What Do You Think If You Were Me...

[Thamsi]

if u have a lazy farang husband who;

1) Not pay attention about earning money for family.

2) Love to be at home, not trying to get a new job.

3) Enjoy life with friends.

4) Never buy you stuffs, even more sometime you have to pay for him.

5) Moody with stupid thing that he can't do anything like traffic,etc.

6) Always moody when he has to pay for household stuffs (not for the wife, for necessary household expenses)

7) even to make l-ve he also lazy !

what will you do?

[dfwbkk]

Hmmm, this description sounds a little bit too much like the GF many guys complain about?

IMHO, You need to go back and consider what made you marry this guy in the first place.

Everything you mention below (except for number 3) will obviously deterioate your feelings for him. If you don't have kids I'd say leave him (from the way you post you don't need him to support you).

But on the topic of number 3: Why is it that Thai women (which I assume that you are) do not approve of men maintaining their social network (friends/family...)??

Most farlungs will go to great lengths to maintain that network. To us that part is very important.

Let me turn this around on you. What aspects of your husband's personality makes you want to stay with him? Do you guys communicate at all? I mean do you talk about what you want etc? Give us some more background about your relationship.

Regards /// DFW

[davethailand]

tell him to <deleted> off

are you real?

[dfwbkk]

Dave, you're so blunt.

I gave her the benefit of the doubt (first posting and all...)

I was thinking to judge her on the follow-up post...

/// DFW

[Thamsi]

i don't mind if he wants to enjoy with friends, i do understand cas i have many friends also but i don't like when he is going out without me cas i am worried he may have accident or got drunk and get injure.

Yes i do not need to depend on him at all. i have good job good salary and grew up from good family too.

At first i thought he loves me for real cas he is trying hard to come over here to stay with me but now it seems he is changing...

I think i am blind in love with him at first..

Perhaps i should buy him a plane ticket or should i go to the immegration office instead? lol

Dave i may do so too lol

I told him what i want is a sincere and honest heart, i never ask him to buy things for me at all..

[OxfordWill]

You should be talking to him about it, jai-to-jai.

Bring him a cold beer, sit him down, give him a kiss and ask if he can talk with you about it.

Relationships = communication.

[Boon Mee]

I'd turf the tommy-tanker out! There's lots of lonely guys out there. Who needs the grief?

[sonthaya]

Get him out of there, and find yourself a real man

[Nam Kao]

HOW DID MY WIFE GET ACCESS TO THE INTERNET !!!

[Khun ?]

if u have a lazy farang husband who;

1) Not pay attention about earning money for family.

2) Love to be at home, not trying to get a new job.

3) Enjoy life with friends.

4) Never buy you stuffs, even more sometime you have to pay for him.

5) Moody with stupid thing that he can't do anything like traffic,etc.

6) Always moody when he has to pay for household stuffs (not for the wife, for necessary household expenses)

7) even to make l-ve he also lazy !

what will you do?

Is he Thai, if not he sure is adopting well like one. Does he have Mia Noi yet?

[Khun ?]

i don't mind if he wants to enjoy with friends, i do understand cas i have many friends also but i don't like when he is going out without me cas i am worried he may have accident or got drunk and get injure.

Yes i do not need to depend on him at all. i have good job good salary and grew up from good family too.

At first i thought he loves me for real cas he is trying hard to come over here to stay with me but now it seems he is changing...

I think i am blind in love with him at first..

Perhaps i should buy him a plane ticket or should i go to the immegration office instead? lol

Dave i may do so too lol

I told him what i want is a sincere and honest heart, i never ask him to buy things for me at all..

I am availible, I never had a girlfriend or wife that had to work. I could use some lounging around on someone elses cash. I may even think Thailand could be paradise then too.

