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I rarely deal with the mundane tasks of life and let my wife handle it. Recently, our water pump failed and my wife called a friend who uses service people for her businesses. The friend sent over a plumber who recommended we buy a new pump; we did. The plumber installed a new pump and within the week it failed again.

My wife called the plumber, but he didn't show when scheduled, so she called the friend who came over with the plumber. The verdict; the switch which controls the pump is bad. The explanation was that it is a cheap switch and that 40% of these switches fail. Asked why he would use such a cheap switch; well, we all know why. The plumber said he would return the next day; he did not return. 

The friend called to ask about the pump and was so embarrassed that her plumber was so inept that she fired him from her business and found a new plumber. The new plumber came over and replaced the old switch; will wonders never cease, it now works fine. 

I continued my retirement unfettered from the humdrum of life—good thing my wife brought warm water to my third floor bath for my daily immersions in the interim.

1 hour ago, jeab1980 said:

Not naive at all i also know dozens  + who married some to bar girls some to factory girls  ect ect ect i know of 3 couples who have split up 2 who lived back in the husbands home country as far as im aware both wifes have stayed there after the divorce and one couple  in Thailand. This is about thai not other SEA countries thats like saying EU when talking about UK.. i can say hand on heart i know of only one lass who when hubby went back to Australia (distance marriage till he could afford to retire and live here) who went back to the bar scene and returned to home before hubby came back. Being me and not one to see people being cheated on,i told him the score when he returned. That gives you number 3 divorce. Luckily he had not invested here house ect.

I see only few farangs and wives never been one to socialize that much. Thats not to say i dont enjoy a few pints and a chin wag with fellow Expats or tourists for that matter.

I firmly belive its (married to farang girls in a long distance relationship) hyped up on this medium scewing the actual numbers enough for new members to belive its rife. 

I will say that i have seen married western women having afairs under hubbies nose.

We all know that men and women all over the world have affairs but as this is a thai forum and all the hype about bar girls do this and that, and thai girls will rip you off and dont dont dont do this that and the other, its just that HYPE same old posters time aftervtime jumping on threads to give there negative opinion,  throwing abuse  or the old chesnut thai appologised at anyone who stands on the opposite side. In my opinion of course. Only takes 2 or 3 negative posters on threads to dominate the thread and scew the actual thruth.

You seem to have missed the point. I have not said, nor do I believe, that all Thai/Filipina/Vietnamese women are selling sex even after they marry—and I do mention those three countries because I am most familiar with them. I have spent half my life living and working within those three countries and quite frankly find them very similar in this regard. The last almost eleven years of constant living in Thailand has reinforced the anecdotal references I have for Thailand which cover the years since I first arrived here in 1967. I note that many of the women in all three countries are from poor families, and have resorted to selling their bodies to improve their lives and help support their families. With that part, I find no fault. However, once they have found the source of the ATM and still ply their trade; I see no excuse.

You note that it is common for posters to jump in and bad mouth Thai women on this forum. Why do you think that happens? I tend to believe many of them, not because all Thai women are that bad, but because so many farangs are that stupid. I cannot believe some—one Thai “lady” had three farang “husbands” in less than two years, and each of them bought her a bar to run. She even changed her facebook relationship with one of them as soon as she left him at the airport; because she already had another “husband.”  I have seen many—hand on heart too, if you like—that were not faithful when hubby went to work.

Out of the thought that I would like to know if I were being cuckolded, I too made the mistake of telling an old friend his wife was f---ing around while he was away. He called me a liar, cursed our friendship, told me to mind my own business, and said he would never acknowledge me again. That was more than ten years ago, now. Last September, I ran into a friend of his and asked about my former friend. He told me the friend had found out his wife was unfaithful and had divorced her and was now happily remarried. I went back to the friend’s favorite bar hoping to see him. One day I did. I greeted him and he said, “I don’t know you. Get away from me.”

