Hello everybody. I'm new on this forum. Don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes.. I'm a 20 year old girl and I just returned home from a holdiday on Koh Samui. I have been in thailand two times before, and I absolutely love it!!! On Koh Samui I met this really nice thai guy who worked at the hotel where i was staying. We still keep in touch via email. He is very sweet and shy - doesnt seem like a "player" who just want to try to be with a farang girl. Ever since I came home, all I have been thinking about is him and going back to samui. I'm planning to go there again next year for 2 months to meet him again and see how things will work out.

In the near future I would really like to live there for a longer period, but I dont know if its possible to get any work and a work permit? I dont have any bachelor degree or any other education - is it possible to become an english teacher, even though I'm not a native english (I'm from Denmark)

My friends think it's naive to hope for a relationship with this guy, and they say I would ruin my chances of a good life if I ever moved to Thailand - because I would miss out on a education i DK. But I really like him, and I would like to see if it could leed to something serious...

Is this naive thinking? what are my chances to live and work on Samui?

Rimsen

Oh to be young.

Hello everybody. I'm new on this forum. Don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes.. I'm a 20 year old girl (you are too young) and I just returned home from a holdiday on Koh Samui. I have been in thailand two times before, and I absolutely love it!!! On Koh Samui I met this really nice thai guy (strange combination) who worked at the hotel where i was staying. We still keep in touch via email. He is very sweet and shy - doesnt seem like a "player" who just want to try to be with a farang girl (I hope you judged him right). Ever since I came home, all I have been thinking about is him and going back to samui. I'm planning to go there again next year for 2 months to meet him again and see how things will work out.

In the near future I would really like to live there for a longer period, but I dont know if its possible to get any work and a work permit? I dont have any bachelor degree or any other education (forget about any decent permanent job even as an English teacher, however, the God may help you as He helped some others)- is it possible to become an english teacher, even though I'm not a native english (I'm from Denmark) (It does not make any difference as long as you are white. I have seen many Russian guys with thick English accent teaching English and any brown guy can be refused for the same job, coz he is not white, no matter how well qualified he is and how perfect accent and fluency he has)

My friends think it's naive to hope for a relationship with this guy, and they say I would ruin my chances of a good life if I ever moved to Thailand - because I would miss out on a education i DK. But I really like him, and I would like to see if it could leed to something serious...

Is this naive thinking? what are my chances to live and work on Samui?

Rimsen

IMHO, you should concentrate on your studies. However, on the other hand, you have lost your heart, so do whatever you think right. Listen to your heart and live your life.

Why not go out there for a 3 month cheap holiday, see where it leads, theres a 75%+ chance it wont work out but at least you will be able to say to people you lived in Thailand and use all the experience that it gives you.

I wish I would have had teh bottle to come out here younger, I came out when I was 25 (I'm now 31) but should have come out here earlier IMO.

What the worst thing that could happen? broken heart? that will most probably happen anyway at some point in your life.

Rimsen,

It is possible to live & work here (but if you want a legal job with a work permit - very advisable in the current climate - you do need a degree). I don't know this guy, or you, and I certainly wouldn't want to comment on him, but a lot of the guys working in the tourist industry do go with farang girls as a sort of hobby, either for money, or just because they like farang girls! There is a waiter in a restaurant here in HH, who is just like that; he's a nice enough guy, but he romances some girl for her holiday & when she leaves, he's on to the next one. He even tried it on with me when I first moved here.

Having said that, it is possible to find a lovely Thai guy & have a happy, long-term, loving relationship with him. A lot of women on this forum have done just that.

I would say, continue to spend your holidays out here & enjoy them, but at the moment, class this as a "holiday romance". If he's really serious, he will let you know. But keep your eyes & ears open for any clues that maybe you're just one in a long line. Just enjoy it while it lasts, but don't even consider moving until you have something a lot more concrete than this. It's a big upheaval, you know. Everything's different, don't do anything until you're 100% certain of where you stand & what would be best for you.

You will not know this mans intentions or real personality until you spend more time than you have with him but if he seems genuine & you can trust your own instincts then, as others have said, the only thing you have to lose is your heart for a while (we ALL suffer a broken heart once) If you can afford to spend 3-6 months in Samui without working then that is the better route to go IMO. If he is working full time & you are working full time then you will never get to spend any time together or the time you do have will be after a stressful or busy work day.

If at the end of that time you are both still happy & he is still the man for you then think about a more permanant move and if he is the one, then he can wait for a while why you go home to sort out your affairs & if he isn't, well, 6 months isn't too long out of your studies.

You will not know this mans intentions or real personality until you spend more time than you have with him but if he seems genuine & you can trust your own instincts then, as others have said, the only thing you have to lose is your heart for a while (we ALL suffer a broken heart once) If you can afford to spend 3-6 months in Samui without working then that is the better route to go IMO. If he is working full time & you are working full time then you will never get to spend any time together or the time you do have will be after a stressful or busy work day.

If at the end of that time you are both still happy & he is still the man for you then think about a more permanant move and if he is the one, then he can wait for a while why you go home to sort out your affairs & if he isn't, well, 6 months isn't too long out of your studies.

You would want a well paid job! Couldnt image you to living on his wages