Thailand's Lovely Children

[tutsiwarrior]

like most falangs in Thailand I try to mind my own business...but I have inherited a dozen nieces and nephews and cannot ignore what is required for their wellbeing...I have two nieces that are university material and have said 'if I am working and there is money available and if you pass the required tests I shall pay for your education...' the wife and I have already discussed buying a flat in BKK for this purpose...

there is a niece, 5 y.o. that knows that she has me around her little finger...'don't eat that chocolate; it will make yer teeth hurt...' she turns her indescribably beautiful black eyes on me and sez 'but I like chocolate...'

there is a 17 y.o. niece that has come back to live in the house from BKK...we had a problem and she never finished pratom...however, she is now an intelligent and beautiful young woman. Tonight her 'husband/boyfriend' kidney punched her and she was sad...I grabbed the punk and said 'don't you ever do that again...'. In later discussion with the wife she said it was nothing, but I saw her face and knew otherwise... I want to, in good conscience, feed chocolate to the 5 y.o. and not to interfere with the 17 y.o. but what is a falang to do??? and don't tell me go home to Pasadena and mind my own business...

[Gimbo]

like most falangs in Thailand I try to mind my own business...but I have inherited a dozen nieces and nephews and cannot ignore what is required for their wellbeing...I have two nieces that are university material and have said 'if I am working and there is money available and if you pass the required tests I shall pay for your education...' the wife and I have already discussed buying a flat in BKK for this purpose...

there is a niece, 5 y.o. that knows that she has me around her little finger...'don't eat that chocolate; it will make yer teeth hurt...' she turns her indescribably beautiful black eyes on me and sez 'but I like chocolate...'

there is a 17 y.o. niece that has come back to live in the house from BKK...we had a problem and she never finished pratom...however, she is now an intelligent and beautiful young woman. Tonight her 'husband/boyfriend' kidney punched her and she was sad...I grabbed the punk and said 'don't you ever do that again...'. In later discussion with the wife she said it was nothing, but I saw her face and knew otherwise... I want to, in good conscience, feed chocolate to the 5 y.o. and not to interfere with the 17 y.o. but what is a falang to do??? and don't tell me go home to Pasadena and mind my own business...

The 5 year old I have no remedy for. I got a few little nephews and nieces of my own and they know exactly how to play Uncle Gimbo

I do have a 14 year old niece whose main interest is boys...like all girls that age. And if any one of them would ever lay hands on her that way, they would recieve a little bit more than just a stern warning.

Well, my brother would probably, and lucky for the punk, deal with it long before I got the chance to ahem....express my oppinion about behaviour like that.

But this is Thailand, and the punk probably have a bunch of equally moronic friends. So coution is probably advisable.... BUT family is family, and the punk needs a lesson so...

[tutsiwarrior]

I've seen the punks friends...they ain't much but it don't take too much to pull the trigger on a weapon...the punk is of no account, no job and no education but the niece likes him so <deleted>? I'll steady meself so that he see's where we both stand but I have to go back to Saudi for work next week so it becomes a moot issue.

little kids are all right, just a cuddle and they are grand...it's the older girls that cause problems...I don't care so long as there is respect for the house and for the family...I can see the shit comin' down...'fcukin' falang thinks he's bad...' I can be a bad ass when I want to; all it will take is to enlist the brother-in-laws and indicate to them that the punk's presence in the house does no one no good...he'll then be gone soon enough...don't want it to come down to that: he demonsrtates respect and everybody is cool, niece included...

the niece is a lovely girl and she could do a lot better than him...but there's no accounting for taste...and these are what family matters are about...

[sbk]

Tutsi, a man who punches a woman will not learn respect. Brothers-in-law don't necessarily need to come up with a permanent remedy if you get my meaning but could easily scare him off. Sounds like your niece has self-esteem issues as well. Maybe try to get her back in school and in a better crowd?

