MangoKorat

She won't change - don't even try fixing it.  Get out and start dating again - but this time keep it to dating.  After more than one failed marriage I decided to stay single - I'm not prepared to waste any more of my life on these money driven creatures.

Once I got used to it I'm having a ball. Do what I want and date as many as possible - currently 3. One @ 22 (I kid you not), one @ 34 and one @35 - I'm 60+.  I ride my bike when I want, go to the bar when I want, play my music as loud as I want and boy is it cheaper being single.  At least one, if not all of the girls I'm currently seeing will turn out to be a money grabber - its happened several times but as soon as it does, they're history. 

I try and weed them out before meeting but the gold diggers rarely say that's what they are ????. You sort of get a 'knack' for knowing which are but that's not 100% reliable and some slip through - probably because there are so many.

Enjoy the good times and get out before the bad times arrive. Play them at their own game.

Dowload Tinder and join Thai Friendly - you'll soon be sorted.  Be aware though that on both of those platforms there's more than a few hookers working - especially the latter.

Its a problem for me too as I have no mobile signal at my UK home so I rely on DTAC Call to receive one time passwords when conducting transactions on my Kasikorn online banking.

However, as long as you have a Thai SIM card with roaming turned on and have a mobile signal then you should receive SMS messages. Of course depenedent on whether or not DTAC have a partner agreement with a network provider in your country.  Make sure yout SIM is topped up though.

I know nothing about DTAC One Call sorry but to be honest I'm sick of DTAC doing this.  I used to be able to use straight forward Wifi Calling with my old Thai SIM card, then I unfortunately ran out of credit and failed to top up again before they turned off their service.  When I realised what had happened I called DTAC and they resurrected my SIM card - but the Wifi calling no longer worked.  I called again and they told me that I needed a new SIM.  Next trip to Thailand I obtained a new SIM but Wifi Calling still didn't work. Called them again and was told that Wifi Calling was no longer supported but I could download DTAC Call. I did that and all was fine again.

However, I recently changed phones and found that DTAC Call was no longer available to download on Google Play.  Once again I called DTAC and they told me they were no longer accepting new customers for DTAC Call but the service was still working for existing customers - I protested that I was not a new customer, I'd simply changed phones. No joy.

I found a workaround by dowloading an old version on an APK website. That was 2 months ago and I thought all would be OK until, like you I received the badly worded SMS message today that advised me that DTAC Call was ending in October.

I've looked around and it seems that AIS might have a similar service to DTAC Call but I don't know if its actually available - bizarrely Thai companies don't seem to take down websites, even when a service or item is no longer available.  Two months ago DTAC Call was still on a website - it was only when I tried the dowload link to Google Play that I found it wasn't available.

As I say, I have no moble service at my UK home so I receive Thai text messages via DTAC Call when I'm at home and through the mobile network when I'm in a signal area. Oddly, today I received the SMS telling me DTAC Call was ending AT MY HOME via either the mobile network or via Wifi Calling.  Unless somehow, a rogue mobile signal suddenly became available - extremely doubtful, that message arrived via Wifi Calling which I wasn't aware was working.  I know it was one or the other because DTAC Call messages arrive in the DTAC Call App only whereas mobile network/Wifi call messages enter my normal messaging folder. They also make different sounds.

I'm due back in Thailand in a couple of weeks so I'll check out the AIS service and if necessary change to them.

17 hours ago, webfact said:

with images of two fans to illustrate how his room is being cooled.

???????

These reports must be written by Rowan Atkinson.

???????? with images of 2 smileys to illustrate how I think that statement is funny.

Have the Thai police been training in Iran?

This country is totally Bizarre...................................still keeps on amazing me after 21 years.

33 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

Then why mention her in the first place?

To try and avoid people telling me to see a lawyer before thinking about starting a Thai Ltd Co.

1 hour ago, ozthai23 said:

But how would it be possible? He would be pissed off he sees her less than me? I see her 75% of her free time roughly?

You need to learn about Thai males - most won't give a damn as long as they are getting what they want.

Think about this:  Go to Nana Plaza or Soi Cowboy shortly after closing time. Watch the girls come out, get on to the back of a little Honda and disappear into the night.  Who do you think the young Thai guy is that's riding that Honda? Could you sit at home or go out drinking with your mates - all the time knowing how what your Thai girlfriend is doing and how she earns her living?  They don't give a damn mate. In their case - its as long as she brings home the bacon so they don't have to work.

