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Not trying to be the wet blanket but 40K per month is too little to survive on in bangkok

I think that's a whole different issue, which has already been debated on TV. Many would say that it is plenty. That's probably not an issue for this person, though, because he/she has been living in Bangkok for a year. He/she should have a good idea of what salary is livable.

That's scary! I'm glad no one got hurt. Hope you get your computer back.

OP, did you think that pizza cheese is so important that you needed to post the exact same topic on two different forums?

I have no idea about the law. I would doubt that 4 weeks notice is required (it seems like a lot), but I'm constantly surprised by some of the laws in Thailand. Hopefully someone else knows.

I agree with the other poster who suggested that the employee may not be reliable if you force him to stay. It is quite possible that he may intentionally not complete the project within the 4 week deadline. If you are somehow able to legally force him to stay, he will be angry with you. Best case scenario, he won't work as hard or as quickly as he normally would and won't finish the project, or won't provide you with a quality result. Worst case scenario, he could sabotoge the whole project and cause you even more headaches.

I like the Pizza Company's cheese.

Zero competition helps.

In New York there are thousands of pizzaria choices.

That comment surprises me, because in my little Thai mooban alone, there are at least 2-3 restaurants that sell/deliver pizza, some of which is "Italian style." Within a 5 minute drive is Pizza Hut & Pizza Company. I always thought that there was a fair amount of competition in Bangkok. Of course Bangkok is not going to compare to New York in terms of pizza choices. That would be like complaining about Thai food in New York and then saying that Bangkok has thousands of Thai food choices.

Thanks for the suggestions about Kata over Karon, I will investigate.

I had a quick look at Mom Tri's Boathouse and it seems very nice, but a little out of our budget. We were looking at places around the 3500 - 5000THB mark, but I'll investigate the places available in Kata and should find something that fits our budget.

In Karon, I was looking at Karon Sea Sands Resort & Spa which looked quite nice so hopefully I can find something similar in a similar price range in Kata.

I will also consider 1 day less in Kata and more time in Krabi.

I'm getting the feeling Phi Phi is the kind of place to spend a day trip or two, but not great to actually stay on - is that correct? Is the best option to stay in Krabi and do a few day trips from there rather than spend a few nights on Phi Phi?

If Phi Phi isn't the best to say on, would something like the below be a better option:

4 nights Kata

5 night Krabi

4 nights somewhere else (Trang or Phang nga Bay)

Yeah, it's not exactly cheap. When I just looked for April, Mom Tri's is running 4300 baht/night (plus tax). The prices on their website are way higher than you'll pay using 3rd party websites.

As for Phi Phi, I think that's a personal preference. I've been there several times, staying both on and off the island. I prefer to stay in Krabi or Phuket and take a day trip to Phi Phi, but lots of other people like to spend a few nights on Phi Phi Don.

Sorry to hear about your wife. I don't think that you need to decide right now if you ever want to marry again. I think it would depend on if you meet a woman who you love and connect with. If you do, then you can decide if you want to marry that particular woman in that particular point in time. Yes, there are pros and cons of marriage, especially at your age (no offense, but the variables are different than when you are 20), but I don't think you need to weigh those until you are sure that there is someone you actually want to possibly marry. If you make a decision about marriage right now, you could miss out on a great relationship, or alternatively be disappointed if you don't find someone you want to marry.

I'm sure you'll probably get some replies from posters trying to convince you that marriage is horrible, that you'll only get hurt and taken advantage of financially, or that marriage is like prison and there's no reason to do it anymore. Obviously, though, you had a good marriage so know that not all of that anti-marriage talk is true. Good luck!

My last trip to the States was June 2009, and I will be going home again this June. I go home about once a year. Yes, it's a long trip (24+ with flights and layovers), but it's worth it because I enjoy visiting my family. Oh, and my job pays for my flight once a year. If I had to pay for it myself, I might be going home every 2 or 3 years.