[davethailand]

i'm serious, tell him to get on his bike.i don't know you but there are plenty of decent men out there who want a good honest relationship with a thai lady.

i live in pattaya and i know guys here that are married to thai girls and to be blunt again "they are a <deleted> waste of space" they should go back home, some of them come here after robbing all the credit card companies, live like kings for a while and treat the girls like slaves, w*****s, the girls in question deserve better.

[Simbo]

This is a wind up if ever I saw one. Only pillocks would fall for it, or bored witless morons.

[Flummoxed]

Relationships = communication

I'll second that motion

....or perhaps he's emulating his Thai peers

[hkthai]

if u have a lazy farang husband who;

1) Not pay attention about earning money for family.

2) Love to be at home, not trying to get a new job.

3) Enjoy life with friends.

4) Never buy you stuffs, even more sometime you have to pay for him.

5) Moody with stupid thing that he can't do anything like traffic,etc.

6) Always moody when he has to pay for household stuffs (not for the wife, for necessary household expenses)

7) even to make l-ve he also lazy !

what will you do? 

Is he Thai, if not he sure is adopting well like one. Does he have Mia Noi yet?

Here we go on the Thai man thing again......

Amazing farang living in Thailand. Do you somehow think that if a Thai does not have the moral, ethical, and work values of the west then he is somehow less of a person??

Get off of it for ##### sake!! There are plenty of ordinary Thai's who are hard working makings ends meet and relationships work.

[chanchao]

if u have a lazy farang husband who;

1) Not pay attention about earning money for family.

2) Love to be at home, not trying to get a new job.

3) Enjoy life with friends.

4) Never buy you stuffs, even more sometime you have to pay for him.

5) Moody with stupid thing that he can't do anything like traffic,etc.

6) Always moody when he has to pay for household stuffs (not for the wife, for necessary household expenses)

7) even to make l-ve he also lazy !

what will you do?

Treat him like a king? :-)

Cheers,

Chanchao

[Thamsi]

Hey Guys,

As i mentioned, He is farang not Thai. He is a good man at some point through but i am really seriously thinking i should stop this relation but it is not easy to do so you know

People said i am stupid falling in love with him...

i should open my eyes for a real world. it's no true love nowaday also rarely to find a person who 100 % sincere, honest and love you for real.

I don't think he has mistress but probably he bored me cas i am not a pretty woman.

I think i probably born to live single..much easier even if lonely.

After this i think i will not looking for a great man,

I don't want to have heart break again through.

Like someone said a thai man are flirting around and most of them have mea noi. i don't like Thai man except my dad (almost 80's now) cas he never have a problem with that.

[ThaiPauly]

This is a wind up if ever I saw one. Only pillocks would fall for it, or bored witless morons.

Agreed, she even spelt necassary right and then breaks into pidgeon englsh in other posts, took me all my life to get that one right, I am spectacle about tthis pist

[NedKelly]

Hey woman yo uneed to stop wearing blue eyeshadow and red lipstick and you also need to swallow........then he'll do whatever you want !!

[Tattytam]

Like someone said a thai man are flirting around and most of them have mea noi.

And all farang men are so faithful and reliable .... not.

There are good and bad in all cultures and races, you just have to pick the right man. Sounds like you made mistake this time - get rid and try again.

[Crash999]

HOW DID MY WIFE GET ACCESS TO THE INTERNET !!!

LOL!!! My first thought was that my GF was winding me up, as I know she knows I read this forum.

Course now I can see it looks more like a farang katoey.

[Ajarn]

This is a wind up if ever I saw one. Only pillocks would fall for it, or bored witless morons.

Agreed, she even spelt necassary right and then breaks into pidgeon englsh in other posts, took me all my life to get that one right, I am spectacle about tthis pist

Pome hen duay...

[h5kaf]

Simbo you are spot on the money. This is a wind-up. I have never heard of a cohabiting farang with some many positive advantages.

[britmaveric]

Thamsi- plain and simple. Tell him to change his ways or show him the door. Better to be alone than with a worthless <deleted>.

[Khun Larry]

if u have a lazy farang husband who;

1) Not pay attention about earning money for family.