If the guy's an older 'benefactor' type, as long as she looks good and is there when he calls, he doesn't give a damn either.

I used to think I'd seen/heard it all - I know now that I never will.

25 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

What you say is true, but not with all Thai women. Hard to tell who's what but again, that takes time. Many reasons a woman acts erratic, and not all involve infidelity. One thing many Thai women only get after awhile, along with all other women. When you cheat on someone that is good to you, when you lose that good man, you end up with someone who cheated with you, and surely will do it to you as son as he gets the chance. they think they are slick, all the while too stupid to understand that locals will not stay but a fraction of the time, and if they have children, that translates to never. Hit and run, a lot because the court system here is beyond broken, as far as making sure men here that have children will support them. The women end up alone, used and confused. They might have a house to live in, and a car, but they'll be the talk of the town, their "friends" talking behind their back and looking down on them, miserable because they ruined the only good thing they'll ever have. Gold doesn't make a warm bed partner.

Not all but a lot more than most people think. Currently I know of 3 my gf just says she knows many and I was caught out by an ex wife's 'cousin'.

Most of what you refer to is regarding the morality and consequences of cheating and I'd agree with you that most will no doubt end up on the losing side.  However, that doesn't stop it happening - for every girl that gets burned by it or gets too old - there's another 2 newcomers waiting in the wings.

Every guy I've spoken to that is still married, says his wife would never do it and in any case, she 'never goes out'.  They are a lot more crafty than they are given credit for - I know of one girl that sees her 'benefactor' for an hour to an hour and a half every evening after work, she just lies to her boyfriend about what time she finishes work.

These days I just see them for what they are and don't look for anything serious - much safer and a lot more fun.

In the last 8 years, I've become a lot more involved in Thai society when I'm in the country. Most of my friends are Thai and you're more likely to find me in a Thai style bar than the one 'farang bar' in my area. The more I hear, the more I'm amazed at what goes on.

The OP, much like most of us, will

35 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

PS;  I would have asked that question at first!

You might.  I knew that I could get a visa but as the time gets closer and I read more stories about the RTE London being.....tw&^s as usual. I asked that question here.

I've never paid anyone to do my visa applications and I don't intend to start.

19 minutes ago, ozthai23 said:

But how would it be possible? He would be pissed off he sees her less than me? I see her 75% of her free time roughly?

I could write you a book buddy - when you've been around a few years, heard the stories about Thai women with foreign husbands and Thai boyfriends.  The ones who's Thai boyfriend moves out for a while when the husband arrives in the country etc. etc. - then you'll know what I mean.

Beware especially of the ones that introduce you to their 'brother' or 'cousin'.

A guy in my local bar thinks his wife is totally different and would swear blind that his wife isn't at it. I know different, I've seen her in action on one of her 'shopping trips'.

Have you heard of 'Love Hotels' yet?  When you do, consider why they are necessary.

Its the national sport mate.

I'll throw another bone in your bowl for you to chew on.  Have you considered that she might have a little 'part time job'?  Quite a lot of students, office girls etc. earn a 'little extra' either from the odd customer or two or they may have an older Thai 'care giver'. With the latter, she'll behave erraticly, suddenly have to change plans etc. - the guy might not call her for a couple of weeks but when he does, she has to comply.

13 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

Then I suggest you ask her if it is her Forte!

 

PS;  I would have asked that question at first!

Look, I didn't ask for comments about my lawyer - I asked about a visa conversion!

My lawyer has done some excellent work for me and I'd trust her with anything - this girl is about to become a judge if you want to know how good she is.

I guess I could have asked her about the visa but it literally took a few minutes to get a reply here.

What's your problem?

And by the way, like the other poster, I took your remarks as smart arsed - and still do, your use of capitals on Thai Business portrayed sarcasm - as if you were asserting I was trying to appear clever because I said I had a Thai lawyer.  I am still of that opinion but also very sure that you will now deny it.

I'll make just one suggestion - when someone asks a question, please try to just answer that question, I wasn't inviting comments about my lawyer.

21 minutes ago, BritTim said:

This seems sketchy. A lawyer setting up a business for a foreigner should know how to get a work permit without the foreigner needing to research and acquire the necessary visa (a critical and integral part of the process). The lawyer cannot provide the work permit until you have a qualifying visa and the business meets the other requirements (such as four Thai employees in most cases).

