Cameroni

Thanks, things have improved a bit, she does hug at night for a bit. It's just I can see her heart is not in it, so to speak. I'll try to teach her what I like in this regard.

Yah, that's what she did as well. But it's hard to work and study at the same time. She could do it I guess. I don't really want my gf to work though. Even studying. Even older women come up to her to tell her what a great body she has. I trust her, but out on her own at Uni or work, it'd be temptations non-stop with guys hitting on her 24/7.

Do you still have the contact details of the lady from Korat?

Why would you not plan long term?

Sure Adobo can be okay, but Pancit Bihoen is almost always overcooked. Beef Salpicao is also okay, but it is all fairly basic cooking, throw some ingredients in a pot and hope for the best. The much vaunted Lechon is okay but not even close to the Bali version, or indeed the Spanish version which it copies. Filipino Leche Flan is also worse. Philippines is one of the few countries where every derivative dish is actually WORSE than the original. The spaghetti tomato sauce with hot dogs (!) is a case in point. Have you ever tried this over sugared abomination? It is by far the worst dish in any cuisine in South East Asia. And they eat it for Christmas. Sure, the deep fried fish, sisig, it's okay, you can eat it. But you would not compare it to Beef Rendang, Masaman Curry, Laksa, Pho or Sulawesi fish. I mean Filipino cuisine can be eatable, but man is it basic. Definitely the worst in SE Asia.

So you love Pinoy Spaghetti in Tomato Sauce? Which they eat for CHRISTMAS! Tell me, I'd love to know.

Pinoy food is the worst of all the South East Asian cuisines. Mostly because Pinoys are so poor they do not have good ingredients. Indonesian, Vietnamese, Thai, Malay even, all much better.

I found Filipinas to be more domesticated, more affinity for cleaning up, doing laundry. Maybe because the families are bigger due to greater poverty, I don't know. Filipinas are wittier. Thais are more honest. You're much more likely to be scammed and lied to by Filipinos than Thais. Though Thai girls can steal too of course. Filipinas have a greater sexual appetite, looking at the birth rate bears it out. Thais are more concerned about public appearance than Filipinas. Filipinas drink more. Thais cook better, basically because Filipino food is not very good.

Thanks it's moderate jealousy, just jokingly checking my phone and saying I have a message, no Fatal Attraction stuff. That's why I wanted to get some views, because like you say when you're in the rel it can cloud your judgement or perspective. She also seems to love her space. Affection is taught to some degree by the parents I think and sadly she grew up without her father since he died, and the mother was absent a lot, so there is a bit of a deficit there. If she is "into me" or not, well she does come over the bed and initiates certain things, she enjoys sex, but in terms of being cuddly and holding hands, kissing, she is just not. I think some people are, some are not, some are a bit, it's a bit of spectrum. I'm super physical, and that was bothering me for a bit. No, I have not seen the degree, since she did not finish it, but she did talk about her sister getting proof of her attending the university at one point, so I don't think it's bs. She had problems paying the 20000 for the course, because nobody was helping her, she had to work to pay for it. I think that was very hard for her. I appreciate the advice, I will not go overboard, like I did before. I had a very bad experience with a Filipina and that cured me of the love fantasy thing.

Well, I slow down the car when I see an older man with a toddler. But apart from that I just thought not working in the factory and having a relaxed life is something she appreciates. But she had plenty of chances to fly back, I gave her a ticket. She chose to stay. She is honest and reliable, to the extent a woman can be. Yes, she has shown these last 7 months that money is nothing to her. I will resume giving her a bit of spending money next month I think.

Yah, that is exactly it, I have a table in the living room and she sits at the table, watching youtube videos or playing games on her phone. It seemed so odd to me. I will see if getting a bigger more comfortable couch helps.

I am not giving her an allowance anymore, not weekly and not monthly and not hourly. Of course I pay for her food, clothes and the house I live in, which I'd have to pay anyway. The age difference is 29 years. I am a bit baffled why she stays.

We go out, we just go out together. She does not mind going out with me and does not demand to go anywhere by herself.

Could not agree more. This woman certainly is not a money grabbing person. She has been with me for 11 months and she just does not ask for money. At most 300 Baht for her phone bill, but this girl is not about money and she is certainly not with me because of money. Because I don't give her any anymore.

Stop talking nonsense please, she is not seeing other guys for sex, she lives in the same house with me 24/7. Unless she transports by means unknown to current science and has a body double that lives in my house your theory is total nonsense.

Well she lives with me and does not leave the house, so she is not getting money from anyone else.

I am a kind of pragmatic guy when it comes to relationships. I am over this "love" nonsense, which I find is just a fantasy of the soul. Yes, I've suffered from that a few times, and it seemed real then, but you soon wake up from this fantasy. So yes, now I look at it more as a pragmatic matter. I am just over 50 now and one really has to be a bit more pragmatic now. I am willing to accept some things I may not have accepted when I was 28.

I thought my odds were good because she only had 2 guys. But clearly, in the end, the odds will get you. A few blisters every 8 weeks is no big deal, but I'm really not thrilled about it. The risk is real, don't do what I did. The thing is, these blisters put you out of action for 8 days or so, so the enjoyment of sex is impaired. But if you wear condoms the enjoyment of sex is impaired. I know, it could have been worse, but I'll just have to live with it.

Yes, it's just what incentive would she have to do so, only to please me really. Or, as you said earlier, if she starts to really enjoy cuddling herself. She's had only 2 guys, and overall fairly positive experiences, from what I can tell. Her not wanting cuddling and such is more due to her being raised by an older grandmother, her father dying and her mother being absent. This is what caused it, I'm quite sure. Like OneFarang said earlier I am just wondering if this will be a major problem if she does not change it, or not.

I was thinking exactly the same. I'll get her to finish her law degree and get her out the house to take a job. This constant playing games on the phone is unhealthy and not good for her. Though she was a law student her education needs serious boosting.

Well, the situation has changed, I did raise it with her, that her lack of physical intimacy is not normal and she does make an effort to hug in bed now. I am just wondering if she will change in this regard, or if this will really bother me long term. After all the sex is good. Yes, the photo social media thing is a major annoyance, she is always on the phone playing games, but I don't think I can change that, and whilst annoying it's not a dealbreaker for me.

Only at the very beginning, but even then she never asked for it. I just gave it to her. But I have not done so for 7 months and she still never asks. I said in the thread header that she never asks, and that is the case. No lies at all.

She had a job when I met her, she worked in a factory. I told her come to live with me, and she did. She also studied law at university. I'm guessing she met him on a dating site, but then shacked up with him on an island. It quickly became apparent he was sex obsessed and after he insisted she do a threesome she broke up with him.

Yes, an older woman told me that. I don't think she meant to say she was a prostitute, she was just genuinely wowed by her body, which most people are. She said it first to her, then I asked what she said and she told me. But some of my friends think she is a prostitute because she is just so uber hot and dresses sexy, but she is not and never was.

It's not quite as bad with her, she actually enjoys sex a lot, never grits her teeth but has good orgasms. She's just not into the physical intimacy thing apart from sex. I'm just wondering if I cant get her used to that, or if she'll be like this all her life. She does cuddle me, but it's totally obvious she's not into that.