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25 minutes ago, BruceMangosteen said:

To repeat myself, I do not want to debate abortion on this forum. Some members simply aren't mature enough for such a debate/discussion. God Bless You Mate and OO.

The poster has not advocated abortion. What is your immature issue with abortion?

18 minutes ago, BruceMangosteen said:

Sorry to break the news to you, but this goes on each and every day, night and day, all night and all day. The myth of condom use is yet another subject most likely too difficult for members here to have an intelligent mature discussion about. God Bless You and OO.

You are breaking no news to me. I am not as concerned about condom use as the source of the receptacle.

2 minutes ago, BruceMangosteen said:

This is no joking matter..

 

Man meets woman on Beach road in Pattaya.

 

Man takes her back to his suite on Soi Bouikow.

 

The couple has unprotected sexual intercourse.

 

The woman returns six weeks later claiming she's pregnant and he fathered the unborn child.

 

The DNA test, so far, is being refused as she will lose face and he was the only guy who didn't use a condom. 

 

God Bless the Children born in these relationships. OO.

 

 

“Man meets woman on Beach road in Pattaya . . . The couple has unprotected sexual intercourse . . .”

Joking about this is the kinder of the two options.

2 hours ago, catman20 said:

run forest run

It seems another cliche is called for; if you backed into a buzz-saw, how would you know which tooth cut you?

7 hours ago, moe666 said:

I have to ask why are you still here if it is so much better else where. No place we live will ever be perfect, it is up to the person to adjust. 

I have reasons to still be here, but when they are settled, I will go somewhere else to live. That is how I have lived all my life; I have no  location I call home. Home is where my ass resides.

Since I have been coming to Thailand for 50 years, I will no doubt return as a tourist to visit friends; just as I visit friends in the PI, Cambodia, and Vietnam today.

I have never suggested there is a Utopia, but there are places which are better for some reasons--e.g., the visa hassles.

7 hours ago, Naam said:

exit- and reentry regulations as well as 90 day reports existed always. those on marriage visas should not blame the authorities because verifications are demanded but those who caused the problems with fake/nominee marriages.

I am not here on a marriage visa and my wife is not Thai. Exit and re-entry and 90 day regs are a hassle, no matter how long they have been here. So, what is your point? I am not happy with the hoops, if you are happy with them; fine. Just don't bury your head in the sand and say they don't exist.

45 minutes ago, Naam said:

what visa hoops pray tell? 800k in the bank 15 years ago, 800k now. no change at all.

Oh. please, exit and re-entry stamps,  90-day reports, pictures of you and your wife, maps to your home, questionnaires on what social media you use and where you spend you time, etc.  I do not jump through hoops well.

I see no point in selling investments to have B800k in Thailand. The only money I have in Thailand is what I have just withdrawn from an ATM. So, I use the income method. I now have to show money filtering through a Thai bank in addition to an income statement from my embassy.

In many countries you simply pay a fee and get a year visa-end of problem. In others, like the Philippines, just being married to a local gives an automatic vise free.

Just now, williamgeorgeallen said:

what part did you live in? i was on samui for a year before doing 9 years in pattaya. i never had any safety issues. i found after a while i did not mix with thais any more. it was not a conscious decision, it just ended up that way. only problems i had were run of the mill issues with owning property and a business. i stayed single up to the point of getting DNA results for my son. think being single generally means having a better life in thailand.

I too have been to Samui and Pattaya, but try to stay away from the tourist areas to live.  I like to mingle with the locals; have some good friends here. I am married, but not to a Thai; I think that may affect the opinions many Thais have of us versus farangs married to Thai women.

Just now, williamgeorgeallen said:

after 10 years of living in thailand i have never felt unsafe.  the visa situation is very good for over 50 year olds. the climate is good as i like it warm. thailand stacks up pretty well. the major down side i see is keeping occupied. i see people doing silly things like opening bars because they are bored.

I too have lived here 10 years, been visiting for 50 years, so am also over 50. I think the visa situation sucks--continually changing with more hoops through which to jump. Warm is normal in many countries. I have no problem keeping occupied. And, I have been lied to, cheated on and treated like dirt--and robbed, threatened, and endangered. 

40 minutes ago, williamgeorgeallen said:

think the key to enjoying thailand is not spending the whole year there and not getting trapped there. i wanted to leave for a while but owned a house in pattaya that took years to sell. i started to get bitter. i will move back to thailand in the future but will stay mobile. i will just rent a condo and not work.  thailand is still my preferred choice of country to live for most of the year. i did a trip to cambodia last year and it would probably be a distant second best place to live. always interesting to hear from people who have tried or who are living some where else after leaving thailand.

You have hit on what I consider the most important issue, mobility. I know far too many who have buried themselves here with property and businesses the  costs of which they can only hope to recover if they want to leave.