Not sketchy at all, visa applications are not her forte as far as I know and she does know how to get a WP. She mainly handles criminal and divorce cases etc. but has company set up experience including for foreigners + work permits. From our last conversation where she'd set up a company for a foreigner, it was for someone already living in Thailand. She's handled a few things for me and she's been very good. I'm fairly sure that if I asked her to do the visa application for me, she would but.......I'm not in Thailand at the moment and it only took a few minutes to get the answers I needed here.

I'm not sure that many Thai lawyers that are not handling visa applications every day, will even know that its possible to convert a visa.

I am aware of the requirements for the business - just never applied for a B visa but from past experience in other visa matters at RTE London - they are a real PITA so I want to avoid them.

6 hours ago, ozthai23 said:

Anyway, sorry about the long post but I like the girl, I just don't understand some of the behavior

And you never will.

Sorry if this has already been said but I don't have time to read all the other replies.

Her behaviour in terms of claiming she can't stay because of lessons.........that's easy - she has a Thai boyfriend, they all do.

7 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

Why not ask your Thai Business lawyer for the best entry solution in your specific situation?

Because she has no experience of visa issues.

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I have prescription glasses and I used to wear them all the time.

Now I wear them sometimes.

Today I was at the immigration, and they wanted some pictures. I gave them new pictures - with me wearing glasses.

They compared it to my passport - no glasses.

They didn't like that, and they send me to take a new picture without glasses.

No problem, it was done in 10 minutes, because there was a "photographer" in the building.

But I wonder if that problem could also happen in an embassy or some other official place.

Do you have experience with that?

Maybe for the future I should carry two sets of pictures. One with and one without glasses. 

Sounds like the scam that used to go on when wives/girlfriends were applying for a UK visa.  A guy used to walk up and down the queue asking to check people's photos.  He would tell almost everyone that their photos were not good enough or didn't comply with the requirements - but never mind, there's a photo shop downstairs that will do it for you immediately. Oh how fortunate ????.

My gf at the time came outside saying she needed to get new photos because hers had the wrong background colour.  I told her to go get back in the queue - there was nothing wrong with her photos - she did and her application was accepted.

Some time over the next few months I will be setting up a fully trading Thai Ltd Co. My lawyer will handle that side and obtain a work permit for me but, can I enter initially on a 30 day exempt and apply for the Non B in country? I absolutely hate dealing with the Thai Embassy in London and just know they will give me a hard time applying for a Non B be there. If it can't be done from an exempt entry, how about from a retirement visa or extension?

I am no longer married and never worked in Thailand when I was but my mate is and runs a business with a work permit.  He's on a Non O based on marriage.  I note that a Non O based on marriage doesn't state 'employment prohibited' as a tourist visa does. So a married guy doesn't need a Non B?

20 hours ago, DrJack54 said:

Bit off topic ...

Any guys married to Thai national and want to enter visa exempt 30 day stamp and wish to maximize stay....do it as a 30+ 30extension + 60 extension to visit wife.

In that order. 

 

Outlined here in short thread with ubonjoe post 

https://aseannow.com/topic/1276780-60-day-extension-to-visit-spouse-and-family/

Not arguing with you but that would conflict with my experience a few years back. I was a regular visitor and for a few years did so using a 12 month multi Non O based on marriage.  However, I only stayed for 2 weeks each trip and thought "why am I paying for a visa every year when I only stay 2 weeks.  When my visa ended I started entering on 30 day exempts.

My trips were usually every 8 weeks.  After a few trips the I.O. looked through my passport and asked me why I had not renewed my visa and was I still married. I explained that I only stayed 2 weeks and didn't need then 90 days per visit that the MENO gave me.  I was told in no uncertain terms that visa exempts are for tourists - as my trip was to visit my wife, I was not classed as a tourist and I should get a visa or be denied entry next time.

15 hours ago, BritTim said:

Financials are now required at HCMC. The only consulate providing multiple entry Non O without financials now is Savannakhet

Has that been reported in a post? If so, what amount are the requiring?

28 minutes ago, GroveHillWanderer said:

My point is the same as it has been since the first time I posted on this topic - that children in Singapore are not banned from speaking other languages in school, as you claimed.

It is not what I claimed, it was what I read in a news article a couple of years back. I don't make things up.

