Reading the posts about women being mistaken for working girls made me curious about this: have any other farang ladies with a Thai boyfriend or husband ever had people mistake him for a "working guy" when he's with you?

My boyfriend is Thai and more than once he's been approached and asked how much I'm paying him for the night. One time, we were with my friend (another farang woman) and someone approached him and asked if he was getting paid to sleep with just one of us or both of us.

ha ha, ur b/f must be really cute them moscow5 , no one has ever asked me about my husband but then he isn't typically thai looking, he isn't slim or sweet faced, he is very masculine & looks exactly his age, he also comes across as quite standoffish to people who don't know him, he isn't very sociable & when out in a group likes to sit in the background & talks little. I'm not saying your b/f isn't like this either but the male thai friends I know who have been approached by women for paid services tend to be more outgoing & good looking in a sweet faced way & the women are more interested in the beauty of them & their bodies than the man themself. When he played music in Samui women occasionally try it on with him but I think it was because he always acted unattainable, polite to customers but not over friendly & alwyas left with me as soon as his set was finished & some holidaying farang ladies found that quite attractive(!) & would blatently come on to him when they danced in front of him when he was on stage

Personally, if i was you, I wouldn't take much notice of those women & when they ask, just smile & say he pays you

Nope, never. He has, however, been mistaken for a tourist guide when travelling with me and my parents. (Chiang Mai Night Bazaar). Irritated him to no end.

He has been mistaken for a Malaysian, a Burmese and a Filipino (all in Thailand) but never as a working boy. He is very clean cut and obviously has money. Plus, I think we are clearly a couple when we are together. And we both wear wedding rings

Good on you Boo and Sbk, depite the recent hassles which you are both aware of.... I used to get a bit sick of western women thinking that Thai guys are just a bit of meat they can chat up regardless of whether the guy's wife is present. We've worked though that one ages ago and it's cool now. I am not normally so upfront, but once there was a woman so bare facedly staring at my husband in our bar - now closed - that I went up to her and said something like "if you want to come here and chat up local guys fine.... but leave my husband out of it.

This is probably another (old) topic but a lot of western women come here thinking Thai guys are just cute looking easy lays...... bring it on baby...... we know different!

To the girls - I am getting back on form, thanks xx

Good new seonai, hope everything is getting sorted out.

Boo, you are the best. Yup, sorted. Dinner on me, twice, when you come over. Even in blighty dear. You are seriously a COOL chick when ir comes to men. See you somewhere soon. Seonai

LoL, I'll take you up on that dinner next year ok

you're on Boo, no probs. Ciao for now babe, xxx

Ok... here is a scenario. I few weeks ago, a farang female friend and I planned a trip to Khao Sok. She was seeing a Thai guy and asked if I minded if she brought him and one of his friends. Why would I mind? So off we went... they are all quite a bit younger than me, but a lot of my friends are younger.

We checked into a nice bungalow resort, took a few rooms and spent the afternoon playing music. The guys play guitar and didgeridoo. Come dinner time, there was a large group of middle-class Thais from Bangkok in the restaurant. To our horror, we were told to go eat elsewhere as they were too busy to cook for us.

We were in the jungle, this is low season, not a lot open in the jungle this time of year. So off we went into the dark night, got bogged in a huge mud crater, rescued by a truckload of farang guys, ate crappy noodles at a shabby roadside stall and went back to resort to sleep.

Do you think the resort was embarrassed that we may have been paying the guys?

LoL, I'll take you up on that dinner next year ok

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Bambi

My boyfriend is Thai and more than once he's been approached and asked how much I'm paying him for the night. One time, we were with my friend (another farang woman) and someone approached him and asked if he was getting paid to sleep with just one of us or both of us.

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just like dilemma , if i was u i'd be upset and proud in same time..anyhow all imply that your BF is HOT!!

anyhow .. just tell all biach ...thank you but no thanks ..he is a decent guy and no need to be eaten by hyena girls like you guys

IMO , methinks your BF doesnt think much (maybe just fun and LOL when he hear about that skanky biatch ask) but i understand you , maybe you feel like "lost face"

just smile at those skanky gals ...and leave them alone (that the way i 'd do if i was you)

Bambi

Dont' know if they were embarrased that you were with thai guys but they are rude & stupid. And whats with the double standard, happy to take your money for the rooms but not for your to eat there. Tossers.

I think it's the general 'anti-hippie' attitude many middle-class Thais have.

Guys with long hair, musicians, artists, etc. are looked down upon by many middle class people - in this case I'd guess the people at the resort were afraid you would disturb their 'distinguished' middle class guests.

I don't think the assumption was that you were paying the Thai guys for sex.

I got tired of people assuming I was a lazy, contemptible bastard (even if it might be the truth ) and ended up cutting my hair (well, I got tired of it anyway, high maintenance), because I could not be bothered having to win over every new person I met. It's enough hard work to have to prove to new aqcuaintances my primary reason for being here is not to lay as many Thai girls as possible.

Well, once, when I first met my Thai boyfriend about two years ago, we were on the beach toghether minding our own business, when a rather drunk English guy from my resort staggered up to me and asked how much I have to pay for my boyfriend

I was so shocked, I wasnt quick enough of the mark to answer back, I just looked at him stunned as he staggered off down the beach.

