dannyh2000uk

to prove i am not a troll

Just to stop us going off into that territory here is a post I made in 2007 at the time of accident.

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/index.php?sh...p;#entry1309996

One point to knock the OP on though is that with 4 kids and a wife already and presumably some ongoing fina ncial committments, why on earth did he not have insurance ?

I did Travel insurance and Life insurance, but when My wife somehow got me taken off our joint account the debits stopped going out.

The life insurance I had been paying since my first kid was born 1992

Taking the Op's comments as legitimate then there are a few issues and some things we need to know.

What was the girl doing in Pattaya ? he says they met in a disco ? Now the higher chance is that she was on the game as against being down from Bangkok for the weekend. If so, there would be reasons for this and usually financial. However the underlying reason would probably remain as she could have gone to sell clothes rather than work in Pattaya. If she was not working then why do we not hear about her job prior to the pregnancy or at any time until lat eon in the story ?

she was in Pattaya trying to work in a hair salon, On a subsequent visit back to Pattaya, I could tell she only vaguely knew her friends, and everything I witnessed lead me to believe she had only been there a

short time when I first met her.

We must not forget, although pattaya is boom boom city, a lot of girls just go there because it seems exciting, X hates it now.

Before that she had done the usual, rice picking, reebok making, clothes selling route.

Now she seems to be working for some Thai/Spanish mob who move around from Trat to Bangkok to Rayong Buying clothes and shipping to europe.

"Danny say aloi and chak wow" charming.

Yes very unfortunate, but in the video I was trying to paint the path from "self-distruction" to redemption, with the limited shots I had ( the camera was out for many months).

At the early phase I was Just trying to lose myself in hedonism, byt the end I seemed to have a chance of a new family.

You must all know I loved being dad in UK, I saw it as my role till I died.

No matter what any of you think, once you leave the family home although you are still dad, it is never, ever the same.

I just reacted badly in retrospect.

A cooler customer would have not left the home and coldly fought for his own needs, while telling the wife to do one, as it was she, that wanted change.

What a gapping wound you got there on the leg Dan !

I can imagine that must have been a very terrible experience ,

are you ever able to walk normally again .....

Well the central perennial nerve was severed so we have to wait 2 years from the accident to see if it grows back ( my right foot won't listen to me).

the breaks have healed except the knee, here in the uk the Docs say " we would have pinned the leg, etc, etc".

But I know the thai docs did an absolutely brilliant job of saving the leg that Koh kong cambodia wanted to cut off.

So thank you Kings Hospital Trat, fantastic.

Contrarian? Yeah, maybe.

How old is your new daughter Danny? By your own account, she couldnt have been born any earlier than May 2007 which makes her no older than 8 months now? Is that her in both those pics in your blog?

Cute girl. They grow big really quickly in Isaan, don't they?

In the blog that is a photo sent to me, she is 9 months now.

and I tell you at one month she was smiling, that is too fast.

she is a little girl who shocked the docs with her speed.

From what you have written it seems that it is your girlfriend who could be asking if she is not the one who has been hard done by.

Effectively she has been pumped and dumped. An uneducated, single mother in a third world country. What on earth is her future? Imagine if it were her asking about you on a forum. How good would you look?

A very good point, you are right thank you

Dan

Anyway, Danny, what are you going to do about the dosh?? Forty is the new Thirty, plenty of time to start again.

Khun Andy

Thanks K a, I actually had an interview today for a decent job in news casting here in London, If they take me on, reasonable money, then Financially everyone can benefit.

But this isn't all about money it is about being taken for a chump, again.

Oh yeah? A job interview for a broadcast company on a Saturday?

Jobs in Bkk and Texas? Tsunami survivors?

Is your surname Mitty, by any chance?

LoL, It would look like that but It is all true, I wish is wasn't.

Have a look at my Blog : http://www.auralrage.com/Blog.htm

The more I read on here, the more respect I have for the families that raise happy well cared for kids.

I agree, you should see my uk kids they charm everyone. Beautiful balanced kids

I don't know if that was because I was there for 80% of their lives, or because I am not now.

Sure if I was better off it would be simple, Big House and everybody living together ( except maybe ex wife).

But life is what it is, easy for me to get daughter to uk, not so easy to get thai mum.

I was a good dad ( everybody said it), my kids still love me, it is just fate that your wife falls out of love, not a lot you can do.

But Believe me, when it happens to you, you will be stunned, I was.

18 years <deleted>.

For the naive here, be aware, life has many curve balls.

dan

Dan, you are only in your forties and obviously have some skills,so you have time to sort your life out , your priority is to get yourself well ,get employment and start life anew.

Forget about the 100k at this point in time, get a job and provide a bit of cash to ensure the welfare of your new baby.

Forget about tripping back to Los in the short term,to help X and the little one you need employment, cash and a roof over your head.

You are not the first to go through this experience and you wont be the last , we all survived it and so can you.

It happened to me at 60 years of age under a lot nastier circumstances after a 36 year marriage. I went from a cash millionaire to having to borrow to rent a room in just 48 hours,and I am still sane and happy here in Los.