Obviously I can't find that article now but I seem to remember the Singaporean Government made the move as part of their longer term efforts to eradicate Singlish - a hybrid local language based on English with elements of the other 3 main 'mother tongues' mixed in and lacking in grammar. 

Its not an unheard of concept - back in around 2006 - 2007, my then girlfriend was studying for a degree in Hospitality and Tourism in Bangkok.  The entire course was taught in English and students were fined or sent home if they were heard speaking Thai.

Consequently she spoke the best English I've heard from a Thai - so did all of her Uni friends that I met.

8 hours ago, GroveHillWanderer said:

Even if true, that still wouldn't make it the official language.

 

However I don't think it's true, given that Singapore's Ministry of Education official website says that it's compulsory for all students to learn a "mother tongue" language as part of their school studies.  

 

That would be a little tricky to manage, if they're not allowed to speak any of those languages on school property. 

 

Learning a Mother Tongue Language in school

 

And as the article goes on to say:

 

 

Many years ago, Singapore recognised that to succeed in international business, you need to speak the international language - English in order to be able to communicate. That has been one of the reasons for its success.

There are of course, many languages spoken on the island as the population is made up of people with diverse national heritage.

However, a couple of years ago the Singapore government was concerned that there were a significant number of childern who were not proficient in English. That was also creating problems over which language lessons should be taught in.  The report I read stated that it had become compulsory to speak English whilst at school but recognised that kids might well speak a different language at home.

They do of course, learn other languages as part of their education and I believe many schools require them to learn the 'mother tongue'.

Nevertheless, just about all the modern signage in Singapore is English first with some signs in Mandarin as a secondary - which begs the question, why would Thaksin complain about the language on airport signage being in English?

7 hours ago, billd766 said:

And when they are not on school property which IIRC does not cover the whole city state of Singapore, and when they are at home, what language do they speak?

 

What language do adults speak as they are not school children, and not on school property?

I'm sure they speak a variety of languages - that doesn't take away from the fact that Singapore has decided that its de facto official language is English. What's your point?

7 hours ago, billd766 said:

How can something that never existed be prevented?

You know exactly what I mean. What is the main purpose of the senate?

1 hour ago, Bezdomny said:

Deal with generals was made before he entered Thailand. You keep MF party out of the government, we keep you out of the jail.

 

A deal for sure but not that one. The sole reason for the existence of The Senate is to prevent anyone who is not a crony of the Generals from taking power. Move Forward were actually prevented from being in governance before the party existed - it was never going to happen.

1 hour ago, Vibora99 said:

Just raising this is a waste of time for the forum. I would recommend you go to a psychologist in order to get rid of the victim syndrome. Raising stupidities when the solution is to buy a ticket and fly and when you arrive they will give you a stay for 30 days, and then you renew it for another 30 days, and then you fly to Vietnam and return and they give you another 30 days… Stop wasting money time for others...

Extensions to visit a wife are 60 days.

On 8/22/2023 at 10:33 AM, ewelve said:

I have just applied for a tourist visa with Thai Embassy London, they asked for proof i had 60,000 baht or more for my stay. 

Should have said before, until you get this sorted, go to Ho Chi Minh and get a 12 month Multi Entry Non O there - no financials required but even if that changes, I seem to remember its £5000. Visa cost is a bit of a rip off at $200 US.

Alternatively, I'm told Savannakhet are now offering the same visa again - also no financials required and the visa fee is 5000 baht.

Provided you have the supporting documents you should not have any problems with the name differences there.  You will though, need a hand written letter from your wife, asking that you be allowed to visit her so could they please grant the visa.......bla bla bla.

3 minutes ago, billd766 said:

You would also think of doing a quick search.

 

You would be partly correct.

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_Singapore

 

The constitution also states that the four commonly used languages of Singapore are English, Chinese, Malay and Tamil, with the lingua franca between Singaporeans of different races being English, the de facto main language. Singaporeans often speak Singlish among themselves. Singlish is an informal, colloquial form of English that is used in Singapore. Linguists define it as Singapore Colloquial English.[1]

 

In 2009, more than 20 languages were identified as being spoken in Singapore, reflecting a rich linguistic diversity in the city.[3][4] Singapore's historical roots as a trading settlement gave rise to an influx of foreign traders,[5] and their languages were slowly embedded in Singapore's modern day linguistic repertoire.

Since about 2 years ago, school children have been banned from speaking anything other than English whilst on school property.