Saw him a few days later covered in love bites from his new Bar Lady girlfriend!

 

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Off topic but these 2 smileys cracked me up , Bambina......

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Agree with Meadish, if they have long hair it was probably the "hippie" appearance rather than the belief they were being paid. Thai people can be very class conscious.

I'd be curious to know the name of the resort tho, we get lots of people heading up to Khao Sok from here and I'd rather refer them to someplace friendly. you can pm me the details if you prefer.

My guy is very sensitive about what others think- and he's young and cute enough to know that others will assume he's some kind of MB or kept boy. Furthermore, he's closeted and doesn't want his many straight friends to know he's gay. So in very visible public areas (like the BTS) he's a bit standoffish.

I'd feel sorry for anyone who ever said anything to him, though. He has a very quick temper.

"Steven"

Agree with Meadish, if they have long hair it was probably the "hippie" appearance rather than the belief they were being paid.  Thai people can be very class conscious.

I'd be curious to know the name of the resort tho, we get lots of people heading up to Khao Sok from here and I'd rather refer them to someplace friendly. you can pm me the details if you prefer.

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That's probably it then... the "hippie" thing. Come to think of it, the staff were alot friendlier when the guys weren't around. It is a really nice place so shame about the staff attitudes. The owner is a real sweetheart! All I'll say is, the resort has a riverview and is very arty....

i took my boyfriend to pattaya once and of course as would be expected people got whiplash trying to figure out what was going on with us. but elsewhere, anyone who talks to either of us figures out pretty quickly that he is not a working boy. if we hadn't been together for 3 years already i think it would be less obvious, but relationships are more complicated than a first impression might show, aren't they?

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well, i think maybe people assume this because he lives in jeans and a t-shirt (just like me), and changes into his chef's uniform at work. we've been together for a about a year and a half, so we think we look natural together at this point, but maybe that's just our perception. we always laugh at how much attention we seem to garner just at the 7-11 near our apt. if i had to pay 5 baht for every case of whiplash we've caused, i'd be swimming in debt!

well...there's also the fact that i'm tall and not very curvaceous (sp?) - a bit taller than him - and thai people always ask us if i'm a man or a man! maybe that has something to do with it, i don't know.

bambi, i agree - i do feel a bit proud and a bit angry when it happens. to me, he's a real catch: handsome, very polite, and always, always calm - must be those 10 years as a monk!

[sorry, that was my post - i didn't realize the computer was already logged in as someone else, sorry mig15!]

well, i think maybe people assume this because he lives in jeans and a t-shirt (just like me), and changes into his chef's uniform at work. we've been together for a about a year and a half, so we think we look natural together at this point, but maybe that's just our perception. we always laugh at how much attention we seem to garner just at the 7-11 near our apt. if i had to pay 5 baht for every case of whiplash we've caused, i'd be swimming in debt! 

well...there's also the fact that i'm tall and not very curvaceous (sp?) - a bit taller than him - and thai people always ask us if i'm a man or a man! maybe that has something to do with it, i don't know.

bambi, i agree - i do feel a bit proud and a bit angry when it happens. to me, he's a real catch: handsome, very polite, and always, always calm - must be those 10 years as a monk!

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When I was with my western girlfriend, sure people looked at us but they did not think I was her toy. We acted normal and not too sweet in the public. The way we spoke and I do not speak broken english.

Hi, am am married to a thai man aswell. We have been here for 2 years and him mum is a night mare.

I dont want to bitch about her to much on here.

We have 2 kids together and if it wasnt for them i would be back home alone.

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Hi Shadowy, LOL, the mother in law, I can just about hack mine for a week once a year, I couldn't imagine having her too close She's a lovely lady for a few days but too much of her & she starts to do my head in.

Feel free to rant on here & welcome to the forum.

Regards

Boo

Hi, am am married to a thai man aswell. We have been here for 2 years and him mum is a night mare.

I dont want to bitch about her to much on here.

We have 2 kids together and if it wasnt for them i would be back home alone.

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So, your mother-in-law is not happy with your income?

I never, ever, thought I would see the day that I'd be posting in this thread, but.... I met a really nice Thai guy who has been living in Europe for the past 7 years and we've been out a few times together. It's SUCH an eye-opener for me.

For one- he is now so very farang and prefers European food to Thai food and he also tells me that I am more Thai than he is (morally, as I'm quite conservative in public now and don't show affection like he wants to as much as my western ways would like to- I'm just very aware of Thai values) but.... the BIG clincher is that most Thai people think he's my Toy Boy - but he pays for dinner and drinks like any gentleman would.....the whole scenario kinda freaks me out!!!

ENJOY!!!

Why pay when we can get them for free...hahaha this is a joke in our family, i am falang and my husband thai.

I always tease him and ask how would i work out how to pay him by the second, not the hour.

But seriously, do you think this when you see a thai woman with a falang man?/

Why pay when we can get them for free...hahaha this is a joke in our family, i am falang and my husband thai.

I always tease him and ask how would i work out how to pay him by the second, not the hour.

But seriously, do you think this when you see a thai woman with a falang man?/