3 hours ago, jeab1980 said:

Again figures please not saying they dont  but is your comment 1. Fact based or 2. Thai visa based. Big diffrence.

No empirical evidence, just my anecdotal personal experiences I base on over 50 years working and living in SEA and knowing literally dozens, if not scores, of Westerner man and Thai/Filipina/Vietnamese bar girl relationships.

These relationships range from long-time marriage in the foreigner's home country through long-term in the local country to short-term relationships in the girl's country.

I knew two industrious SEA wives in Saudi who offered their wares at exorbitant prices in-kingdom, a group of SEA wives of Americans in Florida who established an escort service in the Tampa Bay area, and another wife in the DC area who tried to recruit my wife to join her band of merry women--those, of course, were long-term marriage prostitutes. I cannot recall the numbers of girls in-country (Thailand, Philippines, and Vietnam) who are either married or in relationships with foreigners who actively ply the trade when their man is away working or, maybe just at home watching the kids.   

Are you really that naive and have not seen some of the same?

Don't get me wrong, not all SEA wives are ex-bar girls or prostitutes, and not all ex-bar girls are still plying their trade after marriage. Yet the number of SEA wives offering sex for money is greater than the numbers of Western wives doing so--yeah, yeah, I know, it may be more difficult for the Western wives.

3 hours ago, jak2002003 said:

No, this is not like that at all. 

 

We have lived in this area 10 years.. were very careful to choose the land.... it has been rice fields as far as the eye can see since coming here 20 years ago.  These buffalo were never on this land.  It was just rice fields.  He has been the only farmer to stop growing the rice, and start a buffalo farm... the only one in the entire area!!! Just very unlucky. 

 

My point was that the farmer has a huge area of land.... why choose to put the stinking wallow right smack bang up to our back wall only 3 meters from our bedroom?  I could get angry and think he did it on purpose as a way to make our lives unpleasant, but I would only be annoying myself, when it's more probable he did not even use his brain or think about it might annoy us.  Maybe the land there is the lowest part.. so the water is easier to keep there?

 

Anyway, we have our house up for sale now... so hopefully we can move.. but I know the housing market is very slow theses days.  We built this house intending to live in it till the end.. but can't stand this stench! 

 

In the mean time, I will go to the Tessabaan office and miss out the Village Head Man.. as another poster advised..  I have taken photos of the wallow and how close it is to our house.  Thankfully today has been lots of rain.. and filled it up a bit.. and the cooler weather has made the smell reduce a lot... so maybe can have the windows open tonight the first time in months.

You built your house close enough to another's land to be affected by whatever was on the other's land. You say he has lots of land, maybe he simply did what many would do, put the smelly stuff away from his house--or maybe he just wants to hassle you.

51 minutes ago, Kwasaki said:

Yeah l have to concede with that,  It's just different when comes to the Italian Ducati and Indian Ducati is loses it's charm in history..

Ducati is German, it's owned by VW.

4 hours ago, Kwasaki said:

Personally no matter what happens Ducati should of been kept in Italian hands,  maybe just me but the romance died long ago,  the Mafia could of afforded it. 

Imagine Ferrari owned by an Indian company.  

Ducati is owned by VW, a German firm. Royal Enfield is owned by Tata, an Indian firm. It seems the Brits and the Itals have a lot in common.

3 hours ago, SGD said:

Not exactly white Anglo Saxon British though are they ? 

 

2nd or 3rd generation immigrant scum who think the world owes them a living and that they can take instead of paying.

 

I'd be checking out their allegiance mullah related sympathisers as well.

 

Or just chuck them in jail for a decade or two.

So, you think no real native Brit would do such a thing?

1 hour ago, wvavin said:

They don't look like the UK natives.

Why, aren't blacks born in UK? How many Brit passports are running around; that is what makes them British, you know?

