space1999 Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Hi I am getting married in Thailand in September...very excited. Can anyone help by telling me what to expect on the wedding day and anything else before or after that. I understand about the Dowry already for which we have already agreed. But, I am not too sure about the gates before the wedding on the day and how much is expected for giving the gate keepers etc. any advice welcome cheers in advance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 HiI am getting married in Thailand in September...very excited. Can anyone help by telling me what to expect on the wedding day and anything else before or after that. I understand about the Dowry already for which we have already agreed. But, I am not too sure about the gates before the wedding on the day and how much is expected for giving the gate keepers etc. any advice welcome cheers in advance Just do what they tell you and enjoy the ride. You don't really want to know everything in advance. Where is the fun in that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Domyamkung Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 (edited) HiBut, I am not too sure about the gates before the wedding on the day and how much is expected 20 baht. How much was the dowry? oh and congratulations. Edited May 28, 2008 by Domyamkung Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geoffphuket Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 HiI am getting married in Thailand in September...very excited. Can anyone help by telling me what to expect on the wedding day and anything else before or after that. I understand about the Dowry already for which we have already agreed. But, I am not too sure about the gates before the wedding on the day and how much is expected for giving the gate keepers etc. any advice welcome cheers in advance Well, if you've invited Bill and his family, money shouldn't be an issue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRM Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 congratualtions, dont worry about the wedding just go with the flow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sceadugenga Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The only worrying part is the public circumcision if you haven't already had one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkles Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The posters are right ,go with the flow. I found out the day before that our ceremony commenced at 7am and it did on the button. The monks had other committments. Kneeling for a hour or so is also not much fun if like me you have crippled knees from football Fortuantly I was able to walk again after about a week. Suggest you have a rehearsal, by yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The only worrying part is the public circumcision if you haven't already had one. See now he's gonna go and get all worried about those secret ceremonies they don't tell you about. At least you didn't tell him about loosing his family jewels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr_Pat_Pong Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The only worrying part is the public circumcision if you haven't already had one. See now he's gonna go and get all worried about those secret ceremonies they don't tell you about. At least you didn't tell him about loosing his family jewels. and eating 'em lightly poached at the feast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukamar Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Just go with the flow. I still don't totally know what went on at mine, it was in Pauli language and than there were people in the pictures no one knew...The two dead chickens are still a mystery to all of us. and you get to foot the whiskey bill. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wileycoyote Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I agree with Lukamar,go with the flow...everyone is friendly...and the day passes quickly (Yes,Sparkles ,they kneeling goes on forever...I was glad on the splash of holy water every now and again ,to take my mind off the pain) You will be fine,remember to keep smiling,especially ,when you dragged by all the relaltions to the "wedding bed",don't take off your clothes,smile for the photos & don't fall asleep...I did Wiley Coyote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sceadugenga Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I'm afraid my attitude is, if what you have works stick with it. Why go to all that trouble so the rellies can get p!ssed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The only worrying part is the public circumcision if you haven't already had one. and after dinner the public consumation of the marriage. some grooms have big problems to perform that short after the circumcision Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sceadugenga Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 The only worrying part is the public circumcision if you haven't already had one. and after dinner the public consumation of the marriage. some grooms have big problems to perform that short after the circumcision My mate's Mrs complained she never got as much as a sniff for weeks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Some might say I have no right to comment on this one since the wife and I did the deed without all the hoopla. We told people after the fact. "Oh, by the way we got married." Did not have to pay anybody or suffer all that other stuff. Not sure how many others have been able to pull that one off. Obviously its possible, however. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukamar Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Some might say I have no right to comment on this one since the wife and I did the deed without all the hoopla. We told people after the fact. "Oh, by the way we got married." Did not have to pay anybody or suffer all that other stuff. Not sure how many others have been able to pull that one off. Obviously its possible, however. We came close...LOL The wife's sister told everyone about 3 months ahead and they ended up with a cast of hundreds, about 400. We arrived on Wednesday afternoon and announced we were going to get married on Friday morning... LOL You have never seen so many Thai people move so fast, It gives me hope. We had a dinner for the close family the night before that came to about 1500Bt and we gave Pa 10,000 Bt for the food and drink so he could look like the big shot dolling out cash...LOL The local Monk, there is only one at our temple, couldn't do it so we got some big shot government relative who was a monk for a long time, maybe in a past life. All in all it was a nice time, they got drunk, we went to the lake ( Kwan Phayao) to relax as we don't drink. When we got back the onlookers had left and the Military and Police had arrived. They were invited BTW.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
space1999 Posted May 30, 2008 Author Share Posted May 30, 2008 HiBut, I am not too sure about the gates before the wedding on the day and how much is expected 20 baht. How much was the dowry? oh and congratulations. WOW..only 20baht...was expecting at least couple of hundred. i thought that 2nd gate more expensive....not worried about it but just want to make sure I don't look l ike a donkey and not have enough money for any unexpected things. OK folks....I will go with the flow...learnt that lesson quite quick on my first visit...it's just that my parents are going to Thailand with me in sept for the wedding... Dowry is 200,000. I fully understand about the dowry thing....my thinking on this is that if you were to marry in england it would cost much more than this and being a now cynic of the loyalty etc of english women...I appreciate the amazing ways of thai culture and women etc.. Cirxcumcision eh??????? ouch...they'll have to catch me first.....I know you're joking...LOL Went to a vellage wedding last time I was there.....I LOVE THAILAND Wish I could live there now but am only 39....am told that without a job over there...and diff to get, pointles to think about this until 50 plus..or at least until mortgage paid off. Thanks for congrats......can't wait Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Some might say I have no right to comment on this one since the wife and I did the deed without all the hoopla. We told people after the fact. "Oh, by the way we got married." Did not have to pay anybody or suffer all that other stuff. Not sure how many others have been able to pull that one off. Obviously its possible, however. without circumcision and public consummation your marriage is most probably not legal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Some might say I have no right to comment on this one since the wife and I did the deed without all the hoopla. We told people after the fact. "Oh, by the way we got married." Did not have to pay anybody or suffer all that other stuff. Not sure how many others have been able to pull that one off. Obviously its possible, however. without circumcision and public consummation your marriage is most probably not legal So I have been living in sin all these years. No wonder it still feels so good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukamar Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 (edited) Cirxcumcision eh??????? ouch...they'll have to catch me first.....I know you're joking...LOL You did check that she is Buddhist and not Jewish or Muslim. If Jewish or Muslim the instant circumcision may apply. If she's buddhist you can usually buy your way out of it.. Edited May 30, 2008 by lukamar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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