Thanks man that is what I need advice backed up with experience, some good points

3) Log off thaivisa because if my timing is right it's currently 4.30am in the UK and he's still reading this.

Your point Is?

quote name='geriatrickid' post='1810517' date='2008-02-10 12:59:00']You say your other 4 kids still love you - do they know about your mia noi and baby in Thailand? Maybe the love will go out the window then!

Yes they are excited to meet their sister.

But In terms of mia noi, at the moment they have to contend with a different guy at our house every week, at least I have only stayed with one person.

And I have never told them " Mummy and daddy split up because mummy wanted someone new".

I just left to sort my life out and then Bam, pregnancy and accident.

Yes I know not responsable, but believe me if you were where I was, you were not thinking.

It is not always the guys who are dogs!!!!

Anyway, Danny, what are you going to do about the dosh?? Forty is the new Thirty, plenty of time to start again.

Khun Andy

Thanks K a, I actually had an interview today for a decent job in news casting here in London, If they take me on, reasonable money, then Financially everyone can benefit.

But this isn't all about money it is about being taken for a chump, again.

The more I read on here, the more respect I have for the families that raise happy well cared for kids.

I agree, you should see my uk kids they charm everyone. Beautiful balanced kids

I don't know if that was because I was there for 80% of their lives, or because I am not now.

Sure if I was better off it would be simple, Big House and everybody living together ( except maybe ex wife).

But life is what it is, easy for me to get daughter to uk, not so easy to get thai mum.

I was a good dad ( everybody said it), my kids still love me, it is just fate that your wife falls out of love, not a lot you can do.

But Believe me, when it happens to you, you will be stunned, I was.

18 years <deleted>.

For the naive here, be aware, life has many curve balls.

dan

It strikes me as amazing how entrenched is the thought that a man is responsible for all the financial situations that might arise in a modern family.

I grew up in a house where I never saw my mum as she worked, but yet now I am propelled back to the 1950's !!!-lol

I will just add I came on this forum because all my so called "forward thinking london friends" just say the same thing " shes Thai she must be on the scam"- I hoped you guys would have a little info- correction some of you have given very good info.

But attacking me is pointless, I do that myself already.

I know I am in a bad situation, but what I want to focus on , is this immediate problem, the rest can be sorted later.

Dan

Yes she is born Now and that is a blessing she is a lovely bright half thai /farange a beautiful mix to my eyes.

Thanks guys, My english kids live in a beautiful surrey village in a house all paid for.

I grew up in a london slum, I think I have done alright by them.

My english wife has funds to support her ( she never worked) for the next ten years, so I guess she is ok too.

I never wanted to leave my uk kids, that is the way the cards dropped.

Also I'll think you'll find in Thailand Abortion is illegal, so what to do, risk the back street????

Thanks for everyone with answers pertaining to the question

I'm Rushing off so this will be a fast reply, a more detailed one later.

1. In 2004 My wife and I and 4 kids were in LOS on Beach when Tsunami came, we ran.

2. On arriving back uk 2005, My wife and I argued a lot.

3. By Nov 2005 she was having an affair which she wouldn't end.

4. I had to leave our house, a house where I expected to live forever.

5.At that house in an Out building I had built my studio to work from.

6. During 2006 it became apparent that wife wanted me nowhere near my House/work.

7. 2006 spent working BKK, and Texas, sleeping various places when back in UK.

8.2006 Aug sick of wife carrying on with ex friend, decide to go back to LOS to have one last good birthday ( aug).

9. X gets pregnant- 2 peoples error.

10. I decide to stay and help as uk nothing going on, can't work from studio etc.

11.Wife in England contacts our joint account takes my name off it ( don't know how), my ATM card gets swallowed in BKK,

my Debits to all my credit cards cease.

12.In Asia surviving on whatever, then accident.

13. Back to uk, no Car, House, atm cards, credit Cards, bank account, Job.= Bad way at 40.

14.Found solicitor battling for access to my studio, in order to sell or re-set up.

Tune= I'll find out later I forget the name, but on Montage music does change for those who hate cuban

fleeced by whom?

I guess having read so many " I got done by my thai girl" stories Paranoia could be setting in.

It is always possible.

Under-5 mortality rate (per 1000 children per year)

Thailand 15.1

UK 6.0

Source: United Nations Population Division

For children living in poverty in Thailand in Isaan the rate will certainly be considerably higher. Get your priorities dam_n straight. The mother-in-law's debt is way down on the list. Remove your child from this utterly unnecessary disadvantageous position. This is clearly your top priority.

well I agree, BUT, at the moment I am limping around London, sleeping on friends couches I have nowhere to bring my Daughter.

While my wife lives in comfort in surrey with our children, I am struggling, my ex cancelled all my bank accounts credit cards once she knew I was with X, and while I was over there( I have no idea how!!!!) so me and X bumbled around asia with no cards.

And at the Mo If I get any cash, I want to fly back and see my Daughters 1st birthday, not get fleeced.

