stephaniee

either you support all or support none. if you pick and choose you better sleep with your eyes open.

just sounds like op is a guy without. why hate those that have lots who dont have to worry what things cost.

no axe to grind here. just sounds you into a girl who needs a lot of cash. only way for her to get it is marry a farang. supporting a thai family gets old real fast.

your girl has kids too, ohh lord!

like the guy says go for the many middle class hi so girls who are at least your equal who want to marry a farang

i dont think its a coincidence that usually old dudes take on these kind of girls.

yes you can!

whats wrong with his restaurant idea

Hi Rockystdt.

When I read your post I sort of want to cringe a little, and without knowing you and your circumstances like age, occupation, asset base, experience in Thailand then any reply would be very general. Don't listen to rockys post previos, he probably failed to mention that his mate was paying because she was a bar girl and had to be there because the English BF does'nt support. The family is her life, to quote the second to last line in your post and will be the biggest problem for yourself, you will find there is little you can do apart from try to understand it and go with it. Take a look at the family, does she have five brothers and alcaholic father with a penchant for gambling? or perhaps and only sister with hard working, down to earth, open minded parents? If the former is so then I would seriously consider the relationship. The mere fact (especially in rural Thailand) that she has a Farang partner will bring about a whole new list of demands upon herself as the inherant belief amongst those in her locale that all westerners have large sums of money. She will (for her familys sake) which is extremly important) try to keep face and this will ultimatly be done by leaning against yourself financially. Some farang understand this and accomodate, some take the pressure for money from their partner and end the relationship with negative feelings. Please be aware, especially if you and your partner wish to remain in Thailand the importance of money to Thai people. You can be the nicest bloke but without money, you are only going to be friends with the dogs in the street. One answer to this issue is to bring her here to Australia, you would be surprised how much weight will be lifted from your shoulders if you do so. Also as I find with my wife that having her family so close to her meant that I quite often had little time with my wife and that time we did have together was poor quality as she was allways being the shy/ good thai girl. Here in Australia it's just us, my wife is more herself and we are very close to each other now, alot more closer than would have ever been had we stayed in Thailand. If you wish to spend more time there then perhaps explore the various visa options, ED visa is one I like, I like learning as it is and the visa itself eliminates alot of hassles, alternativly unless things have change you will be able to get 2 X back to back 90 day tourist visa's. Yes this means three visa runs but it;s better than 11. Cost $180.00AUD at your local consulate. I guess you would be a this stage contemplating some sort of option to embark on an enterprise. Again be wary, capital(lack of) will kill you, the sharks will make anything you do unenjoyable and you will be eventually doing all of this for her family.

Two things to remember: If you are in Thailand and wer'nt born there then you are a tourist and will allways technally be one. What money you commit/ spend in Thailand, will allways stay in Thailand.

I would bring her here to Australia on a three month tourist visa, see how you go.

Chok Dii,

Damo..

Thanks Damo.

Your incite and that from others is much appreciated.

I agree with what you say.

Love of course is always blind.

Unfortunately my girlfriend is far too dutiful and extensively used by her family.

Something I'm trying to teach her to overcome.

Unfortunately she's locked in to this cycle.

Lots of dynamics are involved.

Daughters are an overhead on a rice farm.

As children, they must fight for a little love and acceptance in competition with their siblings, and more so their brothers.

If not forthcoming many of these women are driven to buy love and affection from their family via a farang connection.

For a number of reasons, I don't think my girlfriend would thrive in Australia, but you and others are right.

It can allow me to maintain a reasonable income while allowing us to explore what we have.

I love her very much, but our future together seems quite slim.

you need to read the book "so you wanna marry a farm girl"

btw, how did you meet?

I doubt tourism numbers will fall significantly, if at all.

I doubt if they do, it will ever be in the sector of tourists that Thailand could really do without.

los would really be better off w/o so many backpacker types i do agree. these give los a bad name.

Surely not another bar girl scam?

not all thai girls are bar girls sir!

What protest?

Ive seem thai boys watching others thai boy over cam masturbating. It was disguting, went on for over two hours.

My rule is always be wary of a thai girl willing to spend a lot of time and effort on men 1000s of miles away. If she a country girl

i would run!

and if i can is it 1900 baht?

flight got cancelled so i might as well stay an extra days is this place. not a bad thing really

so i would be staying a total of 97 days on my tourist visa.

CAN OR CANNOT?