As far as swissie's criteria list:  

Political stability--well several juntas and martial law changes later, still stable
Infrastructure (including health services)--admittedly, pretty good
Climate--not impressed, plenty of other places; I am from Florida
Personal safety--not so safe here; been robbed, threatened with a gun, run-off the road
Visa situation--pretty dismal, there are many places where it is far simpler
Cost of living--comparable to many others

It seems infrastructure is the only sure positive--for the old codgers, this may be most important

So, I think it depends upon you, what you want.

2 minutes ago, BigKahuna said:

Is that what your mum said?

Yes, but she was talking about you.

Just now, BigKahuna said:

Lucky she had a pair of tweezers handy

Now, big boy, I thought we agreed not to talk about it

46 minutes ago, Inepto Cracy said:

Last Tuesday, after living here for 11 years, was the first time I experienced an unusual sight. Standing at the urinal a very attractive "lady" ended up standing next to me and started to pee. Not unusual but it was the first time a "lady" boobs and all, stood up to use a man bit.

Katoey's in the mens room is unusual.

As for the cleaning ladies, not a problem, but make sure there are others in the toilet too.

If you are alone and she just screams, you could be falsly accused of molestation or rape.

I just dont take a chance here.Be aware of your suroundings.

 

 

 

Do you think the same when in an elevator alone with a woman?

You need to travel more; Thailand is not the only place where attendants clean while you dirty. In some places an attendant will come up and massage your back while you're at the urinal.

Many years ago in Bangkok, I had both hands bandaged from a motorcycle accident; the nice lady attendant helped me use the toilet.

I think you need to open your horizons.

And, no Soylent green

6 hours ago, IMA_FARANG said:

Having spent almost 8 years in Vietnam in 1977 when I first came to Thailand I happened to see Thailand as a definite 2nd place as a "Sex destination" to Vietnam.

Now, I know many who thought one year in Vietnam during the war felt a lot longer, but how does one spend almost eight years there in 1977?

Definitely, it was suicide; he simply held his breath until dead. I do hope he was properly dressed.

I see my future in Thailand as a tourist coming back to visit friends.

13 hours ago, ezzra said:

Don't worry too much how older you are compare to her because sooner

or later she'll start playing around with a younger men, and you can take

that to the bank.... and it would be a folly to believe or expect otherwise....

I really feel sorry for you.

8 minutes ago, bazza73 said:

He made it to 100, well done. He was what is termed a statistical outlier.

I assume you are saying he was a good male role model. Does that mean every male in their seventies and eighties will be as effective?

Does that mean every male in their twenties and thirties will be as effective?

8 hours ago, sanemax said:

There are many Thai females who have no concept what love means , Thai males also .

   Relationships are about looks and providing .

Its their job and as soon as you stop paying them what they think they are worth, they will go and find a job somewhere else

I think you could apply your statements to any country.

9 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Hmmmmm. IMO DON'T get married. Rent and it will be cheaper in the long run. I thought I had a winner, but she played the long con on me- now I can no longer afford either to live in Thailand or rent a nice one again. Had I not got married I would have been living on a nice Thai beach with a friendly young lady for company.

I think you have hit the nail on the head. Certainly if you do not want a lasting relationship, it is far better to rent. However, if you do want permanence, you need to determine what it is you want. Sex is great and so are looks, but sex and looks alone are not good reasons to marry. I think there are stronger ties; like intelligence, truth, respect, fidelity, things in common which make a better relationship.

You are not alone with being cuckolded; many men get taken in their relationships, but so do many women. Marriage is a contractual agreement and you have to honor your side of it; just as she must honor hers.  I do not think it is the luck of the draw to marry a good woman; I think it is proper selection. Often problems in a marriage are caused by you being less than a good husband, or her being less than a good wife.  It may be simply the fact the two of you grew apart. So, your selection criteria needs long-term implications.

I prefer a woman who brings something to the relationship in addition to sex and good looks—as you say, you can rent that.  I believe a woman needs to be your friend, before she can become a wife. You need to enjoy each other’s company on several levels, not just bed-high. And, for me, she needs to be capable of bringing more to the relationship than sex.

9 hours ago, Minnie the Minx said:

I think you get all sorts of sterotypes ( sp) about age differences. 

 

If you're in love it matters not, really doesn't. 

I agree, if you are in love age does not matter. However, there has to be some compatible reasons, some things in common, to actually be in love.

7 hours ago, LNKDES1 said:

Rather than getting married, I still think it's easier to buy someone you hate a house every 10-15 yrs.

Perhaps you need to use the bigger head instead.

On 4/27/2017 at 9:34 PM, bazza73 said:

Don't you need a Work Permit for that?

I thought you'd need a work permit for drinking some of the crap they make.