I second (ok, third) the motion for Kata Beach! What a beautiful beach! The full name of the hotel mentioned by the other poster is Mom Tri's Boathouse. I have stayed there, and it is amazing. The rooms are very nice, although not huge or spectacular. But, the hotel is the closest to the beach of any hotels on Kata Beach, and it has it's own private strip of sand right in front of the hotel. When you are ready to hit the beach, there is a beach attendant who sets up your chairs (no getting up early to get the good public chairs), serves you water and fruit all day, and watches your stuff while you swim. Mom Tri's isn't exactly cheap, but I just looked it up through Agoda and the prices in April are less than half of the high season prices. It's affordable in low season, especially for a special occasion like a honeymoon. If money isn't a problem, they also have a couple special villas with private pools that looked really nice.

Another option is Mom Tri's Villa Royale, which is obviously a sister hotel. It's down on the next beach (Kata Noi?), and the reviews I read said it was more romantic and a good honeymoon spot. I ate at the restaurant there, and the view was spectacular.

Well what do think after communicating with some of them for six months? Yes I sent them photos of me when I was 16 like many of them do.

Maybe the reason they send you pictures of 16 year olds is because they ARE 16.

I resent your insulting comments. Go and spend 15 years in Afghanistan, Pakistan, India, Thailand, Laos Japan and Mexico, and a few other countries and then get back to me. I have been coming to Thailand probably since before you were born. If all you have is prostitutes and sixteen year old on your mind. I Imagine you spend a lot of time in Pattaya. I wont entertain you any more.

I don't understand what living abroad for 15 years has to do with anything except maybe your need to show off. I never mentioned prostitutes, so I have no idea where your comment is coming from. I wasn't insulting you in the above comment, I was serious that the girls might be 16 and lie and say they are older. Thai women/girls tend to look younger than they are. The age could explain why the girls are hesitant to meet you. Did I say anything about you liking 16 year old girls? No. It seems that you're getting a little defensive, so perhaps I inadvertently hit a nerve?

edit to add, this sounds like a very American thing so let me guess you will be working at an American International School.

Yes, he must, because Americans only work at American International Schools...nowhere else.

no more to do with paranoia of giving out the name of the school for security reasons I would imagine.

He never said it was for "security reasons"....other poster used the phrase "school security." The OP just said he was not allowed to give out the name of the school after stating the housing allowance. I get where he's coming from. Many schools don't like to publicize their benefits details. The guy hasn't even accepted the job. I can understand not giving specifics before he's even an employee.

edit to add, this sounds like a very American thing so let me guess you will be working at an American International School.

Yes, he must, because Americans only work at American International Schools...nowhere else.

Well what do think after communicating with some of them for six months? Yes I sent them photos of me when I was 16 like many of them do.

Maybe the reason they send you pictures of 16 year olds is because they ARE 16.

I think that studying abroad is an amazing, life-changing opportunity, and you should definitely go for it! Just don't get so caught up in the Bangkok nightlife that you flunk your classes.

where is the mother's side of this story?

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to require the mother who is economically less affluent to pay even half of other expense, in my opinion, is less than equal justice in this case....

The mothers story is there, read the story again nakachalet - I was careful to put in the mothers background and story, guess it didn't help

Copy and pastes from the original post

… and the mother are well-educated

… the mother and her family are not rich but at least pretty well-off

… The mother worked as an assistant manager in a company until she split up with the father

… The father and the mother married traditionally but never registered their marriage - This means that the mother is unmarried

… The mother on the other hand never cared for them (the children), never went to their school and never paid anything

… The relationship was at its end with numerous quarrels

… the mother took both children and moved out in August 2009 - The mother decided to end the relationship with the father

… and stopped taking the boy to hospital - The mother stopped taking a boy with severe development problems to hospital for treatment and training

What is the misunderstanding here I think is the responsibility of the father vs the responsibility of a husband in case a relationship ends. Or in more general terms, the responsibility of a parents vs that of a spouse.

