Short answer: no, it isn't necessary. Long answer: maybe but my ex-wife practically discouraged me from learning Thai. We never lived in Thailand. Our children who have Thai, German and Australian citizenships don't speak any language other than English. My Thai wife made sure of that. Even after retiring in Thailand with my new wife, Thais make zero effort to talk to me in Thai. I'm supposed to surprise them with perfect Thai, first time around. Even if I try to speak in Thai, Thai people generally automatically ignore me due to racial profiling and prefer to speak to my wife in Thai even if I'm the one they need to communicate with (bank, hospital, immigration etc.). In contrast, while living in Germany and Australia with my former Thai wife, both Germans and Australians made a distinct effort to include her in discussions as much as possible. Because she couldn't speak German, my German friends spoke English. If a friend wanted a complicated discussion in German, his wife would entertain my wife in English because she also wanted to practice her English. In Thailand, I'm deliberately left out. I'm tired of asking to be included. I'm tired of people talking about me as if I'm not even there. Westerners handle these situations with grace and intelligence. Sorry, Thais generally don't. It's like the taxi driver that kept on interrupting me when I spoke to my wife in the back seat. His job was to drive - not yack. He was rude and disrespectful. I finally had enough and told him to stop being rude and interrupting me when I speak to my wife. While my second wife is very open to the idea of me learning Thai, I no longer see the point because I'm ignored anyway. Finally, I'm neither a migrant nor a permanent resident. I have a temporary visa that must be reapplied for every year. I have to report to immigration every 90 days, and if my wife passes away tomorrow, my visa is automatically cancelled and I must leave. My ex-wife got a permanent visa within 6 weeks to enter Australia and became an Australian citizen after 4 years. Her efforts to assimilate and learn English were supported by all levels of government - even private companies. I see no such invitation, program or preparedness from Thais. Thailand is still very closed. They want a monocultural society without integrating into the world community.
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