments. Thank you!

I always take video and pictures when first time moving in, no matter how trustworthy or not someone is. There was some damages also when i moved to last place, i took pictures of every one of them. Just advice for next time.

I agree yes that a general consensus how a relationship should look like is different than in west. But its not something that bothers me when my partner is a genuine good person.

That might be the case sometimes, but overall id say thats quite a cynical view. Not everyone is out there to "get you" or milk you. I know her almost a decade, she is just a good person who wants to help. I remember i was in a <deleted>ty spot some years ago temporarily. She got lucky with a lottery and won like 4k B, she called being very excited that she can contribute more in tough times. World is not black and white.

I agree. My SO has a lot smaller salary than me, but she always insists on paying for various stuff (taxi, some meals or support electric bill etc) even when i say its not necessary. She just wants to contribute and i appreciate it.

Its not important to me anyway, when im happy with someone im happy, just curious as its not the norm obviously.

Sorry, for guys. I know im in the minority, just meant to ask are there similar out there.

Am i in the minority who have a partner older than he? We met when i was in the late 20s and she was early 30s, roughly 6 years older than me. We have been together almost 8 years and happy.

We know nothing about her, maybe she saved up for years to get her dream bag. And people saying to put it in a safe...i applaud her that she actually enjoys the things she likes. People have different hobbies and interests, $50k watch is crazy too but horology and watch hobby is very common. How is that different from liking handbags, cars or any other materialistic stuff. People wouldnt say nothing if this was a guy getting his Patek stolen.

I realise my last post is October past year but i decided to give an update, since a lot have happened since my last post. Maybe someone is in similar situation in the future and can take something useful out of this. I think on October 26 last year i decided i need to go back to my home country as the situation was more and more getting out of control. Insomnia was so hard on my mind that i developed severe anxiety. On my way to the airport i a had massive panic attack and taxi took me to the nearest hospital and i missed my flight. In the taxi it was the scariest experience i have ever had, i was 100% sure i was going to die as i was nearly passing out and in bumper to bumper traffic 15min away from the hospital. They made several tests again in the hospital and all was good, i also spent the night there and got about 6h of sleep, they put a drip to my vein, some muscle relaxer. They also diagnosed me with panic disorder. Next day i checked out of the hospital (shout out to the great staff of Rama 9 hospital), and took a new shot at going home. All was well and 2 hours into the flight started to feel sick. I talked with the flight attendtant and she gave me oxygen and checked bloodpressure. It was like 160/120, pulse 130. The next around 7 hours i spent under oxygen mask because my heart was just pounding so fast and i couldnt breathe good. Long story short i finally got home and after several weeks of trying to find a good doctor i got the help i needed. Of course i tested several different medicines but nothing helped for sleep like diazepam, because my insomnia was connected with anxiety, normal sleeping pills did nothing much for me. I also quit smoking (now 6 months cigarette free), havent drinked almost no alcohol (3 glasses of chmapagne in 6 months). At this point i am sleeping with no medicine and get about 6 hours a day, also still take some AD very small dose. But i am feeling better than ever and i the upcoming months looking to come back to Thailand. Felt this chaos what happened made me stronger and i educated a lot myself about anxiety, panic disorder etc.

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