I think you're missing the other poster's point. Yes, as you just pointed out, you provided information about the mother. But that's still information passed on to you from the father. You specifically said:

Everything that I write below is what the father has told me himself or a good friend and relative of mine who works as a nanny for the father has told me.

So the "facts" that you just listed were provided by the father and your friend/relative. That doesn't mean the story reflects the mother's side of the story, or her perception of the facts. Perhaps saying that the mother and father were never married is a black & white fact, but some of your other points may be arguable by the mother, or she may have good explanations for some of her actions. As with almost any break up, there are two sides of the story. You are choosing to trust the father's version of events, which is fine, but that doesn't mean that the mother's version doesn't contain important (or even contradictory) details as well. I'm guessing that your friend pointed out the negative things that his ex did, but not the bad things that he himself might have done during the relationship or after the breakup.

Umm, maybe they just don't like you?

Umm only one had ever met me before and previous to not meeting they all had positive communication with me.

Umm.

Did you by any chance send them a photo sometime between the positive correspondences and the excuses?

Good question. I was actually thinking more that maybe they were just chatting with you for fun but didn't like you enough to actually meet. Or maybe, they're trying to work on you until they feel ready to hit you up for money.

Oh, and you do realize that this forum is intended for females living in or interested in Thailand, not for talking about Thai ladies, right? If you post on forum full of mostly foreign women, you should expect to get a woman's opinion. I'm guessing that most of us would say that with all those excuses, the woman/women in question just isn't interested.

I have one suggestion...there are a lot of really nice resorts with private pool villas (think cute villa, tall walls, no need for clothes in the pool...). They are very romantic , and amazingly affordable in Thailand. I know there are some in Krabi and Phuket (not sure about Karon, but probably at least in the general area).

Umm, maybe they just don't like you?

OP, you never directly replied to my last post, but I'm still thinking that you did in fact receive sick leave (8 days to be exact) in the 60 days that followed the change in pay method in December. Correct? So maybe it was just a miscommunication/misunderstanding. Your supervisor told you about the sick leave policy, but she didn't enforce it. Maybe she just misspoke?

Maybe I'm missing something in the story, but it doesn't really add up for me. You said:

To clarify the above, as soon as my method of pay was changed, I went back to zero. I didn't have any sick days then & am not entitled to them for 60 days from the commencement of the new pay regime.

You also said that the pay change happened in December. Even it was at the end of December, your 60 days is almost up. Furthermore, you DID get paid for 8 sick days that fell in that 60 day period, correct? So what's the problem? Are you worried about getting sick in the next couple weeks? I'm not trying to criticize, but I genuinely don't understand what the concern is.

I think it would help if you could be a tad bit more specific of which part of town you'll be working in. You indicated that you want to be near the BTS, but I really don't think you'll want to ride it all the way from one end to the other every day.

Congrats on the job!

I can't believe they even let you send fresh food in the delivery service. (Ok, I can believe it...I mean that I'm surprised. ) At my Carrefour in BKK, that's one of the specific delivery rules: NO perishables allowed. They always ask me if there is any fresh food, and sometimes they even dig around to make sure.

I probably wouldn't take a chance with a breast pump. A fax machine is one thing, but imagine if something were to happen with the breast pump's electricity mid-use....ouch!

Reading the OP post

Arriving At 2am. Best Safe Non-scam Way To Get Into Central Bkk From Airport?

I can see some of you been scammed at the official taxi stand (i did) and some go scammed getting a taxi at the departure / arrival!

Anyone go scammed from an AOT limousine (outside price charge)

I think that everyone who has used an AOT limo got "scammed" because their prices are so high.

what is the price difference between the taxi stand and the AOT limo if heading to the area of Asoke BTS (when considering toll charges, as well)? or, more generally, what % difference?

Well, I don't know for Asoke, but when I lived on the eastern edge of downtown, the meter was usually about 140-180 baht, and the AOT always wanted 500 baht.