2) Love to be at home, not trying to get a new job.

3) Enjoy life with friends.

4) Never buy you stuffs, even more sometime you have to pay for him.

5) Moody with stupid thing that he can't do anything like traffic,etc.

6) Always moody when he has to pay for household stuffs (not for the wife, for necessary household expenses)

7) even to make l-ve he also lazy !

what will you do? 

Try to look at the positives.

You should consider yourself lucky.

[Khun Larry]

Amazing farang living in Thailand.  Do you somehow think that if a Thai does not have the moral, ethical, and work values of the west then he is somehow less of a person??

Get off of it for ##### sake!!  There are plenty of ordinary Thai's who are hard working makings ends meet and relationships work.

Seems to me class conscious Thailand is the society which stipulates some people are less of a person than others, not Farang. What do you think of someone with less (your word) moral, ethical, and work values?

As for the hard working Thais I am sure there are many. However, due to Thai society (racism and xenophobic custom) there is little mixing with Farang and most of what the visitor sees is not these good examples of hard working Thai people.

Let me know if you know good place where Thai mix with Farang.

Chookdee

[Nam Kao]

HOW DID MY WIFE GET ACCESS TO THE INTERNET  !!!

LOL!!! My first thought was that my GF was winding me up, as I know she knows I read this forum.

Course now I can see it looks more like a farang katoey.

Pheww, its not my wife, my wife is mint and cant type englit

[hkthai]

Amazing farang living in Thailand.   Do you somehow think that if a Thai does not have the moral, ethical, and work values of the west then he is somehow less of a person??

Get off of it for ##### sake!!  There are plenty of ordinary Thai's who are hard working makings ends meet and relationships work.

Seems to me class conscious Thailand is the society which stipulates some people are less of a person than others, not Farang. What do you think of someone with less (your word) moral, ethical, and work values?

Yes, there’s a certain level of class discrimination that takes place here in Thailand…as well as anywhere else in the world including farang land. Being more specific, America, rather than class discrimination there’s racial discrimination. Discrimination is discrimination no matter what type. Now before you go and read too much into this comment let me qualify my statement. I don’t preach that ALL farang are racists just as I don’t preach that ALL Thais are angels either. There are farangs as well as Thais that I stay away from. Generally they are the type that would belittle their fellow humans. Be it because of class or race.

On your second statement, I never said the word less. I said the word “different” which somehow implies to me the fact that you read it as “less” that farang moral, ethical, and work values are somehow superior?? Let’s hope that’s not the case…that would be a bit of class or racial conscious…don’t you think?

[Khutan]

Lucky for me I know its not my wife - She make difawunt spewing mistage and gramma khao-jai-pit.

But I just quickly surveyed her, just to make sure her fwend didn't do this.....

I don't hit my wife

I don't shout at my wife

I don't pretend to tear up out marraige certificate every few days

I don't threaten violence against her family

I do work, although not alot

I like to stay at home with my wife and family

I don't go knocking on doors asking for food

I don't go asking for wiskey to any passer by

I actually DO take a shower every day

Oh sorry, I am in the minority in my village, being the only near full time falang (the others visit at Songkran and New Year), she likes being married to me for the things I don't do.

[john b good]

Lucky for me I know its not my wife - She make difawunt spewing mistage and gramma khao-jai-pit.

But I just quickly surveyed her, just to make sure her fwend didn't do this.....

I don't hit my wife

I don't shout at my wife

I don't pretend to tear up out marraige certificate every few days

I don't threaten violence against her family

I do work, although not alot

I like to stay at home with my wife and family

I don't go knocking on doors asking for food

I don't go asking for wiskey to any passer by

I actually DO take a shower every day

Oh sorry, I am in the minority in my village, being the only near full time falang (the others visit at Songkran and New Year), she likes being married to me for the things I don't do.

You have a shower every day.

It's obvious you are not a "pom" then.