[jumnien]

Your concern seems out of genuine compassion, good luck! Imagine if a relatively rich Thai man was wed into your neighborhood back home and tried to spread some of the spiritual advantages from his culture amongst the local families. He might not have any better luck than you are having.

[tutsiwarrior]

Tutsi, a man who punches a woman will not learn respect. Brothers-in-law don't necessarily need to come up with a permanent remedy if you get my meaning but could easily scare him off. Sounds like your niece has self-esteem issues as well. Maybe try to get her back in school and in a better crowd?

you know what's happening, babe...the niece DOES have some serious self esteem probs that she shouldn't have as she is beautiful and smart...we sit watching TV and she is transfixed...I look at her and say 'you're more beautiful than the woman on the screen an' probably smarter as well...'...I was talking with the wife to say there are plenty of men around...why is it that the most attractive many times put up with shit?...I don't know the answer and don't think that anyone else does...it's obvious that she likes the punk and I ain't gonna get in the way of that unless the abuse continues...

we are now talking about her getting back into school...apparently there is a weekend scheme that will get her a pratom certificate...she seems keen but I'm saying that her man has to find work...I'm hoping that won't put her off the plans...

now, the wife's beautiful younger sister has also got a story but I won't go into that...

[Ijustwannateach]

Well, education is not always high on the list but the difference between having it and not having it could be a factor in the self-esteem- I'd say you could do a lot for her that way, even in her personal life.

[tutsiwarrior]

Well, education is not always high on the list but the difference between having it and not having it could be a factor in the self-esteem- I'd say you could do a lot for her that way, even in her personal life.

you said it, bro...I appear to be the only advocate for continued education in the family and I ain't there most of the time...the wife and her folks are from a poor agricultural background and don't see the benefit which is not uncommon, I suppose for folks of similar circumstances.

But, ye can't force no one to do nothin'; ye can only indicate that the resources (financial and otherwise) are there if they chose to use them. It's a drag as I watched the older niece as she handled a telephone enquiry for me and she did very well, noting all the information I asked for in clear, organised handwriting (excellent pennmanship)...it's a drag to think that she ain't qualified for nothin' else than to sell kwiteo...

Edited September 26, 2007 by tutsiwarrior

[rcalsop]

like most falangs in Thailand I try to mind my own business...but I have inherited a dozen nieces and nephews and cannot ignore what is required for their wellbeing...I have two nieces that are university material and have said 'if I am working and there is money available and if you pass the required tests I shall pay for your education...' the wife and I have already discussed buying a flat in BKK for this purpose...

there is a niece, 5 y.o. that knows that she has me around her little finger...'don't eat that chocolate; it will make yer teeth hurt...' she turns her indescribably beautiful black eyes on me and sez 'but I like chocolate...'

there is a 17 y.o. niece that has come back to live in the house from BKK...we had a problem and she never finished pratom...however, she is now an intelligent and beautiful young woman. Tonight her 'husband/boyfriend' kidney punched her and she was sad...I grabbed the punk and said 'don't you ever do that again...'. In later discussion with the wife she said it was nothing, but I saw her face and knew otherwise... I want to, in good conscience, feed chocolate to the 5 y.o. and not to interfere with the 17 y.o. but what is a falang to do??? and don't tell me go home to Pasadena and mind my own business...

You are more than likely to get hurt , my wifes sister was intelligent and capable so we inherited her to take the pressure from her great mum and dad , she came to live with us and we supported her for University , food fees , computer ,privacy or family life ....a total waste of time she took us for fools and wasted our time and money . resulting after many direct warnings in me putting her out of the house . I thought that it would cause many problems with the family but to my suprise her parents came round and said what took you so long ..thanks for trying you did not give up easily and she is not your child you have your own 2 kids and a wife to support you should have put her out earlier . Her father said I cannot I am her father I and different rules apply but I fully support you and your descision . Looking back I had to try but the problems and anxiety my wife felt and the disruption to family life was not worth it . .

But may be you still have to try only you can decide