"Now I discover her mum is Owing 100,000 Baht..."

It's her mom's debt. It does not concern you, and you should not get involved. If "secretly ironing your shirts" is sufficient reason to give her 100,000 THB, I'll iron all of your clothes for the same amount of money.

I was under the impression family looked after eachother there, and having a common link I.e the

daughter, made me somehow linked.

I don't have a problem if it is genuine.

But you can imagine after losing 98% in Uk after what took a life building, it is more the desire not to be

an idiot again.

To assure the guy who thought it was a hoax, have a little look at the montage I put up a couple of months ago.

Back in London ( left 11 years ago, I now know why), a year more of dodgy leg, staying at friends.

you tend to wile away the time doing montages, so forgive me, too much time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=le9Bu6db7rY

except jonniebkk-lol

Thanks Guys that was what I was looking for .

cheers.

I'll update as and when

Ok here is a story of which many of you will probably say " we got another one", but all opinions are being sort here so no problem.

My marriage fell about after 18 years in 2005 to an English girl who kept the house etc, etc.In Apr 2006 I had to freelance out in Los for 2 months and met girl X.

I met her in Pattaya ( I know, I know!).in a disco

By observing her over many days, I came to the conclusion she had a good heart and was pretty honest.

When I returned to Uk in June we kept in touch ( her always phoning me)

In Aug 2006 while homeless and skint and feeling down, I travelled back over to Los.

We hooked up and travelled around Thailand

We did the usual trip to Issan etc, etc

Her family were lovely too

Somewhere during this trip, she got pregnant.

I was due to return to UK after 5 weeks but thought I have to stay and not leave this girl to cope with this alone .

Because Of the visa situation in Thailand I had to keep leaving so, we got her a passport and she came too

I took her for two months to Cambodia .then back to Thailand, etc, etc.

On one of these trips we popped into Pattaya she hated it I loved it, but we moved on.

Just before the baby was born on a that last trip to Cambodia We were involved in a bad crash.

Luckily she was Fine I was a mess ( smashed leg, shoulder etc, etc.).

We transferred to Trat Hospital where The baby was born, and I was cast up.

After 15 days and 2 ops I had to leave hospital as all money gone.

X, baby and me had to loan money and rent cheap place in trat for the next 2 months till I could move.

She said to me " I would love you even if they cut your leg off- reference to what Cambodia clinic were

advising to me, she looked like she really meant it.

In all the time there she never moaned while looking after a new baby, and an invalid day in, day out. getting food etc, etc

Because of leg cast and shoulder cast, I couldn't even help by holding our Daughter.

Anyway when we could move from Trat we had to stay with her Family in Issan as I had no cash and couldn't get on my plane yet due to leg.

All the while in Issan X was positive making the food, looking after baby etc, etc.

I explained many times that I was going back to no job, house, and a complicated divorce.

When the time finally came for me to face the UK, X cried real tears ( so did I) we had travelled 14 months solid, day and night, with me being quite poor ( for a farange), if truth be told.

When I got back I found a lovely little note written on our daughters tee-shirt, hidden in my bag.

Also I was shocked to see all my clothes secretly ironed

Anyway I have been back 4 months now, and although we spoke everyday at first, now both of being skint, we are down to emails.

X works 300 kms+ from baby who is in Issan with Gran. X is selling clothes- trat ( of all places)

Now I discover her mum is Owing 100,000 Baht ( and has done for 8 + years) to a loan person who now wants to call in the loan, i.e. House/Land etc, etc.

Now this part I believe having been there a few times and observing what goes on.

But If happens My Daughter who is parentless now becomes Homeless.

I am switching between totally believing the story, and thinking that at worst they just want the security of the home, and that the loan shark doesn't really want the house now. Which are both good enough for me as I lived there so long and have a daughter and genuinely like them all.

OR am I being carefully scammed.

One Brit in Pattaya some 12 months before said to me- without meeting her " she'll have the lot off you mate", to which I replied " too late the uk wife already has it all- and this Thai girl doesn't seem to want anything, i.e. I give her money she goes and buys me clothes etc, etc.".

He said to me " Oh she is playing the Long game, for the big score"

In order to pay that 100,000 baht at this time I would have to loan, so not something I can do Lightly-if at all-

I can't believe I am so blind after 18 years marriage, or am I just rebounding and that is blinding me

What do you guys think ?

Is this just another "sick Buffalo story"- or are there ever any honest stories?

She is 25 and mature I am in my 40's wise to some things not all.

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Thanks crossy

I have just been looking on The royal thai Embassy page for info on the Non immigrant type o visa and it these states a person must have one of these items.( I assume it means only one it is not very clear)

1. Birth certificate ? ( for my thai baby or me?)

2. Marriage certificate ( not married yet)

3. official letter from voluntary work organization.

How do you guys get these if not married in Thailand yet etc.

Or does it simply mean I need to have my Thai (wife to be), send me our babys certificate, on which i am the named Father?

all help appreciated.