Depends on yourself
If you love her and feels she loves you, then try to talk about with her what you told us here (thank you to open yourself).
It's obvious that you are under pressure and it seems to me being on the road to become a toxic relationship.
However, you can't find an exit and are not able to change your situation by yourself.
So, as a way to a better understanding for each other, you might see a psychologist, specialized for couples.
Obstacle, your wife has to agree. So try to convince her about the advantages to have this opportunity in order to live together in a peaceful and harmonious relation.
If she doesn't, Walk out.