96tehtarp

On the question of the helper:

I have one farang friend who's wife is completely hopeless as a mother. He works at sea on a rotation schedule. He found it necessary to hire a full time helper for his two children as his wife is not capable in any way shape or form. This is an extreme case. He pays the nanny 40k per month for his own peace of mind. That's too much and he knows it but I agree with him that it's money well spent. This was after my having met his wife.

I think the need for a helper, particularly where a close relative is not available, could be necessary in some cases. Some people's lifestyles require drivers, gardeners and a nanny and maids.

golden

(between her legs)

Fish

Treasure

This is a very sad story.

knot

Congratulations to both you and your wife for the coming of the little one!

The most helpful advice I can give you is not to panic, enjoy.

When my first one arrived I was amazed by the fact that apart from a few one time expenses there were not really any additional expenses noticed at all. Ours could not tolerate formula so we switched back to breast feeding.

Of course my wife has proved to be a very capable mother in every respect and I consider myself very lucky for that.

cud

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"how do/did you view your divorce......a failure or a blessing, at the time and now ?"

I viewed both of my divorces as goddamned blessings, both then and now, however no children were involved. Several of my friends have had divorces where children were involved and surprisingly their children have been quite resilient. It's easier for them once they understand they are not going to lose either parent and they enjoy no longer having to put up with all of the unpleasantness and passive hostility.

Once divorced the marriage has officially failed. It doesn't mean the former couple are failures or losers, that's best dealt with as an entirely separate issue.

When I need a good laugh I sometimes re-watch the film "The War of the Roses".

retentive

hemorrhoid

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rabbit

Baton

Zabar's

<probably the world's best delicatessen>

Axe

narcissistic

brats

chinatown

confession

mercy

Flood

Typhoon

Rainy

Peak

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