7 hours ago, JoePai said:

From 'ackney in a 10 grand a night gaff - you're 'aving a laff

Well, no one said they paid yet, did they?

1 minute ago, heybuz said:

irtational statements are part and parcel of this forum, along with advise from some who have no idea on the subject they comment on.

It seems it was your comment which had no idea. How do you know his wife is a prostitute too?

3 minutes ago, heybuz said:

greed

Greed is about you?

Yeah, just want stories. Okay, a Brit who took a dislike to me was talking about me to another farang--who, unknown to the Brit, was my son.  We were at a party and I was dancing with some girls. The Brit said in disgust, look at that old fool, he rides those damned awful Harleys and is running around acting like he is 20.  My son just chuckled and later told me what he said. I went over to the guy and shook his hand and said; I hear you are envious of me being able to have fun at my age instead of sitting around bitching about others who are having a better time than you. Of course, the wimp denied saying it; then I introduced him to my son.  Funny, whenever we are in the same place, he leaves.

Another case of the home owner who buys near an airport and then complains about air traffic noise.

Did you not know your bedroom window was fronting his farmland?

Just take it as a lesson; do not loan money, period.

20 minutes ago, rodney earl said:

The boyfriend was the first to find her. UUM sounds suspicious to me.

What is so strange? According to the story she returned to their room at 3am and he returned at 6am. How many others would you think would go to the room between 3-6am?

15 hours ago, tomwct said:

If you leave a GF or wife in Thailand while you return to your country she will have sex, so you need to leave her traveling funds. Her BF or Thai husband lives in Bangkok and her lover maybe lives in Korat.

What a poor impression you must have of Thai women. I know Thai women who do not f around on their husbands; so sorry you apparently do not.

17 hours ago, heybuz said:

yours included

No sense making irrational statements; you have already said yours was, but that does not make his wife a prostitute.

22 hours ago, heybuz said:

judge has already said in not to many words i am in the right . She was not a prostitute when i first met her but i later inferred that she may be able to find more permanent work in pattaya

So, what do you think it is about you that made her a prostitute after marrying you?

On 5/13/2017 at 3:10 PM, heybuz said:

her and falang boyfriend. her reply you husband he business

what she meant was he short-term customer, you long-term customer.

On 5/13/2017 at 2:18 PM, SiamBeast said:

If you marry a girl, leave her in Thailand and live somewhere else, she WILL whore around. No girl will spend her prime years patiently waiting for her husband to come see her when she can have better options.

 

Thai wives have sex at least once a week - whether you're there or not.

 

 

You and all the posters who like your post seem to know only one type of Thai girl. I know several Thai girls whose husbands work outside Thailand and are gone for months at a time and they do not f around. It seems so many of you only know the Thai girls who whore around.

On 5/11/2017 at 10:23 AM, Ahab said:

Or perhaps not marry someone and then live in another country?

Or better yet, do not marry a lady of negotiable virtue.

On 5/14/2017 at 11:23 AM, quandow said:

Same category as "How many angels can dance on the head of a pin?"

Depends upon how small the angels and how big the pin, doesn't it?

On 5/13/2017 at 11:05 PM, Hereinthailand said:

At least bar girls are honest about their intentions. 

If that were the case, how do you explain the numbers of bar girls who become wives and still ply their trade?

23 hours ago, Vexzy said:

Hmm, I don't want to have to send a new card here as I'm only a tourist. I just read online how simple and easy ATM machines were here so I just wanted to know what I'm doing wrong. Is it possible I'm trying to withdraw too much? I tried to withdraw 20,000 baht. Should I go to a bank for that much?

Call Citibank; it may simply be security check; especially if you have not withdrawn money in Thailand before

14 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

There is a vast difference between being selfish and liking oneself.

 

I doubt you have ever been clinically depressed to be able to make that last remark.

 

True, I have not been depressed, but then I have planned things well. Things have never gotten so bad it adversely affects me--again, is it luck or proper planning?